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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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im 13/f
i keep getting signs of deppression i used to be a cheerleader until i quit and iv just seemed to give up on everything im smokeing weed now i enjoy just getting drunk and stoned and iv lost all interest in boys and girls (im bi) and even sex at times i dont know what to do iv even cut my leg a couple times please help
*sleepiesheep*
The fact that you are smoking weed and drinking alcohol tells me that you are self medicating. You are making an attempt @ disassociating yourself from your pain. Most women go through this @ your age. It comes before and at the onset of your menstrual cycle. You've got all kinds of burgeoning chemicals surging through your body and you've not been given instructions on what to do when you get to this stage in life. Most women experience this because that is simply how it has been handled throughout the ages. In ancient times women were allocated to a place called "the Red Tent", when they were going through their cycle. There's a great book entitled, The Red Tent, that explains all of this.
I'm going to give you some suggestions that you will start to feel immensely better if you do them. Start yourself off slowly and make those changes gradually so that you won't feel deprived. The first things you have to give up is drinking and smoking. I think that is pretty evident. But if you can only pick one right now then I would suggest it be the drinking.
Also, one of the biggest culprits to depression is white sugar. It depletes your body of vitamin C among other water soluble vitamins and is more addicting than heroine. Try going into a grocery store and finding something w/o added processed sugar to it. This includes corn syrup and anything that ends w/tose. Artificial sweeteners, such as Splenda and Nutrasweet are not a viable substitute. As a matter of fact if you are ingesting a lot of products that have these chemicals in them it could explain your depression. I've included some sites for you to go to. You can read here about the health effects of these products.
http://www.geocities.com/northstarzone/SUGAR.html
http://www.three-peaks.net/annette/Processed-Sugar.htm
http://www.mercola.com/2000/dec/3/sucralose_dangers.htm
http://www.holisticmed.com/splenda/
http://www.shirleys-wellness-cafe.com/nutraswt.htm
http://www.holisticmed.com/aspartame/
Well, now that I told you what you should stay away from I can now give you some great sweeteners. There are two sweeteners that I keep in my house and they are Agave and Sucanat sugar. Agave is the juice of a cactus which is 30 Xs sweeter than sugar and has a caramel type flavor. I buy the raw so that it still has the vitamins and enzymes. Sucanat sugar is actually dehydrated cane sugar and is rich in many vitamins, enzymes and minerals. It tastes excellent as well. In the summer I go the farmers market and purchase cane juice. I add it to smoothies and different recipes. Excellent in taste and good for you! You will feel much better if you can stay away, as much as possible, from any kind of processed sugar.
Something else that will help you lift your mood is to take a vigorous 20-40 minute walk everyday. This will help to raise your serotonin level (which is a mood enhancer) in a more natural way. You will also cause your lymphatic system to work more properly. Your lymphatic system doesn't have it's own pumping system like your heart and needs activity to move it about. This will help in quickening your metabolism and could even cause you to loose some weight. It doesn't take long and the benefits far out weigh the effort put into it.
When you first start some of these methods you could experience some moodiness @ first because your body will be detoxing. But if you stick w/it you will come out @ the end of the tunnel.
If you feel you also need some mental work to help you develop a more healthy thought process then I have a couple of books that you should read, "Using Your Brain for a Change", by Richard Bandler, and "The Power of Now, A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment" by Eckhart Tolle. The first book gives you actual mental exercises to help you develop the thought processes you wish to develop. I don't want to give you any of the exercises here because I might not translate it well and if it isn't done properly you can make things worse. When you read this book you will find that it will help you understand how to be in control of your brain. You can find this book on Amazon and it's not expensive. The other book, Power of NOW, is not about religion, really. IT's about you developing the person you are meant to be. It also goes into description about the difficulties you are experiencing right now and explains what is happening on the mental front. This book is not that expensive either and you can purchase it on Amazon as well as bookstores. One mental exercise I can give you now to work on is to find yourself a quiet corner and sit. Notice how you are feeling at that moment. Then try to identify w/that which is within yourself that is in observation. Observe the feeling that you are experiencing. Let the feeling be but maintain observation. The goal here is to learn to observe feelings when they come up rather than taking them on. It doesn't really matter what is causing the feelings. Feelings are actually a manifestation of the mind and the mind is actually an illusion. It can only think in the past and the future. IT can not exist in the present. Your mind creates a body of hurt, which feelings belong to, and keeps you held in the mind created illusion. If you can learn to observe them as they pass by you will be in control of your feelings rather than your feelings be in control of you. Below are two sites that explain what the power of now is about.
http://www.eckharttolle.com/home.php?section=about&show=ABOUT%20-%20Power%20of%20now
http://www.thinkingpeace.com/Lib/lib078.html
Lots of stuff to look at, but you can do it. Once you accomplish some of these things, if you want more guidance you are welcome to contact me. You want to make changes slowly rather than radically because you will be more likely to stick to the changes rather than fall back into the mind created illusion. Then, again, these changes I mentioned might be all you need. Everyone has their own path.
I wish you the best of luck!
Namaste!!
LULABELLE
I'm 20, female. My psychologist informed me that I have EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified). I can see where she's coming from, but at the same time, I think she's wrong.
I know I have eating issues. I stay under 600 calories per day, lately it's been under 500. I think about food a lot. I've lost almost 60 pounds (but I'm still overweight--I was obese to begin with).
But I've only been doing this for five or six months. I AM still eating. So it hasn't been that long, and I haven't restricted that much.
First of all, can a psychologist actually diagnose an eating disorder, or is it unofficial unless it comes from a doctor?
Second, is it unfair to classify me as eating disordered? Does it not take away from those who are more severe, for longer? Did my therapist jump the gun?
I know what I'm doing is unhealthy. I just don't think it's as severe as everyone is making it out to be.
You do come across in this question as someone who has an eating disorder. I'd have to talk to you a little more to be sure. Limiting your caloric intake to 600 is a bit savvier. Try eating at least 1000 calories a day and add a good 20 minute workout to your daily schedule. Work out in the morning because this increases your metabolism for the day. This should help you towards a less life threatening lifestyle. You're fine right now because you've only been doing this for a short while. It already sounds like your transitioning into the danger zone by your going down to 500 cals a day. This behavior is indicative of Anorexia. I've known people who have suffered this and what you are doing is very familiar to me. See how this works? Your psychologist could have worked w/so many people w/eating disorders that they know the signs. Most people who have an eating disorder can't see they have a problem. They usually live in denial. You may want to reassess your view of yourself. I think you really know what is going on, but are afraid to admit it because what you are doing is working and you don't want to stop doing something that works for you. The problem w/this is that it won't work forever. Eventually you will either die of complications due to insufficient nutrients or start eating regular again and gain more weight than you lost. This is your body’s protective response to having gone through a starvation mode. Your body will slow down your metabolism so that you store and hold onto food more efficiently. It will be come afraid that there will be another period of famine. Your body can’t tell the difference between you intentionally wanting to restrict your caloric intake or an environment depleted of food. It will do what it is programmed to do and that is to help you survive the famine. It is because of this type of dieting that we have an obesity problem, among other things, in this country. Relax and settle down in a quiet place and look w/in you to find the answer here.
I'm not sure if psychologists are suppose to diagnose. I have been of the opinion that psychologists head up the therapy programs based on the diagnosis of a Doctor or psychiatrist. It is my opinion that only a Doctor can diagnose an illness. But, sometimes people have been doing what they do for years and have developed a good sense for these things. You may want to at least listen to what they have to say before you make your final decision.
I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor towards weight loss.
Namste!
LULABELLE
Im 15 Years old, and for the past month or something i have been feeling really "out of it" for some reason. I mean there have been some stressful things going on like a couple of my friends have recently started cutting. I'm helping them out. but I'v just felt like I'm floating along, It's weird. I keep changing my mind on alot of things and I get really complicated thoughts about everything like how it will affect everything, even simple things. I get really confused easily. My bf and I had an argument and afterwards I asked him if he thought anything was wrong with me, He said he thought there was, but i dont know what is. Im really confused and i don't like feeling out of it. :(
It sounds to me like you are suffering from a condition called "disassociation". It happens to people who experience trauma and it sounds to me like that is exactly what you've been experiencing w/your friends. This is a lot for you to take on at your age. Your friends need professional help and for now, so do you. Please tell your parents what is going on so that they can help direct you. It's not a bad thing to let an adult know what is going on w/a friend when a friend is doing something that is very harmful and destructive to themselves. Keep in mind, their behavior is also affecting you. That's why you are disassociating. I've included some websites that explain the condition and I hope you will seek counseling. What you have had to endure is enough to affect anyone adversely. You are 15 years old and this is the time in your life that you deserve to experience fun, parties, joy, and happiness. I wish you the best of luck in all of this and my thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
http://www.caritas.ab.ca/NR/rdonlyres/epkjity25zyck2ldozmsope6jq3qifw3fbj6ucyunemjzdf5gmzdbz3g4eycwbn27oelc5vbv2otrd/What%25252bis%25252bDissociation.pdf
http://www.centerforconsciousliving.com/nf_dissociation.html
http://www.panicanxietydisorder.org.au/7a_Dissociation%20Causes.htm
Hello, my name is Racquel and i am 14 years old. Ever since i was little i was always bugged by girls in every single grade of school. And now, since im in grade 9 now, it has been really affecting my emotions.. can anyone help me find a way to help me with this or give any advice as to dealing with this. I dont want to cry anymore, and get angry all the time.
Thanks,
Racquel
I know how you feel. This happened to me a lot when I was young too. I remember a particularly mean girl in the 6th grade. I was going home crying everyday. I spoke to my mother about it and this is what she told me to do. She told me to be sickeningly sweet to this girl and anyone else that was mean to me. Always have a smile on my face and not to say anything mean back to her. She said that eventually this girl would look ridicules to everyone else because I was so nice. I'd be making friends w/other people and they wouldn't like what she was doing to me. I did exactly what my mother told me (one of the few times) and lo and behold it was not long after that this girl was asking me to spend the night with her. I'd also let your mother in on what is going on here. She may have advice for you that would work better than what I have suggested or at least an idea that may add to this. I have used this method throughout life and though it has not worked every single time w/regards to getting the other person to be my friend, it has always worked with developing friends and a strong support group. When you have friends around you when someone acts like that it doesn't matter to you what they say. When it doesn't matter to you what they say and this mean person sees that what they do won't affect you, they stop and move on to the next person. These people do this to get a reaction out of you. They live for this. Don't react (no matter how you feel) and they loose interest. I hope this helps!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Ever since I was 14, I could read people's minds. It scared me at first, and it still sort of does because I don't know much about it.
Sometimes it happens randomly. I'll be thinking of something and suddenly I start to think something completely different that I can't control. This has happened with my siblings and parents before, and I've been able to tell them exactly what they were thinking/feeling.
My family is thinking about sending me to a doctor (I know this because they think about it alot). But there's nothing wrong with me.
Is this mind-reading thing normal? How do I tell my parents to not send me away? =(
Actually I think it should be normal. The problem is that the majority of the people out there are afraid of this so they don't pay attention to it. I can do it with people that I'm around or if I see a picture of someone, that kind of thing. Since the idea of your being able to read minds scares your family don't talk about it anymore. Simply use it to your advantage. You tried to share it with your family and they don't want to know. They could have listened to you and picked up on their own ability to read minds. This sort of thing runs strong in families. I'm sure there are other family members who can do it like a grandmother, father, etc., but they have kept this to themselves. Notice if you don't have family members who come across as being really intuitive and knowing. They probably can do it but don't want to talk about it. Don't let it bother you. Enjoy like and all that it has granted you.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Okay, once I was looking at some questions, and I came across this girl who had this problem. Though after she was done explaining her problem she gave a list of ways that she would like the question to be answered. The most non secencial one was when she said, "For all you people who TlaK lyk DIs" Don't bother answering. That just pissed me off because if you REALLY need help, then you wouldn't care how people answered your question, as long as it gets answered in the first place. My question is: If people list ways to answer their question, then how are we suppose to answer it honestlly if we can't fully express our feelings due to their moranic limitations?
I just experienced this very thing. I answered a question for someone with the best of my ability. It was and is a very good answer to the question. The problem with people like the one you are speaking of is that they are simply seeking answers that support their opinion. They aren't looking to learn or improve their life. I think they want something they can print up and show to someone only to say, "see? All these people say the same thing I do. So, you are wrong." They don't want honesty or truth. They want to support their delusions. I'm not going to answer those questions anymore. They don't really want your opinion, so why give it to them. They will only burn you and why sacrifice your integrity by relenting to what they want. Look for people who are seeking your honest opinion and help. You can pretty much tell who those people are. A person who is giving you a list of preferences as to how they want you to answer their question is not looking for honesty and truth. They are looking for feel good answers. I also wonder if they don't look at your ratings before they rate you. For the longest time I had a perfect 5. All of a sudden people didn't want to give me anything more than a 4. I didn't change my honest style and true intent on helping. I think some people can't stand it if you are able to maintain a 5 and simply have to take you down a peg. It gives them a feeling of control and power. But, you will run across some that will fool you and you think they are looking for your true effort and boom they give you a bad feedback. When that happens let it go. Take my word for it.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
so i'll start by telling you a bit about myself.
i am 15 f. i don't want to sound arrogant but yes, i am popular which is why i don't get what is going on. I am vasrity cheerleader as a sophmore and have no trouble w/ guys and have alot of girl friends. so this is my question...
i got into a figth with this girl and it got bad, but girls are catty. she tried to ruin my reputation, but i ruined her life =] i got her kicked off of class vice president and her friends hate her. but to be fair, she really deserved it im not kidding. she posted pictures of me that were like edited and crap to make it look like i was naked, like photocopying my head onto the pic or w/e. and posted it on alot of the lockers. idk why she did it, shes just jealous b/c im dating her ex bf. seems to me like SHES the sociopath not me...
so after this i got in trouble, the school sent me to a therapist to talk about why i act the way i do. he diagnosed me a sociopath. But um... sociopaths are psycho anti-socials and im the center of attention. Im not a freak, i love shopping and guys and they say just b/c im a little decieving and like it my way, makes me a sociopath???
can somebody please explain to me how a popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because i am way not antisocial.
IF YOU HAD READ MY ANSWER COMPLETELY WITH HEART AND COMPASSION (WHICH YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE)YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I WAS SHOWING YOU HOW, I THOUGHT, YOU WEREN'T A SOCIOPATH. YOUR LACK OF APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING AS WELL AS YOUR INABILITY TO SEE THAT THIS WHOLE ANSWER WAS ABOUT YOU ONLY PROVES TO ME THAT YOUR DIAGNOSIS BY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AUTHORITY WAS CORRECT. YOU ARE AN UNGRATFUL AND HEARTLESS PERSON AND NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. I WAS SHARING AND RELATING ONLYTO SHOW YOU THAT IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. YOUR NARCASISTIC ATTITUTE PROVES THAT YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU GET IT. YOU'RE A SAD, SAD PERSON WHO I DO BELIEVE IS BEYOND HELP AS ARE ALL SOCIOPATHS AND YOUR RESPONCE TO AN HONEST EFFORT AT HELPING YOU ONLY PROVES IT TO BE SO. TO ALL MY READERS, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I AM TIRED OF UNGRATEFUL SPOILED PEOPLE WHO SET US UP SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BY PUTTING US DOWN. I FELT SHE NEEDED A GOOD TALKING TO, EVEN THOUGH I REALIZE IT WILL DO NO GOOD.
A sociopath is someone who can fit in well w/society and mimic appropriate behavior because they are taught to. They can be extremely popular and likeable. They don't have empathy for others or remorse for what they do. They can't deal with the reality of their behavior and can't accept their flaws. They are talented in turning things around on people and making it appear to others that they are responsible for what is going on so that they don't have to take responsibility for their own behavior. It's less painful that way. They are really good with the technique of projection. This means that they project their flaws onto others and say things like "I'm not the sociopath, she is", or blaming others for why they have to do whatever it is that they are doing, such as your blaming this girl for your getting her into trouble. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights because they are incapable of understanding or caring about the damage they impart onto others. They usually make great serial killers.
Now having said all of that...I don't know where a mental health professional gets off telling a teenager that she's a sociopath. All teenagers are sociopaths. They are always laying blame elsewhere and doing truly mean things to each other w/o remorse. They do not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blame others. They lie and have no empathy for others and their situation. They are narcissistic and think the world revolves around them...AND THAT is normal. That's being a teenager. Oh, man, some of the things I use to do when I was young...I look back and can't believe it was me. I could never hurt anyone today physically or mentally. I was a cheerleader too. I had this one guy pay me $5 a week so I wouldn't beat him up. It was simply pathetic some of the things I did and said to people back then. At the same time I had some kids under my protection too (they didn't have to pay anything I just liked them). It's an unfortunate part of growing up. I was diagnosed w/ depression and as an adult w/ADHD (they didn't have this diagnoses when I was a child). It's up to the adults to help young people see where behavior is problematic and personally I don't think you are a sociopath. That's an awfully strong diagnosis. Most mental health care professionals won't diagnose this until a person is an adult. I think you suffer from a well known condition which is simple to diagnose, you're a TEENAGER. Yes, I know, that in itself is pretty scary, but that's all I think that is going on. If it were up to me I would insist on a second opinion. You would be w/in your rights and deservedly so. Just because someone is a therapist does not mean they know what they are talking about all of the time. Also, you might want to take a second look at your behavior in all of this too. Even though this girl did some pretty appalling things, you might need to look at what you did and how you did it. Were your actions the best course of action? Could you have achieved your goals w/o stooping to her level? I agree, she needed to be punished for what she did. That was not right, but there are always other ways to achieve the same goals. I can't go into them because I don't know what you did that lead your school to recommend counseling. It had to be pretty big considering what that girl did to you. Whatever you do, don't let someone else label you. We do that too much in this country and once someone is labeled they start becoming the label. You were hurt and reacting out of anger. Sometimes we let the anger cloud our better judgment. Sounds to me you need more anger management counseling then labeling. I feel for you in all of this. Don't loose sight of who you are and you know deep down who that is. Don't let anyone's mis-diagnosis take that away from you.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
This is a site that gives you basic characteristics of a sociopath.
http://www.geoffmetcalf.com/psychopath.html
my friend was just diagnosed with depersonalization. does anyone have it or know someone close to them who does? What can you tell me about it? What is it like to have it? Was it easy for you to learn to cope, or very difficult? What triggered your most severe symptoms? How can I help my friend when she returns from the clinic? While she's in the clinic? Is there anything I should or shouldn't say or do? Any information is greatly appreciated.
Thank you :)
A frightening and/or disturbing experience of not being within one's own body or of being in immediate danger of vanishing/separating from reality often described as the sensation of living inside a dream. Although cognitive functioning remains intact, the sufferers feel disconnected from their sense of self and often interpret it "as if I am losing my mind."
" My hands feel like they're made of paper, or like they belong to someone else." "My own face in a mirror seems foreign, like I have never really seen it before this moment..." "I cannot feel my body, not truly numb, but it is as if I have disappeared into myself, beyond my own flesh and blood..." "Sometimes I literally wonder if I am already dead and existing as a ghost...it feels like my soul is trying to leave its shell and I am fighting with all my strength to hold it inside this body. I don't know if I'm dreaming or awake; I must be going insane, to feel my self wafting away, I know it is only a matter of time..."
Namaste!
LULAABELLE
I don't know whats wrong with me. I might be depressed but I don't know. Well my dad died when I was 7 and my mom went blind (a lot of stuff happened but I don't want to say online...friends go here and stuff) so anyway. Lately everyting sets me off. I start to cry. Not just cry but hide under my blanket and half scream into my pillow. I used to cut myself a while back, but I stopped because all my friends didn't look at me the same way. My life is pretty messed up, but I've always been able to deal with it before. This one person said that I should talk to someone outside of my family, someone I trust. The thing is, I don't trust anyone so its hard to do that. So I have really kept all this in for like ever.... I have been having like panick attacks. I can't talk to a lot of people at once online, or I get angry and overwhelmed. I keep friends for a month, than I stop talking to them for a month and than the next month I talk to them again. I cry like every night. I don't want to talk to a counsler as everyone suggested because they get payed to listen to problems they don't really want too. Besides I don't cry in front of people. I have never cried in front of anybody except like maybe when I was like five. I feel so weird if I cry in public and people give me sympathy or w/e. I don't want sympathy. I don't want to talk to some stranger who just sits there and listens. Idk. I've been to one before right when my dad died and it didn't help at all. They released me after like two sessions saying I was a normal child. Even though I wasn't, I never talked during the sessions because like I said I just wasn't comfortable at all, and I don't feel like the counsler really wants to be there. There is a lot more stuff, I just don't really wanna type it all out. I know this is super long and hardly anyone is going to read it. But if you do, please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.
There are a lot of things going on here. One thing is for sure; you have a chemical imbalance going on. You are feeling out of control, which is exacerbating your condition. One way to help yourself get through this is to be more prudent in the types of foods that you eat. There are so many chemicals that are being added to our foods simply so that the large corporations can make tons of money. It is all about that $. Anyway, there is a chemical called MSG that is in absolutely everything, from foods spices like Accent (it is all MSG), Fertilizers like AuxiGro, preservatives (every restaurant you go to uses it to keep their salad bar fresh), soft drinks, Seltzer Water (its call natural flavorings)...I could go on and on. My point is that this particular ingredient alone has wreaked havoc on our emotional stability. If something says "Natural Flavorings" on the bottle, don't ingest it. I know for myself that if I eat one thing with this in it you have to peal me off the roof. I am so highly emotional that you wouldn't want to be in the same room with me. So be aware of this particular ingredient in your foods. When you go to a Chinese restaurant ask them not to use MSG in your food. They are the worst culprits in the restaurant business. Start eating more fresh fruits and vegetables and make sure that they are organically raised. This will give you a stronger chance of getting a healthier vitamin rich food. Start reading the labels. There are more chemicals in the foods today than food. Meat and dairy products are filled with antibiotics, hormones, and steroids. I will include a website below for you to go to so that you can read up on these things. I don't want to make my advise about foods since there are more pressing things going on with you right now. But I do want to make one last comment on the foods you take in. If you are eating these types of foods, fast foods, food filled with process sugar and corn syrup you are only magnifying the anger and hurt that you are feeling. If you have been eating a lot of sugary foods lately? Than you are feeding your pain and it will get stronger. Start drinking lots of water to help flush this stuff out of your system. Once you quit eating the harmful stuff you may go through a period of about 3 days where you will feel, well, not your best. You may even experience flu like symptoms. This is just your body detoxing and getting rid of these harmful chemicals. These chemicals are exaggerating your since of helplessness.
Now I get that you don't want to go to a therapist for help. They aren't for everyone. A couple of things that I have found that works for me are: I study my own conditions (I've got quite a few myself) and I join local support groups. What's great about a support group is you can learn a lot from other people who are suffering from the same condition you are. I am not a professional in the psychology field, but if I were to venture a guess I'd say that you are suffering from clinical depression. I've included some sites on this issue as well. You might try contacting a local group called Al-anon, I've included a website below about them. They would be a great place to start in a support group. There is an 800# on that site. You can call them and they will hook up with a local chapter. As I mentioned earlier, you can learn a lot from these groups. These people are experiencing the same thing that you are. There will be someone there who is just like you and you can learn from them what has worked and what doesn't work so you don't have to waste time figuring it out. Also, there are some natural herbs that you can take that will be of some help to you and they are: St. Johns Wort, Holy Basil, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginger, Siberian Ginseng, just to name a few. All you have to do is put, "herbs for depression" in your search engine and you'll get a plethora of informative sites. The important thing here is that you work on improving yourself. No matter what is thrown in front of you simply move past it and keep going. Take care of yourself FIRST and FORMOST. You are the most important thing in our life and you need to honor yourself. Get yourself on a healthy diet, involve yourself in a good support group and take herbal supplements and though I didn't mention it earlier, involve yourself in a light workout/sports program of some kind. Your life will get better in no time.
http://www.westonaprice.org/msg/index.html
http://www.westonaprice.org/splash_2.htm
teens suffering from depression
http://www.amoryn.com/help_helpme.html?utm_source=Overture&utm_medium=PPC&utm_term=depression%2Bsymptom&utm_campaign=amoryn
http://dp.qsrch.com/apps/eps/eps.cgi?s=Depression%20Symptoms&prt=ss03
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I live in new zealand and I start back at school in 3 weeks. I am really worrying about it, and thus I'm not enjoying the rest of my holidays. Everytime I push it away from my mind it just comes back again and I end up thinking about it again. I'm starting year 12 which will be a really hard year. I'm just wondering if anyone had any methods or techniques for getting something out of your mind temporarily so you can stop thinking about it and worrying it. It's really ruining my holidays. Does anyone know how I can stop worrying about it? I feel I'm slowly going insane..
I say you sure are lucky... over here in the states we only get 2 weeks for Christmas and that's it. But, I do understand the anxiety and school thing. I have an exercise that if you do it you will not only lower your anxiety level, but you will also be able to accomplish any goal you set your mind to. It goes as follows:
First, find yourself a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Sit or lay in a relaxing position and breath in slowly to the count of eight, then breath out to the count of eight. Once you've slowed your body down to match your breathing start to notice what is going on in your body. Notice the areas of the body you experience tension. Take a moment to really feel the intensity of what you are feeling. Now, start to let the tension go in each area of the body one area at a time. That means relax the areas of your body that you are tensing. It may not work a first, but keep it up you will eventually. Once you've achieved relaxation in a body area then hold this relaxed state for as long as you possibly can. Throughout this process keep your mind clear and concentrate on your body and how it feels while maintaining a relaxed state in the areas you've released tension. Once you've achieved total body relaxation just be with it for a while. You can now transcend into allowing immediate issues of goals, personal growth work, your love life, or school come up for you. Also, remember to keep your breath constant during all of this and really notice how it makes you feel when you bring up school. Really feel what you feel about this and take notice of how it makes you feel. Where are you tense? Really notice where your body is holding its tension. Intensify it as much as you can stand and then release your tension throughout your body the same way you did before. One area at a time. IF an area tenses back up, just relax it again. Try to maintain this relaxed state for 15 to 30 minutes.
Since we can't get rid of uncomfortable situations all we can do is learn to cope with them as best we can. This is a coping exercise as well as a way to achieve meditation. Once you become practiced at this you can use this for all types of situations, for example, your in a family squabble. What you would do is start to lower your breathing pattern as described above and release tension in the areas of the body that you are feeling tense. Try to maintain the relaxed state throughout the squabble, or at least as long as possible. At first this will be hard, but if you keep practicing you will be able to do it in an instant. That is the true goal here. If you keep practicing this there will come a time that all you have to do is think about relaxing and you will instantly. The reason I feel being in a relaxed state is so important is that you make better decisions when you are in a relaxed state and life is also easier. What do you have to loose but your anxiety…Good luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
Ive been having a real problem latley. The last week I have gotten NO sleep. Its not that i stay up late or anything. I usually get ready for bed (meaning off the phone) at like 11. Then I'll just sit there for 3 hrs. Ive taken PMs but it still doesnt help. Someone PLEASE what can i do to get to sleep!! Its leaving me w/ migrains in the morning!
It sounds as if you are stressing about something. Start noticing if you are clenching your jaws closed at night or grinding your teeth. This could be the cause of the headaches you experience upon waking. What you need to do is some relaxing exercises. Find yourself someplace you can sit or lay in a relaxing position. Start by slowing your breath down. As soon as it is at a manageable pace start to breath in slowly to the count of eight, then breath out to the count of eight (thats one one thousand, 2 one thousand, etc.). Once you've slowed your body down to match your breathing start to notice what is tense and how you are holding your body. Notice the parts of the body that you are tensing. Really take note of this feeling (bad, good or indifferent). Really feel it for a moment. You could even intensify it as much as you can stand. Then, start to let the tension go in each area of the body one area at a time. You release the tension on the exhale. Feel the heaviness of the tension exiting with each breath. Spend some time with each release and observe how this feels to you. Relax with it. Notice how it makes you feel. It may even feel uncomfortable for you at first, but stick with it. After you've released the tension in your entire body hold this relaxed state for as long as possible. Again, make special note to how you are feeling. As a matter of fact it is very helpful if you do this periodically throughout the exercise. You can also use this time before you to mull over problems such as personal growth, spiritual, school, and work for example. Dont be surprised if you fall asleep (sleep is the ultimate relaxed state) though. This exercise can also be good for times when you are having intense problems or difficulties. What you would do is when you enter the final relaxed state you begin to focus on the problems at hand. Just let the ideas come to you, don’t force it. At first answers will come to you in the form of intuition. Your ability to be open to answers to difficulties will grow and become obvious if you keep it up. If you are using these exercises for help with problems you want to make sure you stay awake. If you do fall asleep, though, don't worry about it. You can also use these exercises to help you through difficult situations. People who make you nervous for some reason, for example: If you find yourself in a difficult situation start to slow down your breathing. Check out the areas of the body that you are tensing. Start to release these areas and relax. The more you practice with this the quicker you will be able to adust and not to let other peoples intensity affect you. There will come a time when all you have to do is think about it and you can change your state of mind. If this method doesn’t sound like it will work for you, you do need to look for some way to relax. Your simply taking in other people's negative energy. This will help you reground. Good luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
Please try to help. Heres the problem.. Last May I went out of town to live with my father and got a job there and stuff, the only time I went outside was when I had to go to work. My father and I had a lot of problems, we fought all the time because he always has been a HORRIBLE dad, I was only there so that I could get a job. Well, I moved back home in October because I couldn't stand living with my father. The thing is, ever since I moved back home I havent stepped foot outside even once. When someone knocks at the door or I know someone in the house is expecting company, I run and lock myself in another room. When I wake up and all the blinds are open, I close them (this really makes my family mad). But for some reason I am terrified of going outside and being seen. I don't know why. Can someone please give me some answers? I rate 5's
I believe you have a condition called agoraphobia, which is a severe anxiety condition and a phobia, as well as a pattern of avoidant behavior. You have a fear of the feelings that come up when certain things happen, like, someone coming over. The anxiety you experience is so intense that, for you, the only way to get rid of it is to hide so the feeling will go away. I can’t say as I blame you. I have included some web sites below that will help you to understand your condition better. I also have an exercise I think you should do every time you have one of these anxiety episodes. Since you find a quiet secluded place to hide anyway you can make use of this time. Find yourself someplace you can sit or lay in a relaxing position. Start to slow your breath down. As soon as it is at a manageable pace start to breath in slowly to the count of eight, then breath out to the count of eight (that’s one one thousand, 2 one thousand, etc.). Once you've slowed your body down to match your breathing start to notice what is tense and how you are holding your body. Notice the parts of the body that you are tensing. Really take note of this feeling (bad, good or indifferent). Really feel it for a moment. You could even intensify it as much as you can stand. Then, start to let the tension go in each area of the body one area at a time. You do this on the exhale. Picture in your mind that each time you breath out the tension is released. Spend some time with each release and observe how this feels to you. It may even feel uncomfortable for you at first, but stick with it. It will relax and stay there. After you’ve released the tension in your entire body hold this relaxed state for as long as possible. You can now use this time before you to mull over problems such as personal growth, spiritual, school, and work for example. Don’t be surprised if you fall asleep at first (sleep is the ultimate relaxed state). But, do work on staying awake. Being aware of what is going on physically in your body when you have these “fight or flight” reactions will be helpful in your gaining control of your life. The goal is to eventually be able to function in public or even answer the door. To start off push yourself to do something that has these anxiety feelings attached to it. You will notice how you are holding your body as you are doing it. You will release the tension that you are creating within your body with each breath as you did in the exercise only faster. There will then come a time that all you have to do is think about it and you can change your state of mind. You see, what I am suggesting you do is reprogram yourself. We have been given these wonderful bodies with no instructions. Everyone is stumbling through life trying to figure it out and most of the time don’t. Your parents are among us all. They are teaching you everything they have learned that will keep you safe, etc. They’ve never been taught how to be in control of what is going on within themselves and their bodies. They really can't help you there. You do need to seek some professional help. Look for support groups in your area. Put agoraphobia in the search engine along with your city and see what pops up. Also, this exercise I gave you will help you gain control. Don’t feel you have to accomplish everything at once. Take baby steps. Start off with doing the exercise in private and then work yourself up to public appearances. But do try to do something everyday that will push you. Once you've pushed passed these intense feelings you will be able to accomplish anything you wish to.
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-an02.html
http://www.psychologyinfo.com/problems/agoraphobia.html
http://www.suite101.com/welcome.cfm/agoraphobia
Namaste,
LABELLE
ok I think I'm going crazy there is this one problem that has been on my mind for a very long time,I keep thinking about it but it is really eating at me. Ok so I think I'm like kinda talented cause I can rap and I can sing people always tell me I'm really good so I'm happy because I also think I'm good. When I grow up I plan to be rich so that's why I've decided to be a lawyer when I grow up,but I really want to be famous aswel for like singing or something but then why am I at school? if I want to persue a music career but if I don't and I go into law then I'll have lots of regrets and after all that schooling it will be too late to start voice training.So what do I do? my parents suport the idea of me becoming a lawyer but I lovee the idea of being famous and I really think I can make it. But what if I fail then it will too late to start schooling please help I RATE 5'S FOR ANY ANSWER THAT'S UP TO A SENTENCE.
P.S. I'm only 13
Andrea Bucelli is a lawyer and one of the worlds most recognized tenors. It never hurts (especially someone who is famous and in the music industry) to know the legal system. You could go into business, corporate law, or specialize in contract law, which would be extremely helpful to you as a rapper. There is nothing wrong with accomplishing two carrier goals; people do it all the time. Also, there is nothing you could do in preparation for a career that could be considered a waste. Learning is never a waste and if you become the rapper first you could even finish up your educational goals whenever you find a few months strewn together. How exciting things must be for you. Enjoy the ride. Don't let someone else's comments knock you down or disway you. Stay true to your goals and good luck to you!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
I'm a senior in highschool. I take a lot of courses which require writing. It may not be apparent here butI am unable to write down my thoughts coherently. Writing scares me now. I freak out when there's a writing section on tests, when I have to write in-class essays, and so forth. My marks suffer because of this. It's so frustrating!! Someone suggested that it may a a learning disability...but I'm not sure. This just started this year. What does everyone else think?
This sounds like fear based anxiety. It is possible that you have a learning disability, but I couldn't tell you based on the information you have given. To get an acurate assesment of your situation you need to have some testing done. What I suggest you do is go to your councilor and explan what your difficulties are. He/she will know what your next move should be. But there are people who overcome their disabilities all the time. They have to overcompensate for their weaknesses. I have included some websites that have more information about testing anxiety. Some of them explan the problem and some of them give you ways to overcome the problem. What you do is you figure out which methods would work best for you and your schedule then do them religiously. what you have to do is over-learn your material. This will give you the confidence and ability to write well on your tests.
http://homeworktips.about.com/library/blanxiety.htm
http://www.schoolcounselor.org/content.asp?contentid=283
http://www.schoolcounselor.org/content.asp?contentid=416
http://kidshealth.org/teen/school_jobs/school/test_anxiety.html
http://www.ericdigests.org/2005-2/anxiety.html
http://www.petersons.com/testprepchannel/dealing_with_test_anxiety.asp
http://www.med.nyu.edu/psych/screens/anxiety.html
Namaste,
LULABELLE
13/f
i used to cut but i stopped. i hardly ever did it, like, maby once a month, i dont know. but whenever im really upset, i feel like doing it, but ive tought my self to not cut and read the bible instead. but i feel like i should still talk about it. noone ever found out and i dont want annyone to ever know, but im wondering if theres some type of email or something where it can stay a secret. thanx i rate high
You should be proud of yourself. It takes a strong person to be able to accomplish what you have. The only concern I have for you is how have you addressed the issue that stressed you to the point of your doing this to yourself, or have you simply suppressed this and maybe it could come again under another stressful situation. You are definately welcome to email me. Anything you email me will be confidential. My email address is lulabellesvoice@yahoo.com. Or, I have included some websites below. Each have dealt with your issue. Some are articles that you may find interesting and helpful and others are sites where you can aske questions, etc. I hope this has been of help.
http://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
http://www.geocities.com/cice_girl_89/techie.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3930935.stm
http://www.teenhealthfx.com/answers/Emotions-47.htm
http://www.wellness.gatech.edu/ask/3_dr_buzzy_answers/stress__mental_health/cutting.php
http://www.facetheissue.com/community/archive/index.php?t-635.html
http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2005/as-20050609p1046-cutting.php
Good Luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
I've been having alot of problems with my life latley ; and it's all starting to really weigh me down.
1) I was diagnosed with scoliosis the other week. Now I might have to get a brace or even surgery.
2) Today I went to the dentist to get my gums checked out before I got braces on. Turns out my lower gums are weak and I need surgery to fix them. Then I need two permenant teeth pulled then I will finally get my braces on.
3) I'm going to be kicked off of the cheerleading squad cause I will be missing 7 games during my recovery from the surgery. I will also miss several practices with my every other week check-ups on my back.
4) My dad's getting a pay cut in 2 weeks.
5) We're moving.
Since my dad is getting a paycut ; we are watching our budget. Now that I have all these surgerys, and other problems, I will cost my parents over $8,000 in treatments ; check ups ; and surgeries. My mom is constantly reminding me that I'm the one thats costing them so much money. There is nothing I can do about it though! I didn't purposley screw up my back. I didn't all the sudden decided I want weak gums to have to get surgery and cost them thousands of dollars. What do I dO ? I can't take the guilt and pain. The Surgerys are scaring me half to death, my mom isn't helping, and all of my families troubles are my fault. Help is appreciated .. if it's not to much to ask.
Your family stress level is way off the charts. First of all you have to understand, no matter what anyone else tells you none of this is your fault. I'm really concerned that you have a parent that would even consider for a second putting the blame on you. What you need to do is contact your counselor at school. Let them know what is going on for you. They may know of some free family stress counseling that you and your family can go to. Your whole family is suffering and that is why your mother is saying inappropriate things right now. She feels everything is out of control and she has to put the blame on something she can touch, feel, and smell. It helps her cope, in a sense, have something solid to put the blame on (whether it is true or not). Not fair but this is what people do. Trying to confront her with her irrational behavior may exasperate the situation instead of settling it. She may be someone who, while under stress, can't think rationally. That's the reason for the counseling. If you cannot get your family to attend counseling then you need to see to it that you do. This will help you to deal with the stress. Your father may be taking pay cuts, but does he still have health insurance for the family? If this is something that is not covered by his health insurance or if it is and the $8000 is the co pay (wow) you can contact some free clinics in your area. They usually operate on ability to pay basis. If they can't do your operations personally they will have recommendations as to where you can go to get some of these costs cut. What is important here is that you find ways to reduce your stress level. You will come through your operations with greater success and recovery if you are more emotionally stable. Your family is highly dysfunctional right now so you cannot find solace here. As much as we here on Advicenators would love to solve all problems, we can't in one short answer. It just doesn't work that way. Please seek outside consultation somewhere. You can find it in a friend of the family (preferably an adult), extended family member (grandparent, uncle, aunt), churches are full of people who are willing to help out and some of them are psychologists/psychiatrists. Sometimes these people will donate their time for church members. Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with. Good luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
ok well i think i have social anxiety disorder because when ever people whisper i always thnk there talking bad about me and i always think that im getting negativly judged everywhere i go its weird then i get all self concioncion and then now i never go out and i always think my friends are mad at me and i dont know whats wrong with me...HELP!!
if you give good advice then i rate fives no smart alecs and
also im 13/f
You need to get some professional help. If this progresses untreated you could find yourself in a lot of trouble down the line. There can be physiological reasons for these symptoms as well as mental. You need to get yourself a good physical done to know where you stand. I hate to think of you suffering this way. Some of the things you can do on your own are pretty simple. You need to change some of your eating habits. Cut processed sugars out of your diet. Sugar is actually a drug. It sucks all of the vitamin C out of your body. Ancient mariners never heard of scurvy until they were introduced to processed sugar. I’ll explain how sugar is a (legal) drug. Imagine, if you will, how they go about getting the drug cocaine. What they do is they take the leaves of the coke tree and boil them down to a fine white powdery substance. How do the get sugar? They boil the cane juice down to a fine white powdery substance. What’s the difference? The whole country is addicted to it. As an experiment sometime when you are with one of your parents shopping see how many things you can find in the store that doesn’t have sugar in it. You will be surprised. I think sugar has an adverse reaction on people. I also think there are people out there, you being among them, who are chemically sensitive. This means that all of the chemicals, sugars and additives need to be limited in your diet. Quite eating sugary foods and replace them with fresh fruits. Start eating more fresh organic fruits and vegetables. Give up eating white bread and replace it with whole wheat bread. Add raw nuts and seeds to your diet. There is a lot of nutrition in these little powerhouses. Limit the amount of beef, cheese and milk that you eat. If you do these things your symptoms will lessen maybe even stop. I will include some websites for you to check out.
http://www.gojuvo.com/gojua.html
http://www.shirleys-wellness-cafe.com/rawfood.htm
http://www.naturessecretsinhealth.info/eighthealingforcesofnature/
http://www.beyondveg.com/billings-t/selected-myths/selected-myths-1a.shtml
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
ok well i have been deprest for a year now but i also self harm i cut,bang my head and bit my self i di all this because it helps releave all the pain but fot the past 3days i havent eaten or drank anythin because the site of it makes my heave and be sick i dont know what to do anymore please help i am femail aged 18.
please note that i have dyslexia and have looked over it again
Please believe me when I tell you what I’m about to tell you that I mean you no harm. I’m not trying to be mean or hurt your feelings. What I’m about to say is in hopes of helping you. I have dyslexia and ADHD. People who have these conditions are usually highly intelligent people. Did you know Einstein was dyslexic? He couldn’t read until he was 12 years old. What you are doing now is extremely self-destructive. You need to get yourself to medical attention right away. You are going to dehydrate yourself. You are in a life-threatening situation and you need to attend to it right away. No one on this forum is going to be able to help you. Please, get professional help. If you can’t afford it, I’m sure there is a hospital where you are that will let you walk in. What you are doing and what is happening is not good. I care what happens to you. Let me know what you do.
LULABELLE
I'm a girl, Ive never had sex or anything like that but i think i might have a Yeast Infection because it feels like its burning 'down there' and sometimes it hurts when i pea. idk what to do or even if i have one please give me some advice. Is it normal for a 14 year old to get a Yeast Infection?
Vaginal yeast infections are caused by a fungus called Candida albicans. Yeast are tiny organisms that normally live in small numbers on the skin and inside the vagina. The acidic environment of the vagina helps keep yeast from growing. If the vagina becomes less acidic, too many yeast can grow and cause a vaginal infection.
The acidic balance of the vagina can be changed by your period (menstruation), pregnancy, diabetes, some antibiotics, birth control pills and steroids. Moisture and irritation of the vagina also seem to encourage yeast to grow.
Yeast infections can be very uncomfortable, but are usually not serious. Symptoms include the following:
Itching and burning in the vagina and around the vulva (the skin that surrounds your vagina)
A white vaginal discharge that may look like cottage cheese
Pain during sexual intercourse
Swelling of the vulva
Yeast infections are so common that 3/4 of women will have one at some time in their lives. Half of all women have more than one infection in their lives. If you have symptoms of a yeast infection, your doctor will probably want to talk to you about your symptoms and examine you to make sure a yeast infection is the cause.
Yeast infections are usually treated with medicine that you put into your vagina. This medicine may be a cream that you insert in your vagina with a special applicator, or it may be a suppository that you put into your vagina and allow to dissolve on its own. Medicine in a cream form can also be put on your vulva to help relieve itching. Medicine in a pill form that you take by mouth is also available.
Be sure to see your doctor the first time you have symptoms of a yeast infection. It's very important to make sure you have a yeast infection before you start taking medicine. The symptoms of a yeast infection are also the symptoms of other infections, such as some STDs. Treating yourself for a yeast infection when you actually have another type of infection may make the problem much worse.
If you have often been diagnosed with yeast infections, talk to your doctor about using a medicine you can buy without a prescription
Here are some things you can do to help prevent another yeast infection:
Don't wear tight-fitting or synthetic-fiber clothes. Wear cotton panties. Don't wear pantyhose or leotards every day. Use your blow dryer on a low, cool setting to help dry your genital area after you bathe or shower and before getting dressed. Wipe from front to back after using the toilet. This may help prevent the bacteria that normally live in your rectum from getting into your vagina. Change out of wet swimsuits or other damp clothes as soon as you can. Don't douche or use feminine hygiene sprays, deodorant sanitary pads or tampons, or bubble bath, and avoid using colored or perfumed toilet paper. These items seem to affect the balance of acidity of the vagina and can lead to symptoms of a yeast infection.
I hope this helps,
LULABELLE
I have problems remembering things. Here are some examples:
*for World history we had to make folder covers and had to label it "world history" but i forgot that it was world history so i put "world geography."
*i was talking to my grandma one time and i told her "ill never forget that time when..." and then literally 2 minutes later I forgot about it and I couldn't think of it.
*if I'm writing down a sentence from a book I have to look at the book every 2 words because i forget.
*In math or history I forget what happens or how to do a problem so when it comes to test time I don't do so well(i do good in math but HORRIBLE in history.)
those were just SOME things. What's wrong with me and is there any way to fix this??
Of course there is, but, you may not like what it is you have to do. A lot of problems that people experience today is due to their diet. Todays foods are chemically ridden. Meats have steroids, hormones and antibiotics in them which can create all kinds of problems for people starting from obesity to depression and of course the symptoms you have discribed. All of the vegitables are not even allowed to rippen on the vine anymore and are sprayed with a myriad of chemicals. It's a wonder we are able to stand up. Also, sugar is a big culperit for memory loss. If you are eating a lot of sugar you may want to cut back. Don't drink that soda or have that piece of bread. You may not think that you are eating that much sugar, but, conduct an experiment. Next time you are at the grocery store try to find something that doesn't have sugar in it. Corn syrup would be considered a sugar. I'll bet you'll find it to be very difficult. This society is completly hooked on sugar. Did you know that sugar is more addicting than heroin? A really good book on this subject is "Sugar Blues". What you need to do is start eating whole organic foods. If you eat meat find a store in your area that sells organically raised meat that has been raised without the hormones, steriods, and antibiotics. This type of meat is more expensive, but, it tastes and is so much better for you. When you have a sweet tooth eat fresh rippened fruits. Drink fruit juice that has no added sugar. There is a great product out there which is a cactus juice it is called Agave. It doesn't affect the body like sugar does and it is 30 times sweeter than sugar. This is something even diabetics can have. It tastes fantastic and you'll never miss sugar with this product.
Don't use sugar substitues. I don't know of a one of them, including splenda, that is good for you. Here is a web site tht will give you more information on how bad these sugar substitues are for you http://www.holisticmed.com/splenda/. Just copy and paste this into your web browser and it will take you there. These sugar substitues also cause the symptoms you have just described.
Something I know it will sound strange but it's true is you may be touch deprived. What I mean by this is you may need to hug more. Hug your mother, hug your father, friends and even your pets. Research has also shown that people who are touch deprived also suffer from the symptoms you have just discribed. A great book on this subject is "Touching, The Human Significance of the Skin" by Ashley Montigu.
Lastly, but just as importantly, you need to go in to the Doctor and have a check up. Just to make sure that there isn't anything physically going on. I think your fine, but, it is always a good idea to cover all of your bases.
Good Luck,
LULABELLE