As someone who has anxiety, it's not! It's not cute and romantic to avoid things because of irrational fears, to not be able to relax your body, and for your body to always be shaking. Or taking hours to fall asleep to wake up at 3 am having a panic attack, hallucinating. It's not aesthetic to be doing a project in science class that involves heart rate and find out your pulse beats 40 above average even though you eat right, exercise and are generally a healthy person and people being like "???" And not wanting to explain. And being worried about everything, from your friends leaving you even though that's unreasonable because your friends are great and have stood by you through everything but you're afraid if you express your feelings they'll definetly hate you to being afraid a war will suddenly break out or an apocalypse of some sort which is even more unreasonable. Sweaty palms and stomach aches and head aches and freaking out over everything is not romantic, cute or anything! And especially people believe that you're faking it and tell you to just get over it and "stop worrying" like I'M TRYING BUT THE BRAIN TOO IS AN ORGAN THAT CAN MALFUNCTION JUST LIKE THE LUNGS, KIDNEY, LIVER, ETC YOU DON'T TELL PEOPLE WITH ASTHMA TO JUST BREATHE NOW DO YOU!!!!! I keep noticing people who don't have anxiety in the slightest using it as a theme for their crappy blog, or if I talk about symptoms some edgy™ emo kid will go "same." Like no your not "same" just because you get nervous sometimes. Like I am constantly living in the moment where your chair tips and you seem like you're about to fall but you don't. All the time. And people think it's romantic. If you think it's so cool you can have mine I will gladly give it to you because it's not cute. Why do people romantacise anxiety? Also what's up with people thinking your lover can fix everything like supportive loved ones help but a gf/bf can't cure a mental illness?
Firstly as someone who has anxiety I don't know anyone who thinks it is romantic or cute...more used to people misunderstanding it.
Secondly this is an advice site and youve not asked for a piece of specific advice? So if you want advice how to help cope with anxiety then re write the question because I'm unsure why you posted this on an advice site to be honest.
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(14/f) Is too skinny even a thing? Well apparently I am and no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to put on any weight. It's really annoying and kind of depressing how my friends are curvy with a nice body and they seem to joke that they're fat and take the piss out of my lack of it.
I have little boobs and a small bum and I hardly ever get a second glance while my friends get wolf whistles. Now what I really want to ask is: How can I accept my body image or is there another way to put it on?
Does protein stuff work? Or am I doomed to eat carbs for the rest of my life?
You're six years younger than me but I have the exact same issue! Frustrating isn't it? People may treat you like a kid because you don't look womanly and you sometimes feel unattractive and unworthy?
Well my advice to you would be to find something that you do love about yourself. So maybe you're super ambitious or have a pretty face? It can be anything but whatever it is hold on to it because it's important you have something positive to say about yourself!
Now onto the putting on weight aspect. Firstly you don't HAVE to put on weight that is, if you are healthy. And I wouldn't recommend doing new weight gaining methods without consulting a professional first.
There could be several reasons you can't put on weight. I'm not a doctor so don't take what I say as fact, but it could be that you have a high metabolism. An overactive thyroid or maybe as you're only 14 weight will come in your later teens.
But I get it, you're unhappy and want to change. It hard because you're so young so I wouldn't advise going to do weights at a gym at your age. Or prote in shakes actually. What you could do is try some squats. Make sure you get advise from a professional first but squats really help in building muscle mass around the hips, and so give you are bigger bum gradually. There are lots of easy exercises you can try.
Just remember you're still growing and that won't stop rill you're 19 so who knows what could happen in the next few years?
If it's any consolation I was very thin at you're age and even without trying puberty just meant even I got a little cubbies!
If it's a concern speak with a doctor but in my opinion wait to see what happens for now and when just enjoy beING a teenager.
Sure Beyonce is hot but so i's Taylor Swift-see what I'm saying?! Take care
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Hello..why I am so exited for sex I am 18yrs girl and I am single ..i dont want to do sex but sometimes I cant control I really want do naturely I feel it ...what is this tell me ..and I am virgin ...
So in other words sometimes you get abit horny?http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal
Um...that's normal especially for your age-hormones everywhere.
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So recently today I recieved my retainer. Right now its hurting so badddd. He said to wear it 24/7 and that got me annoyed like why not wear it during the night? -.- But anyways, I'm 13 and I don't want to wear this thing forever. People at school always have to say something about it and it bothers me. The fact that I have to take it out during lunch every single day. I'm concern on what other kids are going to say about it so please help? ._. I HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS TOMORROW IN SCHOOL.
No you don't have to wear your retainer. If you don't want straight teeth and want your jaws to not be aligned then don't wear it. However, my advice doesn't stop here, because it is improper for me to suggest you don't wear it, when medical professionals suggest otherwise.
The reason you've been given a retainer is to line your jaw up. I wore one for a year and they made me look hideous-and really enhanced my chin.
I know its tricky and stuff especially at your age when you feel the most self conscious about yourself, but you have to realize you've been given this retainer to wear all the time for a reason.
Pretty soon, other kids wont notice you have it in anyway-it'll just become part of your mouth in a way. I mean they are designed to be as discrete as possible. I know-it feels like a big boulder in your mouth or something but its less obvious than you think.
If its too tight then get back to your orthodontist and ask them to slacken it slightly and take regular paracetemol.
Also, make sure you keep asking your orthodontist to give you a big explanation every time you see them as to how your treatment is progressing. That way they'll be more swift with dealing with you and so the retainer will be out quicker.
If you decide you don't want to wear it, tell your orthodontist about the decision and get them to explain why you have to wear it (have they not done this?) If you don't tell them they'll only give you a lot of grief at your next appointment.
I think its just down to self confidence. Get used to being comfortable with who you are (even with the retainer in your mouth). Love yourself and you'll learn to care less what your peers think.
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I can tell what I have seen and NO I don't drink or do drugs. I have been having this problem since I was 9 years old. I have seen plenty of shadows people around my house, some of them have red eyes & move quickly. They are not shadows of any of the people I am with nor are they shadows cast by me. Two nights ago I was staying over at a friends and I woke up because my phone had gone off (For no reason) It was about 3:40 or so and I looked over towards the door and I saw a figure standing. It was wearing an all white cloak with a hood. It stood with it's arms folded in front of it and it was fairly short & it was coming at me. One night I literaly saw a red demon on fire in front of my bed. It scared the shit outta me for days. I also hear my name being called out. And I heard a voice say, "You're going to hell." I freeze up in my sleep and hear weird noises, when that happens I can't talk. One night I saw a pale woman with stitched lips & eyes. She had curly long hair and she was in my living room. When I close my eyes I hear a mans voice, it sounds evil and its growling and screaming and this is NO lie. I hear this stuff all the time but no one believes me. I even woke up with scratches on my arm and face and I did not do it myself.
No matter what house I move to this stuff happens and it has gotten worse & I know there's nothing mentally wrong with me.
I tried talking to people about this but they don't believe me. Do you think I'm being haunted by something evil?
I think most people don't have time to think this deeply about people...
If its affecting your sleep, my advice would be to speak to a doctor and they can refer you to someone who can help you.
I think if I'm honest people have bigger things to worry about than if they're being haunted or not.
And no I don't believe in ghosts-because I don't have the time to question every potential ghost like movement that may occur.
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Over the last few years i've become increasing `cold-hearted`and i just simply don't care about things anymore for example:
starving children in 3rd world countries
just don't care one bit
This is starting to really irritate me because I'm keeping everyone at arms length, on top of that small things like my brother not eating at the dinner table causes me to get angry (chest hurts)
I just want to know if i'm stressed? psychotic? or just going through a phase?
Many thanks if you've read this
~ Night
When we see people suffering all the time on the news e.g in Syria, after a while we just become desensitized to it. We switch off, because its nothing new.
Okay, so you have physical symptoms because of this-so its probably time to speak to a doctor. I or my fellow advice givers are not doctors, but it could be stress. I had a spout of anxiety and yes you feel numb, as if there is a shield that's stopping you laughing, crying etc.
I am not qualified to make a medical diagnosis, but it sounds similar to depression, which is closely linked with anxiety.
It can just be a spout of it-depression is an illness that despite common belief is not the sufferers fault.
I would speak to a doctor, catching whatever you have early and getting help early will make it easier for you to control the issue, before it manifests itself into something uncontrollable.
Good luck :) Whilst you wait for an appointment, check out 'MoodJuice' online. Great self help resources for you to help yourself with your problem. Perhaps its best to, to not stress over the fact you're dead emotionally. By accepting the feeling and not letting it bug you, you are successfully controlling your emotions. This is something that counsellors will teach you to do.
Good luck :)
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How do bulimics make themselves throw up? And what do they do to make it easier? Whats the risks of being bulimic? Im doing a project on bulimia so please say everything you mow :) thanks
I don't know a lot-I can only go on personal experience.
Bulimia is a way for sufferers to regain control over their lives in some way.
I had a spell of this, because bulimia is a side effect of an anti depressant.
How I made myself sick-often on an empty stomach-was by first sticking my tongue out and heaving. (This made my eyes water) And then, after about four attempts I would be sick.
The risks of being bulimic depend on genetics and your environment. Also on whether you have anxiety or depression or have any other mental illness that means you have lost control over your life.
My bulimic episode lasted no longer than two weeks, and it was the worst two weeks of my life. I'm 18 now and just thinking back to my experiences with this just over a year ago now has been hard tbh, but I hope I helped :)
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Hi,
I just want to thank you because some advice you gave me earlier helped me stop cutting. It means so much to me, and I was worried I wouldn't be able to stop.
Thanks again for helping me get over my addiction. I'm glad I was able to get help.
You're more than welcome, but if you begin to suffer again then inbox me
~Take Care now~
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I get very stressed out in school because many people do not like me and I constantly worry about this and it really scares me going to class because it is very likely that instead of sitting next o a normal person i will be sitting next to someone who will be glaring at me most of the way through the lesson. Or they will be saying that its horrible sitting with me and whispering stuff like that to heir friends. Some people even have the nerve to say something mean as loud as they can to make sure i hear it and then prettend they didn't mean for me o hear it. And then they start laughing. I get very depressed because of this. I was wondering is there a way to reduce this. There is nothing i can do about people not liking me because you can't make people like you no matter how much you try but i do not mind because i have a wonderfull best friend who is there for me. So is there anything to calm me down? Like meditation or something i don't know? Can you think of any distractions from stress? I o not want to take any medications. Thank you
I think if you want people to like you, you first have to not care about what they think. Hard to do, I know...
Yes there is meditation you can do, it is called mindfulness. All you do is relax in a comfy chair in a quiet room alone. Have some Jazz/classical music playing in the background-not to quiet or to loud.
Concerntrate on the music,and every time your mind wanders (and it will) focus on the music again.
This helps you stay in 'the present moment'.
You see, when we worry, we worry about things that have already happened, or could happen in the future. This leads us to draw up often irrational conclusions.
So if we say 'ok, that may happen in the future, but that does not determine my actions in the present', then we will be much more relaxed.
If you are of school age, then doctors are very unlikely to give you any medication for anxiety anyway as it is very powerful and there is a danger with drugs like beta blokers that they become addictive. Therefore, it is best to do it naturally.
You see, you are a naturally anxious person. That is part of your disposition,as mine. And there is no cure-its abit like diabetes-you just have to learn to cope with it.
Search 'Mood Juice' for helpful self-help resources on coping with anxiety.
Also, if you're on facebook, join an special anxiety group on there. You'll be able to share ideas and interact with people just like you.
You need to stop the anxiety in its tracks now. There's tons of stuff on YouTube about 'how to not care what people think' etc. Really try to use it in the best way-these resources are all free remember!
As for other distractions, you could try taking up a new hobby? Like volunteering or something?
I think you (as I do to be honest) need to learn how to be assertive and stand up for yourself as these people you describe are bullies.
You also need to learn how to relax properly by the techniques we have discussed. Finally, be yourself. Be open with people and instead of trying to make an impression, focus on expressing yourself. And it should be ok.
~Take Care~
p.s its nice to have a question in my inbox that actually makes sense
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Sometimes I feel like I have the best life. Like I can do anything. I am the person who can look in the mirror and smile because I know I can do anything I put my mind to. Then come the days like today. Filled with watching old television shows and wishing I was someone else. I get fixated on these shows. I don't even know if this all makes sense but it is what happens to me. I have nothing to do during the day I feel completely helpless and am forced to look at my life from a completely different and depressing view. I worry that if I just keep busy all the time I'll be missing on what is really happening but I avoid.
See your doctor. You have to take a long questionnaire as there is no biological test that can be done.
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I was always a worrier ( if thats a word) I'm 14 btw. But, eversince, my bf and I broke up..it's been 1-2 months, I see that I've changed quite a bit. I'm sort of irritable, I find it very hard to fall asleep ( happened before too, but now it takes longer), I'm always tense about my homework or that I'm not putting in enough hardwork, I don't eat properly because of the fear that I'll become fat, I don't even feel like eating and I used to love food. Though I'm enjoying life in my own way, I get random headaches and I feel burned out many times. What is the reason behind this? It's not only after the break up but ever since I came into 9th grade. What can I do to help myself?
Hello-the anxiety pro is here :)
I'm 18 but have an anxiety disorder too-so I have textbook knowledge of it!
So, what I'm telling you is what doctors have told me.
Anxiety is competency harmless, in small parts. It triggers the fight or flight response.
Most people with anxiety are highly intelligent and are perfectionists.
I'm guessing you've not had a panic attack before-you are after all 14 and they begin when you are 16/17. They are awful. Its basically like collapsing but alot worse.
To help yourself you need to start meditation. Now. Before your anxiety spirals out of control. Look up mindfulness online. It has helpful hints and tips on how to meditate. You see, people snort at meditation, but the embarrassing thing for them is that it actually works! Make sure you give yourself time and space to do it, and you will not be disturbed. Try this:
http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/mildmoderate/Anxiety.asp
The headaches may be coming with the sleeping problems. About that. I once went a week with no sleep. Then I had a night. Then none whatsoever. I wasn't doing it on purpose-it was my anxiety. And hey-I'm still here! I got help for it, so I think you should to. Either way, I think self help is great but it never can replace counselling. Maybe this is an option for you.
I know its easy for me to say. But don't worry about this. You will be fine-as someone from a helpline once told me: Nothing lasts forever.
You will get through this.
I think you need to get over your boyfriend by starting something new. You could perhaps try volunteering? Worked for me anyways!
Also, if you have facebook, why not join an anxiety group on there? They are closed so no one online will be able to see, and its a great way to interact with people like yourself (and me!) for free. Sometimes talking is the best therapy.
Try speaking to a relative about this. In the end, support will get you through this.
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Hey there. I've been very depressed since latley ever since my ex bf who made me stop cutting and really loved me dumped me because wasn't really ready and not that interested. Then about a week ago his cousin said he had feelings and him and I got together and he made me send pics to him and told me to keep our relationship secret. Then yesterday he said I told some people (I didn't) and he said we weren't even going out and he doesn't know if he wants to be friends with me anymore and he blocked me on Kik. School has also made me depressed because not much of my friends are in my class and I'm around a lot of people I don't know and it makes me nervous along with knowing I might as my ex (he's one grade lower than me) and it makes me more depressed. I also can't take life anymore and I really want to die. What should I do to feel normal and happy again or what's a simple way to die?
The fact you've asked to become 'normal' again is a sign you are not ready for death, and that there is an ounze in you wanting to live still.
Its hard...I have had counselling before, but your best bet is to speak to a counselor. You'd have to go to your GP to do that. If you're feeling suicidal right now, tell a friend, parent etc.
You see, breakup is something I'd say 90% of people plus go through.Trust me, there are people out there that have gone through worse than you. It also sounds like you have some social anxiety there.
You need to use the break up to make you stronger. Strong enough to be happy on your own in situtation where this guy was once with you.
If you go to your doctor, they can help with meds. But most want to put you on a counselling course. If your of school child age they'll want to do this, because its easy to get addicted to the drugs.
But you need to find that motivation to get better from somewhere. The fact you want to kill yourself. Over a guy dumping you. Serious? Go to the doctors, but tell him you want to get better, and there is motivation from somewhere.
They don't give counselling to people who don't TRY you see.
Good luck anyways, and why not begin by trying some self help books?
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I've had Depersonalization Disorder since I was 12 (I'm 13 now). I can't handle it anymore... My mom knows about it, but she doesn't know what we can do for it.
I have severe anxiety and paranoia, so I'm guessing that has to do with something. I am willing to take medication, but I'm not sure what to take... For anxiety? Paranoia? I can't take this anymore. Also, do you think medication can even fix this?
Thank you... Any answer will help.
P.S. Yes I know you guys aren't doctors, but this is pretty much all I have.
I have an anxiety disorder-diagnosed, so it'd be interesting to hear your symptoms.
What Light of Truth may not know is that doctors are reluctant to give young people medication for anxiety etc, because they're very addictive, and if they stop working well-its short of a nightmare.
So the best thing you can do is cope. Anxiety is something you can not control. It is part of who you are, and it will always be with you. If it is anxiety that you have, then you need to get this diagnosed as to which type it is.
If its GAD (generalised) I can help.
You need to cope with it. You may be referred to a consellor like I was if its serious.
No you wont have experience a panick attack before because science has proven you can't untill you're 16/17, due to hormones.
Try the buddist philosophy of 'mindfulness'. Meditating, and taking time out to do so every day is the key to coping with your anxiety and leading a successful life.
You have to be committed. I know some people may snort at the idea of meditation and positive thinking etc. But the reality is it works.
Find some chill out jazz/classical music, and just lie on your bed, letting your mind wander. When it wanders from not concentrating on the music, bring your mind back to the music again.
Visit 'moodjuice' their website has lots of help for you. In the meantime I'd book in to see your GP again. Perhaps they can get you some counselling.
I only know about anxiety. Paranoia is often linked with schizophrenia. This doesn't develop untill late teens, early twenties-so its impossible for you to have this.
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I have to be honest with you in order to get a full answer to my question. I am a 28 year old guy from the UK and I am a convicted sex offender, having been convicted of historic offences when I myself was a child. The offences only came to light when I walked into a police station and handed myself in without warrant for my arrest. The judge, when sentencing me, said that, had I not handed myself in, the offences would probably never have come to light. He also said that I should look at rebuilding my life and return to University, which I was unable to complete because of the case. Probation officers working with me repeat that and often tell me not to be as hard on myself as I am being. I am going through a behavioral course for sex offenders to encourage me not to reoffend and I am serving a community based sentence.
What I don't understand is WHY do many people believe that, after the torment and destruction I have caused to my victims (plural) when offending and to bring it back up and hurt even more people in the process, obliterating more lives, that I deserve another chance? In my eyes, I should have been put to death, but we abolished the death penalty before I was born. Do I really deserve another chance at life when I have destroyed the lives of my victims? Or am I right and I should never see the light of day again?
Its relative whether or not you do deserve a second chance.
At the very least, if you can't help your victims it'd be a good idea to help those who need it.
I volunteer-I think you should to.
Its great for building back your sense of self worth. Because although what you did in the past was a terrible thing, you, like your victims have to find ways to cope. Otherwise you'll sink into depression and life wont seem worth living.
You can't change what went on int he past, but you can learn to make up for it. It may not equal perfectly, but there's no harm in, for example, helping out with a charity in some way. The people's lives you interfered with will never be the same again, but you can help change someone else's life for the better.
The fact you don't want to live is a decision governed by emotions. Because of this, people will ignore any claims you make about wanting to not live.
I just think you should put your life to good use and help the thousands of people out there that need your help. So I'd contact some kind of ex-offenders helpline and try to take the first steps to change your life, and someone elses.
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Hi. Soo I Need To Get My Mind Off Something (Annoying Subject) And I Can't Seem To. Any Suggestions.? Thanks.!
The best way is to think about it.
Research has been carried out that shows the more you think about trying to not think of something, the more you actually think about it.
Research:the ironic processes of cognitive control experiment.
The best way is to think about it, but do not attach it to any feeling or emotion, and the thought will soon pass.
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I've been having anxiety/panic attacks lately and I hate it... How can I get rid of it? I heard that you can make it go away from getting your mind off of it, but I can't think of anything to do.
I've tried breathing slowly and it's not working. Please help as soon as you can, please. Thank you.
Breathe into a paper bag.
Its horrible, I know-I have had one. You need to remind yourself that panic attacks do not last forever.
This is what is going to help it to go away. Tell yourself this: panic attacks are there to keep me safe. It may feel like I am dying, or that I am in danger, but actually, nothing is going to happen.
When you breathe, you need to concerntrate on the breathing OUT. Breathe in abit (not to hyperventilate) but breathe out in a BIG SIGH for even longer than that. Repeat as many times as you like.
When your panic attack is over, try to meditate using 'mindfulness'. This is something we all need to do everyday-relax, else it can manifest itself as you and I have found.
But the main thing to remember is to go with the flow. All what has happened is the adrenaline has rushed to your head. You can regain control of the situation by telling yourself that it is a perfectly natural and normal human response, and that although you feel disgusting now, it will be over soon-they only tend to last for 20 mins max.
Lie down when you're having one/feel that dizzy feeling when you're about to have one. If you're with someone, tell them before it gets bad 'panick attack'.
For people who have never seen anyone have a panick attack before, they'll be like all panicky and worried themself. This is the last thing you need.
Get a cold flannel round your forhead if you're hot, get as much ventilation in the room as posssible, and close your eye,focusing on your breathing.
Breathe in calm and out smoke clouds. Look up the buzzing bees of worry analagy next time you're having one.
Sorry this advice was so long, but I know EXACTLY how you feel. You end up being fearful of the places that caused your panic attack right?
Need any more help inbox me :)
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My ways of coping w/sadness have never really been healthy. Self-harm was a part of my life for 3 years & the last time was 4 months ago. I don't have much desire to do it again because I don't feel it has the same affect on me anymore. About a year ago I began praying & trying to put my life in Gods hands & I feel I've built a strong relationship w/God I feel I've gained a lot of hope/faith from it, but when I'm sad I feel I become a completely different person I become so angry & feel so helpless & all I do is cry & feel like dying after I've taken some time to calm down those feelings subside. I'm just afraid I won't give myself some time to calm down & I'll end up acting on those feelings... need advice :)
Thank you! any advice is very much appreciated :)
Hey!
A year ago exactly now I needed to find ways to cope with my anxiety which was causing me panic attacks.
What was recommended to me was meditation.
Try this http://bemindful.co.uk/
It doesn't take much effort, and there is no right or wrong way to do it.
What you also need to recognise is thoughts are just thoughts. You can think them, but acknowledge them and let them leave your head again.
Its abit like when you think you're going to cry. If you recognise that it is an emotion and it is there, without the need to act on it, then it actually stops you from crying.
If praying works for you then thats great-everyone has different coping strategies. But praying is a form of meditation, which is why meditation should work for you.
The truth is, we could all do with meditating every day, but only few do it, because they can recognise the importance of it.7
Those who do it will always be much more stronger and succesful people, because they are in tune with their own feelings and have strong control over their thoughts.
Remember, you can't manage emotions but you can manage thoughts that can lead to actions. Also, nothing lasts forever, and in time all these negative thoughts will subside. Your future is bright :) Take care
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I'm a 13-year-old girl, and I started cutting myself in December. My mom found out and tried to help, but she only made things worse for me.
After a few months, I managed to stop by myself, and everyone thought I would never do it again. But I started cutting again in June because I have been really sad and stressed out for several different reasons.
There is only one adult who knows that I still cut myself, and I love her more than anything in the whole world. I used to be able to see her in person and talk to her about anything, but now I only get to talk to her through letters. She told me a while ago that I need to tell my therapist I'm cutting. Honestly, I would tell my therapist, but I know he would tell my mom that I'm hurting myself. I know from experience that my mom will only make things worse for me if she finds out.
I don't know how to stop cutting. It feels like there is nothing else I can do to express myself. I can't really tell anyone else about it, because I know they would make things worse! If you have any advice, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!
I'm not sure you're fully aware of the dangers of cutting. It can rupture vital veins that deliver blood to the arteries etc, which can kill you.
Also, if you are cutting to the extent of loosing blood, you're losing heamoglobin (which carries oxygen around the body) and lack of oxygen can damage vital organs.
I, like everyone on this site, is not a doctor. But, it seems to me that you have an anxiety disorder. Its easy to jump to 'depression', but the part when you said 'control' sounds like me a year ago. It also sounds abit like OCD.
This is particulaly interesting because anxiety only really manifests itself when you're 16-so this is abit early.
You need to stop cutting. I know its difficult because its become routine but the scars will stay with you for life.
I have a feeling you're cutting because you can't get help. You can't get help without your mum knowing, so you feel out of control. To regain this control, you cut. Its almost like a cry for help.
I don't see why you don't want your mum to help you. Is it that you fear her being upset and a disappointment? Its such a shame you're so young, but there still is help out there.
First of all, you could do with talking to someone on the telephone. Here in Britain we have the samaritons. Hopefully someone else who answers this can give you the name of similar helplines in America.
You see, the only thing I can do thousands of miles away via a computer screen is tell you to tell someone. Have you considered telling your therapist not to tell your mum?
When I told my therapist, I said not to tell her because it'd make her upset. And to this day she still does not know.
Remember, nothing lasts forever, but you need help now before this manifests itself into something serious. Control it before it controls you.
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i think im bipolar.. ive read alot about it online and in books because ive had people ask me if i was.. what do i do? Do i just have to live with it? My emotions do change rapidly all the time ..
Adviceman is right, and why on earth you rated his advice a 2 I don't know.
Go see a doctor. What has happened here is you have diagnosed yourself,and people are offering you help to cope with bipolar disorder. But its not proven you have it yet.
You need to get a proper medical diagnosis. The doctors can put you on counselling and or drugs (usually a combination of the two) and by doing so it CAN be managed-you don't have to just live with it.
Like I wrote though, you need a diagnosis yet...don't jump to conclusions!
Also don't rate someone's advice low just because you do not agree with it. You're getting it for free. Show some manners that people have stopped on your question to help you.
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i am so ashamed but where do i start basically im 19 i already have a one year old not with the father because i choose horrible men and he didnt want me anymore just the baby, ive had sex with about 13 people since i was 16 and ive cheated before i feel so ashamed of how my life has become and am looking for some reason to change but i cant find it please would you be able to help me?
I would have thought the biggest reason to change would be for the sake of your daughter.
No daughter wants a mother with a reputation.
You've obviously concentrated on the social life way more than getting a good career/Why not enrol on a course? To help you get a job when your child is old enough to go to nursery?
You can't change the past but you can make your own future.
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