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Why do people think anxiety is cute and romantic
As someone who has anxiety, it's not! It's not cute and romantic to avoid things because of irrational fears, to not be able to relax your body, and for your body to always be shaking. Or taking hours to fall asleep to wake up at 3 am having a panic attack, hallucinating. It's not aesthetic to be doing a project in science class that involves heart rate and find out your pulse beats 40 above average even though you eat right, exercise and are generally a healthy person and people being like "???" And not wanting to explain. And being worried about everything, from your friends leaving you even though that's unreasonable because your friends are great and have stood by you through everything but you're afraid if you express your feelings they'll definetly hate you to being afraid a war will suddenly break out or an apocalypse of some sort which is even more unreasonable. Sweaty palms and stomach aches and head aches and freaking out over everything is not romantic, cute or anything! And especially people believe that you're faking it and tell you to just get over it and "stop worrying" like I'M TRYING BUT THE BRAIN TOO IS AN ORGAN THAT CAN MALFUNCTION JUST LIKE THE LUNGS, KIDNEY, LIVER, ETC YOU DON'T TELL PEOPLE WITH ASTHMA TO JUST BREATHE NOW DO YOU!!!!! I keep noticing people who don't have anxiety in the slightest using it as a theme for their crappy blog, or if I talk about symptoms some edgy™ emo kid will go "same." Like no your not "same" just because you get nervous sometimes. Like I am constantly living in the moment where your chair tips and you seem like you're about to fall but you don't. All the time. And people think it's romantic. If you think it's so cool you can have mine I will gladly give it to you because it's not cute. Why do people romantacise anxiety? Also what's up with people thinking your lover can fix everything like supportive loved ones help but a gf/bf can't cure a mental illness?
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Firstly as someone who has anxiety I don't know anyone who thinks it is romantic or cute...more used to people misunderstanding it.
Secondly this is an advice site and youve not asked for a piece of specific advice? So if you want advice how to help cope with anxiety then re write the question because I'm unsure why you posted this on an advice site to be honest.
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I havent heard of people romatisizing or thinking anxiety is just a cute choice you are making but obviously that must be happening to you.Sorry to hear it. As already stated by another, people feel helpless as to what to say or do in light ofyour anxieties so whatever most people say/do is not going to help or make you feel worse in some way. Rhis just shows that unless a person has suffered from an anxiety or several, they are not going to understand. I have though . . . social anxiety, pretty bad. But my last yr of HS I was so sick of being that way I was willing to do anything, even that which I was scared of if it would heal me. SO I am one who can say that I know people dont really have to live with anxieties. I know your question wasn't on how to get over anxieties, but if you are interested in a method that helped me, (no prescription med.s) then let me know and I will tell you about it.
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People these days don't like to admit it when they don't have a clue about something. When this happens we just try to imagine or gather what we think we know from television, internet, people, etc. On television when someone has anxiety sometimes it show cases a "broken" girl and a boy who comes into her life for the better. When this happens girls like the idea of attention from a boy. Boys probably just look at the cute girl.
If it bothers you too much then try to tell them it's rude. Most likely though, they won't understand unless they actually get anxiety.
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