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Hi there! This question really intrigued me. I am a friend of the person who owns this account.
Anyways... I just got a boyfriend a week ago. Before we started dating we already started saying "I love you." and kissing. We both made the move to kiss by hugging then he backed away and I kind of grabbed his waiste and pulled him closer. not hard though. Then he looked at meh lips and I leaned in.
So... maybe try that. and to touch but no TO sexual grab his waiste and pull it really close to you and hard to. That got my boyfriend hard REALLY fast.
so my problem is was that you said you were a friend of the person who owns this account and i wanna know who you are
This is lilly3675 here. My friend (aka the person who answered your question) was over at my house, and I showed her this website. She wanted to try to give advice so she answered your question. She doesn't have an account if that's what you are wondering.
hi so i have a boyfriend that i have been dating for about 3 months and soon to be 4. We have never had any physical contact besides holding hands and hugging. Well next week were going on a date and i really want to kiss him/make out. I know most of the time when people kiss they start to make out.... But i don't know if it will be the same with me and him because he is kind of socially awkward and does not have a lot of friends.I feel like if i lean in for a kiss he will react in a weird way or may not kiss back.We talk about our relationship sometimes and once over facetime he told me he wanted a hand job...That was a few weeks ago and i don't know if i am ready for all that but i do want to see him get hard and i wanna know how to do that, like how to touch him with out getting to sexual
Hi there! This question really intrigued me. I am a friend of the person who owns this account.
Anyways... I just got a boyfriend a week ago. Before we started dating we already started saying "I love you." and kissing. We both made the move to kiss by hugging then he backed away and I kind of grabbed his waiste and pulled him closer. not hard though. Then he looked at meh lips and I leaned in.
So... maybe try that. and to touch but no TO sexual grab his waiste and pull it really close to u and hard to. That got my boyfriend hard REALLY fast.
I've only been at my current college one semester. I moved here because the school looked beautiful and it was in a city that I thought would have lots of job opportunities. I still think my school is very pretty and also has yummy restaurants on campus, lots of fun places off campus, and up to date technology but I'm having quite a few other issues here.
1. I can't find a decent job here. I have a great resume and previous experience, but still barely anybody is hiring and the jobs get snapped up so fast or won't work with my school schedule.
2. My campus is noisy and I can't concentrate on studying. The school is doing construction that won't end until 2018 and it's so loud I even have trouble sleeping and don't want to have to listen to music 24/7 to block it out. On top of this is the constant noise of cars passing by on busy streets.
3. My campus doesn't feel safe. It's an open campus and homeless people from the city wander onto it and as soon as you step off of campus you're in a bad area of town where they tell you to go with a friend at all times because people get mugged or assaulted every other week. Part of this is probably due to #4.
4. People here constantly go out and get drunk at the bars 5 minutes down the street and then come back and party until 3am in the morning. Campus safety does nothing about this and neither do the RA's.
5. It doesn't feel like a community here. Most of the campus here is kids from NY, Cali, New Jersey, and out of the country. Due to this our campus is mostly stuck up rich kids who are obnoxious and students who barely speak English or stick to groups from their own country. It's hard to make friends here other than the ones I have who already lived here prior to me moving. I tried joining a big club on campus last semester and that helped a little, but still most of the kids don't even look up from their phones. Nobody in class talks and people won't even interact in group project settings. It's really sad.
6. I dated a boy here last semester who wound up having BPD and during his fits would at times, put me in dangerous situations. I had to get a no-contact against him when he started doing crazy things and stalking me everywhere I went. Obviously I broke up with him and he's gone over the summer, but is coming back in less than two months. He claims he's trying to get better for me and is on meds now, but I don't believe it and don't want to deal with him again and I know he wont leave me alone.
7. Already I've been moved off campus for housing next semester because they ran out of room on campus after knocking down one of their dorm halls. This sucks because it's in an old hotel, I'm going to have to shuttle back and forth to campus to eat (required meal plans) and for classes, and I'm going to have to share my room with another person I don't even know.
The reasons I think I might like the school I'm looking at transferring to are:
1. It's in a suburbs type area that seems a lot safer and like there will be less competition over jobs.
2. The campus is full of greenery and sits on top of a huge lake, which I think will make for a lot of nice quiet places to study.
3. The area itself seems like one more small-town or suburban type students would flock to so I'd hope the people will be more friendly.
4. They have sororities with sorority housing, which my current school doesn't have and would possibly interest me.
5. They have a lot of awards for their education and overall seem like more of a study school.
6. All their housing is on campus, which makes everything easier.
What do you think? Should I make the move if offered to me or should I stick it out at my current school to see if things get better?
If you don't see things getting better than what do you have to lose? If things can't get worse than you should move and start fresh. Especially if you don't feel safe, which is a big deal and the fact that you aren't able to sleep or study. College is an important time in your life so going to the one that interests you the most and will prepare you for life is key.
I am 13 years old and I would like to know if I have hemorrhoids I have no bleeding or growing no infections it looks like but I want to know when the symptoms start to kick in I'm really worried and haven't told anyone yet
Hemorrhoids affect people most often between 45 and 65 years of age. Hemorrhoids are usually not serious. Sometimes the symptoms aren't even that significant. If you are worried about it then you should most likely ask a parent.
If you want to help prevent hemorrhoids then make sure to drink plenty of fluids. Also eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
Hey. I think I have an eating problem. I won't eat in front of other people and when I do, I feel fat and I feel like a pig. It's gotten so bad that I won't even eat properly in school, and I was against a wall with my bf the other day, and it was awkward because my stomach growled so loud. :(. Also, when I do eat, I eat A LOT. Like I'm not even joking. My stomach has shrank, and I'm seeing a counsellor, but I still won't eat in front of others. It's gotten to the point where I will hide in my room and eat junk foods like cookies and Twixes and stuff. Also, it's really embarrassing in school when my stomach growls in class and everyone like laughs at me. I also feel sick when I eat and my bf of 3 months hasn't yet seen me eat and I'm always worried about being called a fat pig. I just hate my body and I want to lose weight but I have only lost a bit and sometimes, I lock myself away and cry because of it. I just need help because I rly want to go to tea with my bf but if I make myself sick after the meal, I'm scared I'll offend his dad and step mam. I'm a really picky eater, too, and I just really want help with this. Please and thanks. Sorry for bothering you. From Europe.
You might have a social anxiety disorder (SAD) were as you said you ae afraid of eating in front of other people. As bad as your situation sounds there are lots of other people who have SAD. The best treatment is to analyze what thoughts are going through your mind when all of this is happening. Or the thoughts that make you afraid.
It's also important to gradually confront your fears. For example, you could gradually try sit at the lunch table for 5 min. without eating anything. Then the next day you try 5 minutes and eat something small (like a cracker). To help you could choose a table where you can leave without drawing too much attention if you feel panicky. Then gradually keep working at it as slow or as fast as you want.
If you get too stressed, some people take antidepressants. If you don't even want to eat in front of all those people you can start with maybe just one person or so. Maybe try a friend, bf, or your counselor. If you're afraid you look weird you can ask them and you then can eat with them until you're ready for the cafeteria.
Remember the key is to want to change and to never lose sight your reasons.
As someone who has anxiety, it's not! It's not cute and romantic to avoid things because of irrational fears, to not be able to relax your body, and for your body to always be shaking. Or taking hours to fall asleep to wake up at 3 am having a panic attack, hallucinating. It's not aesthetic to be doing a project in science class that involves heart rate and find out your pulse beats 40 above average even though you eat right, exercise and are generally a healthy person and people being like "???" And not wanting to explain. And being worried about everything, from your friends leaving you even though that's unreasonable because your friends are great and have stood by you through everything but you're afraid if you express your feelings they'll definetly hate you to being afraid a war will suddenly break out or an apocalypse of some sort which is even more unreasonable. Sweaty palms and stomach aches and head aches and freaking out over everything is not romantic, cute or anything! And especially people believe that you're faking it and tell you to just get over it and "stop worrying" like I'M TRYING BUT THE BRAIN TOO IS AN ORGAN THAT CAN MALFUNCTION JUST LIKE THE LUNGS, KIDNEY, LIVER, ETC YOU DON'T TELL PEOPLE WITH ASTHMA TO JUST BREATHE NOW DO YOU!!!!! I keep noticing people who don't have anxiety in the slightest using it as a theme for their crappy blog, or if I talk about symptoms some edgy™ emo kid will go "same." Like no your not "same" just because you get nervous sometimes. Like I am constantly living in the moment where your chair tips and you seem like you're about to fall but you don't. All the time. And people think it's romantic. If you think it's so cool you can have mine I will gladly give it to you because it's not cute. Why do people romantacise anxiety? Also what's up with people thinking your lover can fix everything like supportive loved ones help but a gf/bf can't cure a mental illness?
People these days don't like to admit it when they don't have a clue about something. When this happens we just try to imagine or gather what we think we know from television, internet, people, etc. On television when someone has anxiety sometimes it show cases a "broken" girl and a boy who comes into her life for the better. When this happens girls like the idea of attention from a boy. Boys probably just look at the cute girl.
If it bothers you too much then try to tell them it's rude. Most likely though, they won't understand unless they actually get anxiety.
Hello, I have this sort of brown stuff on my nipples. It is dry and I can peel it off, it's at the bottom of both nipples, very small amount and it's not on breast just nipples. I've had this for about 2 years and it comes back within a few weeks or a month when I take it off which I've only done about 2 times and I don't do that anymore. It doesn't hurt and nothing seems to be wrong, I think it may be dry skin. I always wear a crop top even when I sleep. I am 13 and female.
Maybe apply a good moisturizer over the area (olive oil, coconut oil, almond oil, etc.). Try to avoid wearing tight bras (maybe a cotton bra would be best). Drink water for sure to keep the skin well hydrated. If this issue keeps bothering you then consult with a doctor.
15, female.
One of my close friends are acting like they're mad at me or something. For the past few weeks we would talk almost every night through texts, we've been friends for about 2 years.
The thing that really bothers me about this is now she is not talking to me like at all. I said hey and she replied "what" and I just said that I wanted to talk to her and she just didn't reply. So, because I was being dramatic and it was in the moment, I blocked her because she does this a lot. We'd talk and be great friends and then she just ignores me as if I am annoying her.
She's done this with a lot of our other friends too, I'd see that they'd be really good friends and then she'd start b****ing about them to me.
I recently have been feeling quite sad. I told her some good news that happened to me recently and then she just said "ok". This bothers me and makes me think she's a bad friend. It really upsets me that she does this and completely just ignores me out of the blue. I asked her if she was ok because I realised that maybe she is going through something. She just said that she's fine. She's normal with our other friends now, it's just me that she's being kind of rude to.
I know that if I try to talk to her about it she'll just pretend that she doesn't know what I'm talking about and she'll act the same way.
I have been feeling quite sad lately, and I feel like I can't talk to her about it or about any of my problems anymore because she'll just make me feel even worse about myself.
Try to talk to her face to face, and if she still acts like she doesn't understand than just tell her your side of the story. Tell her about how it looks to you and how it makes you feel. Try to be honest with each other, but try not to get too heated. If she still isn't understanding and listening then give her some space.
Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. If they care, they'll notice. If they don't, you know where you stand. -Ziad K. Abdelnour
This kid called me weird, and i am autistic and highly offended by it. All i did was tell him about an episode of a show called round the twist where a tree impregnates a young boy, then he called me weird. I tried to tell him that everyone in the world is weird to an extent and that i'm entitled to my opinion but then he began doing a squeaky impression of me. Later on that day, he made fun of me because i said i'd rather date the queen than Ariana Grande (Aparrently she's a popstar, but she can't be that popular if iv've never heard of her). He also looked up the definition of weird in the dictionary, and he said the definition is Chris (my name is Chris. He also said something really ofensive), then I told him that more than 1 person in the world is called Chris, then he told me he was joking,and called me a dumbass because I didn't realise. Also,he randomly made a sex noise, but i randomly made a sex noise he said "Don't beg it" (Just cause he's popular. What an dickhead. He also said something really offensive "Why can't you be normal and be interested in football instead of boys getting pregnant?" Everyone's different so there's no such thing as normal but then i told me to f off. I told him i'd report him but then he said he'd report me even though i haven't done anything. How to get revenge on him when he leasts expects it? (I don't know where he lives so i'd have to get revenge in school)
Revenge will just show how much you care about what he said. That's what he wants. If he keeps bothering you try to ignore him or actually report him. Like you said you haven't done anything. He has done things to actually get reported for. You're better off telling an adult now. If you get revenge by sinking to his level then he could actually report you.
Hi :) im in high school 3rd and i really like my classmate ...and i want to tell him , i want to tell him how i feel about him in person and also in private but the problem is even we go to same class we dont have many lessons together(our class is divided into three groups and according that we have lessons)but sometimes we have class together... so i dont see him very often :( ....i dont know how to catch him alone when at our school is very busy during breaks and he is also surronded by his friends...and im also shy but he is outgoing....so please help me how can i talk to him alone ? Should i wrote him some note ? I really like him ....on valentines day he sent message saying: "im glad you are" ..what did he mean by that ? ...and 2 weeks ako we were in normandy on school trip and he told me to come to take selfie with him :) so i cant stop staring at that photo :DD
If you want to get him alone at school than just ask to speak with him alone for a minute. Even if he's with his friends. Tell him how you feel, and if he feels the same way than great.
hi i don't know if u saw this on the homepage or not but i really need your advice on this situation,And you seem like u are like really wise
So i have been dating my BF for 2 and a half months. And it was more of an in school relationship.We both had a discussion and said said that we wanted our relationship to go out of school. I have invited him to somethings but he never replies to my text unless my friends tell him to. I asked him out, but before he even knew i liked him he told me that he liked this girl Jamie (one of my friends) I asked him out later and he said yes. He is one of those kids in school that no girl at all likes so i don't know if he said yes because no one else would ask him out or if he actually likes me. Plus we have both said we wanted to kiss each other but he is like really really shy and doesn't have a lot of friends, and i don't know if that is why he is scared to go out on a date or something. I really need to know if this kid actually likes me or if i am just running into a black hole
Please please help me (btw, we are both 13 in 7th grade, so i know middle school relationships dont last long but i at least wanna give it a try)
If you are having these doubts than you should talk to him. The foundation of every relationship is trust, and if you can't trust that person than the relationship is doomed. Tell him about your worries or ask him why he said yes to you. If he doesn't have the answers or you hate the answer than maybe (just maybe) break up with him or take a little break until everything is sorted out.
I'm 20/f and I'm worried about my twin sister.
She has had a really bad year in terms of losing different jobs for different reasons and also she doesn't seem to be able to make and keep up with friends.
We're turning 21 next week and having a meal out . I've invited mu friends from uni and the one friend my twin has can not come because it's too late for her to get home. So she won't have any friends there.
We're both pretty shy but I've learnt to come out of my shell since being at uni. She has also lived away from home at a different uni and has struggled to make any friends.
I think it's because when we were growing up I was always the one who made friends with people and she'd just tag along.
I feel sorry for her...she's always posting on social media how down she feels. It's clear to me she wants to make friends but she doesn't know how. Im ok with her bwing friends with my friends... but also i'd like her to make the effort herself and build her own group up as my friends are not really like her.
She is a lovely girl , but is very shy in social situations and I've also observed tells new people (my friends) alot on the first meeting -almost too much ya know? I think she just needs to 'get' how to socialise and what to say etc then she'll be fine. she goes to a dance club but friendships don't extend outside of the classes each week.
How can I help her become confident and make friends and ultimately be happy? Because I can't be happy knowing she's struggling. Thanks!
Sometimes all someone needs is an ear. If you are worried try to talk to her about it and how you both feel about it, but don't push too much.
Also shyness isn't something that will just go away. If she's an introvert she'll probably only be able to handle a small amount of time around people before it becomes a pain. There are some times when you can't avoid people so try helping her step out of her comfort zone. Doing this can be as simple as smiling at someone or adding a few comments into a conversation.
Also a few tips that help are standing up straighter, saying people's names (but don't overdo it), and looking people in the eye (if this is uncomfortable than the bridge of the nose).
So, I'm 15, girl, and I want to be a singer. I'm not Korean, I'm not an Asian of any sort. I'm full on European (Ukrainian/Russian). I know English fluently 100% and I live in America.
I asked this type of question before, the only answers I got was "You can't be in K-Pop if you're not Korean" which is total bull because, hello? Look at Alexandra Reid. She's African American.
So... singing/rapping/dancing/entertaining has always been my passion, and I am constantly learning new songs for memory, whether it be in Korean or in English (mostly Korean though lol).
I auditioned for JYP, YG, and BIGHIT so far (online)... and didn't get accepted into any of them :(
Honestly saying, I do not think I suck. And trust me when I say this, because I am ALWAYS hard on myself. So I'm being honest.
Should I just keep auditioning? What could I do that'll make my chances higher of getting in?
If you are certain you want to be a k-pop star than you shouldn't give up. It's possible to be a k-pop star if you aren't Asian, but that doesn't mean it will be easy. There are some that will be narrow-minded about you being European instead. The important thing is to work hard, keep practicing, and never lose sight of your goal.
As for how to make your chances higher. Everyone looks for something different. Be prepared for anything even if it was unplanned. Of course they want talent, but they also want originality and passion.