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Should I transfer colleges?


Question Posted Friday June 17 2016, 12:04 pm

I've only been at my current college one semester. I moved here because the school looked beautiful and it was in a city that I thought would have lots of job opportunities. I still think my school is very pretty and also has yummy restaurants on campus, lots of fun places off campus, and up to date technology but I'm having quite a few other issues here.

1. I can't find a decent job here. I have a great resume and previous experience, but still barely anybody is hiring and the jobs get snapped up so fast or won't work with my school schedule.

2. My campus is noisy and I can't concentrate on studying. The school is doing construction that won't end until 2018 and it's so loud I even have trouble sleeping and don't want to have to listen to music 24/7 to block it out. On top of this is the constant noise of cars passing by on busy streets.

3. My campus doesn't feel safe. It's an open campus and homeless people from the city wander onto it and as soon as you step off of campus you're in a bad area of town where they tell you to go with a friend at all times because people get mugged or assaulted every other week. Part of this is probably due to #4.

4. People here constantly go out and get drunk at the bars 5 minutes down the street and then come back and party until 3am in the morning. Campus safety does nothing about this and neither do the RA's.

5. It doesn't feel like a community here. Most of the campus here is kids from NY, Cali, New Jersey, and out of the country. Due to this our campus is mostly stuck up rich kids who are obnoxious and students who barely speak English or stick to groups from their own country. It's hard to make friends here other than the ones I have who already lived here prior to me moving. I tried joining a big club on campus last semester and that helped a little, but still most of the kids don't even look up from their phones. Nobody in class talks and people won't even interact in group project settings. It's really sad.

6. I dated a boy here last semester who wound up having BPD and during his fits would at times, put me in dangerous situations. I had to get a no-contact against him when he started doing crazy things and stalking me everywhere I went. Obviously I broke up with him and he's gone over the summer, but is coming back in less than two months. He claims he's trying to get better for me and is on meds now, but I don't believe it and don't want to deal with him again and I know he wont leave me alone.

7. Already I've been moved off campus for housing next semester because they ran out of room on campus after knocking down one of their dorm halls. This sucks because it's in an old hotel, I'm going to have to shuttle back and forth to campus to eat (required meal plans) and for classes, and I'm going to have to share my room with another person I don't even know.

The reasons I think I might like the school I'm looking at transferring to are:

1. It's in a suburbs type area that seems a lot safer and like there will be less competition over jobs.

2. The campus is full of greenery and sits on top of a huge lake, which I think will make for a lot of nice quiet places to study.

3. The area itself seems like one more small-town or suburban type students would flock to so I'd hope the people will be more friendly.

4. They have sororities with sorority housing, which my current school doesn't have and would possibly interest me.

5. They have a lot of awards for their education and overall seem like more of a study school.

6. All their housing is on campus, which makes everything easier.


What do you think? Should I make the move if offered to me or should I stick it out at my current school to see if things get better?


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lilly3675 answered Monday June 20 2016, 2:58 am:
If you don't see things getting better than what do you have to lose? If things can't get worse than you should move and start fresh. Especially if you don't feel safe, which is a big deal and the fact that you aren't able to sleep or study. College is an important time in your life so going to the one that interests you the most and will prepare you for life is key.

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