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I Need to Stop Cutting
I'm a 13-year-old girl, and I started cutting myself in December. My mom found out and tried to help, but she only made things worse for me.
After a few months, I managed to stop by myself, and everyone thought I would never do it again. But I started cutting again in June because I have been really sad and stressed out for several different reasons.
There is only one adult who knows that I still cut myself, and I love her more than anything in the whole world. I used to be able to see her in person and talk to her about anything, but now I only get to talk to her through letters. She told me a while ago that I need to tell my therapist I'm cutting. Honestly, I would tell my therapist, but I know he would tell my mom that I'm hurting myself. I know from experience that my mom will only make things worse for me if she finds out.
I don't know how to stop cutting. It feels like there is nothing else I can do to express myself. I can't really tell anyone else about it, because I know they would make things worse! If you have any advice, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!
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Put your hand over your hart. You feel that those beats that should be your reason to live and God and you Family. Think if you where gone?
Dosent matter the problems your having, theres always a positive side to everthing.Look in the mirror smile laugh celebrate to this day your still alive and it's thank to that great awsome guy in the sky God, he planned your arrival even though nobody knew that he already had a pourpse for you in life so dont do it stop cutting find pleasur in something else like Volyball. soccer, anamating,singing dancing.You're better than all of the shit you go through not me not know one know what your going through only you and you have to get through it look up a the sky count the stars and realize your better than any thing.
You and your life is worth alot more than you think and take it from me im a girl who have had family love and denial problems and every day i wake up with a smile on my face just because i have a plane in my life and thats to be someone some day even if it envolves working at a mcdonalds but ima be the best deep frying girl in the world( wanted to make you laugh just becasue even thoough i can see you i know your a great person and your worth gold, More than gold)
stay strong soldier ;)
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A lot of parents when they first find out that their child is cutting, they'll get really upset, mostly because they don't understand. I'm sure your mom is good to you and tries to take care of you, ect. Which is probably why she doesn't understand why you feel the need to cut.
I started cutting when I was 12 or 13. It went on for about 6 or 7 years. My parents found out by accident. They just yelled and grounded me for months. I wish I had gotten help.
You can't stop by yourself. You can, but you'll probably end up relapsing.
Talk to someone, talk to your therapist. Maybe he can help your mother understand.
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I'm not sure you're fully aware of the dangers of cutting. It can rupture vital veins that deliver blood to the arteries etc, which can kill you.
Also, if you are cutting to the extent of loosing blood, you're losing heamoglobin (which carries oxygen around the body) and lack of oxygen can damage vital organs.
I, like everyone on this site, is not a doctor. But, it seems to me that you have an anxiety disorder. Its easy to jump to 'depression', but the part when you said 'control' sounds like me a year ago. It also sounds abit like OCD.
This is particulaly interesting because anxiety only really manifests itself when you're 16-so this is abit early.
You need to stop cutting. I know its difficult because its become routine but the scars will stay with you for life.
I have a feeling you're cutting because you can't get help. You can't get help without your mum knowing, so you feel out of control. To regain this control, you cut. Its almost like a cry for help.
I don't see why you don't want your mum to help you. Is it that you fear her being upset and a disappointment? Its such a shame you're so young, but there still is help out there.
First of all, you could do with talking to someone on the telephone. Here in Britain we have the samaritons. Hopefully someone else who answers this can give you the name of similar helplines in America.
You see, the only thing I can do thousands of miles away via a computer screen is tell you to tell someone. Have you considered telling your therapist not to tell your mum?
When I told my therapist, I said not to tell her because it'd make her upset. And to this day she still does not know.
Remember, nothing lasts forever, but you need help now before this manifests itself into something serious. Control it before it controls you.
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