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I get very stressed out in school because many people do not like me and I constantly worry about this and it really scares me going to class because it is very likely that instead of sitting next o a normal person i will be sitting next to someone who will be glaring at me most of the way through the lesson. Or they will be saying that its horrible sitting with me and whispering stuff like that to heir friends. Some people even have the nerve to say something mean as loud as they can to make sure i hear it and then prettend they didn't mean for me o hear it. And then they start laughing. I get very depressed because of this. I was wondering is there a way to reduce this. There is nothing i can do about people not liking me because you can't make people like you no matter how much you try but i do not mind because i have a wonderfull best friend who is there for me. So is there anything to calm me down? Like meditation or something i don't know? Can you think of any distractions from stress? I o not want to take any medications. Thank you
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I think if you want people to like you, you first have to not care about what they think. Hard to do, I know...
Yes there is meditation you can do, it is called mindfulness. All you do is relax in a comfy chair in a quiet room alone. Have some Jazz/classical music playing in the background-not to quiet or to loud.
Concerntrate on the music,and every time your mind wanders (and it will) focus on the music again.
This helps you stay in 'the present moment'.
You see, when we worry, we worry about things that have already happened, or could happen in the future. This leads us to draw up often irrational conclusions.
So if we say 'ok, that may happen in the future, but that does not determine my actions in the present', then we will be much more relaxed.
If you are of school age, then doctors are very unlikely to give you any medication for anxiety anyway as it is very powerful and there is a danger with drugs like beta blokers that they become addictive. Therefore, it is best to do it naturally.
You see, you are a naturally anxious person. That is part of your disposition,as mine. And there is no cure-its abit like diabetes-you just have to learn to cope with it.
Search 'Mood Juice' for helpful self-help resources on coping with anxiety.
Also, if you're on facebook, join an special anxiety group on there. You'll be able to share ideas and interact with people just like you.
You need to stop the anxiety in its tracks now. There's tons of stuff on YouTube about 'how to not care what people think' etc. Really try to use it in the best way-these resources are all free remember!
As for other distractions, you could try taking up a new hobby? Like volunteering or something?
I think you (as I do to be honest) need to learn how to be assertive and stand up for yourself as these people you describe are bullies.
You also need to learn how to relax properly by the techniques we have discussed. Finally, be yourself. Be open with people and instead of trying to make an impression, focus on expressing yourself. And it should be ok.
~Take Care~
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