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I want a healthy way to cope w/issues
My ways of coping w/sadness have never really been healthy. Self-harm was a part of my life for 3 years & the last time was 4 months ago. I don't have much desire to do it again because I don't feel it has the same affect on me anymore. About a year ago I began praying & trying to put my life in Gods hands & I feel I've built a strong relationship w/God I feel I've gained a lot of hope/faith from it, but when I'm sad I feel I become a completely different person I become so angry & feel so helpless & all I do is cry & feel like dying after I've taken some time to calm down those feelings subside. I'm just afraid I won't give myself some time to calm down & I'll end up acting on those feelings... need advice :)
Thank you! any advice is very much appreciated :)
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There are so many people who have gone through your situation, it's good that you want to look for a healthy way to cope with your problems.
You should definitely talk to a counselor or therapist. They specialize in things like this and can help you much more than we can.
Besides that, I can try suggesting things for the time being.
Praying is good, it's good to be close to God and feel like you can depend on Him. When you start feeling angry or upset, pray. Just talk about everything and anything that comes to your mind.
Exercising will really help too. It releases endorphin's and will help release stress. So go to the gym, dance, go for a walk, anything.
I've heard that writing all your feelings down will help. What's helped me was writing in a journal.
Go relax, take a bath, paint your nails, face mask, make yourself a treat, watch tv, or do anything that helps you feel relaxed.
Try taking up a new hobby. It will distract you and take up time till the feeling passes.
Try to plan regular activities during your hardest times of the day.
Remind yourself that cutting is impulsive. It only lasts for short bursts of time.
Hopefully these will help. But definitely go see a counselor.
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I totally understand what you are going through and went through the same exact same thing. You might wanna consider counseling, which can be expensive...but also free if you wanna talk to me or anybody else for that matter. It really helps and you can let all the built up anger and sadness out at that time with no regrets. Also try screaming into a pillow, I did that a lot and it seemed to help sometimes. But really, try to see someone or talk to your church about what you're going through. Also, if you're relationship with God is going as well as you say it's going, try praying a lot more and asking him to guide you through the problems. God is always there to help you. Hope I helped. Message me if you have any other questions or problems you'd like to discuss.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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There are things that are sometimes interpreted as bordering on the mystic or new age for church people but it is actual scientific reality of what our body is made up of...not just the physical body, but chakras and we have energy that flows normally in our bodies when we are not stressed. Also our brain needs sufficient amounts of neurotransmitters (chemical messengers used by nerve cells) to function at its best. Stress, worry, emotional distress, drugs, alcohol, poor eating habits and pollution deplete neurotransmitters. Additionally, today's normal diet does not provide sufficient nutrients to produce adequate neurotransmitter levels. All combined, these factors can contribute to many awful conditions. So there is a product, I have come across but I haven't used it personally, however I know many natural products work wonderfully. Here's an article to that product:
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So here is something you can read to take yourself from a stressed state to one of being more stable and actually happy. What it involves is raising the vibrational levels of your soul. I gave it to my daughter a couple years ago when she was depressed over losing a boyfriend and 6 month later had lost so much weight because of it. She didn't think much of it and went to one free counseling appt through her job. The counselor knowing she was going to have to battle it on her own told her the same things I told her that are in the article on this blog that I want you to down load and read and save on your pc. You will refer to it many times in the future. I have it saved on my pc so if you have trouble downloading, let me know and I'll send it on here but its long for this venue.
Daughter told me then that everything I sent her that was in the article was what the counselor recommended. I still use them today. Important to get into a regular practice of this. You may not have the desire to do these at first but push yourself, it gets easier. There is one not mentioned in the article...and that is hugging. Getting long proper hugs each day helps lots. I use these all the time at the first sign that I feel stressed or unhappy. My favorites, singing, dancing, skipping, and playing songs whose melodies have the effect of making my heart or soul feel light like a balloon floating out of my chest...that exhirated feeling just by the melody...words don't count as much. A non christian song, Clocks by coldplay is one that does it for me. Not the words, just the melody.
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I'm not a doctor though I have battled with depression myself. It sounds to me that you too are battling with minor depressive episodes that for now you are able to help yourself through. We can call this normal depression that affects us all.
What concerns you and happens to 1 in 3 is that one of these episodes will not respond to what you do to bring yourself out of a depressive episode. This is called clinical depression and requires professional help to overcome.
As you may be aware of these episodes are triggered by some form of stress. Stress is a major trigger of depression. Stress triggers depression. Depression triggers pain and pain triggers depression. It becomes a vicious cycle.
While you may not be at this time suffering from clinical depression you might be close to it. Only a doctor can diagnose this with a simple test. The test is verbal answers to a list of questions the doctor will ask. Based on your answers the doctor can diagnose if you are depressed, have been in a depressive episode and how severe your depression may be.
Clinical depression as opposed to manic depression, also called bipolar disorder, is easy to treat. Medications can be indicated at times. Though mostly talk therapy with a clinical psychologist is all that is needed.
What I suggest you do is make an appointment with your doctor for a complete physical. Your doctor is going to want to do one in any case to rule out any organic reason for you feeling as you do. While the doctor is examining you the questions needed to be asked to diagnose depression can be asked at the same time.
The doctor may suggest medication to help you. Accept the medication it won't hurt you and you should only have to take it for 6 to 12 months. In 2 to 3 weeks you will start to feel better after you start the medication. You will or should still see a therapist for talk therapy. The medication will kick start your feeling better.
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Hey!
A year ago exactly now I needed to find ways to cope with my anxiety which was causing me panic attacks.
What was recommended to me was meditation.
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It doesn't take much effort, and there is no right or wrong way to do it.
What you also need to recognise is thoughts are just thoughts. You can think them, but acknowledge them and let them leave your head again.
Its abit like when you think you're going to cry. If you recognise that it is an emotion and it is there, without the need to act on it, then it actually stops you from crying.
If praying works for you then thats great-everyone has different coping strategies. But praying is a form of meditation, which is why meditation should work for you.
The truth is, we could all do with meditating every day, but only few do it, because they can recognise the importance of it.7
Those who do it will always be much more stronger and succesful people, because they are in tune with their own feelings and have strong control over their thoughts.
Remember, you can't manage emotions but you can manage thoughts that can lead to actions. Also, nothing lasts forever, and in time all these negative thoughts will subside. Your future is bright :) Take care
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