My name is Lacey and I'm 22. I have decided to give all the advice that I have to anybody who needs it. Anything at all ASK ME. I've been through it all and I have nothing but answers. I'm a very smart girl and I like to help others when needed. I'm a very positive, caring and magnanimous person. I'm looking to be a future advice columnist hopefully one of these days and I hope that the advice I give to everyone is helpful. Feel free to just talk to me if you need to.
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Location: Texas
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Age: 22
Yahoo: luluxoxo@yahoo.com
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I've been dating my bf for 3 1/2 months I really adore him but I have a feeling he might be cheating. I'm really emotionally unstable and untrusting because of all my past relationships so its hard for me to trust. I saw a dick pic on his phone that wasn't sent to me but then he explained that he was gonna sext me one night when we were talking dirty etc. I got so upset and he got really upset and apologized for everything and said I was his world and he didn't want to lose me. He is always there to reasure me that things are ok and always answers questions when I have them. Also what bothered me was that he didn't shave for a week and said he was too lazy to (he usually shaves everyday), he changed up his haircut a bit because he said he was bored, and also he said he wanted to shave his happy trail cause it made him hot lol. That made me a little nervous like why the sudden change in appearance? I looked through his phone and didn't find anything but I was so paranoid and thought maybe he deleted stuff. Its driving me insane I really do love him but i'm just so insecure. Help? (link)
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I hate to burst your bubble but it sounds to me like he's playing games and trying to make you paranoid. I say while your still young, breakup with him and if he wasn't cheating he'll come around sooner or later...but if he was, he'll be in no hurry coming back to you. In all honesty, if you think someone is cheating on you you're not fully satisfied with your relationship with that person. You need a break or you need to just move on to a much better person, because you deserve to have a great relationship with none of those problems at all sweetie. I hope I helped you out a little bit.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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So I've had a lot of boyfriends.
but with most of them, I've never done anything like sex or oral.
just kissing or making out.
some of them I didn't do anything.
and yeah. most of them I said yes to because I felt bad saying no :( others, because I actually liked them.
but I would always end my relationships. idk why.
A lot of people say I flirt with EVERY guy I talk to, which is not true.
like to me, I see them as a friend, but people think I'm flirting when I'm really not.
that's my personality. really giggly, funny, chill, likes to make people laugh (boy or girl) always smiling, jokester. you get the picture
so yeah.
I'm a freshmen.
I'm still a virgin & not planning to lose it anytime soon.
I've NEVER even seen you know, a penis in real life.
I've NEVER gotten or gave a hickie(s)
I don't let boys touch me or my butt or boobs or anything.
not even if they're my boyfriend.
but yet, a lot of people in middle school called me a hoe and that I flirt w/ everyone!
so since everyone is saying it, I guess I am.
so how do I stop being a hoe? or stop flirting w/ almost every guy I talk to?
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Girl you are not a hoe...if you are then I must have been in High School and I was a virgin all the way until I was 19. You are just a very nice person who happens to attract a lot of guys....Nothing wrong with that. If you know what people are saying about you isn't true, that's all that matters. There is also your true friends who will believe you over what other people say about you. Sounds to me like those people are just jealous or just looking for trouble. Stay a virgin until you find the love of your life. It's very much worth time and wait and is unlike any feeling you will ever imagine. If you touch guys in a flirty way, avoid touching and or do side hugs to avoid giving out the wrong idea to the guy. Always mention that they are a good friend to let them know that you just wanna be friends...when guy's hear that coming from a girl that they like they get the idea and usually understand that you're not interested and just wanna be friends and they're usually cool with it, but not always. Anyways, if you have any other questions please feel free to ask me.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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Hi everyone! I want to just tell you what has hapoened in the past 2 weeks but im not going to give age because i do not want to be judged. Im a teen and thats all im going to say. So im a girl and i have liked this guy named sam for the past year. We've had an on and off thing where we would talk then stop then talk again. In march we started talking again after a month of not talking. We started liking eachother alot and stuff. We would text everyday and then we would hangout all yhe time and the farthest we went was makeout. So last week was the last time we madeout and hungout. So mow this other guy named matt is talking to me and hes flirting and stuff and i flirt a little back but not much.. he makes me feel special and knows almost everythig about me. He makes me smile alot and stuff too. He has started to like me and i think i may be developing a small crush on him. But i think i may love sam. Those are strong words i know but i mean it. Although sam hasnt been replying to mytexts lately. He hungout with one of my best friends the other day but nothing happened. He wont message me back though. I have sent him a bunch of messages but he wont reply. Should i just forget about him and go for mat? Or should i stick with him? Im so confused!:( (link)
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I say give Matt a chance...If Sam is going to be confusing or making things complicated for you, then he is not the right guy for you. You're still a teenage girl, so you have all the time in the world to fall in love and if Sam is really the one....he'll come back to you in the near future. Hope I helped out a little bit.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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i was wondering when people buy cds why do they only intend to listen to the songs that were played on the radio instead of giving the ones that were not a chance as for me when i buy cds i listen to the ones on the radio and the give the ones that were not a chance (link)
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I used to wonder the same thing all the time...come to find out it's because they like the idea of being able to listen to the song they like all the time whenever they want. Where as on the radio, you have to wait for the song.
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What could be wrong with me, whenever i have a romance with my boyfriend and when he sucks my breast i feel some pains in the breast even after the foreplay. unless i stop for a very long time before it stops. what could be the reason? (link)
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That doesn't sound too great...you could have breast cancer. You should probably go to a doctor and get them boobies looked at. Also I'm not really sure if you've had a kid or anything, but if you have and you are letting your man suck your boobs...stop. The boobies are only meant for the baby for the first 2 years.
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I and my girlfriend had unprotective sex on 24th May 2013. There after she took i-pill immediately on that night of 24th may. She got her periods after 10 days i.e on 4th June 2013 (Which are earlier than usual). But the problem is she dint get her periods after that. Today its 17th July. Is there any chances of pregnancy. I feel its not because she got periods after having sex. I am worried and more worried is my Gf. Hoping for the earliest reply. (link)
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It's very possible...Found out recently that it's been proven women can get pregnant on their period. It's not as big of a chance then, but it's possible. Also, You can still have a regular cycle and get pregnant. Hope I helped and if you have any other questions feel free to ask me.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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17/m
My girlfriend and I had sex twice. She was a virgin and I wasn't.
I am almost 100% the condoms didn't break or anything but she is now 2 days past when she was suppose to get her period and she is worried and getting more worried.
I know girls can be kinda late or early but since I am not a woman I don't have any idea on this stuff.
What could be going on? Should she be worrying?
Any info is helpful (link)
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Wait a week before worrying...Also, a lot of girls are late on their periods because of stress...After a week if she still hasn't started her period you need to get her a pregnancy test. Technically you're supposed to wait 2 weeks till after sex to take a test, but some tests you can take 1 week after. Always use protection and just know that just because you're wearing a condom, doesn't mean she can't get pregnant. I'm living proof of that. It happens sometimes. Sit down and talk to your girlfriend and talk to her and sooth her and just let her know that everything will be okay no matter what. Pray about it as well. I hope I was able to help you a little bit. Ask me anything if you have anymore questions and good luck.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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My ways of coping w/sadness have never really been healthy. Self-harm was a part of my life for 3 years & the last time was 4 months ago. I don't have much desire to do it again because I don't feel it has the same affect on me anymore. About a year ago I began praying & trying to put my life in Gods hands & I feel I've built a strong relationship w/God I feel I've gained a lot of hope/faith from it, but when I'm sad I feel I become a completely different person I become so angry & feel so helpless & all I do is cry & feel like dying after I've taken some time to calm down those feelings subside. I'm just afraid I won't give myself some time to calm down & I'll end up acting on those feelings... need advice :)
Thank you! any advice is very much appreciated :) (link)
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I totally understand what you are going through and went through the same exact same thing. You might wanna consider counseling, which can be expensive...but also free if you wanna talk to me or anybody else for that matter. It really helps and you can let all the built up anger and sadness out at that time with no regrets. Also try screaming into a pillow, I did that a lot and it seemed to help sometimes. But really, try to see someone or talk to your church about what you're going through. Also, if you're relationship with God is going as well as you say it's going, try praying a lot more and asking him to guide you through the problems. God is always there to help you. Hope I helped. Message me if you have any other questions or problems you'd like to discuss.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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My friends keep telling me to try online dating sites because its a good way to meet new people but I'm kinda skeptical about it. For instance if I do go on and I see someone I'm interested do I message them first or wait for them to message me. If I messaged a guy first would I look desperate. And how long do you talk to someone on these sites before you exchange numbers or decide to meet. Tell me what you think. (link)
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I would most definitely try Okcupid.com or plentyoffish.com Those are both very good dating sites and happen to be sites I've explored and met awesome guys on. I met my fiance on Okcupid and we are getting married in Sept. You won't look desperate at all messaging a guy first unless you say the wrong thing. On your profile word what you are clearly looking for and guys will talk to you. Talk to the guy for at least a week or 2 until you give him you're number or it's basically a butty cool before then. Give him you're email or aim if he's really wanting to talk outside the sites...most guys just wanna talk on those sites, just gotta look at the right guys. Hope I helped.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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hi :] im 16/f!
well a couple days ago like 2 days ago my cousins neighbor (ben) was over at their house and boy let me tell you he is a cutie. well my cousin ash is like my best friend so im always over there and their neighbor always hangouts with my cousin nick. so we were all over there and like we were foolin around bein crazy and so then i go to like turn the radio system to a diff. station and ben slaps my ass with like wrapping paper haha. i didnt mind but then i acted all mad so i could flirt with him..so i was like punchin him and we were flirtin he grabbed my hand and held on so i couldnt do nothin to him and so i jumped on top of him we were all on the bed, hes layin down i straddle him so my cousin ash can kick him haha. my cousin ash me and ben go into the bathroom because thats where ben was hiding from me :] yeah he was "scared" haha so then he like grabs me from behind so he puts his arms around me and i get out and then im lookin at him forward and all of a sudden he picks me up..as im like straddling him frontwards and its all crazy! we do this for a long time like me actin as im all mad so i can flirt with him and him doin it back to me! he kept sayin.truce? truce? and im like not until i get to kick you for doin all that to me so then finally i got him and then he was like allright truce now? and my cousin shakes his hand and is like truce and i come out of the bedroom and i go give him a hug and im like yeah truce and then he had to go! so good timing lol because he had to go to baseball. i liked flirting with him it was fun! and this is the first time that we have flirted this much and like that.the only problem is that he really likes this girl and its not like i like ben its just i like flirting with him but im scared he wont want to since he likes this other girl and wants to do stuff with her supposively. what do you think i should do in this situation? what do you think ben is thinking?
SORRY SO LONG! but just thought i would let you know everything that went on ..
i will rate 5 for anyone who can help me :] (link)
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Okay sweetie,
this is was I think. I think he's just a hormonal teenage boy who happens to like you too...A guy can like more than one girl. The situation seemed a little bit flirtatious for sure, but I wouldn't try too hard. Be blunt and just say, Hey I like you and was wondering if you'd like to go out? If he says no thanks, then obviously he was only interested in you in a physical matter. I know this, because I believe I've been in this situation before. If you have any other questions, ask me okay? I hope I helped out a little bit.
Sincerely, ASK LACEY
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