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How does online dating really work?
My friends keep telling me to try online dating sites because its a good way to meet new people but I'm kinda skeptical about it. For instance if I do go on and I see someone I'm interested do I message them first or wait for them to message me. If I messaged a guy first would I look desperate. And how long do you talk to someone on these sites before you exchange numbers or decide to meet. Tell me what you think.
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In ways, the inter-net keeps getting more dangerous. But if you are smart about it, you should never be at danger. And I used both sites mentioned already, Okcupid (which I like better, it has guideline/topic areas to fill out on profile) and I used Plenty of Fish, which can now found by looking for POF.
And that is where I met my 2nd husband. I had to go through a lot of duds, liars, and jerks before I met him though. There will be guys on there who are cheaters. But I was looking for something specific, and it sure cuts down on the slower process of seeing someone who looks attractive, doing the talking stage, then the dating stage, then to steady dating and finally to a committed relationship. If you are religious you put down it matters alot to you and you seek someone who believes the same way. Be very specific as to what points a guy must be able to pass before you will consider him. Think hard about your self. How do you describe for him who you are. Not where you went to school or your job/career, or what countries you've visited, that tells nothing about you. You also need to know what to put in profile that you are looking for in a man...your needs and wants.
Despite all the weirdo's and horny guys that write, I am still glad I did for I met my soul mate. Wish we had inter-dating when I was 20 so I couldve met someone much better.
Don't hand out a phone number until the guy who writes you has consistantly kept contact back and forth a few times. Many guys have no idea how to communicate. If you are talkative and the guy only writes two sentences each time, its a chance he's the quiet type. Or he needs lessons in how to communicate but thats not your job to give. Look for the intelligent man who has a completely filled out profile, leaving nothing for your to guess at. Stay away from those who talk in the negative ie I am looking for a woman who is not fake, is not a liar. If he says he is looking for a woman who prefers being real and open and is truthful in relationships...thats good. The ones talking in the negative never turn out to be good. I learned quickly. I also didn't want anyone who smoked. One guy coughed alot on the phone and I asked if he smoked. He said no. I finally met him in public at Starbucks. Always go for a public place and don't go out to dinner...it makes them think of it as a date and that you are more serious. A coffee shop is the perfect place. Met him in person and he was a heavy smoker. Thought that once I met him in person I might like his personality so much I would overlook that. Hahaha. There is soooo much I could tell and teach you to make this as worthwhile and hopefully successful as possible for you. So if you decide to go this way, keep me in mind and write directly to my inbox with any further thoughts and questions. Good luck to you dear
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I would most definitely try Okcupid.com or plentyoffish.com Those are both very good dating sites and happen to be sites I've explored and met awesome guys on. I met my fiance on Okcupid and we are getting married in Sept. You won't look desperate at all messaging a guy first unless you say the wrong thing. On your profile word what you are clearly looking for and guys will talk to you. Talk to the guy for at least a week or 2 until you give him you're number or it's basically a butty cool before then. Give him you're email or aim if he's really wanting to talk outside the sites...most guys just wanna talk on those sites, just gotta look at the right guys. Hope I helped.
Sincerely, ASK-LACEY
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