Hello everyone-I hope someone will be in a position to help me. Basically, I feel fat-I don't think I really am, but I've just started on a healthy eating program(1000-1100 kcal per day) and am trying to build up more excercises in my daily routine. Now I'm not saying I'm anorexic or anything, but I did look at one of those "ana" websites late last night and while I was shocked and sickened, a part of me did see the allure of forcing myself down to a much smaller size (I am 5'7, and size 8 on top,6 on the bottom). I'm trying to tone up for a wedding in three weeks where I just know everyone will be super thin, and it's freaking me out. I had an eating disorder a few years back, but feel that I'm really to old for these issues now(I'm 25f). I have two opposing voices in my head right now-it's good to eat healthy, take excercise, blah blah, vs. I wasn't fat, I wasn't unhappy, and my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. But I would love to lose just that extra 7lb.......Anyone identify?
A few things about your question concern me. First of all, 1000-1100 calories is not enough. The absolute minimum recommended is 1200 calories and even that seems too low for your height.
I suspect you're not even close to being overweight. Size 6-8 is more than reasonable at your size. Losing 7lbs strikes me as potentially scary, especially with your background.
Not everyone at the wedding will be super thin and I can pretty much guarantee that you'll be the only one paying attention to your own dress size. Weddings are about the bride and groom, not about whether or not someone has an extra inch around their waist (and for the record, I doubt you do).
But everything I say is kind of moot until you can accept yourself. I can't fix this for you. I can hurt for you--and I do--but in the end, it comes down to you.
You are not "too old for these issues." If you didn't fully resolve them in the past (and you don't mention seeing a therapist or anything, so I wonder if you actually did, or if you just kind of started eating again), you're still going to keep dealing with them over and over again. You need to really kick this thing.
I understand the opposing voices well. One's the logical voice and the other is emotional. And the logical voice knows you should be listening to it, but the emotional voice is very persuasive, no?
Losing weight--you know in your heart it won't change the way you feel about you. Know how I know that you know it? Because you've been there before. You had an eating disorder, and that means that losing five pounds, or ten pounds, didn't make you happy.
I identify with where you're at, I truly do. I'm overcoming my own eating disorder, and it's a hard thing to do. But it's worth it. That much I can say. It's scary at times, but it's SO worth it.
Please consider visiting a therapist who can help you deal with these feelings. And please recognise that losing weight isn't going to fix what's inside. The only way to change that is by concentrating on it--not what you eat. Concentrating on food is just another way to avoid what's really hurting.
Take care of yourself. You deserve it.
Daimeera,
21/female
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What are the pros and cons for a 14 f taking anti-depresents?
Respectfully, I have to disagree with the previous answer.
Whether or not to take anti-depressants really depends on if the pros outweigh the cons. If an individual is severely depressed due to a chemical unbalance, then anti-depressants, despite potential side-effects, are probably worth the risk. If it is situational depression, therapy is probably best. Of course, therapy can be helpful even if it is a chemical unbalance.
Depression is not always a result of something happening to you. It can be a physical illness that needs physical correction. After all, you can't talk cancer away, and sometimes depression is the same way.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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I don't think I would be to take it if I lost him, whether that be death, or by him being taken away by social services. I can't lose him. I love him very much. I don't think it's really that bad. Like, I think I can handle it. I had been. I don't know what to say really. He gets to move out of his dad's house in a month if he chooses. I think that will help him a lot. His girlfriend really hurts him to though. I don't know what to do about her. Nothing I can do really. I'm so confused.
Honestly, I'm not sure how much more I can help you--not because I don't want to, but because I don't know how. I don't know either of you and so it's hard for me to judge the situation. You did a good job communicating it, but there's a limit to the amount of information one can glean from paragraphs, or even pages about the situation.
Follow your heart, or your gut, or your head--whichever's sending you the strongest message.
(And I'm off to bed now--sorry; if you have any more questions, I won't see them tonight, but I don't know what else I'll really be able to do anyway).
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I don't know about giving him hot lines to call. I think my own phone number is as close as he'll get. He did talk about wanting help once, but lately he hasn't said anything. We used to stay up all night talking on IM and we would hang out all the time, but we just haven't been communicating lately. How can I just have a regular conversation with him? There are 3 teachers that I trust. 2 are band teachers that me and him both know pretty well and they know how we are, and the other is my math teacher. He doesn't know my math teacher, and I don't like her class, but she knows a lot about life and kids and hard situations. But I don't want to talk to anyone unless he wants me to.
I'm not sure in your situation that such a thing as a regular conversation exists. The fact is, what he's going through is a huge obstacle in your relationship. If a person isn't even sure if he or she wants to be, it's difficult to think about or focus on much else.
I get that you don't want to talk to anyone without his permission. I really, truly do. It's tough. But sometimes, it has to be about the best thing for him, not what he most wants. If you feel he is potentially a danger to himself, you need to talk to someone who can handle it. Even if you need to get the police involved, the first priority has to be his safety. Think of it this way--if something were to happen, would you be glad you'd followed his wishes, or wish you'd told someone. Whatever the answer is (and I'm not saying either is wrong, although you can probably tell which way I'm leaning), that's what you need to do.
The fact that you're coming here to ask these questions tells me that you're getting pretty worried. I don't blame you. I think, too, you already have some idea of what you want to do. It takes a lot of courage to deal with a situation like this and I commend you for wanting to help. In the end, though, there's only so much you can do before you have to leave it up to him. Just make sure that you can live with what you choose. If in the end you think you've done the right thing, that's what matters.
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I'm not sure how to talk to my friend about getting help for his depression. He's been pushing me away lately. If it helps, my mom is a psychologist. I have talked to my parents about him, and I don't think they really want me with him. My mom is more understanding of him than my dad is. She knows he's a great guy, but he has problems. She lets him come over whenever he wants and gives me money to buy him food when he needs, but that's it. I don't know how to help anymore. A new problem is that he is sneaking around having sex with his girlfriend. Her parents took her out of our school because they didn't like him. But in reality, the girl is the problem. He hasn't done anything wrong. She forces him to do bad things. What I'm afraid of is that he'll end up a daddy, and he really doesn't need that in his life.
That's a tough one.
Honestly, the first step I would take would be to talk to someone at school--a teacher or guidance counsellor. That way it's sort of neutral territory. It's not your parents, since they don't want you involved, and it's not his parents (who seem to be part of the problem). Are there any teachers he seems to trust, or who seem particularly interested in him or concerned about him? That might be the first place to go.
If you don't feel that you can do that, even offering a few numbers of hotlines might help. That way if he needed to call, he'd be able to at least talk to someone professional, without burdening you--and I know, he's your friend and therefore it isn't (or shouldn't be) a burden, but realistically, it isn't something you can fix.
It's a tough situation. There really is no right answer. But I wish you both the best of luck, and don't give up--but make sure you take care of yourself, too. Your number one responsibility is ultimately to you; don't lose sight of that. Sometimes caring for a friend so much can end up destroying you.
Take care.
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14/f
I'm more upset than I usually am right now because a guy friend of mine just told me that this other girl said i was fat and was making fun of me. I used to not think I was fat, even though I am. I'm curvy and i thought that was sexy, but apparently it's not okay. I'm sitting here crying right now and i've been doing that all day. It's not my fault that I don't have a metabolism. I eat 1200(or fewer) calories a day, only healthy food, and I work out every day, but lo and behold I'm still a fatass! And everyone else i know is an anorexic bitch who eats whatever she wants.
If you don't believe that I'm fat- take a look at this pic: (yes i know the clothes are form-fitting- that's so you can see my figure better)
http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/howfat.jpg
please don't say anything like "Oh you're so fat hunny you just need to exercise and eat right!" BECAUSE I ALREADY DO BOTH OF THOSE THINGS! GOOD LORD!
So i'd really like some advice on how to feel better about what this girl did to me.
thanks.
If you're truly eating under 1200 calories, you should increase. Staying under 1200 calories messes up your metabolism.
You should talk to your doctor. You might have a metabolic or other disorder that is preventing you from losing weight. Thyroid problems, for instance, can cause weight gain, as well as a myriad of other symptoms.
Mind you, you look fine. But if it's really bothering you, the first step is to see a doctor. He or she can assess you for physical problems, as well as recommend a program to help manage your weight if he/she feels it necessary.
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I wanted to ask what do you think of a male psychologist who acts more like a friend to his client. He would say things to his client "Your boss really hates you", "Dont trust your boss" (the only reason the boss was mean was because he missed his old secretary and wanted her back so he acted mean to the new one hoping the new secretary would quit) and the psychologist would say "I think you should give up your coworker as a friend, she gives you terrible advice she is going to get you fired" I mean if you gave up a friend every time they gave you bad advice you would not have any friends. SO WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PSYCHOLOGIST?
The psychologist shouldn't be giving advice like that. A psychologist's job is to help his client figure out what to do, not to give orders, and especially not negative ones like you mentioned.
I would find a new psychologist, one that would help me help myself, rather than telling me what to do.
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Yesterday I talked to my dad about my depression and how it is affecting me. then he scheduled a appointment for me to see a psychiatrist which is tomorrow. When my mom found out she started to freak out and she told my dad that if i get help then the problem will be worse. then she told me that I was stupid to say anything. So now my parents are arguing and now I'm thinking that it was a mistake to ask for help. Was it okay that I asked for help and what will the psychiatrist do on the first day?
It's GREAT that you asked for help! That takes a lot of courage, and I'm proud of you for it. I'm glad that your dad took you seriously.
It's possible that your mom has heard bad things about psychiatrists or simply that she's stunned, or maybe wishes you'd gone to her instead. Whatever her problem is, it's HER problem, not yours. You're doing what's right for your health, and that's a big deal.
I have a psychiatrist, and I've had several in the past. They're great resources, if your personalities mesh. The intake appointment is generally just getting to know you and you getting to know the psychiatrist. You'll probably be asked a lot of questions about family history of mental illness, your feelings, your experiences with drugs, alcohol, eating habits, etc, and general life questions. Your psychiatrist will probably also explain confidentiality policies, and if not, you definitely have the right to ask!
If at the end of the session, you feel like you don't have a connection, you can choose to seek a different therapist.
He or she might prescribe something for you to try, or might not, depending on the situation.
But really, first appointments are a lot scarier in anticipation than they actually are! I get nervous still, but it always turns out to be much easier than I imagine it to be.
Good luck. And good for you. It takes guts.
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5'4" 110-115 lbs.
i'm so grossed out by my body. i feel so fat all the time. how can I learn to love my body? or at least be okay with it?
Exercise can help.
I'm not talking about exercise for weight loss purposes. I'm talking about exercise for the joy of exercise. Find something you love to do. It will get your endorphins pumping which alone helps you to feel happier.
Really pay attention to how your body feels when you move, and all it can do for you. Think about it like this--your body is an amazing and sophisticated machine. You can move without thinking about it. You can run, you can feel your muscles pull, it's incredible. If you can focus on what your body can do, it might help.
Find clothing that is flattering. Even though you are, if anything, underweight, clothing can still make a huge difference. Find things you love to wear and that make you feel good.
Pamper yourself. Really take care of your body. Use a lotion and bodywash that you love. Feed it well, with fruits and vegetables, and pay attention to how it responds.
I know it's easier said than done. I'm suffering with many of the same issues, but even just typing this out was a good reminder to ME. So I have to thank you for that.
You might want to try one other thing--asking yourself what you would say if a friend asked you this question. Sometimes it's easier to see something from another perspective--it's less personal somehow, and you can be more impartial, even if you know you're tricking your brain a little bit.
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I have always been so scared of needles. I have a mild blood condition so I've had to get blood taken a few times in my life. That and shots, I do not remember ever cooperating with the doctor getting it done. Today I had to get a booster shot at the doctor's, which I honestly didn't feel at all... but when I heard I had to get one I was freaking out inside. I hold in all my fear until I see the needle, then I am just completely overcome by fear and I burst into tears. I refused to get a shot today until my mom walked out of the room embarassed and I felt bad so I did it. When I get blood taken I stall with the nurses for as long as I can. It's not the pain that bothers me, but I just can't handle it. I don't think I was ever traumatized or I would remember it pretty clearly, correct? My mom always gets mad at me and says I embarass her when I do this, but I can't help it. Today she was angry at me and I didn't know what to tell her. How can I get over this, or at least explain this to her so she understands it, if I don't even understand it myself?
I can sympathise; I have major problems with needles.
I think you need to really identify what's going on. Are you afraid that you'll pass out? Are you afraid that you'll get upset because you have before, and that in and of itself gets you upset? Or do you just feel sick with no obvious reason.
There are remedies to any situation. If you're scared you'll pass out, ask if you can lie down. If you get really stressed because you think the doctor will mess up, ask if he can go slowly. If you feel sick, try and breathe through it.
The first and biggest step is to really analyse what is going through your head. The next step is to find rational solutions.
I have/had major problems with getting blood tests even though I do so frequently. I would almost pass out, or be sick, or both. Eventually, I decided that I simply needed to lie down to have it done. We arranged it, I can do that now, and it's a lot easier. I've even managed it sitting up a few times, although the bed's there if I need it (and one time, I did). It's still not easy, but it's easier--gradual conditioning, and finding practical solutions for the basics.
I don't know if that's much help. But I certainly feel your pain.
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Okay im convinced im depressed but i wanna go to the doctors and my parents wont take me... i dont know what there thinking but can un treated depression damage something..?
I dont know how to get my parents to take me someone plzz help me.
Could you talk to a teacher or a guidance counsellor at your school? They might be able to offer some moral support and even talk to your parents--maybe by talking to someone else, your parents will realise how serious things are for you.
You say you're convinced you're depressed. I thought that was an interesting choice of words--not what I would normally see. I don't really know what it indicates, but I thought I would make note of it.
Untreated depression can worsen and affect your daily life. It can't in and of itself damage you physically, but it can impact your sleep, your energy, your motivation, your ability to concentrate, the way you feel about yourself, and more.
Please don't give up. If you genuinely believe you're depressed, don't settle. Be persistent about your health and hopefully your parents will take you seriously.
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I always used to think I'd never be a person to get stuck under the effects of anorexia or bulimia...but here I am today. It's not like I've actually started doing anything, but a few times I've found myself getting more...diet obsessed. Like when I'm hungry, I'll stay clear of any food that's fattening or wait till the next meal.
I REALLY REALLY love gross food too, and it's hard that i want it but want to get away from it so badly. I'm always weighing myself. I drink sooo much water because I heard it helps you drop weight, I drink slim fasts any chance I get in place of meals, and when my mom takes me for fast food when we're out I eat barely any and give it to my dog when i get home.
Do you think I have a problem? Or am I just healthily concerned?
I'm not a doctor, so take this with many, many grains of salt.
I don't think you have an eating disorder. I do, however, think that you're on the fast track to developing one. You need to get a handle on this NOW, before it spirals out of control.
Can you tell someone exactly what you said here? Your mom, a teacher, your doctor . . .? They would be able to get you more help than I can offer.
It sounds like it's partly about control. You're afraid you won't be able to say yes in moderation and then no, so you say no instead. You're afraid of being out of control and gorging on everything in front of you. Sound familiar? I might be totally mis-reading the situation, but that's the impression I got.
When you do eat fast food, how do you feel? If you feel fat, why? What makes you scared of being fat--is it that you won't be valued?
When you don't eat, how do you feel? In control? Out of control? Superior?
Try and dig beyond the surface and find an answer to why you're doing what you are. Not wanting to get fat really isn't the underlying cause. I always thought it was the underlying cause of my eating problems, but it wasn't--it was exactly what I mentioned, that I'm scared I can't say no. That's my underlying cause.
Maybe not eating makes you feel special. Maybe it gets you attention. Despite what some people think, those aren't bad reasons. We all need to feel special and we all need attention. There are better ways to achieve it however.
When you find the underlying cause of the behaviours, you can learn to modify them. A therapist can be much more helpful than I can, but if you can examine those questions and come to answers, you might still be in the realm where you can stop this yourself.
The fact that you're concerned enough to post here, however, makes me think it's something you should be seeking real time help for.
Please, try and get a handle on this now.
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Many people told me I switch moods way to quickly. I only do this around my friend austin, i dont know why but I do? Am I manic depressive? I dont want to ask my parents or a doctor? I do change moods sometimes, however I can get sad when something bad goes wrong or i get sad?
No one here can diagnose you, nor can you diagnose yourself.
There are online tests but they can't diagnose you either.
If you really think this is a problem, you need to see a doctor. He or she can prescribe medication that will help you. Manic Depression is not something you can turn on and off at will, so medication is almost a must if you are actually diagnosed.
If you're concerned, see a doctor. Otherwise, don't worry about it--you're a teenager, and teenagers have mood swings.
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Hello my name is Emily and I am 22 from Canada. I found your culumn and felt that you were a good person to ask this too.
I have been a sufferer of mental illness for most of my life. I have Borderline Personality Disorder. Lately my paranoia and impulsivity have been ruining my life. All aspects of it. My significant other is deciding whether he wants to stay with me or not because I have hurt him twice due to my extreme paranoia and distrust issues. I was abused when I was young and I have been abandoned, so I have lots of past demons there. Ok onto my question do you have any suggestions how I can relieve or prevent my paranoia from getting in the way of my life as much? Are there any coping skills or techniques that you know of that could help me in times of major worry and/or absent mindedness? I want to be able to trust and prevent these symptoms from further destroying all aspects of my life.
I am on medication which can only help so much. I write in a diary. I am in occasional counseling still waiting for the psychiatrist.
Anything else you can maybe recommend?
Thanks you so much!
Emily
I'm sorry you have to deal with this; no one deserves this kind of pain.
Counselling is definitely a good idea. The more, and the sooner, the better.
Have you explained to your SO that you recognise you have difficulties and that you're trying to overcome them? If you haven't, I'm sure it would probably help, and even if you have, you might want to remind him again.
Depending on how your behaviours are impacting you, you might want to take different action. If it's repeated thoughts, finding something else to focus on might help. I know it's not always possible, but if you can find something that takes your attention away from what you're worried about, it can help. I have various issues I struggle with, and when the thoughts are too intrusive, it helps to pick up my knitting needles. If it's a pattern where I have to count stitches, I can't really focus on anything else. Plus it keeps my hands busy and provides a physical outlet for tension.
Journaling is good; I'm glad that you're rocognising and acknowledging that the feelings are there. Being aware of them and admitting to them is the most important step.
Exercise is great. It gets endorphins flowing, so it's almost a natural anti-depressant, and it can help with anxiety as well. You'll feel better about yourself and you'll have another physical outlet.
You might want to look in your area to see if there are any support groups. If you attend one, however, be sure it will be beneficial. Many support groups are great, but some turn into little more than complaining and commiserating, and thus have no positive effect.
Try to recognise irrational thoughts and explore what might be causing them. For example, if you see your SO talking with another girl, and you automatically think he's going to leave you, ask yourself why. Is it that you don't feel pretty enough? Is it that you think you're boring? Then remind yourself of the positives. I'm sure your SO has said some really nice things about you, so try to keep them in mind.
I don't know a whole lot about BPD and PPD, unfortunately. All I can offer are vague suggestions. You might also want to look for self-help books for what you're dealing with.
But in all that I have read, it said that it's often difficult to get a patient to see that she does indeed have something that needs attention. I absolutely commend you for that.
I sincerely wish I could be more help, but I wish you the very best of luck. I truly believe that you can get through this.
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my boyfriends grandma on his dads side has tourettes so him, his mom, and i were wondering if he has it. he says it only happens if he gets nervous, sad, or mad. i was at his house last night and it was so sad. his neck will twitch and like his head kept going back because of it or to the side and twitch like 5 times. he said he doesnt really have control over it and he cant really make himself move when it happens. it was so sad because we were sitting up on the floor and i was holding him and he was trying to put his arms around me except he kept twitching and then he finally got his arms around me and he twitched and his arms like fell off of me so i think he gave up. does that sound like tourettes? it came out of nowhere though, like it started a couple days ago and i just found out last night. oh and by the way, hes 15 if that matters
If this just started a short while ago, he cannot at this point be diagnosed with Tourette's Disorder. The DSM-IV (which is pretty much THE book for diagnosing mental disorders) criteria can be found here:
http://www.tourettes-disorder.com/dsm.html
It's possible that it's the start of Tourette's, or it might just be nervous energy. Regardless, if it lasts long, he should see a doctor. The doctor can also rule out other possible illnesses in disguise.
I have Tourette's, and it's fairly mild at this point. It's bothersome, but not the end of the world.
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This'll be long,but i really need help.for the past about,4 or 5 days, i've been REALLY out of it. im not focused at ALL. and when i am i cant think of anything to talk about,nothing,i dont think of any fun memories or anything.Right after i think of something to write down or to do,i'll forget,and it happens way too much.i havent had anything like this in the past,itsnot stress,its not lack of sleep.Im compleatly bored. I cant even think right now when im typeing this,its really hard. it takes forever to get things threw. Sometimes for 5 mins. i'll just stare off into space thinking of absolutly nothing. then i'll come back to reality and do nothing.i feel like a walking doll. Its really hard to explain. and also,i can barely smell anything,only if its up close. people might say "oh it smells nasty!" or "mmm i smell muffins",and everyone can smell it but i cant. its just very faint. I feel like something isnt connecting,i just cant think,no matter how much i try.I cant focus. When im reading i'll stop and pause for a long time for no reason,come back and read the sentance again,and its hard to focus on the texted books like the black print on white paper. I feel like im loosing my personality.And sometimes my eyes will create tears for no reason,and it makes me sad. Has anyone had this? Should i see a doctor? im only 13...and i told my mom,she thinks its nothing. Could you possibly tell me what this is? I feel so down right now,anything will help. thanks.
Have you been getting enough sleep? If not, that could be causing the problem. Have you been eating enough?
If you've been doing both of those, it's time to see the doctor. The thing that concerns me most is the loss of smell--the other problems could be symptoms of depression (which is serious in and of itself) or even just teenage hormones. But once you start having physical complaints along with cognitive problems, it's definitely time to consult a professional.
The worst a doctor will do is say that you're fine (well, worst in the case of whether your mother is right or wrong). And if it is something, the sooner you catch it, the better.
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This is for people who are mental health professionals: I just want to ask should a therapist bring in his skeptiscm when he/she is treating someone. I mean my female cousin was seeing a male therapist who (1)never listens; (2) was hard to open to due to the fact that he never helped solve the problems he just acted the way a friend would. For example: My cousin told her therapist that her boss told her not to do certain things on the job and my cousins male therapist said; why that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Another example: Her previous boss wanted his old secretary to come back because he missed her so he was very mean to my cousin. However, the male therapist did not help her deal with it instead he said (1) what an SOB or (2) he really hates you. What do you guys think of a therapist like this? PS: She didnt fall apart but she had to deal with any problems that arose in her life on her own she couldnt talk to him.
I'm not a therapist, but I've seen several, and I plan to study psychology in university. I've also done SOME independent research.
Therapists can't tell you what to do or how to solve your problems. They can give you techniques to get what you want, and ideas, but ultimately, their role is to help you take charge of your own life. They're there to listen. They're there to bounce ideas off, but not to give direct instructions.
It sounds like the therapist is using active listening techniques--basically, you refer directly to the comment and how it makes the person feel so they know you're listening. It allows you a feeling of understanding and validation, and sometimes hearing it repeated back gives you a new perspective.
It's hard to know for sure, since I'm not the one in the situation, and nor are you. If she's not comfortable with him, then she should probably be looking for a new therapist. But if she thinks she can open up eventually, it might be that he's just the person to challenge her.
None of us can tell you for certain.
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I think the psychiatric doctor I have and the psychiatric nurse that I regularly go to, conspirated against me.
I needed to get a drivers license psychiatric paper that I can drive and he was very negative, asked me all crazy stuff like my psychosis illness and If I have had a psychosis the last time etc, and I got very scared and pulled up in a corner , and I left them and I sent a sms to the nurse saying the f word and that I hated them, and now I think I have f... up really badly and now I dont feel good I was in a psychosis yesterday and I felt they were conspirating against me, I really need your help!
Apologise my poor English , I am foreign.
I hate to say it, but I don't think they were conspiring against you. The fact that you had difficulties when you were there, reacted in such a manner, and now think they conspired against you, are all indications that not everything is okay with your mental health right now.
I think you need to talk with them again and discuss what you need to do in order to bring your illness under control, and therefore qualify for your driver's license.
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Okay.
15/f.
For the past year ive had thi s strange Obsession with weight.
I must weigh myself like 8 or more times a day.
And if i dont like what i see....
I wont eat for like the day or the next day sometimes.
Im not fat. At all.
Im pretty popualr.
I have a Gorgeous boyfriend!!!
And im not like stick skinny.
Im just not happy.
And I just hate this weight issue.
and i dont know what it is.
its not anorexia.
Or belemia.
I just have an issue.
what the hell do i do???
It sounds like ED-NOS to me--Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified. Basically, that means that it's not Anorexia or Bulimia because you don't fit the criteria (although an argument could be made for Bulimia) but that you still have an eating disorder, which can be every bit as serious as Anorexia and Bulimia.
I think you should at the very least talk to your doctor about it. Tell him or her what's been going on. You might get a recommendation to see a therapist or a nutritionist, or it might be something that the doctor feels he or she can keep under control.
But the longer you wait to get this resolved, the worse it will be. These things tend to spiral.
No one but a doctor can diagnose you, however you might want to start at http://something-fishy.org. They have information about different eating disorders as well as a screening test. Even if that comes back negative, though, this is obviously still affecting your life, and you NEED to get professional help.
Good luck. I wish you the best.
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Ok, I don't know if this is in the right catogorey or not but oh well. I have been sooo deppresed latley. I just don't know if i can deal with it. i need some help, i can't talk to my friends and i don't want to talk to my parents. i've even talked about killing myself. i really want to do that so i don't have to deal with my huge problems anymore. what do i do?
13/f
I totally get the not wanting to talk to anyone. I really do. I suffered for years in silence because I couldn't make myself talk. But eventually it got to the point where I was in total self-destruction mode and I was scaring myself, so I did what I had to do--admitted the truth.
I've never been good with words except in writing, and I find it hard to talk to my parents. I approached a teacher instead, with a written note explaining what was going on. She sat me down and talked to me after, made sure I wasn't about to freak out, and then asked me to talk to the school guidance counsellor. I knew the school would have to contact my parents, so I didn't ask them not to--that wouldn't have been fair. Making the first step by talking to someone else was a huge help, though.
Depression can be fixed. There are medications and therapists. Today, I'm doing well. I still have days where I'm downright miserable, but the majority of the time, I'm content. Sometimes I'm downright happy. I enjoy my life for the most part. I have to get my drugs adjusted occasionally, but you know what? It's worth it. It's worth the fight for the beauty.
I totally get that it's terrifying and lonely. But it doesn't have to be this way. Find courage. You have it, I know you do. Reach out. Let people help you and love you. It will be hard at first, but it will be worth it. Killing yourself, on the other hand, is far from worth it.
Allow yourself to be loved and helped. You deserve it.
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