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i feel fat
Hello everyone-I hope someone will be in a position to help me. Basically, I feel fat-I don't think I really am, but I've just started on a healthy eating program(1000-1100 kcal per day) and am trying to build up more excercises in my daily routine. Now I'm not saying I'm anorexic or anything, but I did look at one of those "ana" websites late last night and while I was shocked and sickened, a part of me did see the allure of forcing myself down to a much smaller size (I am 5'7, and size 8 on top,6 on the bottom). I'm trying to tone up for a wedding in three weeks where I just know everyone will be super thin, and it's freaking me out. I had an eating disorder a few years back, but feel that I'm really to old for these issues now(I'm 25f). I have two opposing voices in my head right now-it's good to eat healthy, take excercise, blah blah, vs. I wasn't fat, I wasn't unhappy, and my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. But I would love to lose just that extra 7lb.......Anyone identify?
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Exercise is the best way to lose weight and cut down on your carb intake. If you have big breasts, big hips, a big butt, etc. it may just be the way you are built. Everyone wishes they could be different but sometimes you can't. I have that problem, I think I'm fat but I'm really not... I'm really muscular and it's mostly bone. Like I have huge hip bones. It's just the way I am built and everyone else in my family is the same so it runs in the family.
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A few things about your question concern me. First of all, 1000-1100 calories is not enough. The absolute minimum recommended is 1200 calories and even that seems too low for your height.
I suspect you're not even close to being overweight. Size 6-8 is more than reasonable at your size. Losing 7lbs strikes me as potentially scary, especially with your background.
Not everyone at the wedding will be super thin and I can pretty much guarantee that you'll be the only one paying attention to your own dress size. Weddings are about the bride and groom, not about whether or not someone has an extra inch around their waist (and for the record, I doubt you do).
But everything I say is kind of moot until you can accept yourself. I can't fix this for you. I can hurt for you--and I do--but in the end, it comes down to you.
You are not "too old for these issues." If you didn't fully resolve them in the past (and you don't mention seeing a therapist or anything, so I wonder if you actually did, or if you just kind of started eating again), you're still going to keep dealing with them over and over again. You need to really kick this thing.
I understand the opposing voices well. One's the logical voice and the other is emotional. And the logical voice knows you should be listening to it, but the emotional voice is very persuasive, no?
Losing weight--you know in your heart it won't change the way you feel about you. Know how I know that you know it? Because you've been there before. You had an eating disorder, and that means that losing five pounds, or ten pounds, didn't make you happy.
I identify with where you're at, I truly do. I'm overcoming my own eating disorder, and it's a hard thing to do. But it's worth it. That much I can say. It's scary at times, but it's SO worth it.
Please consider visiting a therapist who can help you deal with these feelings. And please recognise that losing weight isn't going to fix what's inside. The only way to change that is by concentrating on it--not what you eat. Concentrating on food is just another way to avoid what's really hurting.
Take care of yourself. You deserve it.
Daimeera,
21/female
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look honey , I think that you are giving this more it needs . If you want me advice I would say less sweets and more vegetabels and fruit .
And remember there are alot of dresses that may not show you fat . And remember thatno body will like you if you dont even like your self . good luck at the wedding and have good time ,for yourself not for others , and if they dont like it , its their problem not yours
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