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Got nothing to say. What I say about me doesn't matter, I didn't come here to talk about myself. My advice is based on what I think of your situation and what I think you should do. Duh. I'm not here to sympathise when you're wrong or sugar coat anything. I'm honest, and yes, I have been an 'asshole' before - I try to wake people up to the best of my ability, thanks. If you really want to know anything about me you can drop one in my inbox.
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Im pretty late...and I'm 16 going on 17 btw I feel like an idiot and I know its all my fault. Anyway how am I gonna break it to my parents?
Wow. You're pretty calm. Just have a sit down with them and say, 'Mom, dad, I love you guys and I know you're going to be disappointed in me - I'm pregnant.'. Nothing else you can do. But you never know, they might be supportive of you, you're still their kid.
Ok..i think im realy bad w/ guys. It just seems like i never get a guy nemore...or no guys like me this year. Im not ugly, i think im pretty attractive..wat do i need to do to get guys to notice me more? (dont give me that BE YOURSELF crap)
BE YOURSELF =O. ITS TRUE. OMG. DONT TRY TOO HARD, K? LET IT BE.
God.
ok,my best friend has a boyfriend and i'm kind of jealous (they're perfect and i'm single). Him and i are friends but i like him a little bit more than that. they just started going out this week. she knows him better then i do and she's liked him longer too. i told her that i like him. now do i tell him that i like him or would that ruin the realtionship between the 3 of us? what should i do???
any help is great.
~~~Chelsey~~~
Leave them the hell alone before you lose both of them. I've seen this happen.
I like this guy, and when I say that I mean alot. The problem is, I have a horrible feeling I wont get to have him. Hes known to "get all the girls". Hes almost perfect. I think he is. Normally I'm not comfurtable around most people, but even the first day that I met him I was completly comfurtable, and the doesnt happen very often so I didnt get it. Also I dont really flirt with guys cause im not comfurtable but I do with him. He doesnt go to my school so it makes things harder. I dont think im going to get him, at all. So my question is, how do I make this feeling go away? I dont like knowing that the one person whose come around in a long time who I am COMPLETLY comfurtable with (which is extremly rare for me) is all over other girls and my chances with him might be slim. I just need to know how to get over this fast. Thanks. Sorry for ranting on. Ill rate 5's to good answers.
I think that just because you're comfortable around this guy doesn't mean that you two could have a working relationship. You say he a ladies man? Ever wondered why? Girls tend to feel comfortable around guys that attract girls by changing the way they act around everyone, even if they seem perfect, he could be a player or something. What I'm trying to say is that dont just assume something might have come out of it because yoou felt comfy around him, even if you dont normally around others. Its smart of you to decide to let it go, unless he likes you too, annd, you sound like an honest person so I hope you find someone else who you can be comfortable around =).
it's because im courting a girl right now... things are actually going the way i planned it but sometimes i just can't help being afraid.. i know she likes me but being liked by somebody is different from being loved by somebody...thats why everytime i see her cellphone filled with messages from his x boyfriend, i feel afraid, afraid that she might just leave me and go back to that ex-boyfriend of her....what am i going to do
There isn't really anything you could do besides show her you care a lot and hope that something could come out of this. If something doesn't, hey, dont feel bad because you tried, and that way you can put it behind you - knowing you tried, is better than to have lived wondering what would have happened if you tried. If its meant to be it'll happen, and try not to feel all that threatened by the X - they broke up for a reason, right? Cause it wasnt working, so yeah, he cant be that much competition. Go ahead, take your chances man. You never know. Good luck, I hope it all works out.
P.S - Never ever be bitter. Thats no way to live.
if a man you lived with and had a relationship with moved out while u were in the hospital for 3 days and told you you needed to loose weight cause you are too fat should you take him back if he apologies?
No =). He doesn't value you.
i have a bf who has gone threw a lot with me
and we have been together for 1 1/2 years ..
he meanse everything to me .. he has hit me
in the past and he tried to kill me .. everyone
thinks i should just get over him but i can`t
i love him .. i was gonna have his baby last year
but shit happend with my mom so i had to get
an abortion :-/ . he has also liked this girl
behind my back and hes been lying about it ever
since .. but now he says that he misses me
and everything .. i don`t know what to do ..
i miss him so much .. he just got outa jail
for something big :-/ trying to run me and
my boii off the road but he just needs help.
please help me thank you -Nikky-
Oh my God. Are you insane? No, seriously, are you? This bitch tries to run you over and you think he needs HELP? >.>. He needs a mental institution, more like it. Look, I think you need to let go of the feelings you have for him. Girls have this thing where they fall for 'bad boiz' because they think they can 'fix them' and all that dramatic shit - so I think you should give up on him because he is beyond help. Its not a healthy relationship - you think you love him, but you dont. Once you break it off, believe me, you'll find that you're more at peace.
More so, what is love to you? Is it a guy that hits you and lies to you, and hell, tries to fucking KILL YOU?! Someone who loves would never, ever do those things to you...rather try to ward you away from him. Everyone deserves someone who is going to CARE about them, not try to demolish them! I think the sooner you get out of this the easier it'll be for you. I personally think you might be afraid of him too. And when all the people you know and care about you, your friends and family, say that you should get the hell away from him, they're right, because they care.
Good luck. Make the right choice.
I have lived in a small town for about five years im 16 and im a female.I have done everything to make guys heads turn i wear very little makeup i do my hair different everyday i wear clothes that show off my great body and i have a nice smile still no hot guys seems interested how do i turn heads????
'I wear clothes that show off my great body'
Its nice to be confident, but you sound like you're an attention seeker to me. I think the real solution is to tone it down a little and just be yourself and wait for someone to be attracted to you for your personality and not what you wear and what you look like. Being personality-confident is great, it seems like you have that to me, but dont try too hard, it makes guys think you're easy.
okay well i am obsessed with my boyfrend i rite his name all over my papers and i rite it on my hand i rite it in my AIM profile i rite it EVERYWHERE!!! do you think that boys like it wen you obsess over them or do they find it annoying? plz help thnx ;)
You sound like every other teenybopper out there to me, nothing to be afraid of.
Ok so theres this girl, and we got along great, even best friends at one point. Then i started liking the guy she liked ( im a girl too. ) then she started hating me for that. I didnt care because i knew we would end up being friends again. Then i stopped liking that guy and so did she. She was going out with someone else. Then they broke up and about 3 weeks later he asked me out. I said yes and i really liked him. Then the girl gets so mad at me for dating her ex. I get why shes mad but ever since they broke up shes been doing nothing but talking about how much she hates him and how much she wants to kill him. She even told me she wouldnt care who went out with him. But now ever since me and her ex started to go out shes talking about how much she wants to hurt ME! She says shes gonna beat me up and stuff.. and honestly, shes that kind of person. So my boyfriend IMed her and said " if you lay one finger on her ill tell everybody to gang up on you.. " and things like that, and well basically no one likes her and trust me, if most people got the chance they would def. hurt her. But the thing is.. this girl really will hurt me! And it wont be the first thing shes done something like that..
My question is.. : what should i say to her? we were best friends for about half a year and now shes thinking of ways to kill me. im soo freaked out!! what can i say to her to let her know im not scared and i really dont care. please help!
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sorry for the length ♥
Ok. When I used to hear about girls threatning to hit other girls, I rolled my eyes. Then I read this article in CosmoGirl about how serious girls are getting about actually going after other girls these days, especially over guys. So while I advise not to take it so seriously because as you say, not many people like her, I also think you shouldn't take it lightly - dont bother talking to her, I think she's just a jealous scum that thinks resorting to killing people sounds cool or something, but I say tell a teacher. And your parents. And tell someone to get that girl some (SERIOUSLY) help. I really think it would help the both of you if she got a psychologist's help...or the school councellor. Uh-huh.
If she does hit you, she could get in some serious trouble - I hope you're aware of that. Just dont ever put yourself in a position where you give her a chance or a reason to hit you...in short, dont get in to a fight with her, dont confront her, dont 'get in her way'. I'm not telling you to be threatened by her or afraid, just avoid trouble. Because this happens every now and then where I live, and I know how it is. I think its lame that she wants to 'kill you', so good luck and everything. Drop me a line and tell me how it goes.
GUYS please only answer this...unless you are a girl with an answer from a guy...
How can I flirt with guys. Like what do guys like with when a girl flirts with you? I really want to try flirting but I dont know what to do.
ALSO! I asked advice on how to get more attention from guys and this one girl said to smile at a cute guy from one of your classes. What would you think if a guy who you never talked to smiled at you?
BTW...I'm not the most popular girl, but I'm not a LOSER. I'm one of those in between people...(you know I've got friends that are popular and band geek friends...haha but band geeks in our school arent losers, the losers are losers. The band geeks are friends with reg. people)
Maybe you should stop labelling people first, 'loser'.
ok i have a crush on a guy one grade above mine but he doesnt like me wat should i do................................................ thanks i rats fives for every answer
sign confussed and un wanted
ps he nos i like him
Um, move on? e_e. You're gonna get over him sometime soon. Its not the end of the world.
me and my ex-boyfriend just started talkin again. i like him again and i think he likes me again but im not sure.he says he wants to have sex with me. he always says it so i went to his house and all we did was watch his brother play a video game for 2 hours then i had to leave. i asked him y he didnt do anything and he said he didnt want to do it while his brothers were sittin right there becuz his room is in his basement and both of his brothers were sittin right there. does he really want to do this with me and does it look like we will ever go out again?? we flirt all the time and before we stop talkin to each other we always say i love u.i really like him so i need sum help. sorry its so long!!
Dont fuck him if you think thats going to get you back together.
ok so theres this guy. lets say his name is Ryan. Well i met Ryan about 5 months ago, at the mall. you know how it is; you see a hott guy at the mall, and you just wanna stalk him. So i decided to make an effort to go and talk to him, and i did. i ended up getting his sn and phonenumber. he told me thing. SWEET things. i really liked it. i like the way he made me feel. and i like HIM a lot too. i really wanted to be with him. he gave me hints that he really wanted to be with me. but he never asked me out. and i remember that one day in specific, he told me he wanted to be with me. 2 days later, he asked out one of my best friends; lets call her Tori. Me and tori lost touch after that. we always had this weird vibe everytime we looked at eachother. i wasnt mad. but i was dissapointed in myself for beliving him. they eventually broke up, but it seemed like they were going out forever. they went out for 5 months in specific. They still remained friends, and flirted with eachother now and then. well anyways, this previous summer, Tori called me one day because she was bored. and we ended up going to the mall. after that day, we hung out everyday for the rest of the summer. and we're best friends again. Ryan claimed that he still like Tori sometimes. but 2 weeks ago, i was at a football game with my Tori and my other friend ashley. and Ryan was there. so we introduced ashley to ryan, and she started liking him, and he starting liking her too. and today, i was on the phone with ashley, but i put her on hold for a sec and i totally forgot about her. so when i got back on, ashley didnt answer, but ray did and he told me that ashley got bored so she called him. me and ray ended up talking for a longggg time about stuff, and ray kept asking me if i liked him as more than a friend. and he told me that he liked me, and that i was way prettier than ashley. and ashley got mad. so about an hour later, ashley called ray again, and asked him if he liked me. turns out that his exact words were "idk, i mean shes cool and everything but i dont know yet." and he told her that he liked her. i hate it. but im falling for him again. i just LOVE the way he makes me feel. and i wanna be with him. but i cant help myself. im trying to build a brick around my heart, but im too easy. PLEASE HELP??
I'm sorry but that guy is an effing BASTARD, no matter how he makes you feel. He's not worth shit, for what he did to you. He got in between you and Tori and now he might be putting your friendship with Ashley on the line too. I mean come on, you talked to him at the mall for his looks in the first place, I dont blame you for not thinking that he could be a player. All players [and pimps] can be very sweet and make you feel very special, but it doesn't always mean anything. I think the feelings you have for him are just things you're holding on to from when you first met him and thought he was a better guy than that. He doesn't like you. Or Tori. Or Ashley. This guy just wants to have fun and its not that I dont blame him, but I think you guys are all under 20 or 18, and in that case, he just wants to have fun. He might not be taking it as seriously as you.
And thats why teenage relationships suck. But good luck. And your best friend, as you reffer to her, should have never dated someone you had feelings for. Good luck and bye - in no way did I mean to offend in some of the things I said, by the way.
Hi I'm 19 years old man and a university student. I'm having a feeling of getting a girlfriend, but I feel like I'm not romasive enough to make girls to like me. I'm a good looking guy and very sesitive. I always get challenges from girls but I realise that after, when I'm alone. Would you give me some advices on how to cope with such situations and be able to be romansive?.
Dont bother with girls who play games and put up challenges, thats all a bunch of bullshit and its not worth it. So I say that you wait until you meet a girl that'll love you for you, not whatever romantic tricks or jokes you can do to impress her.
Ok I was planning to go to school about an hour away from my girlfriend, but in a last minute effort I decided to stay at home and go to school with her. I was transferring to play ball and this is my second year sitting out. I feel like I'm missing something. I can go without thinking about playing, but sometimes I think about what it would be like to be on my team and what would it be like to play college basketball. My question is simple, Should I get in contact with my coach and try to go away? I really don't want to leave her, but I miss ball so much. We just got back together after we broke up for about 3 weeks. I don't want to jeopardize anything right now. I really don't know what to do...
Look at it this way: if this girl really loves you, she wont hold you back from the things you want to do in your life. I'm serious. I mean, in the long run, she might not be sticking around...but your love for basketball will still be there. Go for it. An hour isn't that bad, and I can tell you might regret it at a lot; not going. I really think you should go, and if she understands and really cares about you she wont blow a gasket. Good luck.
My ex boyfriend was cheating on me, so I kind of exposed the truth about him cheating on me to all my friends and now hes really mad at me. I feel bad that I dumped him and exposed his "secret" because the truth is, i still like him. But don't you think i have the right to be mad at him? Because he cheated on me, lied to me, called other girls behind my back, and blew me off in the hall last friday....
I'm so confused. Should I call him?
OH MY GOD, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. GOD, THANK YOU. GAH, GUILTY MY ASS LOVE! You did the right thing, all the way, I wish all the other girls that complain about their boyfriends cheating on them would do what you did!! You so did the right thing. But look - I'm not going to turn this in to some kind of 'OMGG GURL POWER' type thing. I know it probably hurts that he cheated on you, and that you still like him ( I dont blame you ) - but look at it this way: the.truth.will.set.you.free. The bastard obviously isn't worth your time if he cheated on you then got pissed at you for telling everyone instead of GROVELLING FOR FORGIVENESS LIKE HE SHOULD HAVE >.>. Hah, I say that you did the right thing, and that you should ignore him unless he makes an honest, heart-felt apology and PROVES to you that he is worth your devotion - he's broken that once. Good luck.
this one guy has me so confused... at times it feels like he wants me ...other times it feels like im the replacement
i dont know if he has a girl or not
and im the ex so i dont want to just come out and ask him if he does
he said he misses me at times
AT TIMES..... doesnt that mean like once in a while....i dont know what to think anymore...as soon as i clear my doubts about him they all fall back on me....
what should i do.... this is seriously getting me to a point that i think i need a pcychologist's help
You don't need a psychologists help =). You just need to know that if you tried once with this guy and it didn't work - then maybe it wasn't meant to happen. If he's not being clear with you then fuck him dude, even if you like him. I think if he's not being straight up about it then ditch the freak. I dont fucking get the games people play these days, they're.not.funny. You're above games, aren't you?
ok well i just now got home from a pretty interestin night- heres the story.. well ive been goin out w. this guy for 17 months now and things hve been off and on - you know good and bad - && i hve seriously liked this one guy forever. since i first met him but things never worked out -FYI these 2 two diff guys- ok well i was at my bfs tonight and before hand i had plans to go with this guy (that i liked forever but had no feelings for now.. -well when he picked me up) bc things hve been kinda wierd and i needed to tlk to someone.. well i had plans to go to my bfs so i was at my bfs for a little bit then the guy i DID like came and picked me up so we can tlk.. so we drove and then parked and tlked FOREVER! i mean we tlked about everything and he completely understands me.. and then one thing lead to another and we were kissing.. and i mean i know he didnt hve it planned to end like that. and it was all just perfect.. but i also hve a bf like i said.. and i mean we hve been together for a very long time and we hve been through alot together -- good and bad-- but i mean its highschool now and im not sher if i just need to "move on" and see what else is out there. me and the boy both decided not to tell anyone until we r both ready (hes single by the way) so now i cant get ahold of my bf and i dont know what to do.. shuld i tel him and break up? not tell him and break up with him? not tell him and not break up? im sooooo confused!!!! please please help me! and noooo stupid comments from u assholes out there.. and please could you hurry with the responses!
Here's an answer from one of those assholes out there: if you can cheat on someone and still sleep at night, and actually, like actually be torn between two guys like an eleven year old, you don't deserve to be in love.
ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean?
I know it's been said a million times, but that's so sweet of him. Lol. He sounds sweet. Even if you aren't interested in a relationship, call him up and say thanks for helping me and everything. And second, don't rush into a relationship, but I think you know that considering that you hardly know him. It means he likes you. Any guy that watches you throw up likes you xD. Good luck.