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ok so theres this guy. lets say his name is Ryan. Well i met Ryan about 5 months ago, at the mall. you know how it is; you see a hott guy at the mall, and you just wanna stalk him. So i decided to make an effort to go and talk to him, and i did. i ended up getting his sn and phonenumber. he told me thing. SWEET things. i really liked it. i like the way he made me feel. and i like HIM a lot too. i really wanted to be with him. he gave me hints that he really wanted to be with me. but he never asked me out. and i remember that one day in specific, he told me he wanted to be with me. 2 days later, he asked out one of my best friends; lets call her Tori. Me and tori lost touch after that. we always had this weird vibe everytime we looked at eachother. i wasnt mad. but i was dissapointed in myself for beliving him. they eventually broke up, but it seemed like they were going out forever. they went out for 5 months in specific. They still remained friends, and flirted with eachother now and then. well anyways, this previous summer, Tori called me one day because she was bored. and we ended up going to the mall. after that day, we hung out everyday for the rest of the summer. and we're best friends again. Ryan claimed that he still like Tori sometimes. but 2 weeks ago, i was at a football game with my Tori and my other friend ashley. and Ryan was there. so we introduced ashley to ryan, and she started liking him, and he starting liking her too. and today, i was on the phone with ashley, but i put her on hold for a sec and i totally forgot about her. so when i got back on, ashley didnt answer, but ray did and he told me that ashley got bored so she called him. me and ray ended up talking for a longggg time about stuff, and ray kept asking me if i liked him as more than a friend. and he told me that he liked me, and that i was way prettier than ashley. and ashley got mad. so about an hour later, ashley called ray again, and asked him if he liked me. turns out that his exact words were "idk, i mean shes cool and everything but i dont know yet." and he told her that he liked her. i hate it. but im falling for him again. i just LOVE the way he makes me feel. and i wanna be with him. but i cant help myself. im trying to build a brick around my heart, but im too easy. PLEASE HELP??
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It's very difficult when you can't help but be attracted to somebody who is messing you about, because even though you can rationalise and list the reasons he'd be bad for you, you still feel the pull of attraction.
It's unclear exactly how much this guy does feel for you, but what is clear is that however he feels, he's messing you and your friends about. The best thing for you would probably be to get some physical distance from him - avoid seeing him, and try not to talk about him excessively with your friends even if he is on your mind. If he has real and meaningful feelings for you then you distancing yourself won't drive him away, it will just make him realise that you won't take any rubbish from him. If on the other hand he is just playing with the group of you or only has lukewarm feelings then distancing yourself will at least lessen the temptation and prevent you getting further drawn into his games and getting even more hurt.
All the best.
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I'm sorry but that guy is an effing BASTARD, no matter how he makes you feel. He's not worth shit, for what he did to you. He got in between you and Tori and now he might be putting your friendship with Ashley on the line too. I mean come on, you talked to him at the mall for his looks in the first place, I dont blame you for not thinking that he could be a player. All players [and pimps] can be very sweet and make you feel very special, but it doesn't always mean anything. I think the feelings you have for him are just things you're holding on to from when you first met him and thought he was a better guy than that. He doesn't like you. Or Tori. Or Ashley. This guy just wants to have fun and its not that I dont blame him, but I think you guys are all under 20 or 18, and in that case, he just wants to have fun. He might not be taking it as seriously as you.
And thats why teenage relationships suck. But good luck. And your best friend, as you reffer to her, should have never dated someone you had feelings for. Good luck and bye - in no way did I mean to offend in some of the things I said, by the way.
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I'm sorry to say this, but he is nothing but a jerk, and a player.
He may be really sweet to your face, but then he turns around and goes out with your friend. What kind of person does that to someone they like? Notice how he told you to your face he liked you and then said otherwise behind your back.
He seems to have a real problem with commitment, and an obvious disregard for other peoples feelings. He's playing you AND Ashley around, and so I wouldn't fall into his trap again. I'd cut off contact with him for a while and see what happens. If he genuinely likes you, he will chase you. But if he doesn't, really, forget about him. You will only end up getting hurt. Cut your losses and move onto someone else.
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I think he's player and just wants to get with every chick. I say don't fall for him! He's using you to get to your friends! *gasp* I think he's low. And if you ever leave that guy, he will leave you for another girl and then he will say he still likes you when he doesnt just make you want him more and your heart is just going to get broken. If you look at the concept isnt that what he is doing now? So yeah, You like him, he says he likes you, he goes out with your friend, then he breaks up with your friend, he meets your other friend, he starts liking her, he says he likes you still, then he says he doesnt know if he likes you. I say he likes every girl he meets just so he can get with all of them and so on.
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