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dont know what to do... might be long
ok well i just now got home from a pretty interestin night- heres the story.. well ive been goin out w. this guy for 17 months now and things hve been off and on - you know good and bad - && i hve seriously liked this one guy forever. since i first met him but things never worked out -FYI these 2 two diff guys- ok well i was at my bfs tonight and before hand i had plans to go with this guy (that i liked forever but had no feelings for now.. -well when he picked me up) bc things hve been kinda wierd and i needed to tlk to someone.. well i had plans to go to my bfs so i was at my bfs for a little bit then the guy i DID like came and picked me up so we can tlk.. so we drove and then parked and tlked FOREVER! i mean we tlked about everything and he completely understands me.. and then one thing lead to another and we were kissing.. and i mean i know he didnt hve it planned to end like that. and it was all just perfect.. but i also hve a bf like i said.. and i mean we hve been together for a very long time and we hve been through alot together -- good and bad-- but i mean its highschool now and im not sher if i just need to "move on" and see what else is out there. me and the boy both decided not to tell anyone until we r both ready (hes single by the way) so now i cant get ahold of my bf and i dont know what to do.. shuld i tel him and break up? not tell him and break up with him? not tell him and not break up? im sooooo confused!!!! please please help me! and noooo stupid comments from u assholes out there.. and please could you hurry with the responses!
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Well hun, I've been there and done that and I'm not going to promise this will be easy, or I would be lying to you. Either way you choose you will be desperatley hurting someone. Consider your options. You and you boyfriend have been together for a LONG time and you have been through a lot with him. And this other guy you have had feelings for a while now and he understands you. It really is tough when you have this guy that totally understands you who you can talk freely to and then you have a boyfriend who you've been with forever and has many qualities you like as well. Sometimes you wish you could combine those two guys into one and it would be the "perfect" man, but life doesn't go that way. You need to choose. You shouldn't have left your boyfriends house with that other guy. That is just WRONG. And what you did with that other guy is wrong as well, but only YOU should be the only one to judge yourself. And use the way you judge yourself as a way to see which direction you should go. If you feel incredibly guilty about what you did and you picture your life without your boyfriend and it seems awful, then you need to stay with him. But the worst part will be telling him the truth. He DESERVES to know. It is hard telling someone you know cares about you, that you betrayed their trust and cheated on them. But you made the wrong, so you need to undo it. Either way you decide to go: 1. To stay with your boyfriend or 2. To go with the other guy, you need to tell you boyfriend the truth. Tell him tactfully about it. Say it like this: "(his name), I need to talk to you about something. It's not easy for me to talk about this but you deserve to know. The night I hung out with my guy friend, we were talking about you and me and everything that had been going on in our lives, and we ended up kissing. I didn't mean for it to go that far but it did. I'm really sorry. I love you so much and I want you to know that I made a mistake. I still want to be with you, but it is your decision, not mine." Use this if you decide to be with him. If you don't want to, then after you tell him what happened and that you love him, add in that because of what you did, you don't think it is right for you two to be together. And then mention that you think that you guys breaking up would be the best thing for the both of you. I honestly don't know what you should do, but when I cheated on my (now) ex boyfriend, I told him what happened and then broke up with him. I still cared about him alot, but things weren't working out between us and even though we had been through alot together, I didn't feel happy with him after a while. I regret cheating on him, but everything happens for a reason. He still wanted to be with me after I told him because he loved me so much, but I didn't want to stay with him. So just because you tell your boyfriend the truth doesn't mean he won't want to be with you, if that is what you want. I think you guys might be better taking a break but trying to remain friends and see where that leads. It will be hard for a while, but this break leaves the possibility for you guys going back out again. Sometimes a little time apart can make you realize how much you really love eachother and care about eachother, and that can only make your relationship stronger. And if it doesn't work out in the end then it doesn't. I would NOT immediately start going out with the guy you cheated on him with though. That creates alot of unneccesary drama and issues. You said it yourself that you aren't sure if you want a boyfriend in highschool that is this serious, since it IS highschool. I don't think you have really found the person you want to be with all your life, and rarely people find that person in highschool anyway. So maybe breaking up is the best option. Play the field and see what other guys are out there. Being single sometimes sucks, but you get to meet a whole bunch of different types of guys. By playing the field a while, instead of immediately jumping into a new relationship, you discover what type of guy you really like, and what qualities you really want in a guy. I don't know you but I'm really not sure if you know what you want. So I think you need to figure that out and decide what you will do. Weigh in your options. Think of the pro's and con's of being with both guys. And consider yourself and which relationship would make you more happy. Think about which relationship you think will last longer and has a better possibility of working out in the future. I really wish you the best of luck, and I hope everything works out for you. Hope I helped! If you need anymore advice, feel free to note my inbox. ~Sherah
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thisa is a hard situation if you really dont have feelings for your boyfirend, id break up with him n not tell him..hope it helps♥
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