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Hey my names kayla and im 14 years 0ld...i will answer any questi0n y0u ask me because chances are im g0ing/went thr0ugh s0mething similar. i have realized that i am best at giving advice t0 pe0ple 0n what t0 say t0 0thers 0n a given situati0n. If theres ever s0mething urgent y0u need t0 ask me feel free t0 im me 0n xoredskittleox...if y0u have any pr0blems regarding my advice...like s0mething i might have said that 0ffended y0u 0r anything like that.
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I have a new boyfriend & he's my first. He tried to kiss me the other day & I was ready but I was worried I wouldn't know what I was doing. I made an excuse that I had a sore throat. Obviously, I do not want to have to do this forever so does anyone with experience have any kissing tips to give me (a first timer).

Thanks,
Elle

hey,
ive done that before hah. but ill get right to the point. kissing is simpler than it looks. Ive kissed people plenty of times. next time he try's to kiss you just go with it and you'll be fine. it seems hes the type to make the first move if he tried to kiss you so you really dont have to worry about anything. just kiss him
**mucho love**
kayla xo

i don't know what to do because my boyfriend got grounded and he says he's going to sneak out to see me but last time he did that he got caught and got grounded for even longer. I've been trying to talk him out of it but its not working. what things can i say to him to try to talk him out of it because if he gets caught then we won't be able to see eachother for even longer.

Hey,
Alright well this is what i would tell him:
"I understand that you want to see me. i want to see you too but we're going to have to hold off on that. you know your gonna get caught if you try to come and see me so why bother. you'll just get grounded longer and we will have more of a wait until we can see eachother again."
Ok well i hope it helps.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all?

hey,
woah im sorry about my 1st answer i didnt know. wow im very sorry. just sit down and talk to her about it and let her know that your there for her.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?

hey,
1st of all if hes 16 and wants to be friends w/ benifits with a 14 year old it kinda suggests that hes using you. If hes willing to do all of that shit with you and not be in a relationship then yeah he does think your just a piece of ass. no guy should have the right to take advantage of you that way. You should stop talking to him. Lots of girls are in situations just like yours and they let the guy use them. Just kick him to the curb. he sounds like a real ass hole.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

ok so i really want to know if this guy likes me.i swim and he is on my swim team, and like when we go underwater he always smiles at me and waves, and when we do drylands he always pats me on the back or playfully hits my arm, and when we kick and stuff like that we always talk the whole way. i mean he is great, he is nice to me and everyone else, he is actualy my height and everyone likes him. whenever we go to swim meets he tells me to cheer for him because he wont do well unless i do. and he asks me to hold stuff and he just goofs around w/ me and he talks to my friends a lot. does he like me?

thnx! 5's for everyone!

hey,
its pretty possible that he does like you. you can never know for sure though thats the only reason i didnt straight out say "yes he likes you" boys are really hard to understand (im sure you know that already) so its easy to missinterpret things. for instance, he could totally flirt with you 24/7. in his mind he could be going for more of a friendship status with it. but to you, it might seem like he has feelings for you. so anyways...with that said i think you should see how he treats other girls on the swim team. like if he flirts with them as much as he does with you. If you notice a definite change (like if he flirts with you alot more than he does with them) than that means hes giving you extra attention so he most likely likes you. Try flirting with him back and giving him signes that your interested. see what happens.
**mucho love!**
kayla xo

My parents have officially said that I can have the name as "going out" with someone. There's this guy I've had my eye on for a while, but he has turned me down on several occasions. We're not exactly friends, and I haven't exactly asked him out. He knows I like(d) him and he's kinda weirded out by it. At the next dance should I ask him to dance?

(oh, I'm 13/f)

i dont think your gonna want to hear this but its my oppinion so w.e. if he is weird about you asking him out hes most likely gonna be weird about dancing with you. he probably doesnt share feelings. i get rejected alot. obviously you arent his type or something. try to get more friendly with him before you ask him out. you dont want to be rejected in front of everyone at the dance do you?

Hey1 I've been with my boyfriend for a bout 4 months now and his birthday is coming up. I don't have much cash, but I want to get him a gift he'll love. Does anyone have ideas of gifts or nice plances to get a boyfriend a gift?

guys arent really picky about what they get. so dont put too much into his gift. just get him a cd or something. ask him what kind of music he likes or what cds he wants.

my friend likes this guy and they both act like there going out. But they both wont admit that they like eachother. how can i find out if they like eachother or not?

you sound like you have your nose in their buisness a little too much.if they act like they are going out they obviously like eachother. its not a big deal. they want to go at their own pace. they will most likely admit to "liking" eachother when they are ready.

ok so i have this bf for about 3 months...he is being mean to me..in the halls he says break up with me jokingly n tells me he would rather hang with his frinds to go airsofting than hang with me...i really like him still n all but he doesnt care about me like i think a boyfriend should...should i talk to him maybe he will change or should i dumb him...my guy friend has said to me that my bf doesnt care about me n that he is being an ***hole towards me.im confused b\c i still really like him n if i break up with him i might regret it...im confused on what to do..

hey
it seems like this guy is a real jerk. theres plenty of other guys out there that will treat you right. it seems like your current boyfriend is just putting you down. so he has control over something. this control would be your feelings. im sure you will have some regrets about dumping him. but nothing is going to change if you cling onto a guy like that.

my ex is being such an ass. i try to be nice to him so he would leave me alone, but every time i think thing are ok i hear that he is saying nasty things about me. i beleaved him the first 2 times he said he did not say anything but not it turning into "the little boy who cried wolf". and now he wants to get with my best friend! i just wish he would fall off the face of the earth!
i have been trying not so talk to or about him and it just makes it worse! what should i do??????

it sounds like if you dont do something about this guy the situation is going to get worse than it already is. you should have a SERIOUS talk with him and tell him that you dont want to be mean or anything but he is really invading your life style.

If u are trying to hint to your bf that u want him to kiss u, what are some good types of flirting to use to get the message across. I've tried things but they don't seem to work. Once I was heart broken becuz he pulled away when I was flirty. I'm so lost.

make up storys. say " o one time this boy kissed me in his clothset it was soo cute" or some lame story and then he will hopefully be motivated to find a cute approach to kissing you. or you can talk to him about. no stories or anything. tell him you dont see any romance in the relationship and you think the flame is dying (not in an i want to break up with you kind of way).

ok well my b/f was sapose to come over to my house on fridy and he seemed like he really wanted to come like when i was on the phone with him he was looking up my house on map quest and he was telling my friends that he couldn't wait to come to my house but he also told my best friends thta he was scared..in the hallway i was like when r u comeing over and he go well my parents are goign to my grandpas birthday soo their gonna drop me off then and i was like u can't miss your grandpas party b/c of me and hes like yeah i can its the same thing every year and ive been waiting all week to come to your house then later he called me and told me that his grandpa was going to flip if he didn't go to his party so i was like ok and hes liek i really wanted to hang out with you though and was like i promise well do it over break so i was like ok well its his grandpas party...later that night i even drove by his house and there was no lights on but today someone told me that they saw him at a laxcrosse game on the same night..this really doesn't sound like something he would like im soo surprised that he did it b/c we have been going out for a whille and he acts liek he really likes me i dont know what to do please help me!!!1

well sometimes guys get the idea that you are going to be disapointed if they wanted to go somehwere besides your house...talk to him about it

Hi im Jessica im 13 years old and i just cant find a boyfriend that i can hold onto for a whileeither they get annoying or they start flirting with someone else what can i do to find someoone for me.If anyone out there wants to im me my s/n is xxlittlejxx9.
from jess

well thats a pretty hard thing to find at that age...you just cant rush into a relationship...get to know a guy first.

ok, so a guy i know and love is stareing at me now that i have boobs... but what if thats all he likes me for? i want to love him , but i dont want him to break my heart.

its definitly not the only reason he likes you. thats just one thing that always stands out for guys.

i keep making stupid mistakes in my relationships. i dont know how to stop! i always manage toscrew it up by being with some one else or sleeping with someone else. i cant help it. it just something inside me that make me want to do stuff. i am in a relationship now (4days) and ive already cheated on him. at the time it feels good. i dont know whether its the rik of been caught or what but now i just feel bad and dirty! how do i stop doing this?

maybe you arent ready for a real relationship. its possible that your the type of person that cant just have one of something...thats totally alright. if i where you i would stay single for a while until i find a guy that i really love that i could never cheat on. if your single you can sleep around and it wont break anyones heart.

I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship.

my mom says that to me every time i get a boyfriend. i cant even say "i love you" on the phone with them or she flipps out saying i couldnt possibly be in love. If you feel like your in love with someone dont let anyone tell you other wise.

okay so I've been dating this guy for like well 2 weeks and i care for him with all my heart! and i think it might even b love! and i kno that he feels the same way i mean he tells me everyday how much he cares for me and stuff so im hoping he means it! well today my best friend just told me a bunch of stuff that i think is totally wrong about my bf like that he does drugs! and that he still is in love with his X! and ive talked to him about all this b4 and he told me that he would never do drugs and he loves me more that n e one! but then again most guys would say that right? so please help me! i dont know who to beleive

well you have only been going out with him for a week. you know youer friend alot better than him so dont sacrafice your friendship over a boy. She could be telling the truth about the whole drugs thing. most likely she is jealous that you have a relationship with someone. When a guy says he loves you he doesnt always mean it. its just a bunch of words. its his actions that prove it. you must be really confused. Just wait until the situation clears up a little bit. then it will be easier. but if there is a point where you need to choose a boy over your best friend. a boy isnt always going to be there for you like a friend will. keep that in mind

im a guy. ok, so. i get asked out alot. and the fact that im guy makes me feel weird that im not the one asking them out cas wenever i try i always get rejected. wat is rong here

hey
well that is a big thing now...if its right for a girl to ask a guy out or a guy to ask a girl out. once you get older that whole barrier will be gone and it will mostly be the guys responsibility to ask the girl out. Im sure you dont always get rejected. It doesnt matter who asks who out as long as you end up happy its all good right? if its not the answer ya wanted send me another one and ill ask some of my guy friends about it if it would help you out more)

i really like this guy, K, and i think he likes me, but i m 2 shy to ask. my friend, E, has found out, or so she thinks that he likes me, but i dont know for sure. i m so worried that if he asks me out and i have to say no, cause im not allowed to go out that he willl stop liking me!!! if that happens, i wont survive!!!! wat should i do??? sorry its soo long!!!

if you like him go out with him. sometimes your gonna have to break a few rules...do what YOU want to do

I was going out with brian but he randomly wouldnt call me and my computer was broken. so i asked him online when i was at my friends and he was like im sorry i forgot. (mostly because he smokes everyday, i hate it) we wopul hangout on sundays and it sucked, i didnt want to hangout with someone once a week when he lives down the street. but hes different, hes the only guy im shy around, i dont know why. but he called me friday and told me he couldnt hangout because he was going to his friends. he called me latr and told me he went to the mall (why couldnt he of asked me?) so he called me saturday morning and said hed call me later to hangout he did but said he couldnt because his parents were out ( why couldnt he ask me over) so i sad my mom culd pick him up and stuff and he didnt seem intrested and was like lets just hangout tomorrow so i was like no, its not working, sorry an he said alright. he goes to my friends school so he was like i really like her i dont know why she dumped me so i talked to him yesteday and h was like ell i cant ay i liked you a wicked lot because we didn really talk alot but i dontknow why im so shy around you but i definetly like you an what i know s far, so i uess we're going back out. what can i say to tell him i dont like how he smokes so muc and we need to hangout more? and how can i not be so shy and what should i say on the phone? thank you

*first about the smoking...i tried to think about how i would feel if someone has critizised me about smoking. (they dont like it i had told one of my friends off for trying it and he got pissed) anyways here it is:
ummm well i dont mean to be rude or point fingers, but i really dont like the fact that you smoke. i love you very much but i wish i could know that your healthy. and smoking is not healthy. its only because i love you
*hanging out more:
also, i really think we should hang out more. thats the reason our relationship went down the drain in the first place. but if we work together to see eachother more, we can get it out. hanging out with eachother more often would strengthen our relationship and it would mean alot to me if you helped give an effort.
well i tried my best. hope you two work out...i hope thats the response you where looking for?

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