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Me and my boyfriend have our year anniversary on Sept. 21. And im trying to make it really specially so i decided i wanted to do a bunch of stuff for him.
Here are some thing we did on other special days: Gone to movies, Gone to funland, made dinner, bought dinner, made cookies, given money, gotten flowers, bunch f stuff.
Well im like running out of ideas!!

Any one have any great ideas. I want it to be really special and im starting early because of that, and for the fact that if i need money i will need to start saving.

Thanks a million in advance!

Thats so cute! im happy for you.
My boyfriend and I just celebrated our one year in July and I painted him a picture of his favorite car because he's like obessesed with this type of car. haha

but if you dont want to do anything like that, then you can do the other thing I did, we made dinner and then we had dessert then we exchanged gifts and I made him a photo album of pictures and i like decorated the pages and stuff from the past year and put in song lyrics and memories in them. It was more like a scrapbook then a photo album.

Or you could maybe go for a picnic in the park and pack sandwiches ( his favorite kind) and a frisbee or kickball and just enjoy the great outdoors and take silly pictures.

Or is there a sports team he really loves, maybe get him tickets if they're not too expensive and give them to him on your anniversary, ( ooo maybe like put the tickets on the last page of the scrapbook if you do that and then tell him when you guys go you can take pictures and replace the tickets with the pictures on the last page. haha that'd be cute!) but idk if the tickets thing would be too expensive or hard to do.

or maybe you can make him a mix CD of special songs you two have or songs that remind you of him.. amd you can write one of those little booklets like you get with cds and explain why each song reminds you of him!

well, goodluck if you need more ideas just message me maybe i'll think up some more! haha

goodluck! & Happy Early One Year Anniversary!

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ok what are some good excuses to brake up with your boyfriend??

hey!
from personal experience, I've learned that when I give excuses and the guy really likes you that he will spend all his time finding away to get around the excuse. giving an excuse is like giving false hope for a future relationship so just keep it simple and truthful, you dont have to go into detail like "you have bad breath and B.O" because it isnt nesscessary to hurt his feelings, but you could say " I'm really sorry but my feelings toward you changed and I dont think we should see eachother anymore. We're much better as friends"

And of course hes going to try to talk you out of it, but at that point you just have to ignore it because guys have a way of making you feel guilty sometimes. So just keep your head up high. He'll get over it and dont be surprised if he doesnt talk to you or bothers you alot.

well good luck. I hope I helped!!

byee!

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To all you guys...what do guys like for valentines day...like in general? i have no idea what to get my guy...like chocolate? flowers? hats? what? please help!

I suggest getting him something that comes from the heart.. Like say if your dating him...Maybe some cologne that smells nice.. or make a photo album scrap book thing that will show all of the memories you too have had... and add litle things in it like A paper cut out of a football if he likes football.. things like that. Also chocolate works.. every guy LOVES chocolate...or invite him over on that day.. give him a box of chocolate and then watch movies together.. or cook together... Just make sure whatever you do that its from you heart. that makes it 20x more special. He'll really appreciate it. Its the thought that counts..

hope i helped :)

goodluck on valentines day ;)

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i have a boyfriend and i havent talk to him since the last day of skool, which was 2 months ago. in the beginning of my summer vacation i told one of my friends who was going to summer skool with him to give him my cell phone number. so she did and he said he would give me a call. but he never did. and today and yesterday was this special thing at my high school that i had to go to, and i saw him there and he didnt even come up to me and say hi to me. and i cant stand seeing him. i'm not so much mad i'm just really hurt cuz i really like him alot and i've missed him alot during the summer, and i've never known a guy who's as sweet and kind as him. i was thinking of breaking up with him, but one of my friends told me to wait, and to see what happens when skool starts. and everytime i think of breaking up with him i feel really bad cuz i'm afraid that i'll never have anyone like him again. what should i do?

O my my! ... Well think about it.. do you really want a guy who is ignoring you and who you haven't talked to ALL summer!? I mean..he could have changed completely..a kind and sweet guy.. thats def. how you should be treated but ignoring you is not being sweet and kind.. I know that your b/f was prob. really cool in school and stuff.. but that shouldn't make up for ignoring you for 2 months.. who knows he could have cheated on you or done things that you don't know about.. you can't really hold a relationship for 2 months with no communication.. i know it will be hard.. but the best thing would be to break it off (((for now))) wait until school starts then see how he acts.. if he acts better and you get all of the ?'s that you have for him answered.. and they better be good answers lol then the choice is yours wether you want to start things up with him again...And trust me.. there are tons of guys out there!!!! TONS!! there will be many BETTER then him... hes only the beginning.. you'll def. find someone better that your happier with....


Any guy that is worth your time will give you as much of his as you need :)


-hope i helped-

xoxo..



sry i responded so late.. i was on vacation :(

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OKay my ex boyfriend n i were in love for a total of 8 months we talked about our kids n how we wanted to get married n stuff.. but now he dumped me and after 2 weeks he has a new girlfriend [[my bestfriend]] she promised me that she would not go out with him and now she backstabbed me n went out with him! Im totally not over him and i dont know what to do.. i still love him so much.. but he doesn't care about me.. [[if u have advice]] tell me cause i rate high!He also tells me he hates me n doesn't care about me.. idk what to do!
-In love-

In Love-

OKay for one.. i have NO IDEA what kind of person your so called "best" friend is.. but to me she doesn't sound like any type of friend at all! let alone best friend!.. thats crazy.. friendship is about trustworthyness. and loyalty.. and being there for you.. and she didn't show much of any. if she knew this hurt you.. and she still did that then shes not someone you want to stick around. Plus.. you should never date your best friends exes.. thats so wrong! i can't even being to explain!.. And about this guy.. think about it.. what do you love about him.. there can't be much if hes being mean now. Think about how much of a jerk he is.. and how you def. don't deserve the way hes treating you!.. 8 months is a long time.. i don't understand how someone can change so drastically like that.. who knows maybe you "best" friend had something to do with that. I say drop the guy and the girl... they both obviously deserve eachother since there both stupid.. and im sure you have better friends.. and tehres cuter and nicer guys out there.. who won't break your heart like that. if you want to get over him.. i suggest go out with your friends.. and just guy scoping.. or keeping your mind off of him.. or talk to a guy best friend.. and don't keep anything of his around.. and block his number and screen name!.. You'll get over him i promise..;).. you;ll realize you can do better....and you don't need his jerkyness.. and you will end up happy and your friend will get ehr heart broken by your ex and come crawling back to you.... then you can shoot her down..;)..



-hope i helped-


xoxo


good luck!

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Hey....is there anything like around at the house that you can/could practice kissin on or any hints to become a better kisser?

Theres no exact way to be a better kisser.. it just kinda comes naturally and you just go with the flow.... You could practice kissing if you wanted to though.. I have heard of people using Teddy Bears, there hand, Pillows, etc. You could basically use anything but nothing really gives you the full effect. Everyone kisses different No ones actually a good or bad kisser... remember it depends on your partner 2. To one person you could be the worst kisser and to another you can be the best..so just have fun and don't worry about wether your good or not ;)


-hope i helped-

xoxo

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Say there's someone I want to ask to the prom...how much time before it should I ask him? I don't want to wait too long because he might ask someone else, but I know that if I ask him too early it'll look a bit weird, or as though I'm desperate. I just want some advice on that, thanks!

I think that if you want to ask someone to prom you should wait a little longer. Its early in the year yet to be asking people to prom. Alot could happen between then and now. so i say if your not already friends with this person.. then become great friends with them.. then when people start getting dates for prom Ask who you'd like!:).. who knows maybe you'll change your mind by then. And hopefully if your really good friends or even dating you have the best prom of your life! ;) Plus you'll feel alot more comfortable and you will be able to relax more.. with a friend then if you were there with a stranger.. and if they are already your friend then just bring up the subject and see how they feel on it.. or if they mention someone they want to bring. If not.. then bring it up casually that u 2 should go.. sumthin like " Hmm maybe we could end up going together.... just a thought.. its far off yet.. but you never know" Its casual and you can see there reaction ;)



Good Luck :)

-hope i helped-

xoxo

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ok...i admit it,i kinda have a reputation fer being kinda slutty...but i dont do stuff...
even tho i'm kinda slutty...all these guyz expect stuff frum me n they obsess ovr me n it bugs me whenevr they do that(some try to touch me)...how do i get them 2 stop being perves and get them to lyk me for who i am???

Okay.. well for one...Whenever a guy trys to do stuff with you.. tell him no.. and that will give him the vibe that your not only getting into the relationship for the sexual things. And when a guy that your don't like trys to touch you or it bothers you tell him to stop.. don't just let him do it.. that will give people the slutty impression. Also look at the guys you usually date.. are they all alike.. If so try to go for a different type.. the kind who wo't just base everything on looks and get to know you. And when you get a boyfriend.. don't rush into things with him or he will get the impression that your easy. And about the guys that obsess over you just ignore them.. don't give them attention.. or that will make them stick around longer and not get over it..


Hope i helped


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xoxo

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my boyfriend and mine's annaversary is coming up in a couple months and it will be 1 year. i want to do something really special for him or make him something that he'll always remember. but i dont want to make a scrapbook because everyone does that. i want to do something different. i would write him a poem but i do that all the time and he writes ones back to me so thats nothing new. if anyone has any ideas then please help me.

Wow.. theres tons of things you could do to make it special..

Maybe you could take him to the place you met.. or a place where something special happened between you.. (( your first kiss ;) etc. )) And Maybe have a picnic lunch..

Or just take him on a romantic picnic lunch :)

You could cook him dinner and then watch some of your favorite movies together... Or just watch a bunch of your favorite movies.

You could make him a collage.. thats not a scrap book and its on like a medium size piece of cardboard. And maybe cut some words out of old love letters and paste them on there along with cute pictures of you two 2gether. :)

You could go see a movie and then go back to one of your house for some alone time.

If you 2 have a song then you could play it and invite him over and have something to eat then dance to it :)

You could make him a mixed tape of all of your favorite love songs or all of your songs together.. and at the end you could put a message to him on it.. and you can put the cd or tape in the arms of a teddy bear or something..

You can play a cute game of a scavenger hunt and at the end is his present.. (aww) :)

You can blindfold him and take him to a special spot and then give him his present and then have a picnic or a lunch then you 2 could go back and watch movies 2gether.. ( its like all the ideas in one :)...)

If both of you are basketball fans (etc) you can get tickets to a local game and go... and then take a stroll in the park after (how cute :)..)

Theres tons of stuff you can do!!!


If you need anymore or anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me ;)

xoxo


Hope I helped

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what do u do if u like ur EX-girlfriend and u know u cant get her back but yet u cant get over her or stop thinkib bout her?

Well.. for one.. anything that brings back memories of her such as

Old Letters
Any Presents she may have given you
Basically anything of hers or what shes given you or anything that reminds you of her... Get rid of them.. if you don't want to throw them out then just put them somewhere.. where you don't usually look or go. Another thing.. go out and spend sumtime with your guy friends..Maybe you can find a new girl :) Also if your talking to her on the phone or im... you should limit that if you don't want to cut communication.. because talking to her isn't going to help you get over her. But if you want to talk to her... just don't talk to her as much.. Or block her im. And when your friends talk about her or something... change the subject.. That way your not reminded.. But mostly, don't sit around moping about her.. always keep your mind on something else.. that way you don't have to think about her.. Eventually in time you will get over her.. and you can move on...


best of luck


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-Hope I helped-

O yea.. is there a cute girl friend that you might be interested in that you can maybe focus on more ;)

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ok well .. i'm very critical on myself .. i think im soo ugly my friends say im not but i mean what r they gonna say ya i kno u r .. so they could b liein i mean ive had bfs nd stuff but i dnt kno how to make myself less critical of myself cause i got so mad at myself sometimes cause i think im so ugly .. x|0

Take a peice of paper.. and write down everything your good at.. what you like about yourself ((theres def. something)) All the stuff you've accomlpished etc. Then reread it over and over again.. and everytime you feel like you ugly or somthing.. take out the paper and read it and then add something to it. It helps.. Also when your doing your hair or makeup.. look at yourself and say I am beautiful.. you will feel better about yourself. Hang up things around your room that make you feel good about yourself and when someone puts you down.. laugh it off and dont let it get to you.. And make sure you have confidence.. if you want to get more guys. because.. confidence is SEXXY in a guys eyes.. trust me I know.. all my guy friends tell me. So instead of sitting there and saying how ugly you are.. sit there with a smile on your face and know that you fine just the way you are. And everytime you call yourself a name.. have a friend will will slap your hand or something.. or do it yourself. And then say your beautiful 10 x slowy so it sinks in..


hope i helped..


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xoxo

Good Luck!

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I've been with my boyfriend Steve for alomost 2months now. I haven't seen him in over a month and by the time i get to talk to him it'll have been a month. Lately I've been talking to my best friend Chris a lot. He's really sweet and nice to me. I really like him now. And i'm more open with him and i can talk to him easier than i can talk to steve but hes going to high school next year and im going into 8th grade and so is steve. Chris just got dumped by one of my best girl friends and shes mad at me cause she thinks i called her a slut and i didnt. I told chris i liked him when he was still going out with my friend. about a week after she dumped him he said he liked me back. we were playing truth or truth and he asked me if i would dump steve for anyone. And i said why do you want me to. And he said yes. I said i dont know if i would cause i hadnt talked to steve in so long. I'm really confused i dont know what to do. Should i dump steve and go out with chris? i mean it might make my friend mad cause she gets mad at stupid things. Or should i wait till steve comes home and talk to him cause i also feel like i barely even know him. who should i choose? what should i do?

Well... are you willing to lose Steve or lose your friend (the girl)... Dating your friends exes could cause BIG problems.. besides.. Chris is going to highschool next year... hes going to be around tons of new girls and hes prob. going to flirt. And ging out with a friends ex right after they break up is prob. not the Best idea. Don't dump steve just yet.. because you don't know if your feelings for him will reappear once you get to talk to him again. Its okay to stay Chris's friend.. but make sure thats all you keep it at for now. I say keep dating Steve.. that way if it doesn't work out with you and steve once you start talking to him again.. you can dump him and feel no regrets or unassurance.. and then maybe next year when you get to highschool you can be with Chris and your friend will have cooled off by then and hopefully not care that its her ex :)


-Hope I helped-

If you need anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me ;)


Good Luck


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I'll start from the beginning....
When I was little, i used to live in washington state, but then we moved when i was 8 years old.
this other family with this boy that had been in my 2nd and 3rd grade class moved to the same part of florida the same time we did, and we ended up going to the same school.
our families became close friends(my sister is about the same age as his little brother)
and we'd go over to each others houses a lot, and when we were little we used to come up w/ these little plays (some romantic, we'd "marry" each other...), and well, we got a little older. last year, he moved to orlando, and we spread apart a little. we saw them, and we were playing around and like fake kissing each other in this little "play" we made up (my little sister is only 8, and she really wanted to do a "play")
and now he's moving back to where we live. i dont kno if he likes me, but i kind of think i like him. what should i do?
signed,
confused love

Awww.. i think he likes you. Well.. i think you should wait till he comes back and then start talking to him alot again...After spending some time as "best Friends" I say make your move and ask him out.. if he hasn't already asked you out ;).. Thats like a fairytale romance.. who knows maybe your meant for eachother... but its worth a shot... Or just talk to him about your feelings.. tell him you like him... chances are he likes you back =D

-hope i helped-

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Good Luck

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Hey Should i break up with my P.A. relationship i haven't see her yet and i m really confused and i like this girl erica and samantha but erica is to young for me and samantha is like 2 years what should i dunno

Mike

Well talk to your g/f about it.. tell her that your not sure if this is going to work and that you think you might like someone else. But i say don't break up with her until you have seen her at least once.. because you don't know if you really don't have feelings for her or if its the distance... an even though you said you were confused you didnt say your feelings stopped for her so theres still a chance that you really want to be with her. But if you don't have feelings for her then break up with her because its not fair for her to be with someone who doesn't love her back.But don't do it unless your sure.. trust me that feeling that you get when you think you did the wrong thing.. SUCKS.. so save yourself from it and think more about it first If you do dump her Good luck with those other girls!!:)

-Hope I helped-

If you need anymore advice

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i like this boy who goes to my school, he started going out with one of my EX close friend.we went out a couple of times and he broek up with my friend. we kissed a couple of time and i've texted like 7 times but he doesnt answer like last week a spended teh night at one of my best friends house and he called her. i feel so bad should i still b her friend... i know my friend doesnt liek him but i think he likes her.do u have any advice i'll rate u ....

Of course you should still be her friend. its not her fault that he likes her!!! But as for the guy.. i say move on.. hes sending you mixed signals and playing with your mind. But if you really want to continue something then call him up and make plans.. After talking to him for a while and hanging out with him.. he will hopefully start to like you. Also find out if he has an sn.. if he does then thats cool...you could talk on there and get to knwo him really well... Good Luck

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today after goin out to the mall n movies.. i realized i liked this one kid "casey" alottt.. it waz tha first time ive seen him since school ended.. because days when i go out he doesnt.. and when i dont go out he does. but i saw him today n ran up to him because we are like best friends. we started talkin n all dat stuff. he would always call me alot. and i found out he liked me but supposedly he doesnt anymore. but wheneva someone asks him about me he says "i dont like her anymore" but he has a huge smile on his face. we flirt alot but do u think he likes me or is it just a best friends thing?

Well.. the reason hes saying that stuff could be because...he hasn't seen you since school ended... GIRL CALL HIM UP AND MAKE PLANS!!!!:) lol..If your flirting then it could def. turn into something... friends make the best boyfriends.. I think he still likes you but you need to reignite the flame between you to. Go see a movie as just friends(for now) and do other stuff.. bowl etc. you could bring other friends (but i suggest not bringing girls who are also interested in him ...lol just tellin you from my past experiences ;)..)


Well I hope i helped...


xoxo

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My boyfriend & I never spend any alone time, just the 2 of us. I guess it's mostly my fault, because it just freaks me out a little being alone with him, I don't know why. Anyways, I would like to go down the shore with him, along with my older brother & his friends. Everyone there is really responsible & my mom is not letting me. She doesn't think its right for me to go down the shore with a boy! I don't get, I'm going to be with my own brother and older, responsible people! What could happen & whats the problem??

Your moms not stupid. She knows many things can happen when your alone on the shore with a boy ;)... even if your not the type to do those things...they can still happen. I say get your older brother involved.. let him tell her that he will keep his eye on you 2 .. and assure your mom nothing will happen....after a while of convincing .. it should work. If it doesnt then bring another friend along.. but warn the friend ahead of time that at some point you would like to be alone with your boyfriend and she can go look for seashells or something.... (im sure you can come up with something for her to do while your with you man) And if that doesn't work then do something else with your guy... go to the movies alone with him.. not much can happen in the movies... riiight;)


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xoxo hope i helped

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Thanks for answering my question earlier, out of all the responses I got yours was probably the most helpful, this whole thing has so many weird problems that I couldnt include in my question though that I'd love to IM you sometime, just to have someone whose non-objectionable that can give me more advice, I'm not sure how to Im you though, I have msn and aol instant messenger on my comp but i'd need your sn.

Thanx :)...my aim is on my column .. but its oSoInLoveWithYou

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all my friends have a bf...when ever they talk about him i feel realyl lonely bcuz i dont have a bf...what can i do to feel not so left out?

Well talk about a boy your interested in.. Or when they talk about there boyfriends just say.. I know how you feel about them but When you talk about them i feel left out.. or hang out with other girls who dont have b/fs.. or get a bunch of your friends 2gether and do sumthing like an Amusement Park
Movies
Bowling
Swimming
Sleep Over

and just talk about other things... Don't let not having a b/f stop you from having fun and talking to ur girls cuz they have b/fs... cuz eventually you will have one and one of them won't and they'll see how it is.



Hope I helped...

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My boyfriends friends don't approve of me.. and he has only been ahnging out with the 2 that do this summer so far.. but now hes hanging out with the other ones again.. and there the reason we broke up the other times... I mean.. i know i have no control over who he hangs with but would it be wrong of me to maybe ask him in the nicest way possible to not spend time with them so much?? I don't want him to dump me again because of them!!!:(

I sort of have the same problem. Some of my b/fs friends don't like me...but now that its summer he doesn't hang around them too much. but even when he does.. we have grown so close that it doesn't bother him anymore what his friends say. So i say if you and your b/f have a close relationship...and you love him and he loves you then not to worry about it. If his friends start dissing you then he should either have enough courage to stand up to them or just forget what they say and forget them. Your his girlfriend.. and if you trust him and he loves you and your relationship is a good one.. then just let him hang out with them.. maybe you all could even hang out so you can all become friends. That way theres no more negativity...


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