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Q: hey im 13 and a female. i was wondering are looks an important part in a relationship? all my friends say it is but i think its a lil shallow.

**sleepiesheep**

ok you dont want to date a guy who is a total jerk that would be horrible you would end with a broken hert wich sucks but looks do count something you dont want to liek being makeing out with a guy that would be realy hard to do looks are not as important as the mind you dont want to date a guy who is totaly diffrent from you and u dont get alone but i am telling you looks do count for something hope i helped
-lindsey-

Q: what exactly does it mean to be friends with benefits? like what is different about it than being b/f and g/f? thanks

it si basically uou can messs around with the person but you guys are not going out so he can go mess around with some one else or soemtiems they just do that becasue it is better adn makes them feel more comfortable

Q: ok there is this guy that i like but he is like 2 years younger than me cause im 15 and he is 13 and i dont know if i should go out with him cause it would be kinda weird cause we go to separt schools and the age difference so should i give him a change anyway ??

well the thing is any more it si alout like of coause guys dont grow up as fast as girls but 13 yr olds are realy growing up fast now compared to sometime ok if you realy realy liek this guy and he realy lieks u u could make it work becasue there are 13 yr old guys who dont act so little hope i helped
-lindsey-

Q: My boyfriend has had dreams about us having sex lately. of course I'm not ready for that. I have to get on the pill first but I don't know if I really want to do it. He wants me to come over to his house. Yeah his room can be locked and well, it's kinda isolated from his house...and he's usually alone. We've been going out for almost a year. I'm just...afraid. He wants to make out with me in my underwear. What should I tell him or do?

doing things you are not ready for can ruin relashonships and if you too have been goign out for 1 year then i realyt dont htink that you would want that uncomfortable feeling that could ruin a relshoship just explain to himm that right now you are not ready for it hope i helped
-lindsey-

Q: For Christmas my bf got me this necklace. I can't say I am dissapointed, don't get me wrong, I am so happy he got me something! And it is beautiful. The only thing is that it is a little formal. It has dimaonds all over the chain and stuff (I don't think they are real though). But my question is, should I wear it everytime I see him? It is a little formal to wear with a normal outfit like jeans and a tanktop. I wore it to a New Years party and he noticed that I was wearing it cause he said, "oh you are wearing it!" and was playing with it. Should I wear it to school? It just seems a little formal. Do you think he would care if I didn't? I sorta wish he would have gotten me something a little casual.
14/f

i think maybe u shoudl were it alout maybe not every day but it seems liek it means alout to him if u would so hope i helped

Q: okay well i know this guy Christian and hes so hot..funny..and nice...and i think im inlove?!!....but the problem is I used to be able to hang out with him but then my mom said i couldn't see him anymore because she thought he was a bad infuence..and that really made me mad...but like on the weekends usually ill go to a friends house and then we will go to the movies and he will go to...but like he gets really frustrated beacuse he can't see me or call my house..so he misses me..but i dont no what to do....should i just keep seeing him behind my moms back....HELP!
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talk to your mom with out freakin out on her and realy explain how much u liek him maybe tell your mom all of his achivments and he could talk to her toobut the big thing is to stress abot how much you like him well hope i helped tell em how it goes
-lindsey-

Q: Okay well my boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 month now. Well we're not very close and there are certain things i want him to do but i dont know how to tell him. Everyone says i should just tell him or whatever, but i dont want to. And i can't really hint at him because hes kind of oblivious sometimes lol. And im like not in his profile and when he signs on or i sign on im always the one to IM him. What should i do? How do i get the word across to him of what i want him to do? I just want him to you know hug me and you know...lol just be close with me. Yeah i know that sounds retarded. So I'll rate really high for good answers thanks soo much for your help ♥

you know what this is all ok SAME EXACT thing happend to me and me and my bf have been goign out for 2 months and he just made all the moves on me last night i now it is very very scary soemtiems ppl just get tired of waiting and make the move so if you are both sittign down scoot realy close to him to hint even if he doesnt get it u get a little bit of what you want adn also when you want to hug him suprise him with it and just go for it there is no reason he would freak if you gave him a hug hope i helped tell me how it goes

Q: I'm a freshman and I already had my first high school boy, "Tommy", he & I were perfect for each other, everyone thought we were gonna be high school sweethearts. We dated for almost 2 months, he had already told me he loved me and I truly loved him!
Later, he had heard some rumors about me that weren't true and he knew it, but instead, he listened to his friends. The next time we talked, he gave me a lame excuse and broke up with me. I was a mess, I cried myself to sleep for 2 weeks straight!
It's been about 2 months since we broke up, I felt like I was over him, but my close friend asked me if she could take "Tommy" to our winter formal. Now, I'm mad at myself for saying it was okay (she asked me if it was okay). Whenever I talk to her, I always get mad at myself for not saying no.
"Tommy" tries to make me jealous, but instead he makes me mad. He always asks me why I don't care about him anymore, he calls me and asks why I'm being so mean to him and stuff. I just don't care anymore!
How do I get over "Tommy"? I still love him, but I want to get over him so badly.

it is not easy at all it is a long painfull process and dotn be mad at your self for saying that she could go with him there are alout of cases were that has happend but its gonna hurt you bad to see them together and you probly do not want to loose her friend ship so put your foot down and talk to her about it then you guys can go on with your friendship hope i helped thanxs

Q: I was seeing this guy named Austin. I was and still am absolutely crazy about him. Well the problem is that I've been a cutter for about a year or two now. Well my cousin Jeremy stayed over for the holidays and I cut once when he was around me. He called Austin and said I cut because he wasn't able to call me. So he broke up with me because he didn't want to get in a deep relationship and have me kill myself or something. Would that be considered true love or true hate? He also hasn't called me in about two days now, but maybe it's because the holidays. PLEASE HELP! I'M IN DESPERATE NEED OF ADVICE!

well talk to him and describe how you feel and reay realy tlak to him tell him that he could help you get to recover becasue you need support to get through this not more reasons to be upset even if you guys dont get back together(not saying you wont) he needs to help you as a friend tell him u need his support

Q: 15/m my really good friend,probly best friend in the whole world, who i really like is really depressed. her ex made her feal bad and she thinks its her fault and i never really have seen her happy since. Anyway what can i tell her that would help her. ive tried telling her it wasnt her fault and tried to cheer her up and it wont work. p.s. her name is christy and she is 14. no smartassy answers please and i rate high so please give me suggestions.

you need to help her open her eyes becasue it is obviously hurting the ones around her and i dont think she would want that when i was depressed my friend had told me that she wanted me back and it was scary seeing me that way seeing me hurt so bad so tell her the truth that it hurts you and others and it scares you hope i helped wish you luck

Q: i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male??

no it does not matter at all color is color not a type of person its a color and it doesnt matter. if your friends act weird then they are nothing special they should be happy with it becasue they should be happy for you. happiness is something a person needs and soemtimes it takes a long time for people to be truly happy and if you think you will be happy dont wait go for it!!!

Q: I'LL RATE A 5 AND SORRY IT'S A LITTLE LONG .well I'm not allowed to date i'm 14 and my parents found out that i was and for my family it's a big deal and my parents gave me the silent treatment.my sister who is 23 that acts like my mom gave me the silent treatment too.well let me get to the point I broke up with him because I made my mom,dad,and sister cry because I went out with him.I felt bad,my sister called him and talked to him.but the point is I hurt them and I didn't mean to.I really really love him.he's my support,what I need he's always been there for me.he's my best friend I can tell him anything and he would understand.and the worst thing about it is that my mom said I couldn't be his friend or talk to him.this just happened right before christmas brake.I broke up with him on the fon not because i didn't have the balls but because I couldn't live with my self anymore for 2 weeks till I went to school again.when I told him,he cryed and I told him not to be mad and he said y would I b mad I understand.what really hurt me was when he said "what do I do,do I move on".I told him that he should and he said this when he was crying."BUT I DON'T WANT 2, I WANT 2 BE WITH U,I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE U" I love him I cry everyday.did I make the right chose and if I did y does it hurt so much,y do I feel like sh*t. I'LL RATE A 5 JUST PLEASE HELP!SORRY IT'S LONG

in the end even though your family doesnt agree you have to do this for YOU not them for you na dif you liek him so much then you know it will be very hard to move on so you shouldnt just let them tell you what to do i unerstand i realy do but soemtimes you have to do things you knwo that pp dont agree with hoep i helped good luck

-#lin#-

Q: hey everyone my girlfriend and i are coming up on two years i thought that maybe i would make her a CD with songs that make me think of her is this a good idea and if you think it is can u tell me some up to date good love songs and any other ideas we are only 16 too thanks ill rate

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Q: im 14 and my girlfriend is 13. we have been going out for 4 months. she told me that she wants to make out with me. part of me wants too but the other part says no because we kissed for the first time last night at a dance. do you think i should make out with her now or not? if not how long should i wait?

well you need to follorw what you think if you think you are ready then go for it you think your not then dont it will jujst happen if your not ready youll be able to tell like avoiding looking in each others eyes and if that is soo then wait it will coem

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my name is lindsey i am 13 years old i am realy into my music and i like to help ppl mostly in the love life catagory answer every question that i have a reasonable honest good answer that will help. some of my favorit bands are the all american rejects the used my chemical romacne fall out boy simple plan some the killers blink 182 green day. i have a 19 and 16 yr old brothers they are very hard to deal with i have soem girl friends but most of them are guy friends that is when i am most comfortable most of the time. i love to write mostly poetry and i love to dance i am a cheerleader but i am not a prep or anything not tryign to stero type but that is what ppl do to me so yea i am not the stero typical cheerleader im not in it to be peppy i just do it for one thing only i LOVE to dance. im not into rap but i have to be into it a little becasue it is very good dance music if i had to pick a fovorite rap star it would be eminem (sorry bad at spelling) because of the things he raps about real life real situation im not for fakeness the whole all rap about or anything about sex,and drugs personaly i just think that there is alout more to life to enjoy and to pay attention too.