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im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an inexperienced virgin. cos i just know everyone else will have done everything already. all of my friends have lost their virginity and have boyfriends. i really hate it but im not sure if im confident enough to do anything about it. :(
(The following may sound religious and pretentious but that's not my intentions.)
There is no reason why you can't wait until you know you are ready and have found the right person. Just because you are heading to university does not mean you have to be experienced, you can remain a virgin as long as you need to be until you are ready. I am 18, in uiversity, and am still a virgin. I also only had my first kiss a few weeks ago, and the guy totally understood that I didn't want to do much that nihgt. It doesn't change who you are whether you are a virgin or not so you need to ask yourself if you're just going to have sex to not be a virgin anymore or are you going to because you love, or at least like the person alot. As for confidence, just go to parties (clubs/bars when you are of age depending on where you live) and just go free. Dance with guys, maybe even a few make-out sessions (they're quite easy you just go with the flow) and just proving to yourself that you are capable of doing it will give you confidence. Then all you need is the right guy.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckychick~
how do I tell a girl I like her even though she has a boyfriend?
Not to be harsh, but you don't. The fact that she has a boyfriend cancels out any possibility of you saying anything. As much as you may like her, she will not appreciate you telling her at that moment. What if she DID like you, do you know how complicated that would be!? She would probably stay with her boyfriend. Maybe even out of guilt, even if she really likes (possibly loves) him. She will never get over the mixed feelings she is dealing with. It is best you wait until the relaship ends (a couple weeks after as to not overwhelm her or get her on the rebound) to say anything because that would be the best time; for you AND her.
~unluckychick~
Ok well, I have a crush on this girl who is my friend. We don't talk a lot at school, but often do on Facebook. To me she is like so awesome. When I see her I get so frickin' scared or nervous. Anyways I don't know what to do. I wanna try to talk to her more but the chance never comes. We don't have any classes together either, but we do see each other in the hall way sometimes. We say hi sometimes, but now it sort of stopped now. Plus sometimes I don't think she likes me. She has this guy friend whom I'm assuming must be good friends with her. Sometimes they would sit next to each other on the bus after school and talk and stuff. Sometimes I hardly get a chance to grab a seat near her or something but she's always talking with friends and yeah. Anyways today I saw that she was leaning on his shoulder and stuff. Sometimes when I see that kind of stuff makes me sort of sad, confused, and hate myself for failing. But I'm not sure, could be that they are just best friends or maybe that I'm running out of time or I'm too late. I'm like so mixed up right now. She's just one of those casual girls, but to me she is like the greatest, she like became my true second friend and helped break out of my shell in highschool. I just don't know what to do I'm like love sick lol. Do you think I should send a message to her on Facebook about this situation except instead of saying it's me having the trouble I could pretend it's my friend and see what her response could be and maybe I could plan out my move?
First things first, do NOT message her on facebook about your "friend's" problem. It's tacky and impersonal.
You says you talk alot on facebook and less at school then maybe you should confront her one day at school and just say hi, initiate one of your
"facebook chats" but in person. After a while if you start to talk more in person then you know the friendhip is genuine. If you must know now, message her on facebook like any other time. Although it would be better if you did it in person but to continue with what you've been doing for a while, in this situation facebooking is alright. Make sure it's personal and not hypothetical. Tell her it IS you, and not a friend. LEt it sit for a few days and then get back to her,in PERSON.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckychick~
I like this kid he is funny but how can i show him how i feel?
Your question is rather vague but I'll do my best to answer it in as much detail as I can.
First of all, you need to figure out exactly how you feel about this guy. Sometimes we get the feeling we like someone because they're new to us and sometimes our natural instincs kick in to have a man to love. So figure out your true feelings and make sure ou really do like him and it's not just a fling. bOnce you've done that you can move onto the next step: giving subtle hints.
These hints include:
- smiling alot at him, but not in a creepy staring way
- talk to him alot, but don't bore him or gossip about people
- when you are talking, laugh reasonably at his jokes, keeping a nice big smile on your face
- also, if the situation permits, touch him when you say something or when he says something funny (by touch i don't mean grabbing him i mean say he tells a funny story you could say "thats so funny" and gently put your hand on his leg/knee when you say that but immediately take your hand off otherwise you may come off too foreward)
- find things you both have in common and discuss them, maybe even asking him to to it with you provided it is an appropriate activity (ex: the gym or running or volunteering)
If all goes well, after a few weeks or however long you need to figure out where you stand, you can either tell him how you feel if he hasn't clued in or you can be a little more blunt with your actions so he catches on. Peronally, I would wait long enough so you prety much know how he feels about you, and if it's in any way possible for it to work out, tell him how you feel. It may seem really hard, but trust me, once it's done it's done and you won't have to worry about it anymore. Who knows, it may be the best decision you've made.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckychick~
I just want to get some people's opinions on this: What do you think about girls asking guys out?
ANY AND ALL OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED :)
As far as chivalry goes, it should be the guy who asks the girl out. But as far as modern day goes, who cares who asks who out. If the guy does it, it's romantic because it's what was the norm. If the girl does it, it's sexy because she has enough confidence to do it and defy the old ways.
If you like someone that much, stop being hard on yourself and just ask him out already!
~unluckychick~
im 17 and in a longdistance relationship. the relationship will be a year in november, but has been long distance since july because i moved. any advice on how to keep things together more easily and make it work from someone whos been there?
I can only imagine what you are going through because I've never been in a long distance relationship per say but I am going through something similar with all my best friends because we all moved away to university. Just keep the contact by texting every once in a while and if phone bills permit, give them a call. Sometimes you can plan it, but others, keep it spontanious. You could always send emails every couple of days to eachother and if you're in the mood for something a little more personal, write one and mail them back and forth. Maybe even go on webcam every once in a while just so you have tha sense of closeness. Buuut! I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT result to webcams for anything sexual of any kind. This has been a mistake of many. The reason behind it that is if and when you break up, if there are any hard feelings, these videos will end up on youtube or another video sharing site. Keep the privae moments for when you visit eachother.
I am 21 and a few months ago i became engaged to my boyfriend of several months. I went to college in another state where he was playing in the minor baseball league. My parents had never met him and when i called to tell them that not only had i met a guy but we were engaged they were pretty upset. The wedding is now 2 weeks away and my fiance and i are leaving tomorrow to go home for the wedding. (We decided to get married in my home town)Yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. I'm not sure if i should wait until after the wedding has happened before i tell my parents or tell them right away. They are very conservative and since they didn't take to well to me marrying someone they haven't met yet, i'm pretty sure they won't take it to well that i'm already pregnant.
My thought was to just wait and tell them that it happened on our honeymoon thinking that they would at least feel better about the fact that it happened after we were married. Any other ideas?
Not that I was ever in that sutuation but as much as I would feel bad about lying to everyone, I would wait until a week or so after the honeymoon to say something. You have the right to do whatever you choose but for your parents sake, I think it would be better to wait. Especially considering you never introduced them to the man their daughter is about to marry.
So theirs this reaaally cute guy that i used 2 like but i stopped because i heard a rumor going around that he liked sum1 else. So in class 2day people r sayin dat he likes me so i started liken him again even though i'm not 100% sure if he does. So my bff in my bf were in class with me 2day sayin dat he's fine and sexy n stuff like dat. They thot i was ova him. So dey dared me 2 send him a note dat sed your sexy. So i did n he started smilin(i took a look at him). N my bf was like he's starin at u. 2 N my bff sed i think he might like u. So afta class we went 2 our lockers 2 get our stuf2 leave. Den i was walkin 2 meet my bff but i saw him n stopped 2 say dat my frends dared me 2 write dat. N at frst he was like idk wat ur talkin bout den he took it bac n was like aight. So shuld i go 4 him or wat den wat shuld i do.
First of all, it would be alot easier to undersand you if you paid any attention to your grammar.
But to answer your question, it seems that you do like him and forced yourself not to when you thought he was interested in someone else, just to save yourself the heart-ache. Smart move. Now, you know based on his reaction that he is at least a little interested so you should go with it and ask him out to an even, either with friends or even alone, but start small and go bigger if you get a good feeling about it.
Ok, well before you read this and go "Another pathetic girl who has a bad love life" listen. I like this boy, say Jim. Well my friend has liked Jim for like 2 years and has asked him out so many times and Jim always says no. She doesnt know that i like Jim.
Also my friend Jen is Jims Best Friend, but she always is like laying on him and like almost giving him a blowjob. I mean, come on, your my best friend, dont be giving the boy i like a blowjob.
Me and jim are such good friends. He like tells me everything. I have liked him one time before, but hes said no, but it was a year ago.
I dont want to tell him i like him and him say he doesnt like me and well be all messed up and lose what we had and have Jen and the girl who likes him mad. What should i do, tell him, or try to get over him??? HELP!
14/f
There always seems to be a BUT now doesn't there. My advice, what have you got to lose? Either you take a chance and tell him, or you try to live your life with the feelings hovering over your head. Personally, from experience, I would tell him and hope for the better. If you guys are as good friends as you make it sound, you should get over this [if he says no].
It seems you have a little competition and sometimes this can be good, and it could also be bad. You explain that your best friend who has been crushing on Jim for 2 years now, and she doesn;t know you like him. She probably doesn't know because you were afraid she'd get mad if she knew; am I right? You also explain that you get frustrated [lack of a better word] when Jen flirts with him. It's all quite similar.
First of all, you need to confess to your best friend that you like the same guy. Basically tell her that you know she may not like this but you are going to tell him because you don't want this chance to pass you by. She may get upset, but try to explain to her that she's tried and 'not succeeded' many times and you feel that it's fair if you tried. As for Jen, just ignore that situation altogether unless it gets out of hand.
All in all, tell her your plan, tell him how you feel, and hope for the best outcome.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckychick~
Love at 16...?
What do you guys think? Is it possible? Or is it just a bunch of teen emotions?
Until about two years ago I would have screamed 'NO! Are you crazy, 16 is way too young!' just at the thought.
I now realise that, even though it is doubtful to fall in love at 16, it IS possible. I say from experience that I've been
in love at 16. Love is a beautiful thing and should be cherished no matter the age.
For all you lovers out there, good luck. ♥
i know that this is goin to seem really wierd and sound kind of depressing but here goes.....why does it seem like that everytime my best freind's life get perfect (oiu know she get the guy she wants) and she doesn't even have to work hard to get them but when her life get perfectm ine just falls apart....meaning i have to work my butt off and still can't get the guy i wnat and i want my guy more than she wanted hers....she just thought her was cute and i'm like in love with my guy.......okay it's not that deep of a love question.
Gee, I don't remember asking this question. Wait, I didn't, but I could have.
What I mean to say by this attempt at comical relief is that this happens to many of us. Sometimes people around us get what they want without trying at all while the ones who are working the hardest don't get anything.
Think of it this way, your friend could go through tons of guys but never find the 'right one' but you could end up with only a few and end up with the 'right one' in the end. It all depends on which perspective you look at and how you perceive different situations. Try to keep things on the positive side rather than negative.
You shouldn't have to worry about this until later. (depending on your age, probably in your teens based on the attitude...he he)
As for my opinion on your situation, I think that the 'right guy' will find you and you shouldn't have to work too hard for him. As for the guy you like now, tell him and if it works out who knows, the 'right one' could have been in front of you the whole time.
Hope this is what you were looking for. =]
~unluckychick~
Ok, This weekend I'm going to a party. The party is being held at a "certain person's" house and she tends to play lots of 'kissing' games. For one, the person I like is going so I'm kinda wondering what should I do if I get put with him for something. Should I be 'shy' or go for it?
Second, a lot of the guys going are kind of not my type at all so how would I go about kissing them if I had to?
Thanks a bunch =]
For the guy you like...
If you ask me, I'd say start off be acting shy, and then if he goes in for the kiss then I say go for it.
As for kissing the guys you don't really like...
Just be polite, smile, turn your face and offer them your cheek. If they move to get your lips, well, turn the other cheek. You are never under any obligation to let somebody kiss you on the lips, but a polite social peck on the cheek never hurt anyone. Basically offer them your cheek and follow up with a simple peck on their cheek.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckchick~
Ok well I did some reserching on the net and I only found lists of pick up lines. I wanted to know if they actually work. I know some of them are pretty bad and well some can be pretty cute.
I want to know if they actually work though...and if you have any cute ones, lemme have 'em. Thanks.
It all depends on the two people.
-If they are total strangers than alot of times they don't work because they're usually lame. (unless of course they're drunk ha ha)
-If they are friends then sometimes they work but not often. I found this cute one for you, its more cute as a story then a pick up line but w/e, I thought it was cute =]
Ask for the person's hand, then turn it to the palm side and point out: "There was a little bunny here and a BIG river here. The bunny wants to get to the other side, but he can't swim and it's too long a hop to go around. How does the bunny get over?"
They say: "I dunno, how?"
You say, "I dunno either, I just wanted to hold your hand."
Hope this is what you were loking for.
~unluckuchick~
I like this guy, Jake.
My birthday was this past Friday, and I invited Jake to my party. He said that he could come.
On Weds. or Thurs., he IMs me and says that he can't come. I figured that he got in trouble or something legit had actually come up.
I just found out that he decided not to come so that he could go to Six Flags with a girl that would soon become his girlfriend.
I'm kind of bothered by this, but I'm not sure if I should talk to him about it or not.
If you were in my situtaion, what would you do?
PLEASE TYPE CORRECTLY!!
Well, I'm guessing that you and Jake are friends so if I were you, I would talk to him about it. Just tell him it upset you that he lied to you. Do NOT bring the other girl into this though. Casually say something on the lines of: "I didn't appreciate you lying to me and saying you couldn't come, you could have just told me you were going to six flags, I would've understood".
Based on the fact that your still having birthday parties I'll assume that your still pretty young... After saying that, he's not the only guy in the world so if it doesn't work with this guy, your life is not over.
Hope this is what you were looking for =]
~unluckychick~
This is so frustrating. Here's the deal:
I'm currently in a play. The lead, we'll call him Luke or something, is absoutely gourgous. Whenever we finish a performance, girls always flock to him. But you see, he has a girlfriend in the cast of 5 months. In order to speak to him, you need to gain her respect so she can approve of you. You see, it's really intimidating and hard to talk to him.
We're kinda friends, but I don't talk to him that much. We're acquaintances or whatever. Well, today I got really sick, and laid down and closed my eyes. It was during performance, so I sat out. A friend or two came in and asked me how I was doing after they left the stage. They sometimes would pat my shoulder then leave to change for the next scene. Well Luke came into the room, and I thought he was just going to ask how I was doing and then rush out. (you see, he is the lead, so he's always moving around) But instead, he asked how I was doing, then he bent down to my level and held onto my arm and kissed my cheek. The whole time, my eyes were closed so I had NO CLUE what was going on.
So... WHAT IS GOING ON?!
I'm going to see him and his girlfriend, for another month. What should I do? And was is just a friendly kiss or more?
From what I can tell, he definately cares for you. Not too many guys would do that if they didn't. As for the kiss and it's meaning, your guess is a good as mine. Perhaps you should as him aside from everyone, out of earshot but in view so there is no rumors or jelousy going on and just ask him what it meant, but make sure you ask in a casual way or it may get awkward.
Hope this helps. ♥
~unluckchick~
okay this is going to be kinda long to jsut bear with me. Me and my best friend have been messing around with this boy i like for the longest time. We have stuck notes in his locker....and money. My friend made him a myspace and ws tlkaing to all of his frends and then he found out it was us. ALL OF IT. Then we decided to try to see if we could get close enought o get a pictures of him...well he kinda saw us with that one to. Now we have found out that he has a myspace but it is set to private so we made up this girl named brooke and invited him. I was only wanting to see his profile but my friend want to talk to him so that is exactly what she did. NOw we have his aim...his phone number and we know where he lives.THe only problem is he has told us bunch of personal stuff and his dad just died and he is really close to brooke. he is telling her that he love her. I've talked to him a little over the internet as brooke but now everytime i think about it i relize how worng it is and i want out of the whole situation but the only thing is that no matter what i do i'll still hear about what they talked about over the internet from my friend and that makes me interested in what he says but i know that IF he ever finds out it was really me and her it would kill him. I don't know what to do because even if i haven't done hardly anyhting my name is still in it and my freind would probably make sure that it is because she doesn't want it dumped all on her .....which it really isd ALL her. HELP!!
You've mentioned many time's in your story that you know it's wrong so you should stop, and not just because you like him. Besides, your just helping him to fall for someone who's not you. In reality it is you, which makes this situation on your side, but you MUST stop. You need to tell him that "Brooke" is not a real person, but that you are the person behind "Brooke".If he starts to blame you for leading him onto someone who and that's not real you can tell him that he said he loved "Brooke", but she is really YOU, which means that in reality he does like you. Also, you must not lie to him on this "Brooke" because other wise this whole appoligy plan goes to the dust. As long as you havn't told him anything that isn't about you then it's all good. But you need to make sure everyone stops with this "Brooke", EVERYONE! and you should probobly delete the myspace.
Good luck with all this. ♥
~unluckychick~
I had this dream.. i kinda forget alot what happened but i remember i was in this house and played like a video game, and then i was stuck in the game and couldnt get out until i beat it. i forget all what happened in the game and such, but after i was with this boy.. like my cousin or something, and we had this like attraction to each other and brought each other closer and closer.. and i wrapped my arms around him, and we were soo close to kissing, but we didnt.. after that i was so caught in the moment i felt like tense or something, lol. but yeah.. does anyone know the meaning of this??
What I think about your dream is that you were in a way fantasising about this boy and your mind is either telling you to go for it or telling to move on, depending on how you wish to interpret the "almost kissing" part.
On another note, here is a site that I personnaly checked out and it seemed pretty good for this kind of thing. There are discussion rooms, and keyword + category searches.
http://www.dreammoods.com/
Here are some quotes from the site that may apply to your dream:
- "Emotions expressed in dreams is a way for people to act out their feelings which they would not normally express if they were awake".
- "If the dream ends just about you are about to kiss someone, indicates that you are unsure of how he or she really feels about you. You are looking for some sort of relationship with this person but you are not sure about how to go about achieving it".
- "If you are kissing a close friend, then it represents your respect and adoration for your friend. You are seeking some intimate closeness that is lacking in some waking relationship. It may or may not signify a romantic interest for him or her".
Hope this helps. ♥
~unluckychick~
I like him.
He's got a girlfriend
Their relationship is fading and i dont think he likes her anymore .. whenever he talks to any girl or is with any girl i get jealous, even if its not his girlfriend.If i see him even looking at another girl , i get mad and jealous.
Yes, he knows who i am and we used to be like friends with benefits..
how can I overcome my jealousy?
and please dont say TALK TO HIM, i cant really talk to him anymore
And I've tried moving on, and i cant.
so please help!
From what I can understand you want to move on and get over this guy but you can't because you love him. If you go with avoidance you may feel jelousy even when not around him so don't totally block him out. I suggest you find another group of people to hang out with so you don't have to be with him but still chill and subtly flirt with him. If he doesn't catch on you should somehow tell him how you feel...hope everything goes well...♥
~unluckychick~
14/m
a pretty good friend of mine told me she loved me last year and kinda asked me out. i told her it would be better if we were just really good friends and she said ok its cool. now im almost positive she moved on because at school dances and stuff shes dancing with other guys and flirting with other guys and she never used to do that when she liked me. but now i realized i have feelings for her and i wish i would've given her a chance. i just don't know what to do. i really really like her. any advice? like anything im so desperate.
If she had enough courage to actually tell you she loved you and ask you out, it will definately take her a while to truly get over you.
Girls usually use other guys to get over the ones they love if the feeling isn't returned. It seems as though your friendship has survived this situation once before, so I say go for it, just tell her you really like her and the odds are she's not completely over you and she'll give you another chance.
If you're a really shy person then you could always ask her to go to the movies or something, (alone or with other friends) and then while your waiting for the movie to start, tell her.
I think things should go for the best in your situation and I wish you luck. :)♥
~unluckychick~
Ok so this is really a question but also advice.
So there’s this boy in my Church group and I think he likes me but I’m not sure.
This one time (the first time I laid eyes on him) he kept smiling at me. And even when he knew I was looking he was still smiling for a few moments and I did too. But then looked away. Then later he asked if he could trade spots with the guy next to me so he could “talk to the other guy next to him” the guy said no though. But anyway, today I came in and I all the seats were rounded in a circle and so I walked in and there was a seat right infrount of me. It looked like all the other seats were taken. And it was right by him. I don’t know if he was saving a seat for me because his stuff was there and he moved them when he saw me come in. But I’m not sure. So then I sat down. And he actually started talking to me. and he asked me "Is that liipgloss?" he was mentining my keychain that had lipgloss on it. and I answered "Maaaabey" beacuse I thought yes sounded to cheesy and no sounded well rude and whatever. he smiled and said "can I use some? I need some" he said joking ly. He was smiling I could tell he was joking.so I'm like "yea...sure!" I said sarcasticly with a smile. at that moment I liked him. also his full attenetion was on me smiling. Then the teacher told me I got to go o the trip friady. "your going?" he asked. then said cool. he put his hand up for a high five So i highfived him. He asked me questions and asked if he could see my phone. Then I cought him once or twice lookling at me. And I’m not sure but I THINK I saw him put his foot near mine. But I was looking up, but I think I saw it at the end of my eye but I’m not sure. So mabee that doesn’t count.later when I was bored I forgot about the lipgloss convo and put some on. "So it is lipgloss!" he said jokeingly. I smiled. " you know I still need some." he said then laughed. I laughed too. So does he like me???
Ok...personally if I were to say those kind of things to someone I would have to like them somewhat at least as a friend...
I'll try to give you some definitions of the signs...
Interest in you: Ok...this is a good sign that he does like you...I can't tell how much by your text, I'd have to see it.
Smiling: This is a number one sign of likeness...once again, I can't tell how much by your text, I'd have to see it.
High five: This is a typical friends gesture, we all do it...
Lauging: Depends on how he laughed, like if it was sarcastic, then no...but if it was really laughing or giggling in a guy way..then yes.
Footsies: This means he wants to get closer to you, in what way I'm not too sure.
All this to say that I think he does like you and if you think it will work out for you, ask him out to the movies or something like that. Hope this helped.
~unluckychick~