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Im in this relationship with this guy that i've liked for a few years now. AT first he was only my bestfriend but then it got more when i told him i liked him. We went out once for about 3weeks and then i broke it off. About 2-3months later we got back together. Anyways its been a year now, and this guy, well he's the type of person that girls will be bestfriends with. Our relationship is great, and im crazy for this guy. Its just, i dont want to be. I hate that i care, and i hate that with him i get jealous. I dont want to care for anyone this much, this young. Ive tried not talking to him, ive tried ignoring him. Iv tried to tell myself, remind myself thats its only a crush. That it will end soon, but im lying to myself. But somehow, he always has me answering the phones, he has me waiting for his phones calls, i dont want to be tied down this young. But i cant help it. He just makes me smile everyday, he just makes life better. How do i STOP caring about this guy?
You should start by asking yourself WHY you want to stop caring about him. If there's something about his personality thT turns you off or bothers you then you can try thinking about and focusing on those attributes.
But it sounds like your reasons for wanting to distance yourself from him are not external (things about him or his behavior) but internal (YOUR own personal motivations and feelings). If he is as amazing and makes you as happy as you say, then why not allow yourself to fall for him? If you are afraid of being tied down, what are you afraid of missing out on? Decide whether the happiness that he gives you is worth not having random hookups with other guys.
If you're afraid of falling too hard and getting hurt, well, that's the risk we take for love, but hopefully it's worth it. If you're falling too fast, try limiting your time that you spend with him or talking to him. Don't spend EVERY moment with him, or you could become codependent.
The important thing is that you listen to your heart. Good luck! I hope everything works out well for you.
Can you get pregnet from giving someone a blow job
You can't get pregnant unless sperm goes near or into your vagina.
Some more information about pregnancy that I made:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
I am an 18 year old male, so you can't argue that I don't understand the situation. You are on here wanting us to say that it is okay to do what you're doing, when, although it is legal, it is far from ok. We are 18, so we are adults, but just barely. We've only been adults for a few months. Imagine if this had happened a few months ago, he would have been a pedophile and registered sex offender. Has so much changed in a few months? You have to realize that something is fundamentally wrong with him. Even though you will say "he's different, I know", I know that at 18, it's impossible to fully comprehend what is in his mind. He may seem more mature than any other guy you've met, and you may think you're more mature than any other 18 year old, but by pursuing anything more than a friendship with you, he is revealing that he is not very mature, or at least not wise.
Sorry if I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear, this is my honest advice and you can feel free to do what you want. Maybe he is different from all the other guys going out with girls half their age, if so, then my mistake. And yes, you did say you were thinking about something more than friends, when you said, "Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone". And by the way, yes I am 18, my birthdate is 9/18/92, I'm not sure why my page says I'm 17.
I was not trying to criticize you, insult you, or be condescending, I was merely giving the advice that I would give to anyone else who was in your situation. Good luck with whatever relationship or life decision you decide to pursue, I hope it works out for you in the end.
ok i had sex with like only 4 guys would you be able to tell. i mean would i be super loose or no if so is there anything icould do to make myself tighter again
It doesn't really matter how many guys you had sex with, the only things that really make a noticeable difference are:
-breaking your hymen-obviously would make a noticeable difference,
-having sex for the first time
-giving birth
You could try kegel exercises to make it tighter but really looseness after sex is only temporary; the vagina tightens back up after you're done.
I'm 14f and i really like this guy, we were talking last week about it and he told me he liked me, so i told him i liked him too. Since then, he's never even mentioned it. And lately, when i talk you him on msn, he's become kind of... unresponsive? I really have no clue about what's going on.
Maybe he's shy, or maybe he doesn't actually like you. Or maybe he does, and he doesn't know the next step to take, knowing that you like him too.
Your best bet would probably be to talk to him in real life and see what's going on, since it's pretty hard to be unresponsive in real life.
I am 17 and seeing an older man hes twenty five and hes married is that bad...?
Why would you ask that? You know it's wrong, and there's not even any advice you're asking for...
Anyone could tell you that an 8 year age difference when you're under 18 is illegal, regardless of which state you're in. Anyone could also tell you that seeing someone who's married is wrong.
You don't need advicenators to tell you this.
15/f
i've been hearing a lot about oral sex lately
um i was wondering, is it just me or does anyone else think it's absolutely DISGUSTING? or am i just prude or something?
thanks(:
It's not really disgusting, it can be a LOT more pleasurable than just using your fingers/hands, and keep in mind that it's all the human body, it's just skin. Certain parts of our body are not inherently "gross", it's all up to personal hygiene.
That being said, it is completely your prerogative to feel however you want about oral sex. It's not for everyone, and what you think is disgusting now you might enjoy later on in life.
So I've liked this kid, let's call him Chris, for about three months. I talk to him every day in math class, and we seem to get along pretty well. Last night, there was a dance at my school. A girl, call her Melissa, was dancing all slut-like with him (and pretty much every other guy). At one point, they were next to me dancing said slut-dance. While they were dancing, I glanced over at Chris and he was looking right at me. We made eye contact for a few seconds, and I know I should have held it longer, but I'm shy, so I looked down and away. This happened again about a minute later. To me at least, it wasn't normal eye contact. It was probably just a normal glance to Chris, but it made me catch my breath and when I think about it I get a warm feeling in my stomach. But could it mean anything that he was looking at me while he was dancing with another girl?
It seems like you might like Chris, but it could have just been a natural reaction from seeing him dance with another girl. It also seems like he MIGHT like you, because he was looking at you intensely even while he was dancing with someone else.
However, we don't know enough about your situation to know whether he likes you or not, and this indicator alone can't tell that.
okay so i was at my friend's house and her boyfriend was over and his friend was over too. we were watching a movie and his friend (we'll call him mitch) came and sat by me. halfway thru the movie his put his arm around me and like..rubbed his foot on mine. after the movie he said he had to go to sleep cuz he had to work in the morning. he left and then 5 min. later he came back and asked if i wanted to go lay down with him..and...well the bad thing is i did but nothing happened..we just cuddled. i dont even kno his last name. :/ missa 15/f
I don't know if you understand what booty call means; he was with you and he never called you.
You didn't hook up, and even if you did, there's nothing wrong with it. For it to be a booty call, he would have to be at home, or somewhere else away from you, CALL YOU, and you would come to where he was in order to hook up. This doesn't sound like that at all.
So, I'm fifteen & female. for the first time last weekend, my boyfriend and i had oral sex both ways. LIke he gave me oral & i have him oral. After it though, i felt like reeeeeal dirty. I mean, is that slutty or anything? I'm only fifteen and it just doesn't even feel right. Or is that normal the first time haha...I don't know, let me know, thank youu.
That's a normal age, but if you don't feel right about it, that's normal too. Never do something you don't want to, but don't worry about what happened.
I was wondering my girlfriend has a real big clit and her lips stick out a little bit and its a lot easier to get her to have a orgasm because her clit is easy to play with, other girls ive been with in the past there lips do not stick out and have a tiny little clit, does this mean when i messed around with them it didnt have the same effect?
Literally every girl's vagina and down stairs situation is different. There are girls with all shapes and sizes. Maybe it might be easier for HER to get an orgasm, but not necessarily because of her clit. Maybe it was just harder for the other ones to have orgasms. You never know. But all different sizes and shapes are natural and normal.
I just have to know. I have had nothing but pain with guys who have big dicks so why are all the other girls making such a big deal out of this?
For some girls, it doesn't matter, but for others it does. Girls who prefer big penises usually enjoy the feeling of being "full".
If it hurts you then maybe you're tighter than their penises, or maybe you didn't have enough foreplay to make it wetter and looser.
This guy who is two years older than me (i have known him for 2 years)Well we started talking and then we started talking about him fingering me or me giving him oral...I have seriously been considering letting him finger me..So what do you guys think.I would prefer comments that arnt saying im to young cause i think i am ready.I have a good head on my shoulders..Anyway what does it feel like and what do i do to be ready fer it?
Thanks :]
14 is not too young. And 2 years older is not too much of an age difference. People saying you need to be ABSOLUTELY sure are not giving you the best advice; while you should think that you're ready, being fingered is not like losing your virginity, in that it isn't a major step in your life and sexuality.
It can feel good if he has experience. There are two parts of fingering, rubbing the clit and actually fingering. Different girls prefer different parts, and you might prefer different speeds and intensities.
The important thing is to relax because with girls, it is hard for them to come if they don't relax. There is really nothing to be worried about.
I am in love with someone who doesnt care. there is no one to move on to and i need physical attention so i keep going back to him. I would just have sex with someone else but i just cant do it. i keep going back to the same guy thinking i am going to change his mind bc i think he really does love me back. i have gone long periods of time without talking to him and i miss him i dont want anyone else and i am not happy by myself
This is a tough one. However, if you don't feel equal in the relationship, it is not worth staying in. A famous quote goes "the power in a relationship lies with whoever cares less". The important thing is to leave when you see this coming. You should find someone else to take your mind off him, just keep in mind that you deserve someone who cares about you.
If I am off base, it's because I don't really understand the situation.
Heyyy. Okay so my boyfriend is fifteen (sixteen in a month) and is a sophomore. I am fourteen and a freshman. We haven't been dating long. Like, about a month and a half I think and almost everything is perfect. He's adorably cute and totally awesome. The one problem is he gets really protective of me around his friends. I guess you could say his friends are... bad? Hahah, I don't know... My bf isn't bad but his buddies are all sophomore boys and they you know, I guess, don't really respect me? Like one of them hits on me all the time and one like smacks my butt. They mean it jokingly and I know they don't actually like me, I think they just do it to make my boyfriend mad. And he gets mad... But he loves his friends and they really are nice but this is just how they pick on him. He like actually gets pissed at them and won't let me out of his sight if we're at like a party that they're at too. And I don't know, I feel bad for him. I don't know if there is anything I can do to help... Like is there any way I can help and make the situation better??? Just wondering. Thanks!
That doesn't really seem appropriate, for his friends to be hitting on you or smacking your butt. If that makes him unhappy, it should probably stop. Maybe re iterate to them that you are in a relationship with him.
25/F. I have only had sex once, when I was 19, and only for literally a few minutes. What could have gone wrong, did go wrong: the condom broke, the guy (same age) freaked out and panicked, told me to leave his apartment ( i know, total asshole), and I took plan B two days later. I got tested for STD's, and got a pregnancy test. The jerk did not even call me until a month later, only to ask if I had gotten my period. Seriously. Total prick.
To be clear, I was very naive at that point. I did not stick up for myself in the least, and did something I was not at all comfortable doing. I didn't even date this guy, and already knew he had a girlfriend. These are things I would NEVER, EVER even think of doing now, all these years later, but again, I was very naive and impressionable at that point in my life. I have grown, by a lot.
Now, all these years later, I am concerned about a couple of issues. First, I haven't ever had a real boyfriend. It is getting to a point for me where i should be meeting someone- but I am absolutely unwilling to just settle. I am just concerned because my previous encounters with guys have been meaningless-- i haven't even dated anyone in over two years. Second, the experience I had when I was 19 has made me wonder how I will react when I do have sex again. I have grown and matured by so much since then; I feel like a different person, in a way. But still, I think about how the situation was then, and how awkward I felt...how painful it was, how I didn't know what I was doing, etc. And it makes me wonder how I will, perhaps even unconsciously feel, when I have sex with someone who really means something to me. So I feel like I have built some sort of a wall. If a guy were to approach me, and we hit it off, I seriously don't know how a relationship would progress, how i would bring up that I'd only had sex once, and it was terrible, how I hadn't dated in a long time....so, so many issues.
Any thoughts and/or advice? If anyone has been in similar sorts of situations as me, it would be very helpful. Thanks
It's important that you've grown since you were "naïve and impressionable", and there's always a second chance. Personally, my first few sexual encounters were meaningless, and it wasn't until a certain girl that I realized how important sex can be, and how meaningful it can be if you truly care about the person.
If you date a good guy, he should understand about the sex, and guide you through your first (real) sexual experience with care.
When you feel like you're ready, that's when you can go back out there and start dating again. It's not true that you can "lose it" if you don't use it. You have to know what you are looking for in a guy. Then again, not every date has to be someone you will marry. There is such a thing as casual dating, it's harmless and can be fun. The key is to strike a balance that you feel comfortable.
So i met a guy named josh through a friend and i have hung out with him a couple times. Last night i hung with him at a party and we kissed for the first time. How can I tell if he is really into me or just using me?
He introduced me to all his friends.
Asked to drive me, mentions future times to hang out.
Did not go further than hooking up.
Held my hand everywhere we walked and talked and noticed my own frineds.
Kissed me goodbye =]
He does not sound like he's using you, but you didn't tell us anything that suggests that, or even what he might be using you for.
He sounds pretty sweet, but maybe update your question with more concerns.
Everytime me and my crush talk, I always end up saying stupid things..
He was talking about being a lefthanded pitcher and his height and how thats an advantage to him playing baseball.
And I didn't hear the last part, and I said 'Oh, so that helps you win, huh?'. I didn't mean to say win, but I often find myself saying things that I don't mean.
How can I stop being so nervous around him when I talk to him?
If you think about him as a person and not as a crush.
Maybe try pretending he's a girl, or another guy that you don't have a crush on. Thinking about him as a friend will help you feel less nervous around him.
Also maybe telling him how you feel. He will understand the nervousness.
okayy i'm 14 & i just seem to have met this great guy he's 18 and he's really nice to me and really a major cutieeee :) hes not a virgin / i still i am though. do you think he might just want to be using me for sex or what? should i trust him yet?
Not every person who is not a virgin is using people for sex. However, if he's 18 and you're 14, that's illegal in most states. Get to know him better as a friend before you trust him romantically.
15/f
I met this boy on espin and he is sooo nice and he lives 45 mins away from me and he gave me his cell number and he's supposed to call me today.
The thing is, when we meet in person how can I convice my mom to be okay with that?
She assumes that any boy you meet online is a murderer/pedophile. (and i agree with her but still...)
and if anyone has any espin the bottle success stories please tell them on here. thanks
Why don't you ask him if it's okay to bring a parent or some other adult, and if he says no, then he's probably a pedophile anyway.