hey! im a 16 yr old female from south east wisconsin. i been thru quite a bit of stuff and i have problems of my own...who doesnt have problems right? well anyways talkin is my thing. i kno that i love to have sum1 to just spill my heart out to whether im really close with them or not. if u have anything u want to ask me about pretty much anything feel free to. im always gonna be here if u need some help on something so juss give me a buzz....~!~xoxo~!~
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MK so theres a senior and hes the most perfect guy for me. and im a freshman. how do i get a guys attention and get him to talk to me. i see him everywhere though out the school and his locker is down the hall from mine. i'm like in love with him cause every time i see him i just feel so ughh idk how to explain but you know. i've been to his house before with a bunch of girls waiting for his bro whos myage to come home a year ago but i doubt he remembers me (link)
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sorry if this sounds mean.
but if you havent really ever talked to him or hung out with him..
you arent in love..
that would be call lust.
you are just attracted to him.
trust me.
it happens to every girl.
and guy for that matter.
but..
you really should try to make friends with him.
like the others said..
it probably wont just happen.
you have to make the first move at a friendship.
when you see him just be like.."hey whats up?"
it may not work out at all..
but just remember.
you are young.
you just started high school.
and there will be plenty more guys.
dont worry too much!
hope i helped.
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How do you know when to kiss someone?
"You'll just know" doesn't cut it for me, k?
Is it when you stare deeply into each other's eyes and happen.. to lean in closer?
Is that the right moment to kiss?
I'm really nervous. I have kissed people before but this is my first kiss in this relationship. Usually my "first kisses" with others.. were bad.
And I want to actually remember this kiss with him.
What is better.. lipgloss or chapstick?
And what will make my breath smell good?
[I don't want to constantly pop in mints] (link)
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not popping mints is a good thing..
coz if you're contstantly doing that..
he'll just think you're expecting the kiss..
and it will probably make everythig even more awkward.
mints= bad.
brush your teeth before you go out.
or before you hang out with him.
dont eat smelly stuff.
dont chew gum.
it makes your breath worse.
just..avoid gross smelly stuff.
and you should be fine.
for the kiss thing..
when you get to that moment..
where you both are like..leaning in..
just go for it..IF IT FEELS RIGHT!
dont do it if you're the only one leaning in..
coz that might mean he isnt ready..
so..
just observe..
and then go for it.
you cant expect the first kiss with him to be perfect..
because..
chances are that it wont be perfect..
and if you want to remember it..
you'll remember a horrible kiss!!
Lol.
hope i helped.
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I am 13yrs old and I want a byfriend.
Unfortunately I go to an all girls school.
How can I meet boys the same age as me? (link)
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just go places with your friends from school. like a movie or the mall. you'll be sure to meet some guys. but you are only 13. you do not need a boyfriend. boys can be the cause of a lot of drama between friends. especially in middle school and high school so just be careful:P good luck hun hope i helped
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ok, this friend of mine told me that this girl i really like deosnt like me but a friend of hers said she likes me , but shes afraid to hurt me if she brakes up with me. her friend said i should ask her out but my friend said i shouldnt. should i take the chance and listen to her friend and ask her out or not and listen to her friend? (link)
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best advice i can give you is to follow your heart. chances are that the girls friend knows her a lot better than your friend does. or you could just go straight to the source and ask the girl yourself if she likes you...just follow your heart. everything will work out in the end. hope i helped. best of luck.
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when my bf is 18 i will be turning 17 5 months later. it sounds not a big of a deal but he doesnt want to give my parents a reason for him to stop talkin to me so he is plannin to break up with me until i turn 18. he still will be close friends with me but i just dont like the idea. can someone help. my mom doesnt like him and wont get to know him bc of his skin color she thinks she has my whole life planned for me. (link)
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tell your boyfriend that you dont like the idea. tell him you dont care what your mother thinks about him and that she has no control over your future and who you will be with. then you need to talk to your mother. i 100% support inter-racial dating. if i was you id tell your mom that you love him..(if you do) and that her opinion of him doesnt matter to you. and that even if she thinks she is going to control who you are with in the future she is dead wrong. tell her you are almost 17 years old and that you are more than capable of making the decision of who you want to date. she cant tell you who to love. my parents tried the same thing but i didnt let their crap work. i dated who i loved. and eventually they grew to understand why i loved him and just how much i did. needless to say he and i didnt work out but thats a different story:P but really you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him you dont like the idea of breaking up and stuff...if it comes down to it that your mother tries to make you guys break up even if you and him decide that you dont want to break up...and you really want to stay with him...in most states once you are 16 you can get emancipated. that is pretty much where you get a job and prove to the govt that you can support yourself. and you pretty much divorce your parents. you and your boyfriend could get an appartment and stay together.:P hope i helped you out in some way or another. good luck. best wishes to you and your boyfriend
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I am 13 and have never had a bf. All of my friends laugh at me behind my back. I found this out after we had a school dance a couple of nights ago. I danced with this one senior who is kind of on the geeky side, but he's a really nice guy. He's also the only guy who asked me to dance, all the guys in my class don't really like me. Well I found out from one of my nicer friends that all these girls that I thought were my friends were laughing at me at the dance and saying that Lee (the guy I danced with ) was the only guy I could get. They were also laughing and saying what a geek I was for never having a bf.
I was really hurt and felt like crying. Since when is it a crime to have never had a bf? I know girls a lot older than me that arent dating.
What should I do? (link)
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its a shame that you call those people your friends. they dont seem like very nice people but then again i dont know them. but let them laugh and have their fun with it. you are in what 7th grade? if you dont have a boyfriend chances are that are that you arent having sex...so when all your lil friends get pregnant at 15 you can show em up n show em you actually have a chance at a normal adolesence. dont beat yourself up about it. girls are teh suck.:) hope i helped
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I've been going out with this guy for ages. He seems perfect. He has a great body etc etc. Thing is i have loads in common with this other guy, and i really like him. I go all girly everytime i see him. I really really like him! Im 15 and my bf is 17. The guy I like is in the year below me. Hes not the best looking either. But when my boyfriend and i have sex all i think about is this other guy. What shall i do? (link)
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worst thing i person can do is stay in a relationship that he or she is no committed to. and clearly you arent very committed to your boyfriend...i mean having sex with him and thinking about someone else the whole time? yea i definetly advise you to break it off with your current boyfriend before his feelings for you get too deep and you end up really hurting him. if you do decide to break it off with him do not use any corny lines just straight up tell him you dont see a future with him. just be honest with him...if anything he should appreciate your honesty.
hope i helped.
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Okay. Tonight is obviously MARDI GRAS! & I live in the STL area which means ITS GONNA BE CRAZY down there. Im only 15 but my boyfriend is 18 and i really wanna go. He's going and obviously i wanna be there so he doesnt look to much. But how am i supposed to go? My mom is kinda strict and im thinking i should tell her because if I lie and tell her were goin other places and we get caught ill be in big trouble plus she'll want me home around 12:30. So should I just tell her? & Tell her ill call every 1-2 hours to check in. None of the people Im going with will have been drinking or will be drinking. That Im the only girl going with them and they wont let me out of their site. & if its a problem with Trust. Ive never gaven her a reason not to trust me neither has my boyfriend. So if she still doesnt trust us how is she ever going to if she doesnt give us a chance to prove that we can be trusted... or should I just lie to her?
WHAT SHALL I DO!?
Please get back to me by 4 30. Mideastern? --about 2 hours from the time this is submitted.
THANKS!
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how about you stop worrying about your boyfriend "looking too much" hes an 18 year old guy dating a 15 year old. wtf let him have some time to himself. you dont need to watch his every move. hes 18 by now he should be slightly more mature than a complete idiot. dont go! let him do his thing.
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I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea? (link)
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download this song. josh tobin- she fricken blocked me. my advice is to block him from contacting you anymore. he sounds kinda creepy so i think that is what i would do. good luck.
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Okay this might be kind of confusing but bear with me please. So at the end of summer last year, I met this guy, Joe, through my best friend, Liz. Joe dated one of Liz's good friends, Grace. They dated for about 2 & 1/2 years and then at the beginning of summer, they broke up. So now its September, and Joe with his friend come by Liz's house, and I'm there with her. So I meet Joe, I knew who he was and about him & Grace and I thought he was pretty cute. He thought I was really cute too. He liked me and all. I wasn't even THINKING about me and him together, the thought of US never came to mind. I felt like I had no chance. Grace (his ex) was unbelievably gorgeous and so much different from me.Well anyways, so we started hanging out. He'd come by more often and we were both very shy. Later I found out that one of the reasons he fell for me was because I was so quiet. But anyways, so we would hang out; play tennis and just hang out with friends. I also got drunk for the very first time with him -- and that's a very goodmemory. I remember how he was so worried about me geeting home and everything that day. Ahh memories. We went downtown by the lake and shopped and everything. Then one day, we were walking, just the two of us, and we kiss. Later on the walk home, he told me about how he wanted to kiss me sooner but that didn't work out cause it was never good timing with his friends and all. So yes, then the following week we would hang out and kiss :) and talked online. He asked me do I see him as a boyfriend and all that and talked about us dating. The next time we hung out, he asked me out. It was perfect. I never met a guy like him. Never dated ANYONE like that. Too perfect for words. It was awesome, the best time of my life. Everything was going great, I couldn't have been happier. He was a bad boy, ditching school, band with his friends, typical guy stuff. But I was always able to count on him. He always chose me over his friends, and even stopped drinking. We went to different schools, and then I started working with my dad, so things got harder. He had his friends drop him off whenever just so he can see me -- it was like a dream come true. My prince charming had come. But meanwhile, Grace (the ex) found out and went crazy. She hated me and my friend/her friend for letting it even happen. She had people watching me and threating me all the time on the interenet that they're going to kick my ass for dating Joe. But I didn't care. My friendshad my back. I remember when Joe was over and I wasn't supposed to have anyone over, and he was over and my dad came home, haha... he ran out the back door and jumped the gate and everything barefoot. Lol poor him left his shoes. He had written me a song and everything, we even wrote each other notes in school. Now back to the psycho ex-gf, well me and her were sort of friends, we just knew each other because of my best friend Liz. She would always follow me & Joe, (she had a car so was EVERYWHERE) and yeah. Then one day, me and joe sort of got into an argument. Me and my friend Liz and some of his friends were all walking around the nieghborhood onour way to chill at this one park. His ex would drive by and stop and talk to Joe's friends. We were with a bunch of friends all walking when these little 12=14 year old were with us and they were talking shit to joe about me and just because bitches and giving me and my friend attitude so I wasn't gonna deal with it and me and my friend Liz turned around and left. He didn't even bother to go after me or call. I regret doing that, I know he must have gotten mad, I remember when I hung up on him, that upset him also. but anyways, so the same day I call him. And I call again. And I call again. No answer. Same thing the following day, Saturday. Then Sunday I call all day. Finallly I try one last time on SUnday night and Grace picks up. And she said he's with her now and all those times he wasn't with me, he was with her. I dropped the phone. It was crazy, my friends wanted to go right over there and beat her up. But I thought about and decided just to forget it. Lateron, I signed online and he was on -- so I instant messaged him. And I yelled at him and everything and then signed off and cried. And cried. I thought I got over him, I was into another guy -- well then he chose another girl over me, and yeah. Then he came back and I rejected him and all that because I'm not gonna deal with someone liek that. SO I really don't even know what I'm asking. Him and Grace have been together ever since. I ran into both of them the other day at a store which was really awkward, he was with his friends in the store and I was with mine. Then they left the store and his girlfriend -- Grace -- and his sister come in. Then they leave and are waiting outside in the car for us. We goto our car and trhey pull up and then she says something and flicks us off and drives off. But anways, I just can't seem to get over him. Its crazy cause this all happened quite a while ago. Maybe its just because he was my first SERIOUS boyfriend? I have no idea what to do... and I really want to believe that one day WE WILLE get back together. I just hope and pray something along the way will happen and we will be together.Like today for example, I felt like breaking down and crying. I went with my friends downtown, on the train. And they were with their bf's and it reminded me how we used to be like that. Last time I took the train was with him. We went to musuems on Columbus Day. Memories :( It was just so heartbreaking. Do you think that we will get back together? People say "THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!" and I wanna follow that, because well thats how I met him. I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. ANd now every guy I look at or my friends want me to meet/date, I just can't. And it kills me because I want to be with him and no one elsre. DO you thinkin it's possible for us to get back together? Maybe later on in life? It was my mistake because I was always so shy and not really OUT with my feelings, and I regret not telling him how I feel, he always thought I didn't like him or anything. Although we dated for only about 2 months, the memrories and the times we had together even before we began officially "dating" ... they mean soo much. I just wish I had another chance. Do you think it's possible for us to ever get back together? Do you think he ever thinks about me the way I think about him? Is there ANY chance of us getting back together in the future? (link)
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sorry to say sweetheart but he is your ex for a reason. i went through something..and even a year after me and my first true love broke up i wanted him back...just leave him be and give yourself time to get over him. thats what i did. dont talk to him dont look at him...just leave it be...and then...try callin him on his bday or something to say happy bday (thats what i did) and now me and my ex are cool. he appreciated the fact that i remembered his bday...guys arent all complete jerks....they appreciate the little stuff sometimes...well..me and my ex are cool now..and a friendship is better than nothing. even if you and your ex never get back together..just try for a friendship...thats the best advice i can give..just make sure that you get over him beofre you try to be his friend again. coz if you arent over him and try to be his friend it wont work. coz you'll be hurting the whole time. best of luck sweet heart. hope you find someone who treats you right...
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Every time I get my boyfriend to have a boner he covers it up, what does that mean? It doesn't bother me that he has one but what is he trying to like hide? (link)
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my advice..dont be too serious about it..but laugh and be like "why do you cover it up its not like i dont know its there silly.." or something along those lines..you get my drift? just like jokingly say it...dont be too serious..basically just make the situation a little lighter and make him feel more comfortable...he'll stop being so shy eventually..
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so i got my boyfriend some gifties for vday. but i wanna know what are some cute things i can do for him during the school day (between periods).
i'm thinking maybe putting a sticky note in his locker for every period. but idk. i'm a lame idea maker. (link)
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personally im not a big fan of valentines day..stupid hallmark holiday 8-| but yea...dont go too overboard with it..might scare him away if yall havent been together for very long..but if you're in a serious committed relationship..then just..put a single rose in his locker...with a ribbon around it that says "with love, always and forever." or something like that...its cutesie and its not too much.:P good luck
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Do guys enjoy biting on the bottom lip during kissing?
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yea i think its hott as hell....biting the bottom lip is a total turn on...at least for me it is! good luck!
~nichole lynne~
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I've had a boyfriend for like 4 months. He's my first. He's really shy and so am I. Since both our parents are really strict I can only see him at school. I really want to kiss him on the lips but I'm too shy and I never seem to have the right time to. Please note that Im thirteen 1/2. My eight grade year has been great. Middle school is almost over, and I wanna have my first kiss, now. How can we both get over being shy when we see each other? (link)
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you need to see him other than just in school...having a boyfriend that you only see in school is lame...especially because school is almost over...duh...talk to your parents about gettin to know him and stuff...and if they refuse...sneak out and go spend time with him duh! then you will both get over being shy...it just takes time hunnie best wishes
~nichole~
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My best friend lives in another state. She thinks shes in love with this guy who's 17 (my friend is 14/f). I've never met him, but i really don't trust him. He's currently in jail, and he has a baby on the way with his Ex-girlfriend. I really want to help my friend, but she thinks shes in love with this criminal. he was arrested for drunk driving! SHe doesnt want me to judge him, but i cant help but judge him! what am i supposed to do? should i support her, even though i think she's gonna get hurt, or should i keep trying to convince her not to keep giving this guy everything he wants? (link)
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you have never met the guy...you have no place what so ever to judge him on his past...you have no place to tell her to stay away from the guy...yes as her best friend you can tell her that you personally dont trust the guy and that you care about her a lot and dont want to see her get hurt but in the end it is up to her...he may be in jail for drunk driving but at least he is serving his time...many people run from the police so they dont have to go to jail...he is fulfilling his punishment and paying for his mistakes and the jail time will probably get him to learn from his mistakes....and the baby thing...accidents do happen...condoms break...the pill doesnt ALWAYS work... but dont get up the guys ass about having a kid...as long as he takes care of his responsibility then he is already better than thos dead beat dads out there that bail on their kids...give the guy a chance..everybody deserves a chance just let him prove himself to her and you...and anybody else that he needs to...if he loves her then he will...if not then..well then it just wasnt meant to be...she may get hurt in the end but she has to make her own choices...
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Yesterday my boyfriend of six months broke up with me. We broke up because he has to work this summer and he says itll be really hard for him to just see me for one day a week instead of the six that were used to. I was so sad after hearin this, I cried almost all night cause i really miss him. Now last night he started to second guess himself, and he tells me how he made a huge mistake and he didnt think it thru. Well he wants me back for the summer. What sould i do, I do really like him amd want him around. Should i let him back??? just be friends??? or take a step backwards and say were just dating again????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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take him back...everybody deserves a second chance...its not like he cheated on you or dumped you so he could go have a one night stand with somebody and then wants you back...the boy made a mistake...everyone makes mistakes...take him back and then come the end of summer right before school starts if you guys are still together and are doing really well then you talk about what you are gonna do when he goes to a new school...best of luck to the 2 of you hope it all works out
~nichole~
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 about 5 weeks now. But i recently found out that his best friend likes me and i have liked his bestfriend since last year. I dont wannna hurt anyone by saying i dont wanna going out w/ so and so but idk what to do. Should i dump my boyfriend 4 his bestfriend because i have liked him longer or should i stay w/ my boyfriend and just have a big crush on my bfs best friend? I dont wanna hurt anyone! (link)
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thats a tough situation...if it was me i wouldnt date either of them...just break up with your boyfriend and tell him that you want to be good friends with him...and stay good friends with that other guy too...and then...if you do end up being in love with one of them then u date the one you're in love with...but dont rush anything ya kno?
best wishes
~nichole~
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im 14 and im a girl, well theres this kid that i like and he likes me too, but i dont think he will ask me out because hes afraid that i will say no. I dont know if i should ask him out or just wait to see if he asks me. what should i do? (link)
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ok well if you arent comfortable just asking him out just make sure to hang around him and drop little hints that you like him...keep it subtle though dont go too overboard with it coz then it might scare him a little bit...you kno how guys are about that stuff...lol...well just make sure to keep droping hints to him and then if it takes him too long and you feel more confident about asking him yourself then go for it...best of luck hunnie
~nichole~
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I know this is long but please don't skip it. Ok, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years and we've known each other for 4. I just had a baby by him. He's willing to help and he's been trying but the problem is my parents. They are extremely religious and they said that he could have nothing to do with the baby. I was 16 at the time I got pregnant and he was 20. I am now almost 18 and he's 23. My parents said that if he got involved at all with Christian, our son, then they would have him arrested for rape. They said that the only way he can get involved is if he comes and asks for "my hand in marriage" We're not in love though and it's not right to marry someone just because your parents want you to. We know that we made a mistake but we are trying to be responsible about it. But my parents are making it difficult. My father is always at work and my mom is sick now so things are tough around here. I wanted to call my bf and see if he could take christian until things got better or maybe we could work something out but my dad flipped out and said that if i did he would have him arrested. They also took my keys and I had to listen to a lecture about jesus to get them back. They said that they would rather put Christian up for adoption than have him go to his father. My question is can my bf get arrested for rape even though it was a while ago and I dont' want him to be? And also if they put him up for adoption wouldn't his father get rights to him anyways?
Please help me
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get a job get sum money...once ur 18 get the fuck out of ur parents religious reign over you...dont let them control your life and certainly not your sons life...every child deserves to have both of his parents in his life whether his parents are together or there is joint custody...its better to have 2 parents around than 1 trying to play both parts...you arent in love with your boyfriend and christian is your son...once you are 18 your parents have no control and only you can press charges on him...just hold out on lettin your boyfriend be a part of christians life until you are 18 then it is completely your choice and your parents have no say over your actions...best of luck hunny...dont let your parents stop your child from having his father in his life...
~nichole~
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Can someone explain the bases to me plz? I feel really stupid, but whatever. (link)
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ive always said it like this:
1st base- making out
2nd base- feelin up (up the girls shirt and stuff)
3rd base- fingering, hand job, blow job, eating out
home- fuck
thats just how ive always said it...there are many ways it could be...but most of the people i kno go by the system said above!
happy fuckin!
~nichole~
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