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I'm worried about her
My best friend lives in another state. She thinks shes in love with this guy who's 17 (my friend is 14/f). I've never met him, but i really don't trust him. He's currently in jail, and he has a baby on the way with his Ex-girlfriend. I really want to help my friend, but she thinks shes in love with this criminal. he was arrested for drunk driving! SHe doesnt want me to judge him, but i cant help but judge him! what am i supposed to do? should i support her, even though i think she's gonna get hurt, or should i keep trying to convince her not to keep giving this guy everything he wants?
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you cant protect your friend from everything, especially since she lives in another state. you need to let her learn from her mistakes, but if you insist differently, talk to her saying that you just dont get why a 17 year old dude would want to go out with a 14 year old. if she still doesnt get it, let it go. atleast you tried.
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Personally, I think you should keep telling her, and telling... and telling her that that guy is dangerous and you KNOW it, even though you have never met him. That's pretty awesome... Anyways, you need to tell her to get away from him. He's bad news, all the way. If his ex-girlfriend is preganant from him, no tellin' what he could do to your friend. He could rape her if she refuses to do somethin' he wants her to do. If he gets drunk at only 17 years old, that's IT! He's outa the picture! You need to tell her that Kayla (me) says to get her butt away from that little fella cuz one day, she's gonna have an accident with him or he's gonna rape her, take her to court, and then, be proven innocent!
Please tell her now... you could save her life one day... even if you aren't in the same state.
Best of luck.
HJope I helped.
~~~Kayla~~~
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No don;t support her. Let her know exactly what she is in for. YOu can see it. You may not be able to stop her, but don't condone it. He is being nice to her because he is in jail and has no one else. I feel bad for that poor girl who is having his baby. This man will never be a good father or provider or husband. WHy not find out his real name, and do a search on him in Google. Then go to her city newspaper's website, and search on his name. All the times he has been arrested his name will be in the paper. Here is another thing. Each state has a Government page. On that page is a link to JUDICIAL proceedings. CLick on that link. Go to a nother link that will read something like case look up or party name look up. YOu will be able search on his name and you may even be able to find out what he has been arrested for. Wether or not he has any additional paternity suits agains him. If he has ever been arrested for domestic violence. If you have trouble let me know what State she lives in and his name, and I will try and find the link for you. Criminal cases are all a matter of public record. It is not against the law to do this.
Gee, I hope no one is paying attention. ha.ha.
Michele
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you have never met the guy...you have no place what so ever to judge him on his past...you have no place to tell her to stay away from the guy...yes as her best friend you can tell her that you personally dont trust the guy and that you care about her a lot and dont want to see her get hurt but in the end it is up to her...he may be in jail for drunk driving but at least he is serving his time...many people run from the police so they dont have to go to jail...he is fulfilling his punishment and paying for his mistakes and the jail time will probably get him to learn from his mistakes....and the baby thing...accidents do happen...condoms break...the pill doesnt ALWAYS work... but dont get up the guys ass about having a kid...as long as he takes care of his responsibility then he is already better than thos dead beat dads out there that bail on their kids...give the guy a chance..everybody deserves a chance just let him prove himself to her and you...and anybody else that he needs to...if he loves her then he will...if not then..well then it just wasnt meant to be...she may get hurt in the end but she has to make her own choices...
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Good job on judging him as bad. Let her make the wrong choice. If she wants to fall in love with some retard who wont support the family they could have. LET HER. She'll find out soon enough how big her mistake was.
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