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A lot of people judge me on what they see but never really know whats going on. I'm not close to perfect and I'm not afraid to show it. So many things have happened to me that it seems surreal sometimes. But now I'm finally happy with myself and my life. So haters keep hating because I realized how blessed I truely am.


advice

um
i dont have any falts and i think were just tay at my house.. so i dont know about shoes

but yeah um can you recomend any movies
comdeys that we could watch

That's fine wear whatever shoes you feel comfortable in then.

Some comedies I would recommend are
-Nacho Libre
-Not Another Teen Movie
-Scary Movie 1,2,3, or 4
-The Break Up
-Click
-Only Human
-Napoleon Dynamite

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Hey um you just answered my question about my guy friend whos coming to my house.

Um how can i be less nervous like any tips you have

and i think he wants help makeing a myspace..

and what isnt to dressy that i can wear

Hey Tory,
Well first I'll start off with some tips to help you stop being nervous.
1)Don't think to much. Don't try to think everything through. Ofcourse you shouldn't say everything that comes to your mind, but don't take forever just to respond to his questions or think about your next move.

2)Relax and don't stress. This date should be fun, not stressful. So try to enjoy yourself. If you are enjoying yourself, chances are he will enjoy himself. But if you are stressing yourself, chances are he will stress himself.

3)Flirt. Flirting is a fun and easy tool to help make the date even better. Laugh, smile, and give him a few compliments. Let him know that you are glad that yall decided to get together.

Now I will give you some tips on how to dress.
*Keep it simple but cute.*
DON'T
-wear a lot of makeup
-wear heels, stilettos, pumps
-wear tennis shoes (I don't recommend wearing tennis shoes because its to casual, but if you feel comfortable with tennis shoes then go for it but make sure they are clean)
-put on to much accessories
DO
-wear a little eyeliner
-wear some cute flats
-wear a cute blouse/shirt
-wear a skirt with some leggings or some nice jeans
-wear just a necklace or a couple of bracelits

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Hey! 15/f

I am really confused about my relationship with this guy that i met really reacently.

I met him outside of target while i was sitting in the car while my mom was inside. After a while of glanceing at each other he came up and knocked on my window and after talking for a little while he asked for my number.
We have been text messageing each other for a little over a week now and he wants to come vist me at my house. Since i have only seen him in person once it will be really werid for me and i am realy nervous about it. He wants to come over tammarow and see me. We both like each other and he is really sweet, but since i havent had a boyfriend before ans i dont hang out with very many guys im extermly nervous.
Do you guys have any tips onwhat we could do?
What to wear?
and Just and thing in general would be great!
Thanks so much!!!
Tory

1)Don't be nervous, trust me it will show. Just be yourself. Act as if you were hanging with one of your friends (just cut out all of the girly stuff)

2)Wear something simple but cute. You don't want to dress to nice because then it will look like you were really really trying to impress him; and sometimes that can be a turn off. I suggest something like a skirt with leggings and a cute shirt or some jeans and a cute shirt.

3)If he is coming over your house you guys could either watch a movie or walk around your nieghborhood. If yall decide to walk around then that would be the perfect chance for yall to talk more and get to know each other better. If yall decide to watch a movie that would also be a good choice. It would be really romantic and you wouldn't be pressured to have a lot of conversation. The type of movie you pick to watch will also help set the mood. If you pick a horror movie, you could get close to him on the scary parts. If you pick a funny movie, it would definitely be enjoyable because yall will be laughing most of the time.

I hope I helped you, but if not feel free to write me back.

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What is the safest and most inexpensive way to meet nice single guys? I already know it's not at the bar or on dating sites! Does anyone have any ideas?

It depends on your age. If you are a teen then these are some places I recommend.
-mall
-skating rink
-parties
-I'm not sure about where you live. But where I live there is this place called Flipper McCoys(its basically like a more mature Chuckie Cheese for teens)
-Carnivals
-ice cream polar
-beach

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I'm going to a new school this year she I don't have a lot of friends. There's a guy that talks to me, whose name is Alex. He has been nice to me unlike anyone else and he's fun. I think he's wanting to take things past friendship, but i'm not sure if he's a good person to get involved with. He's (from what he's said) probably not a virgin and he cusses a lot. I'm a Christian. Is he just going to drag me down? Should I even continue our frienship? I'm afraid of being all alone again without any friends. I'm not good at starting conversations or getting to know people.

You should want someone to lift you up and help you along the way in your Christian walk and your everyday life. If he already does things as a friend that may show signs of him draggin you down. Then I definitely wouldn't go with him. But its okay to be his friend. Who knows, maybe you can help him out.

There is a simple little secret to making friends and that is to be friendly.
-Smile
-Hold your head up
-be yourself
-laugh and be happy

You said your not good with conversation starters so here are a few that should help you.
-hi mi name is...what's yours
-are you from around here
-so what classes do you have

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13/f
are there any ways to get a guy to kiss you? i have a boyfriend but its very awkward whenever we want to kiss. how can i loosen the tension and enjoy the moment?

Send him signals that you want to kiss him.
-Be a little touchy
-look him in the eyes
-keep your breath minty fresh
-lick your lips
-stare at his lips

DON'T THINK when you are kissing him. Just enjoy it. Don't worry about if you are doing anything wrong.

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my gf is always flirting with this other guy at my school and it really pisses me off cuz she barly talks to me anymore can someone tell me a way to get her bak to me

The best way to get a girl back is to let her know how you feel. Be straight and upfront about the situation. Let her know that you are uncomfortable with her always flirting with that other guy and that you would rather she flirt with you. But not only should you tell her, you should also show her. Make her want you. Be a gentlemen, do more things to make her laugh, and show her that she is an important part of your life.

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ok so i've been talking to this guy online and we never have anything to talk about!

what are some things we can talk about?


Ask him how his day was and tell him how your day was.
Talk about
-your plans for the weekend
-if you want school to start or not
-new movies
-new songs
-tv shows
-friends
-drama

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okay i was on this website and this guy got my aim s/n from it and we started talking. he kept askin me so many questions like what do you look like? how old you are? where i go to school at? and if i have a b/f. so i answered everything not honestly cuz i dont no if he is a stalker.lol. then he finally asked if we could meet sometime. my question is should i continue to talk to him because it seems like he wants a relationship which would mean we have to meet. and i do not want to meet with him in real life cause of all those sick people out there. so should i continue to talk to him or what do i do? will rate high. thanks!

I don't think you should continue to talk to him. Its so many crazy people in this world. I think you should also be careful about giving your information out on the internet because that can also be dangerous.

I wish you the best. Be safe.

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14/f...i've always been REALLY shy around anyone who isn't one of my best friends. especially around guys. even if i don't have a crush on the guy and even if i'm friends with the guy i still get nervous and i'm really shy. so i have a hard time meeting guys. im not like boyfriend obsessed or anything but i've never had a boyfriend and i'll be going into 9th grade next year. i'm just saying that it would be nice to have a boyfriend. i know i'm not fat at all i'm 5'3" and i weigh around 105 (i don't know for sure since i haven't weighed myself in a while) i just have a problem with my face. i have braces and REALLY bad teeth. like i'm actually missing a tooth (it never grew in after i lost the baby tooth and there is no tooth to grow in) and one of my teeth is like disfigured and is a peg tooth. once i get my braces off (which is in July!!!) i'm going to get surgery done and they will put in a fake tooth and fix up the peg tooth. i also have very oily skin and break out often. i'm doing what i can to help my skin and i use acne products..i'm just not that patient. so i could use some help with my confidence. what are some things to do to help boost my confidence level? because i know that guys like girls who are confident.

also i get really stagefright and i can't talk in front of the class. i blush easily too.

i'll rate 5's for anyone who tries!

Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Everyone has features that makes them beautiful, yours may be your hair, body, etc. Find your best feature and flaunt it. If it is your eyes then put eye makeup on, if it is your bodytype then wear clothes that show off your body like shorts, tank tops, tight pants (not too tight). You have to believe for yourself that you are beautiful. Once you believe that, guys will also and they will become more attracted to you.

To overcome your stagefright you must forget about all of your worries. Don't worry if people will laugh at you or not like your performance. Just worry about getting the job done and having fun. Because no matter how hard you try you will never be able to please everyone. So just be yourself and leave your fears behind.

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If the guy you like, asked you if you liked him, what would you say? Should you tell him the truth and take the risk, or just tell him you don't like him and keep it all inside for him to find out?
Thanks.

Life is full of risks. Take the risk and tell him if you like him or not. Who knows he might even like you back. If he doesn't like you then you can move on to the next guy and if he does like you then you and him may have a future. But that future won't come to past if you don't take the risk.

So I say go for it.

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ok I like this guy at school lets call him mark I really like him alot hes more of one of the preps and im not exactly a prep but im not a total geek im just not a crowd person i have friends and everything im normal but he kinda gives signels to me in this one class i have like talking to me alot and also like makes me laugh and smiles at me are they signals or his he nbeing friendly i flirt but i dont know if he is but the last day of school is aproching but i dont know if I have a chance!!! help

Okay since it is the end of the year almost everyone has yearbooks. In his year book put a message in there saying that you like him and was wondering if he likes you to. Also if you want you can leave your number in there and put keep in touch. Yearbooks are the perfect chance to let a person know how you feel.

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?

It is not good for him to like other girls. So make sure you ask him does he LIKE other girls or is he ATTRACTED to other girls. Those two words can make a big difference.

It's only natural for him to be attracted to other girls. But you are the one that he is attracted to the most. In fact he is so attracted to you that he has a relationship with you and whenever he compares them to you, they always loose. You should also think about it in reverse. I know that you are attracted to other guys. It could be thier looks or their personality. But its only natural for you to not think every guy you see is ugly. So basically what I'm saying is that you aren't going to be the only girl on his mind and he isn't going to be the only guy on your mind but when it comes down to it you all are on each others minds so much that you'll have a relationship built on honesty and trust together. He was honest enough with you to let you know how he feels. And he trusts you enough to let you know this and still know that you'll will be together.

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Do u think its to soon to give my number? I had met this guy at a party and I was attracted to him, I talked to him on myspace for the first time and I invited him to a party and gave him directions.......I also gave him my number incase he needs directions.

No I don't think so. I think that was perfect timing. So you have an excuse to give him your number. And that will soon lead to other conversations.

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ive known this boy for 7 months... we were going out since i met him and we broke up like 3 weeks ago. we argue when we go out and when we arent going out. hes in love with me but everytime i get mad at him it makes me just want to be his friend more and more. he doesnt understand. he always hides stuff from me when he finds stuff out. hes really sneeky too. he found out my password to get on my computer, to get on my email, to get on here, and to get on my buddypic [ x0xkayla ] check me out.. lol ! well since weve been brokin up weve still be hanging out and doing stuff like we would normally do when we are going out. but on my buddypic it said that i was single and i was looking for a boyfriend and blah..blah.. blah . and he was being nosy and saw it and started flipping out. hes not the tyoe of boy i want to be with but unfortually i fell in love with him. im trying to get him to forget about me but we were planning on going to cali on may 23rd and now its canceled because me and him are in a big argument. is there any way i can just get him to be friends with me or to get him to change his ways? i want to be with him but i want him to be a good person not always arguing with me and being nosy

-kay
i rate 5's

I think you are doing good by realizing that its better if you two only be friends since yall do less argueing that way.

The best way to let someone know how you feel is through communication. One day when you see him, take him in private and let him know that yall need to talk. Let him know how you feel about everything that has to do with yall's friendship and past relationship.

I think by acting the same way around him as you did when yall were going out is a big mistake. Doing this will lead him on. And you don't want to lead him on because then he will think you might want to get back together.

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ok what is the most romantic/creative way to get a girl's attention? and i dont want to do roses or jewelry, i want to do the only kinds of things girls dream about. any ideas? i rate high.

-Cook for her
-Sing to her
-Make her a scrapbook
-Write her a love note

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what are some cute flirty things that cna do with my boyfriend. like mess with him and still have fun and not get him mad. like he likes to mess with my fingers and put them in his mouth and etc. what are somethings i can do .. an ideas would be appericated.

-Touch his butt.
-Stare at him until he notices and when he asks you what you are looking at, say something like "nothing you are just sexy (or hansome)"
-Whisper in his ear
-Place your head on his chest when you all our sitting beside each other like on a date or something.

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ok well there is there really hot kid in my school and i really like him. hes really nice and we are good friends. the only problem is, is that he doesnt like me... he likes another girl.we like talk on the phone and stuff but he still doesnt get it.i really want him to notice me but in the halls all he does is act stupid around me

please help!!

Unfortunately you can't make someone like you.
If he has his eyes set on another girl then there isn't a way for you to get him until he stops liking her.
But I dont think you should wait around for him. Move on. There are other fish in the sea.
I know it is easier said than done. But with time you will get over him.

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Ok so here is the problem I have a serious crush on this boy let's call him Kyle. I am 14 so it's not just some stupid little kid thing, and no he isn't super popular. He's just there. He's always teasing me he likes to call me a turuturu. (they are cute little made up creatures) The main problem is I know he doesn't like me as more than a friend because he's gay. I keep telling myself I don't have a chance with him because he's gay but I can't get over him. What should I do?

Since he is gay and you can't change him I think you should try to move on.
Here are some tips on how to do so...
-think about other hott guys
-keep your mind off of him
-occupy yourself with fun things to do the time you would normally be thinking about him
*know that there will be other guys and he isn't your only hope
-everytime you think about how much you like him, think about him being gay

Hope I helped. I know you will get over him with time. Feel free to write me back if you need anything else.

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What are some things girls like guys to do at scary movies? Like hold their hands or what? We are going ot see the hills have eyes and i don't know if she would like it if i put my arm around her or anything... 13/m

If she gets scared then comfort her by holding her hand, putting your arm around her, or simply saying something like "It's okay."

Anything you do to comfort her when she is scared she will probably love.

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