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really need help!
Ok so here is the problem I have a serious crush on this boy let's call him Kyle. I am 14 so it's not just some stupid little kid thing, and no he isn't super popular. He's just there. He's always teasing me he likes to call me a turuturu. (they are cute little made up creatures) The main problem is I know he doesn't like me as more than a friend because he's gay. I keep telling myself I don't have a chance with him because he's gay but I can't get over him. What should I do?
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Ok listen even though he is gay give it a shot you could be the hero and you could change his mind about the way he loves people!!!! go ahead be the hero let me know how it works out
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It's a common phenomenon for people who are either not yet ready for a relationship or who aren't ready for ANOTHER relationship to fall for the unobtainable. Often this takes the form of a celebrity "crush", but sometimes the object of affection will be known in real life but difficult or impossible to actually obtain. It sounds like you are preparing yourself for the rollercoaster feelings a relationship can bring without the possibility of being deeply burned. Remind yourself he is gay but enjoy his company; pining over him is perfectly healthy if doesn't last for too long and you have no misguided beliefs that you can convert him to be straight. No matter how wonderful I know you are, his sexual orientation is not subject to change because of you. Good luck!
-WBL
P.S. Love will find you! Don't look so hard ;-)
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My friend Ash is helping me with this one. I wanted to give her credit =].
Honestly, you can only be friends with him. If he's gay nothing will change his mind. However are you sure he's gay? Make sure before you jump to any conclusions. I'm sorry.
But a good way to get over him is to find someone else. Yes, it will be hard but it's the only thing you can do
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Well you should start hangin out with different guys and mabey it will take your mind off of "Kyle". you could find another guy for you. Plus i dont think "Kyle" would fall for you becuase he's gay.You cant help who you like though right? Well just spend time with more guys and it should get your mind off of him.
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Well since he is gay you should just move on because you will never have a chance to take things further.
Go out with other guys and pretty soon you won't have to worry about having feeling for him besides being his friend.
Something similar happened to me. This girl confessed her feelings for me, but i didn't feel the same way because i'm gay. She ended up going out with another guy and now we are just friends, so everyhing worked out great.
Goodluck
-Jake
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wow this is a pretty hard thing to deal with. In your case, I would have to try to get over him. I know that can be VERYY hard to do but you really have to try. Think about someone else and just be friends with Kyle. You may want to not spend so much time with Kyle anymore though because then you'll grow even more attached...Hope I Helped!!
- Samantha Lynn ♥
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Since he is gay and you can't change him I think you should try to move on.
Here are some tips on how to do so...
-think about other hott guys
-keep your mind off of him
-occupy yourself with fun things to do the time you would normally be thinking about him
*know that there will be other guys and he isn't your only hope
-everytime you think about how much you like him, think about him being gay
Hope I helped. I know you will get over him with time. Feel free to write me back if you need anything else.
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Well...you not guna be able to change him like "saved!" soo...don't go have sex and make a baby (if u saw the movie u'd know wah i mean) Anywho you have to realise there is no way for you to change him if he's gay. Almost all gay guys are hott yes but u also have to realise he's not goin to go for you..(srry to put it that hard on u). Pretend he has a girlfriend or he's married and there is no way you can break them up. Just move on...meeet new people, yes it's difficult to get over those boys but at the end of the day...there is alwayz a way out of the situation n many cows in the ffield!
Lol...lots of love,
JJ
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