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confused about him!!!
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?
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Dont break up with him. Every guy is looking at other girls if they have a girl friend or not. Just because he looks at other girls doesnt mean hes going to break up with you. You probly check out guys when hes not around and it perfectly normal. Plus he said that he compares u to them and your way better so if your so much better then dont worry about it. He loves you for who you are so it doesnt matter what you look like. So no dont break up with him. But if your not comfterble with him doing that then let him knoe but dont make a big deal out of it.
♥ jackie
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I'd ask more questions about why he'd even tell you something like that... I mean, it's a given that guys will look at other girls and think they're hot, that's not worth bringing up, it's just how people are. But the fact that he wanted you to know he "liked" them, well, that sounds like he's prepping for a breakup. Ask him some more questions about how he feels about you... if he's always on the lookout for someone better, he might feel like he's "settling" for you and wants to move on but can't.
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I think that it is compleltely normal for him to be thinking of other girls. What is not normal though is him comparing them to you. He shouldn't be doing that. Guys will always be attracted to more than one girl, but they will only love one at a time (normally.) I think that comparing other girls to you is like comparing two dresses, you pick the one that looks better. Right now, it seems he thinks you look better than all of them, but what happens if one day he doesn't think that? I hope that he loves you enough to realize that looks arn't everything. And it seems like he does. But comparing other girls to your girlfriend isn't right.
You might want to talk about this with him, tell him what you feel. In a relationship both people should be honest, and it seems like he is. Now its your turn.
I hope I helped.
Marta
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It is not good for him to like other girls. So make sure you ask him does he LIKE other girls or is he ATTRACTED to other girls. Those two words can make a big difference.
It's only natural for him to be attracted to other girls. But you are the one that he is attracted to the most. In fact he is so attracted to you that he has a relationship with you and whenever he compares them to you, they always loose. You should also think about it in reverse. I know that you are attracted to other guys. It could be thier looks or their personality. But its only natural for you to not think every guy you see is ugly. So basically what I'm saying is that you aren't going to be the only girl on his mind and he isn't going to be the only guy on your mind but when it comes down to it you all are on each others minds so much that you'll have a relationship built on honesty and trust together. He was honest enough with you to let you know how he feels. And he trusts you enough to let you know this and still know that you'll will be together.
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Actually, I sort of disagree with the other advicenator that gave you advice. This is how I would think about this situation, you should be the only girl on your boyfriends mind { unless its like an actress or a singer because everyone has celebrity crushes}, if he thinks that girls are hott, thats normal. But, there is no reason for him to have to compare other girls to you, even if you do win. Whats the point of comparing girls when your his girlfriend? Your not being selfish at all! I find it quite rude that he would actually tell you about the comparing thing. Not only is it rude to compare looks, but that he tells you that he likes other girls. You should be the only one he likes and loves. I suggest, if you dont feel comfortable with him telling you this you must talk to him. Its primal, girls and guys sort of have an "animal instinct" to like people. So, in a way, your boyfriend can like other girls { not going out with them or anything} but that he tells you about it is horrible. Hope I helped, Good Luck.
-Brina
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Well you can just leave him alone with his problem because my boyfriend always thought of his other girlfriend and he will always say her name to make me mad. Then i realized they broke up and now me and his ex-girlfrien are now friends. So don't breakup with him.
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