I've dealt with a lot of stuff. Suicide, abuse, and that girl that's only like 13 and not a virgin. And tons more. I really enjoy getting questions from people, but if you just want to talk for no or any reason, or want a more personal answer, I like it even better when people e-mail me. I'm cool with any topic. I get on my email/ site at least once a week.
P.S: sorry for what looks like bad spelling/ grammar, but really I just have a realllly bad touchscreen. sorry!
E-mail: divergirl123_1@aol.com
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Please tel the way to die? (link)
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I'm pretty sure we're not even allowed to do that, but.... The best way to die is this:
Live. Hopefully until you're 102. And sitting on your front porch drinking a glass of water while your husband or wife is reading you your favorite book, or when you close your eyes and remember all the things you've been through. That time you almost killed yourself? Nothing but a memory. But that time you fell in love or won that chamionship game or laughed so hard you snorted? Those times are everything.
Suicide is not Death. They are two different people. One takes over you, the other welcomes you in. This is a permanent reaction to temporary feelings. Smile, get help, and live.
-hope I helped.
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OK! I am a 14 year old girl and a Freshman. There is this guy I am close friends with that I finally admitted to myself that i like him he is a 17 year old M/Junior(I have known him for a year and I like him for his personality/ he just happens tp be cute ;D) In your answers please DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT AGE! I am VERY mature for my age, and we both have A LOT in common. But so i ran into him at a music store we both know about and HE broke the touch barrier TWICE by hugging me for the first time. I haven't seen him since then (that was middle july) but we text everyday which is very nice. I will see him soon however (We have a Band fundraiser and Band Camp coming up. BTW both of us have never been in a relationship before) and here's the problem. I really really want him to kiss me, Or at least hug me. It's kind of freaking me out because i have never had this 'wanting' like this before. (I know it is suspected that Older guys go for younger girls for easy sex but i know he wouldn't. He is one of those shy guys that haven't dated yet) SO THE QUESTION: How can I hint for a kiss from a shy guy?? I can do hugs easily. Thank you any advice is appreciated :) (link)
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You two sound like you do have a lot in common! And about the age, it is fine for any highschooler to go out with any other age highschooler. (I think in highschool and above age differences under fives years don't really matter, it's more like a middle-school rule.).And since he broke the touch barrier, I bet it's up to you to beak the personal barrier. Maybe wait until a party, or New Years would be the absolute best time, but it's kind of far away.. Ask around. Do his friends say he likes you? And I don't think he's just using you, seeing as how far back you two are, and that most guys just do it then go. Maybe on a good day, like one that means something to both of you, invite him to the movies, and when you're saying goodbye, hug and give a quick kiss on the cheek.(Then again, I don't know what he's really 'into', so maybe you could give it your own little twist? --good luck-- Hope I helped.
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Hey, um I'm a girl obviously, but I have been thinking lately. Why am I still single? I mingle and everything but is there something wrong with me?
Short description of me:
I have realist standards for guys, not expecting some 10 or perfect romeo or even a 8inch. I'm looking for someone who I am reasonably compatible with, and has the same morals. Is decent, clean and is just into me. I am decent looking, though many of my friends (including strangers and men) have said I am beautiful, though I really am just decent and normal. I'm not uptight and sometimes my beer does get the best of me, but I don't smoke nor am I a heavy drinker unless I am at a rave. I'm 25 fresh out of college, but put together and I am in med school. I want to finish school before I am marry and I do want to have kids, but then again I'm not sure.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I actually too uptight or too, I don't know, do I have high standards? I'd just like a man who has his assets together and can provide. I am just lost by society and it's love honestly. (link)
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I told my friend once, 'Just use common sense'. He replied,'But common sense isn't that common anymore'.
Thats the porblem here. You sound mature, intelligent, and good-looking! But maybe guys are just to shy. Who wants to be turned down by the pretty girl in medical school? Guys aare too busy not using thier sense on the smart girl. They're 'picking the rotten apples on the ground'. Don't lower your personal standards, though! That's even worse! Maybe try to make the first move, ask the guy you really like out to a baseball game, or a concert, or... you get my drift. Good luck!-- hope I helped.
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his ex is so disrespectful she always wants to know what is happening between he and i. anyone else having this problem? she is 53yrs old (link)
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I believe it's OK for him to keep in contact with his ex, and maybe don't tell her about your everyday life, but I'm sure she would like to know if you became married, etc. If you want to stop all contact, however, that responsibility would be your boyfriend's. --hope I helped.
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OK! So I have gotten really close to a guy I have known for a year now. He's a little older than me (Junior boy-Freshman girl) and I think he likes me! I'm at the point where I kind of want to start flirting. Physically and verbally. Like breaking the touch barrier a little more (he already broke it) we both are shy for a heads up (he's kind of shy and awkward- its adorable) but he has told me- I am beautiful (twice!) that he doesn't look forward to graduating because he'll be leaving some friends behind, especially me. Also we talk everyday after 5 o'clock (he has a summer job working for his dad) and we have a lot in common (dark music, Egypt-related stuff, writing/ reading and Marching/Concert Band) SO I would love some advice on how to flirt with him (physically/touching him and talking) and I also have one more question. Why is it that when a guy texts/calls you everyday at the same time is a 'sign' that he likes you?? I'm confused/curious about that... Thank you a lot. I have band camp coming up and he says he can't wait to see me! So yeah please help me with flirting advice... I need help! (link)
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Maybe you could wait until Sadie Hawkin's? (if you have that dance) And then ask him! you both sound totally into eachother. Ask around! OK, I don't even have a boyfriend, but I have that feeling. The feeling you two would be a good couple :) hope I helped. :)
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Soo...im 13, and my boyfriend is 14. We have been dating.for 5 months, and he wants to now become 'sexually active'. I do too its just that i know its not right. And its not him...its my body. I would love to become active with him...but, idk what to do during it. Help?!?? (link)
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Don't. Just Don't. think of it this way, you're in your late 20s, you're on your honeymoon, then your husband says, 'did I just take your virginity?', and you say no! You may not think of it, but that kind of thing is very downgrading.
also, you're only 13!! ask him if he's had sex yet. see what he says. whether he says yes or no, it's still bad. if he says yes, it means that he has told other girls before that he wants to be with them forever and/ or loves them and has manipulated them!! if he says no, just tell him it's wrong.
But, should you be a complete idiot/ slut and ignore my advice and anyone's who says don't do it and throw your life away, please, use a condom.
I am 13, too, so I know what you're doing. you'll regret it.
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i am a 20 yr girl,i love him very much but he dnt,he always ignore me,abuse,ambaressed me...we also had physical relation,i knw him from past 6 years,what shud i do,i want to forget him. (link)
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If you want to forget him so much, then forget him. Go out with friends, to the movies, to the mall, whatever it takes! Have a life that doesn't involve that guy! Oh, and if you do go to the mall, buy a dictionary.
:) scottishgal1
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I am 17 year old female. I have been dating this kid for about 4 years off and on now. I have came to find that he was skyping with this guy and he masturbated on camera for this guy and he didn't tell me about it, but I found out by going through his ipad. I confronted him about it and he got mad cuz i went through his stuff. Then the next day he told me that he did and he was really sorry about it and he didn't like it at all whn he was doing it. That he just wanted to know if he was into guys or not, he told me he isn't and he knows it for sure now. But i still have thought that he maybe into guys and doing things just by the way he acts and things he says. Please help me. What do i do?? (link)
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Um, yeah. Break up with him. Anyone can see if theyre gay by, I dont know, maybe just looking at 'you know what' pictures? but the fact that he masturbated for a complete stranger? yeah, not to be ppresuming, but I think he's lying. sorry :/
:) scottishgal1
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Hi im a 15 year old guy from London.i barely know this girl but i really like her!she knows i want to get with her and at a party last night she said she didnt really want to but might another time.the main reason i like her is that at our age all our friends go out and get drunk every week..but she refuses to because she'll regret it later in life.i have so much respect for her because i dont drink either and the pressure is crazy especially for girls.she seems really down to earth and has the nicest eyes ive ever seen(like mila kunis).i really want to go out with her and if i did i would let her know how smart,brave and beaytiful she is...all i want to know is how to get her to like me back? I would be the best boyfriend ever (link)
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Oh, this will work, trust me.
next time you guys get asked to go out, decline, and make sure she declines, too. Then when you'r alone, say,
'Hey, since our friends our going out and being stupid, would you like to go to the movies with me? And maybe get something to eat?'
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I have 2 guys I know stuff has happened witht them, Not what you think but stuff has happened and we flirt all the time and drink together and hangout at kickbacks. Well Im interested in both and one night we all said were friends. Im 18 and there 19,20,21 around those ages. Do you think it was the right move I shouldve done or could I be friend zoned? We still flirt but idk help! (link)
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yay you're the first person to ever ask me a question. well, anyway, back to the point. You made the right move. Always be friends first. Not exactly from childhood, but at least for a while. If these guys are interested, they'll probably go for it. But please only choose one, otherwise they might fight, and then everyone will be out of the 'friend zone'. Good luck, and you seem like a nice person, so hopefully you'll find someone nice. thank you. :)
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24f. I did something ridiculously stupid, I'm furious with myself for following the urge... I went and explored my boyfriend's messages on facebook. I have no suspicion of him cheating on me, I trust him completely, and I expected to find nothing.
Thinking logically, now, I really did find nothing. On-line flirting is not a crime in my mind, nor does it count as cheating. I don't believe in "emotional cheating," nor am I concerned about him doing this and causing problems within our relationship. We both have many friends of the opposite sex, and are both pathological flirts, really. Granted, I flirt to get what I need out of people (yes, I manipulate people, but I'm a patient advocate. Sometimes I have to build quick rapport with people in order to get them to help me help my patients) and he seems to just... flirt. Granted, he loves the validation, and I understand that, being aware of his history and how tough it's been for him. Knowing with all my heart and soul that he loves me deeply, and that I am the one he wants and wants to come home to, I don't have a problem with this.
Most of the time.
Sometimes I do feel like I have a problem with it, and when I see flirty messages with a random girl, it gets to me a little. I try very hard not to let it, but sometimes my emotions overrule my logical brain, which I despise. Logically, I know I should just let myself feel, talk it out with him, and ease my mind. But then I'd have to admit to him that I saw the messages - which is my own stupid fault in the first place. I'm not even going to pretend I wasn't snooping. I was.
What the heck is wrong with me?
I HATE girls like this. But I don't believe ignorance is bliss, either. I think what upsets me the most is that it's behind my back. He was messaging her from MY apartment while I was busy working from home. But I'd never have known had I not done the stupid girl thing and read his messages. He does things like leave his facebook up and his phone out because he trusts me not to be one of those crazy jealous girlfriends and "check up" on him - and normally I'm not. I don't know, maybe I just wanted to know what he'd been up to lately, since we've both been very busy.
I feel like I'm being irrational. Mind, I still don't think he's actually doing anything with this girl or anyone other than myself. But why am I so upset from having found flirty messages when it's my fault I found them in the first place?
Someone please give me some insight, here... (link)
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You have absolutely no reason to be upset with yourself. Hello, its facebook! Anyone could have seen it. You're not being 'nosy'; you're being normal. Unless his page was private and not opeen to everyone, then he couldn't possibly get mad with you.
Also, if you're his 'friend' on facebook, he should be expecting the fact that you would look at his page. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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What cute nickname could i give my boyfriend? (link)
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hmm.. well I dont really know what he's like, is he shy outgoing, or what? i guess the best thing would be just to give him your own nickname, dont ask people who dont even know him. :) sorry if I sounded harsh I didnt mean to, just give him a nickname from a funny experience with him or another moment, thats what most people do, good luck. :)
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Hi! Im about to turn 13 in a few months, going into seventh grade. I know this sounds strange but i recently got my period for the first time so my body and face have been maturing. I really like this boy and everyone says we would be perfect for eactchother but he barely notices me! How do i get him to like me...besides "being myself"??? (link)
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um... sorry to burst your bubble, but unless you want to act your way to this guy then youll HAVE to be your self. its fine to be single, ok? dont be like that just for respect, it'll ruin your rep.
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I mean, attractive ones, but they're sometimes the sort of guys who only get more attractive as I get to know them and then it's like I see them in a different way. cause it's easy to just see some jock and acknowledge he has good features but when he's dead inside that's like a total turn off, and I don't get why a lot of girls go for that, unless it's cause they're dead inside, too. the only problem is that these sorts of guys I like tend to be shy about the whole dating arena so what would I have to do to encourage one of these guys to ask me out? I like guys who are generally quiet in public (not really talkative like me, and definitely not cocky, or at least not overbearingly so) but with me I'd want him to generally be the dominant one, if that makes sense. I just feel like I just put myself in this weird situation cause sometimes I can tell that some guys like me.. but I'm definitely not going to make the first direct move, even though I think I'm giving them pretty good clues (just naturally). or did those guys really not like me, if they didn't take the chance to ask me out? or they were just too afraid and just kept things to themselves? cause it's not like i'd just shut someone's genuine offer like that, especially if we had been friends already
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no way is that wierd at all! every girl has a type. just dont overdo it, though. your smart to be friends with the guys first, because I know a girl who -literally- had sex with a guy she barely knew, and asked out a guy after 2 hours of talking to him! please, please (!) dont be like her, it'll ruin you. just be friends, and dont flirt to quickly, just be friends with a few guys for a while (but not to long or itll be awkward if you become like best friends) and then choose your pick and hopefully it'll work out :)
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f/young teen
any tips you all have on:
flirty comments
was to break the touch barrier
flirty moves
and the like! thanks, xoxo hallagal (link)
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wear cute clothes, ALWAYS keep your hands cold so that way he know when you touch him, when you're near him quietly sing a dirty song, and he'll give you 'that look'. you know, that sexy crap guys crave so much.
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Will a guy want u more if you ignore him (link)
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sometimes yes, sometimes no. if he likes you, it'll either drive him crazy or give him the wrong idea. if he doesnt like you, he probably wont notice.
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hi im 12/f, am i stupid ?? ok so for the past few days all i hav been thinkin about is that i think ppl tht r waaaayy to young are thinkin about adult things(and u no wat i mean) but i think its bc their parents dont really hav a connection with their children which is y they do what they want..... now im confused is this a stupid thing to think or is it all in my head?????????????? thanks:)!! (link)
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trust me you are not the only one. I'm 13 and my friend has had sex twice. I think its wrong and we should just live our lives. and she barely even knew those two guys they werent even dating!! but yes, i totally agree with you. you are not stupid!!!!! :)
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Last night my boyfriend and I decided to put an end to our relationship and this time for good.I feel that he's gone forever this time.
The thing is that we have always had these terrible arguments and misundestandings all the time,and he didn't trust me and neither did I.
Trust was missing in our relation and arguments had become the norm.
We both felt like it was over and decided to dump each other.I didn't even looked at his face when I left,and now it's really weard since I'm not missing him and I'm not expecting him to call me or text me either.
Is this time for real?Shall I start thinking that this is it?And that from now on my life's gonna be different?I mean,that I'm gonna be able now to make my own decisions?
What scares me is that I still love him.How can you love someone so much and cannot be with him?Why do I feel like staying away from him?And why do I think that this the best thing to do? (link)
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oh, my. oh so very many questions and yet oh so very little space in my brain to process it all. the only thing i noticed was-
i broke up with him
blah .blah .blah .
i still love him.
blah.
well if you 'love' him soo much, why'd you leave at all?? if he really was your 'the one' you should not have left him.
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