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I've never felt like this before and I don't know what to do!!!!
OK! I am a 14 year old girl and a Freshman. There is this guy I am close friends with that I finally admitted to myself that i like him he is a 17 year old M/Junior(I have known him for a year and I like him for his personality/ he just happens tp be cute ;D) In your answers please DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT AGE! I am VERY mature for my age, and we both have A LOT in common. But so i ran into him at a music store we both know about and HE broke the touch barrier TWICE by hugging me for the first time. I haven't seen him since then (that was middle july) but we text everyday which is very nice. I will see him soon however (We have a Band fundraiser and Band Camp coming up. BTW both of us have never been in a relationship before) and here's the problem. I really really want him to kiss me, Or at least hug me. It's kind of freaking me out because i have never had this 'wanting' like this before. (I know it is suspected that Older guys go for younger girls for easy sex but i know he wouldn't. He is one of those shy guys that haven't dated yet) SO THE QUESTION: How can I hint for a kiss from a shy guy?? I can do hugs easily. Thank you any advice is appreciated :)
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You can say "don't say anything about my age" if you want, but that doesn't change the fact that it matters.
Next year, he will be 18 and you will be 15. That means he will be up for statutory rape if you two do anything. You can "oh, but I'm mature for my age!" all you want: the law doesn't care.
If you like him, you should leave him alone. Your attentions could ruin his life.
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You two sound like you do have a lot in common! And about the age, it is fine for any highschooler to go out with any other age highschooler. (I think in highschool and above age differences under fives years don't really matter, it's more like a middle-school rule.).And since he broke the touch barrier, I bet it's up to you to beak the personal barrier. Maybe wait until a party, or New Years would be the absolute best time, but it's kind of far away.. Ask around. Do his friends say he likes you? And I don't think he's just using you, seeing as how far back you two are, and that most guys just do it then go. Maybe on a good day, like one that means something to both of you, invite him to the movies, and when you're saying goodbye, hug and give a quick kiss on the cheek.(Then again, I don't know what he's really 'into', so maybe you could give it your own little twist? --good luck-- Hope I helped.
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When I met my now husband 4 years ago and he was 50, he was being polite and leaving it up to me to break the barrier as to kissing and so on. So I looked for an opportunity of something nice he did for me, it was repairing a book I had that was falling apart. The moment he gave it to me I said thank you so much it means a lot to me. You're so sweet and I quickly gave him a kiss. Once he knew it was okay with me, he found opportunities to kiss me later. Thats a good way to have a reason to kiss someone. Normally a person would just give a hug, but you both have already done that, and it's a nice way to say thank you and I like you very much, enough to kiss you, at the same time. I am sure he'll get the message. I have said so before...there's nothing wrong with your age difference.
I know your guy is interested in you from what you've written before. Just enjoy being around him and invite him to hang out with you at your house for a movie and popcorn...something the parents wouldn't have a problem with. Because he is shy too, band is a great thing in common but you will need to find other things you both like to do and spend time together. Don't know where your parents are on dating and such so take things slow and let the parents know its a friend, not a boyfriend...that term freaks out parents if they think you;re too young. Let them know yu or the stories people say as to why not are in high school and want to practice feeling comfortable talking to guys. Whatever sounds like something that would win the parents over to allowing your friend to hang out at your place where they can get to know his personality and see how he treats you and gain some confidence with him. Trust me, in the long run, thats the way to go. Blessings to you. If we don't talk before school starts, then have a great start to your high school experience!
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