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Q: kk. im going out with a girl who is nice but im beginiing to lose interest in her. and theres another girl who i loved before and every since i went out with the girl my feelings for the other one have just become stronger

so do i let the relationship dye down so she dumps me, or do i tell her the truth

TELL THE TRUTH!!!!! Girls like honesty. If you lie, you're going to have a red hand print on your face for 12 years. Not to freak you out... Anyway, if you really want to brake up, tell her the truth of why you want to brake up. I hope this helped and didn't freak you out! :D

Q: Okay one night I was hanging with my best friends
Val and Kristen, We were making fun of the boys that we've dated and you know having fun and yeahh drinking a little..:) Then Rae came over and started hanging and was like omgosh you guys dont know do you! And then told us about Eric&Alisha... two people that have been going out sence the beginging of the 7th grade and now there going into ninth. So that's a longg while. They broke up because Eric was being mean to Gene little brother.. dumb I know and how heart-broken Eric is.. And ive liked him for soo long I wanted to call him. Rachel gave me the number and when he finally picked up the phone he was like if I needed your pitty I would ask for and how if he wanted me to have his number he would've given it too me. Which I can understand i have random people calling me all the time. So I just basicly hung up on him.. and we've been friends for a long time and i knew that the only reason he said that was becuase his mother has a porblem with my WHOLE family (longg story) and thats why he never gave me his number. So all that happened like 5 maybe 6 days ago, and yesturday his mom called me crying saying that she needs me help to get him up and outa bed cuz he only gets out've his room for food and bathroom so because I love him I went over and his mom was cool with me, I talked to Eric like a normal person saying he can't be sorry for himself because he deserves SO much better,, and he got all upset saying no ones gunna like him the same and I said that I love him and he was like but thats you. your Katie... and I got so pissed because he said more i dont think I can say on this website and i was like you know what here take it. And i gave him the little peice of paper rae gave me with him number on it and i said I hope I forget your number and make sure to forget mine, you just lost someone that thought the World of you and when you relise you made a mistake, its too late. Alishas a B****! and you do deserve better, but until you relise how great you are dont even think of me. And left. And ofcoarse through all of that I was crying and right now im over Kristens and he's ben calling my cell, so I shut it off and I dont know how he got Kristens home number and cell but he wont stop calling her either.
I'm not ready to talk to him..
What Do I Do?
ASAP Please........

Clearly, this guy made a mistake. You should talk 2 him. Just pick up the phone and say hello? I think you have the wrong number. (I no a little cruel, but...) If he says he's sorry forgive him after a while. If he gets mad at you, tell him you don't feel like talking to a stranger. I think it's a little silly for him to go into a complete melt down over... just one person, but that's my thing so anyway, I hope I helped at least a little! :D

Okay, this is the answer 2 your other question, Welll, if he's coming over and he says he's sorry, accept his apology. If he gets mad, tell him to leave. (Yea, harsh, but still) But I think you should talk to him about the problem. If you don't have anything to say, tell him you don't. I hope this helped! :D

Q: 14/m whenever im somewhere and girls i do not know see me that are my age, they seem to be embarrassed and wont look me in the eye. I see them looking at me when im not looking at them and they wont face me. i went over to my friends house and she had two of her friends i had never met before. They were eating when i walked in and the two new girls looked really embarrassed and wouldnt look at me. then when they get to know me there not embarrassed anymore. does this happen to all people when they have never met before??? im not doing anything or looking at them strangely.

O yea, That's normal. The girls were just thinking you were cute. Trust me, I get nervous and kinda emmbarresed around guys cuz I think I look stupid and try to fix myself up a bit. And when I get to know that guy, I start to feel better cuz I'm not making an idiot of myself. ANYWAY(:$), yea, it's normal. Girls were just checking you out.

Q: I've liked this girl for as long as I can remember.We went out once but it just kind of ended.Since then she's gone out with a bunch of guys,and I get sort of jealous every time I see her with someone else.She's the one person that fully understands me and everything and it feels like we should be together,but I have doubts.

Should I ask her or is it too late?I'm afraid that after the years of building our friendship,it could get in the way.I just don't know what to do and I know I won't be satisfied until I at least let her know how I feel.

I think it would be a good idea to ask her. If you want to let her know how you feel, tell her. I'm a girl and I think it would be a good idea. Maybe you guys could start again. Like talk and get it in that you like her, then just ask her out. It probably sounds harder than you think, but it can be easy if you make it that way. Hope this helped! :D

Q: Soo, hello.
Well first off I'm 14 and a girl so this may seem like another, '(pre)teen thinks she's in huge dilemma even though it's a simple answer'. Well, I know the answer but I need some more...advice.

Okay so I have this 'major' lust for a guy friend of mine. He's just everything I want in a boyfriend but also some things I don't want. I am planning to make a 'move' on him but there's just a large problem in my way,
The Communication going on between us. Our communication isn’t…. A lot. He’ll talk to me one day and then sort of ignore me the other day. Most times, we only say hi to each other. It wasn’t always like this, we use talk like good friends and joke around too. That’s the person I really fell over for. I need help with this. Before I ask you them, I have talk to him about it but he doesn’t see anything weird about it. I have told him I liked him TWICE and he doesn’t really say anything but an ‘ok’ and ‘that’s cool’. Even if we don’t talk to each other, I always catch him looking at me and I try to wave back but he turns around quickly when he sees that I’ve caught his look. Haha, okay moving on.
Should I really make a move on him and would it be worth it?
Do any of you have suggestions as to why he acts the way he does with his ignoring and looking?
Much appreciated if you’d answer. Thanks a lot!

I think, if you really like this guy, you should make a move. Now, for his weird behavour, he's probably nervous and doesn't know what to do. You should talk to him more. If he ignores, tell him to please cut it out. You feel rejected or something. But you should make a move if you REALLY like him. Hope I helped!

Izzy :D

Q: All of the other girls I know are always just SO happy and smiling all the time no matter what, it's like nothing could ever upset them.

I, however, am always frowning and mad/depressed looking and I can't help it. I just never feel happy. I have never been truly happy and whenever I do smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.

And the happy little perky ones are the ones who attract the most boys. Isn't it true that men are attracted to happy women?

I want to know how to be all happy and perky and cheerful and pleasant all the time. I've tried thinking happy thoughts but it just doesn't work. I only think about things that make me pissed, because my life is filled with them, and things about myself that I hate (plenty of those too).

please just answer.

Most guys are attracted to sweet, happy, preppy girls. And you said you've tried to be happy by thinking happy thoughts, well, thats good, but you've got to live happy thoughts too. You need to make your life more happy. I used to be sad all the time and mad. Now, i've got a bright attitude towards most things. All I did was make my life happier by doing things I like to do. Like practice writing books for my future career as a writer, read, hang out with friends, and take a few risks. One risk was with me falling out of a tree, but it ended up being fun. You just need to do happy and fun things. I really hope I helped! :)

Q: okay thur is this boy tht i really lik he is my neightboor and i wanted to know some good ways to ask sum1 out tht arent tht.....lik scary and make you really nervous to ask i wanna ask em out but i dont wanna jus flat out go up to em and say "will you go out wit me?" he's told me he luved me b4 and comes up and hugs me but i still dont wanna b...flat out thanx alot and any advice appreciated

You should just go talk to him. Start out with a simple conversation, like a normal everyday conversation. Then, just squeeze it in somehow.

Q: I really want to know because everyone else has already lost it and I'm 14 and I havent!

14 is wayyyyyy to young to be losing your virginity. If other people your age lost theirs then i say thats sad. Your virginity is something valuable. I'd say you shouldn't lose yours until your at least 20, but hey, if you want to lose it, go ahead, but i'm telling you, you don't want to lose it.

Q: So i am going to highshool and my boyfriend will still be in jr. high.. and i think it wont work out will it?? there is this guy in my grade that really likes me and is a jock and everything and i am normal?? should i drop my boyfriend that i have right now?? or just see what happens?

If you really like your boyfriend who will still be in jr. high then you'll choose him. I'm guessing you should keep your boyfriend if he's the one you want.

Q: 14/f

is it okay for a 17 year old guy (just turned 17) and a 14 (turning 15 soon) year old girl to go out?

i dont want to get him in trouble

17 is little too old for a 14(turning 15) year old girl to be dating, but if he's worth it, do it. If a 14(Turning 15) year old girl loves him, she will stay with him.

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My name is Isabel. I live with my mom, dad, sister and two dogs. I have a brother, but he never really talks to me, which makes me kinda sad, because I was closest to him in my family. I'm a sensitive type person. I love to make friends. I don't really enjoy skool much, but i do like to learn amazing new fun things. When I'm older i want to be a writer and an acrhaeologist because i love writing and history fasinates me. I'm not exactly the smartest kid in the world, but I can be. I just like to have fun and be free. My features are dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. I'm Mexican, so i have that tanish skin, not too tan, though. My dad is Mexican, mom's American. I love to make friends, so any body need a friend come pick me!