Hi, this is Kate. I'm 17. My life motto is 'Live Laugh Love', I really think those are great words to live by and I'm planning to have it made into a tattoo. I'm not religious but I love learning about different religions. I write stories based on things that have happened to me because sometimes I have days where I just think 'wow that sounds like something out of a book'. I've finished 3 stories and I'm about to start my first horror story..very exciting. I believe in fairy tale love...the kissing in the rain, staring at the stars on the rooftop kind of love..Why? Because I'm in that kind of love and its been the greatest time of my life. And it didn't come easy.
I'd love to help you with whatever issues come your way. I've been in relationships where the guy was too old for me, the guy was my best friend, the guy just wanted to get some. I've been the other woman but I'm not proud of it. I've been the girl who waits years to be with the guy she wanted.
I come from the type of home where everyone seems okay and then when everyone leaves its chaos. My parents should have been divorced years ago and I can't stand to be around either of them so for now I'm going day by day, only coming home to sleep and counting down the days until I go to college in August.
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My boyfriend loves art & is majoring in Fine Art. I want to surprise him with some new art supplies, as he says he loves them, but doesn't have the money for new supplies right now.
He mentioned loving even basic things, like pencil cases, sharpeners, and erasers. But he mentioned that he likes really fine pointed black pens for drawing, and I was wondering if anyone had any tips on which type of pens to buy? Or any other suggestions of art supplies to surprise him with? I'm going to Hobby Lobby (crafty store) tomorrow, so any ideas would help! Thank you. :) (link)
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I went on Hobby Lobby's website just to see what brands they have. The pens that he's talking about come in an assortment of sizes so the tip will be thicker or thinner. I use Staedtler and they've lasted me almost a whole year of technical drawing (Architecture major) but one time I bought Micron for an art project so I wouldn't have to use my regular ones, and the pen died halfway through the project. Really don't recommend those.
http://shop.hobbylobby.com/products/finepoint-system-permanent-390369/
(notice in the description they say it includes a .1,.3, and .5 pen..those are the tip sizes, .5 being the thickest.)
Kneaded erasers are cool and good for lightening lines rather than just completely getting rid of them. It kind of looks like clay.
http://shop.hobbylobby.com/products/mercur-kneaded-art-erasers-575381/
Also, fixative is really cool especially with drawings and things that could smudge. Its basically a sealant that you put on your art.
http://shop.hobbylobby.com/products/workable-fixatif-134577/
I haven't worked with the Krylon brand of it, I've used Blair but I didn't like it because it didn't evenly coat the work. I've worked with Krylon spraypaint though and really like the spray nozzle on they're brand and I just think its more efficient.
And you could always get him a new sketchbook, even if he doesn't need it right away in the long run when he realizes he's on the last page of his he'll appreciate having an extra because good one's can get expensive.
Also, drawing pencils that have different degrees. I can't find a set that has a good range.
http://shop.hobbylobby.com/products/prismacolor-turquoise-art-set-974758/
This set only has really really dark ones so they're in the B range and the higher the number the darker it is. H range pencils are lighter, higher the number the lighter it is. so it goes like 4B,3B,2B,B,HB,H,2H,3H,4H for darkest to lightest. Most art stores that I've been to sell them individually and they're a lot cheeper than that set. That's also Prismacolor and although its a nice brand, they're overpriced.
Even a range in sharpie sizes can definitely make a cool project.
Hope this helps, art supplies are definitely expensive and can add up quickly so anything is always appreciated!
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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.
We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.
My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?
Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.
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He sounds like my boyfriend. We were together 8 months. We broke up in October for two months because I was so stressed out (we're 4 hours apart during college months). He was really confused, blah blah blah its not my story its yours. I still always wanted to talk to him even though he was a complete ass when I tried. Being friends after that type of break up is really hard. First we went from angry texts a couple times a week, it was basically him flipping out on me and me just taking it. Couple weeks later our conversations would start off civil and end in some awkward way. I tried giving him space and we didn't talk for two weeks until some little thing on tv reminded me of him and I couldn't stand not talking to him. Two months later, after begging him to take me back for a month (my all-time low) he told me he missed me and now we're back together.
Sorry I rant a bit. If you want to cut off contact I suggest you do it slowly. If you talk everyday, challenge yourself to only talk to him twice a week, then once, then none. Its just easier than completely shutting off contact, i just feel like that'd leave him really confused or hurt. If you felt the need to break up with him you obviously felt the need for space somewhere within you. I know the hurt, I've been there and was there for far too long.
If you've got any other questions on this situation or anything that happens later on I'd be glad to help.
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I like an 18 yr. old junior at my high school. I'm a 15 yr. old freshman. He smokes cigarettes and pot, and drinks. I do none of these. He is nothing like most druggies. He is caring, friendly, smart and motivated. He has plans of college and later life. I promised myself I would never get involved with a guy that does drugs but I have an attraction to him. Should I keep trying to get him or just stop because of how different we are even though we are friends? Thanks. (link)
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My boyfriend fits into your description (except for cigarettes). And I drank maybe 3 times a year. If you have the strength to be your own person and not let his habits influence you to do the same then the relationship is fine. In fact, my non-illegal lifestyle influenced my boyfriend and he quit smoking and hardly drinks. And I never told him to, he just decided to do it for himself. "Bad boys" are not a lost cause. If they're good to you and his lifestyle doesn't affect you.
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I need some tips from the girls. Are there any special techniques that you use when you're making out with a guy? ILL RATE (link)
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my boyfriend loves when i bite his bottom lip..not like BITE but just lightly. And don't pull his lip out too far.
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My boyfriend quit smoking weed about 3 weeks ago and he started hanging out with me more and we were so happy for two of the three weeks. This week,he seems not as happy with me and he told me he needed some "space" ,so we didn't hangout for a day. He told me he didn't "want us to get sick of each other" ... so we got in a few fights and tried hanging out today but he just wasn't the same.He just hasn't seemed interested lately and if he does,its usually only for sex or stuff similar.He said he misses smoking weed but idk! I just want him to want me and appreciate me again. What should i do? by the way,we've only been together for like 2-3 months (link)
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Okay I am someone who used to smoke a few times a week and my boyfriend used to smoke multiple times a day. We both decided to quit after new years. First few weeks for great, we were happy, had more energy blah blah blah. Then I had a day where I was feeling the withdrawal and I was pretty bitchy. Then about a week later my boyfriend wanted to have sex but we were in the middle of watching a movie that I had really wanted to say, so he rolled over and went to sleep and we pretty much didn't speak for the rest of the day but then a few days later he apologized for getting mad over stupid things and said it was from not smoking. Weed isn't addictive, its the idea that its a quick release of tension and good feeling. So when you take away pot you look for other outlets that give you the same release so your boyfriend along with mine looked to sex. Don't take it personally or think that he's not interested anymore. And honestly if I had never smoked I'd probably be telling you that he was a scumbag or something but I'm more understanding with his case because I've been there. So what should you do about it. Well if you've never smoked just explain to him that you can see that he's going through a bit of a rough patch and if he wants some space just give it to him. Don't bombard him with texts or calls either. Take a day to hang with the girls and then maybe the two of you can make a date and do something together that you did when you first started dating. Me and my boyfriend played pool a lot when we first started dating so now when we play it brings back the same little feelings and memories of when we were first dating. We've now been dating for over a year and we've made it through him "quitting" smoking 3 times. Don't let it get between you.
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I have a boyfriend who asked me if I wanted to experience a mènage à trois when we go to my friend's party in two weeks. I know it is sexy because we were talking about having sex at her house so I told him "yeah baby!" when I texted him back. I figured I would find out what it was when we were having sex but today he texted me and asked me to "pick the trois" and I have no clue what to do!
What are we going to be doing and what am I suppose to pick!?!
I am to embarrassed to ask anyone I know! (link)
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You just signed yourself up for a threesome...I suggest you learn some french before agreeing to anything. "trois" means three...so he asked you to pick another girl to join the two of you. Haha..if you're into that well then go ahead but if not you better go clear things up with him.
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Ok so i just dumped my boyfriend and I don't know what to do now! I had my reasons but now i am not sure my reasons were good enough and i feel kinda stupid for dumping him.
what should I do? (link)
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To start, I'm going through the same thing. Go over all the reasons why you broke up with him, weather you still believe them now or not just remember the reasons. See if they still apply to him now. Example: He's too immature, and he still doesn't have a job. Well then the problem hasn't changed and if you two were to get back together then you'd have the same problem. Once you've thought about it and if you're 100% positive that you want to go back to your ex and you're not looking at any other guys then talk to him about it but DO NOT talk about it with him if you're not completely sure of what you want.
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What's YOUR view on long distance relationships?
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Alright I would never consider a 30 minute drive to be long distance. I live in a rural area, my boyfriend went to the school in the next town over but it was still about 25 minutes to get to his house, yet I still saw him everyday. Now we're 4 and a half hours apart. He's in New York and I'm in Rhode Island. Yes its hard and frustrating but you can't let the little things get between you. Like when our schedules don't work out for a phone call that lasts more than 5 minutes. I see him once a month now and watching him leave never gets any easier but we're still just as strong and if not stronger than we were when we spent every minute together. Long distance relationships are worth it if the relationship is strong enough. One of the girls in my dorm suite just had her boyfriend break up with her because of the distance and they're a lot closer than I am to my boyfriend. They hadn't been dating long and I don't think their connection was strong enough for them to be separated. So overall, it depends on the relationship. In my case I know he's worth it.
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Hi i recently met this girl, didnt really have much of a conversation with her but asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. She said sure, so i asked her a couple minutes ago if she wanted to get coffee. If she says yes, then how do I prevent awkward silence while we are together, seeing as i dont really know to much about her? (link)
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I started dating my boyfriend after knowing him for a week. We played 20 questions for a long time. Eventually you'll ask a question that will remind you or her of a memory, then she'll tell the story and you'll have a conversation. It worked for us and eventually you know so much about them that there aren't any questions to ask. Just let her know its a game. Like say "lets play a game" and then do it. Otherwise it might seem like you're putting her on trial if you just ask her a bunch of questions.
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How do you know? I mean, I don't actually know if there is love or not really. I don't think I've ever felt that emotion. Is it like in the movies? Butterflies and all of that? Or is it something else? Can anybody describe it? (link)
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My best friend asked me the exact same question a few months ago and I wrote her an email with the response so now I'm giving that to you..
so you asked what its like to be in love and i had to think about it..so i did and came up with a few things.
a)you tell them you love them but the actual words 'i love you' don't seem like nearly enough. they seem way to simple and plain compared to what you actually want to say.
b)they become your partner..which is weird because i'm so used to being independant and it would feel weird if you went somewhere without them. Like the other day me and 2 friends went to the mall without the guys, weird day. I kept turning around to look for him, then remembering that he didn't come along. In a way you feel like you grow as a person. You don't loose your individuality but they become your other half.
c)you can't wait to see them! My graduation day i was with my boyfriend allll day and then we went back to his house and i slept over, left around noon and came back at 5 for his graduation. i was only gone for 5 hours but i still get excited to see him again.
d)they make you feel like you are god. one time he randomly texted me and said "have i ever told you that you're everything i've ever wanted?"
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When I was 12 I had my first kiss with this boy that i really liked at the movies, and it was pretty funny it was bad lol. but after that i learned that its not that big of a deal lol and the rest were better ha so anyone have funny first kiss experinces? (link)
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Mine was in my first boyfriend's grandma's computer room. We were talking to my best friend online and she asked if we had kissed yet and I typed "not yet but hold on" and as my boyfriend at the time was walking out the door I grabbed him and turned him around and kissed him, very sloppily and I tripped a little on my own foot so he had to catch me. I laugh about it now but I'm still secretly a little mortified. Haha
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well my boyfriend asked me to move in with him and our relationship has been real short not much only 2mths.but i do want to move in with him but he asks me so many questions and idk what to tell him.the only problem thts holding ud back ae my parents cause im 17 yr. old female and he's 22 my parents know him and like him but im to young. (link)
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I think we all fantasize about living with our boyfriends, myself included but I don't think after 2 months you really know all the little things about each other. After 6 months I'm still learning about the little quirks of my boyfriends daily habits. I'm glad you see the realistic point of view in your question that you are only 17 and living with your 22 year old boyfriend after only 2 months sounds a bit obsurd. At least wait until you're 18..and I don't mean the day you turn 18. I don't think people should live together until they've been dating for at least 8 months. If your parents allow it or if you can just get out without them knowing, try and stay at his place for a night or two..maybe 3. Just to get a preview of what its like to live with him. But yeah if you're asking for a straight up opinion..2 months is WAY too early to live together.
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i am lifeguarding this summer and this guy jake who is 18 and my manager keeps teasing me. i always thought he kind of liked me because my first day of working he would do almost ANYTHING to get my attention. he started teasing me about little things (ewww gross what is that you are eating?) but now it's gotten a lot worse (i heard you gave tim a blow job!) he also orders me to do stuff and clean things and says i'm "whipped" aka his bitch. He also asks me if i'm a virgin (which i told him i am) and if i think he's hot and asks things like, "would you rather have sex with matt or me?" now other guys who i work with start teasing me, nothing as intense as that but still bad like, "i heard you had sex with josh!" or other things. this girl i work with says for me to not listen to him or other guys and that they just want to get reactions out of me. i'm not fat and i'm definitely not ugly so i don't see why they are doing this! jake doesn't act like this with any other girls (even girls he likes) so WHY is he doing this to me?
also on rare occasions he actually talks to me and tells me personal stuff (haha like how many kids he wants...what he is doing the next day...how it bothers him when he hangs out with some girls they don't put forth an effort to look good and don't wear makeup because they see him as a friend and only that) and is nice to me but what is up with the random mood swings??
another thing that has happened is i asked to take off of work and he demanded why and then i told him i was going on a date with this guy and he kept asking who and i finally told him. the date wasn't for a few days but he kept asking "how was your date?" everytime i walked in.
p.s. he left for college today and i was like "bye, jake have fun in college!" and gave him a hug and he didn't hug back he just left his arms open and was like "AHHHH!" (like in disgust) and then as i was walking up to the stand he said, "BYE KELLY!"
he came in later that day and saw me sitting on this guy's lap who was really into me and he was yelled at me "you whore!" (the whole time i was mouthing "help" because i really was not interested in the guy at all and wanted to get away from him) i explained this to him later and another guard was listening and said, "she's your girl why don't you do something about it?" this same guard earlier today told me "i bet in college he is going to find someone just like you to yell at and mess with!" i am sooo confused with what he thinks about me, and why he and other guys mess with me! advice please?
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He probably thinks of you as a little sister type of relationship. The teasing but then protectiveness. I've dealt with so many guys like this, you have to just take it lightly because he probably doesn't mean to upset you.
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20/f So...I am absolutely crazy about my best friend.
we have been best friends for about 6 years and i have had feelings for him off and on throughout that entire time. But right now he has a gf. she is super controlling and hates me cuz we are so close (like, we finish each others sentences and it drives her nuts). he says he wants to dump her, but then chickens out.
I am so crazy about this guy...and even though he has a gf, i think he cares about me too. I want to be with him....what do i do? (link)
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Your question perfectly described my life a year ago. I told him in June that I liked him and he liked me too so we hung out all summer without his crazy girlfriend knowing. They broke up in October and we started this relationship which I thought was perfect and so did he for a while but once it came down to getting intimate he thought it was getting akward despite admitting to fantisising about it. So we decided to call it quits. I'm rambling, but that's my story of falling in love with my best friend.I'm not saying your situation will be the same. My advice would be to tell him. If he's on the edge of breaking up with her then he obviously knows the relationship isn't right. Maybe he doesn't know what he could have(you) which is why I deffinately think you should tell him. Its a risk but it could be a great reward. Although I'm in a new relationship now that's picture perfect the time that I was with my best friend were some of the best times of my life and we're still great friends.
Go for it!
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Okay so me and my boyfriends one year anniversary is coming up and i have NO idea what to do. We've never really given eachother anything for month anniversarys because well neither of us really have any money, and dont work. (were 17) but i really wanna do something special for him. I can get some money from my parents. hes my best friend, we've known eachother for years and i have never been happier with anybody else. His style is like fitted hats, baggy jeans and skater shoes, i dont know how to classify him. He drinks and smokes(not such a great thing i know) and he LOVES cars. any idea what i could do or get him? any help is greatly appreciated! (link)
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I've been trying to come up with an anniversary gift too. Its just 6 months but its our last one before college. My boyfriend is also in love with anything that has an engine and he just bought his dream car which is a mustang and I'm kind of artsy so I got a big canvas and I'm going to paint the mustang symbol and hopefully it'll come out good and then he can have it in his apartment for college. You can get him a model car kit if you know he'll take the time to put it together..nobody likes buying gifts and then seeing them sit on a shelf for months. I was going to surprise my boyfriend and take him to a classic car museaum but I couldn't find any close to me but you can look on google to see if there's any near you. Then there's the simple ideas of making dinner, rent movies, go out to a movie, maybe a picnic? It could even just be in your backyard. Or maybe a new hat. You could make a cd of his favorite songs. Don't be afraid to go over the top..one year is a long time.
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so last night my boyfriend of 7 months. would kiss me on the neck then pull away saying me or him would get in trouble if he left me a hickey. i was saying no i wont and quit teasing me, you keep kissing me on the neck then you pull away saying well get in trouble. and he started laughing then he acted like he was going to and he was like no your scared. so i kept saying he was the one that was scared. and he was like no im not wait til your 18 and ill give you one so they cant tell you anything. does that sound like hes just scared or what does that sound like to you? (link)
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I personally don't like hickies on my neck or my boyfriends, I just don't want my bedroom activities posted on my neck for the world to see so my boyfriend started giving me them on my hips or lower ab area. Nobody sees it unless I'm in a bikini, and it rained most of the summer so we rarely went swimming. Its a decent solution if you want one or he wants to but don't want it to be seen. He doesn't sound scared he just honestly sounds like he's looking out for the two of you.
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right? (link)
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If you truly know that he won't cheat then its not a big problem but its a little inconsiderate. My boyfriend wouldn't dare to even look at a girl while we were out together and he would never ever in his right mind tell me if he thought a girl was attractive. I don't know if he's seen other girls that he was attracted to, I'm sure he has and I've seen guys that I thought were attractive too...its going to happen. Just tell your boyfriend that you don't appreciate hearing about the other girls even if he does like you better. Nobody wants to hear 'I love you but she's hot'
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okay. so like a month ago, me and my best friend kind of got in a fight. me and her ex boyfriend were pretty good friends before they even started going out, but anyway..
my friends ex broke up with her and would call me every night talking about it - and id just listen, but in the process, i kinda started liking him. one night, he came out and told me that he liked me.. and i was like i like you too.. so he told my friend. she got shitty. and i tried not to hang out with him, but i did.. and regret it. i told her i was sorry and i know that i fucked up. but we're cool now. and i dont even talk to that guy anymore. it lasted like 2 days.
so now, my problem is that i like this other guy now. and she has been flirting with him like crazy! shes a flirty person, and it doesnt seem like shes doing it on purpose, but its making me mad. i dont wanna tell her because shell freak out and say its bullshit that i would think that about her. i like this guy alot, and i dont want her in the way - even though i kinda deserve it : (
what do i do????
sorry its so long..
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I'd ask her in a casual way what kind of relationship she has with this guy. Like 'hey what's goin on with you and ___' if she says she likes him then obviously back off if she says she doesn't well then you can go for it but just remember that your best friend flirts with this guy weather she knows it or not so even if you got close and went out...your friend might still flirt with him because she 'doesn't know' she's doing it.
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Background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months now. i know that doesnt seem like a long time, but it's our third time together. He seems to always come back in my life. We dated for 4 months then broke up for about 3 and now we've been back together since.He said I love you about 2 weeks ago, and meant it. It's not those 3 words that get thrown around between us, it's sincere. We're going to college this upcoming fall. I leave in less than a month. I'm going 4 hours west from home he's going 3 hours north from home.
Question:
Should we stay together and try to make things work with the long distant relationship? I mean I'll barely see him because it'll be hard to come home let alone visit him at school or have him visit me. But I love him, he loves me. We can barely go 2 days without seeing eachother.
*Sorry it's long, but any help, advice, personal experiences would be helpful. Thanks in advance! (link)
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I'm in the same situation like many others. Been together 5 months (6 by the time I leave) and my classes start exactly one month from today. I'm going 4 hours east and he's going 3 hours south. We see each other everyday and we know its going to be a huge change in college but we're staying together. It was never a question of should we break up. I don't know if you can but I'm allowed to have a visitor come stay in my dorm for 2 nights and 3 days so we plan that he'll come visit me once a month. Its been proven that couples who forget that a breakup/divorce is an option last longer. So that's the method we're using.
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So here goes...
I asked a guy out and he said no because he had a girlfriend, and he said he would hit me up when he was single, so he did thatt and we hung outt....long story short...we hung outt for a lil bit and he suggested sex, and I said no for an hour and a half, and then we had sexx. now I don't know what to doo...should I leave it alone until he talkes to me...and do guys lose respect for a girl after he sleeps with him....or whatt? Whats your take on itttt!?!? (link)
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I don't really think this guy has respect for women in the first place. You had to keep telling him no, thats a red flag right there. Just the fact that he suggested it bugs me but then he obviously pressured you into it..if you weren't pressured then you must have done it just to shut him up. Guys don't lose respect for girls because they had sex with them, this guy just didn't have respect for you or girls in general. Ditch him.
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