hey. my name is christina benavente. and i am 13 years old. i am so good at giving people advice. if you have any questions about anything just ask me! hope you ask all the questions in the world! bye!
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Location: Guam
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Age: 13
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Okay, so I really really like this boy James. But he hates me. For no reason! Omg. Hes so sweet/cute/fine and I really like him. People try to convince me he likes me but I just know he doesn't. I know this sounds dumb and all but I started cutting myself just because I think my life was horrible [in my opinion] and now this to make it worse! I cant stand It but i like him so much. I want to stop cutting SO bad because its really not the right thing! Please help me with suggestions to stop! I really dont wanna ruin my life by a stupid mistake I made.
Sincerely,
Bloody Wrists. (link)
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okae. you really don't know what your doing to your body. because with one cut you can end your life just like that. you shouldn't hurt your body for some guy. it is so not worth it! so just stop cutting yourself and move on with your life. it'll make your life better if you stop cutting. i mean you don't have to stop liking the guy but you gotta stop what your doing. you know what i'm saying? okaie i hope i helped. enjoy the rest of the summer
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ok soo me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and he thinks im to jealuos
-i hate this girl he use to like
-i hate that he whatches porn
-talks to other girls thats are sooo stuck up and snoby and thinks there hot errr!!
-talks about girls but jokingly he says!!
-stares at girls and then when i ask him what are you looking at hes all like umm i just thought i knew her!!
this stufff tottally drives me crazy i hate it do you think im to jealous and what should i do about it and do guys not like it when girls act jealous!! (link)
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1. don't let the girl he used to like. if he still liked her he would've still liked her instead of you. so don't worry
2. haha. porn. don't be worried about that. he just watches that to pleasure himself
3. tell him that you're not comfortable that he's talking to girls that are so stuck up and snobby [as you say they are] and that he thinks they're hot.
4. same as number 3.
and i don't think your jealous. it's just something all girls have in their system..well hope i helped! enjoy your summer
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I met my best guy friend 3 years ago (lets call him mark)...we were friends for about two months before we started acting like a couple but we'rent going out. About a year later we were nothing but friends and a new friend of mine (lets call her aly) needed a bf. So I introduced them. Aly went out with Mark on and off for about 5 months...they have been broken uhp for 6th months now and me and aly have been best friends for a year. Me and mark have recently (2 months ago) had feelings for each other again. I went to the movies with him yesterday and I relized that I had fallen completely in love with him. I dont want to hurt aly but is it ohkay for me to date mark eventually? what should I tell aly so she can accept it. Ive know mark for at lesast a year longer than aly...and I used have a realtionship like theirs before. what should I do??? i'll rate high (link)
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well..if you wanna be a good friend you should ask aly if she feels uncomfortable of you too dating. but if you really like this guy then i'll admit that you should go out with him. hope i helped! and good luck
.christina*
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Alright, Im going to preface this by saying, Im not your average asshole guy who thinks the world loves him, so temper your responses as if youre talking to someone who is reasonable and who approaches things with a relatively open mind.
So, Im in this relationship. One in a long line of similar ones, I have a tendancy to get into the serious kind, and my girlfriends tend to stick around for the better side of a year. My current and I are just about at the 18 month mark.
We have hit this point where I am comfy. I like talking to her, and having her around, and doing the cute little couple things,but I also like my space, and try to communicate that to her in a non hostile or not "get off my back" toned way. I try to just let her know gently when I need to just chill out and not be sitting on the couch with her in my lap.
But she, on the other hand, just cant seem to get enough. She wants me to hold her from the second I get home until the second I leave for work the next day, and generally suffocates me.
Now, Im pointing out what she does, but this behaviour has led to EVERY SINGLE BREAK UP Ive had in the last 8 years. 6 ltrs and a few month - 2 month beginnings. Girls hit this point where they want you around them 24/7, and excuse me if I like my partners to be _part_ of my life and not the entire focus of it.
So as I said, Im not an uncaring person. I cuddle after sex, I like laying together and watching a movie, I give her a massage nearly every night, but I dont want to be wrapped around ANYONE every second that Im not at work. I hate my job, and at times I enjoy going to get a respite from her. Its fucking ridiculous!
So, what the hell should I do? I mean, Im not going to say theres something wrong with me. Hell, I would say that Im more affectionate on a regular basis than the average guy I know, but I like a few hours a day to sit at the computer and play games, or to take a hot shower _alone_ or maybe, just maybe, fall asleep in a position thats comfortable to me, not that makes her feel like my teddy bear.
I cant figure it out. Are all girls like this? Or do I just have some wierd attraction to girls who do this and havent figured it out? I dont know. But its the reason I keep having to end relationships, and I like this girl, I dont want to break up with her because shes suffocating me.
Angry women responding saying Im a pig, or that I dont deserve her, or anything else of an un-thought out and abrasive nature will get a one and an angry riposte. (link)
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well..since i'm a girl i would tell you that not all girls are like that. it's only some girls that are like that. but here's what you should say to her. just be like "why don't you have a night out with the girls and i'll have a night out with the boys?". but if that doesn't work just tell her straight but in a gentle and nice voice that you need your space and that you don't want to be attached to her. hope i helped. bye
.christina*
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whats leading them on means? is that also means a player?
im from jamaica (link)
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well when you lead someone on it means like you say something to make them like you. and it's so not being a player. being a player means that you're going out with someone and then you check out someone else. they're 2 totally different things.
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thers this guy, who i kinda kind get my eye off of, well i want to hang out with him soooo bad, but i just dont know where to go or how to ask him, and just make it normal? if it helps im a 14/f and hanging out at my place of his is not an option. and im from Salem...so ya any ideas help... thanx
-Me (link)
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just ask him out casually like "hey (name of him) i was wondering if you didn't have any plans this friday (or whatever day you choose) if we could hang out at (where you wanna hang out)?" and then it's just his answer. but before you ask him you have to build up enough courage to ask him first. hope i helped! bye!
.christina*
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Whats the best way to get over my shyness and ask this girl I like out? How can I make it easier on myself? She plays hard to get. (link)
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well..just do the same thing back to her. just act smooth. it might not be the easiest thing to do but it'll work. trust me on this. i'm a girl ok? and it seriously works. all the guys i know i play hard to get they play it back and we end up dating. just play it back. thats all i'm saying. tell me how it goes! have a nice summer! bye!
.christina*
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theres this brother of one of the girls on my sisters soccer team and i saw him at the begining of the game and i got a feeling like "wow i want to talk to him and meet him" but because im so shy i didnt talk to him. he kinda saw me at the begining too (i think) but he was with his dad and went down to sit with him, but like after the game too the team was having their like "after game meeting" and he was looking like in my direction im not sure if he was really looking at me if you know what i mean. i dont know what to think what if wasnt looking at me i would feel like an idiot if i just went and talked to him and he had no intrest in talking to me at all. i really want to talk to him but i dont know how to not make it awkward. i know nothing about him other than his sister is on the team. what do i do!!!??
p.s. they have a game tonight and i think i might go to see if maybe hes there and maybe if i can get over being shy i might be able to talk to him? please help me do this!?
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just talk to him. he's just a guy. don't be afraid. it's ok to be shy, but like think of something that makes you laugh and put it on him. or picture something that you really like and put it in his place and just start talking. it'll all be fine. it's kinda like going on stage where you have stage fright and then someone tells you to JUST BREATHE! thats all you have to do. just breathe. hope everything turns out great! tell me all about it! bye! have a great summer!
.christina*
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Ok. so here's the deal..... My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago on the last day of school. I think the reason why was because I was kinda being a jerk that day because my mom made me REALLY mad the night before. Well anyway.... I WANT HIM BACK! He was the sweetest guy that I had ever met. He might have thrown some little fits here and there since he's used to getting his way, but most of the time he was very affectionate. His birthday is coming up in a couple of days and I want to ask him back out as a present. The only thing is, I'm not sure if he'll take me back and how I'm gonna ask him. Any suggestions? (link)
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well..you should explain to him what happened and why you were being a jerk. then apologize. if he forgives you don't ask him out right away. cause that might freak him out and make him think you just said all of that to make him take you back. just like hang out with him go to a movie or whatever like shopping and all, and then when the times right ask him out. hope everything turns out great and have a good summer! bye
.christina*
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16/f I think that I have a crush on my best friend. I've been really good friends with him for about 5 years now, but a couple of weeks ago we went to prom together and a little lightbulb went off in my head. Now I can't stop thinking about him, dreaming about him, wishing that he were more than just my best friend. He's going off to college soon, but I really really want something to happen before he leaves. Any ideas on how to get my best friend to like me back? I don't think that he has any idea that my feelings for him have changed, and I'm afraid that I'd freak him out if I just told him the strait truth. (link)
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well even if you freak him out by telling him that you have feelings for him just remember that he's your best friend. but since he's going to college i suggest you tell him before it's too late. who knows? maybe he has the same feelings for you but is just too scared that you might not like him the same way. just think about it. maybe my advice is the right thing for you. good luck. and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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Is it wrong to like my best friend's boyfriend? i feel like he can do so much better than her and the way she treats him bugs me..i really like him...he's like the perfect guy..its okay to crush on him as long as i dont take action right? (link)
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of course it's ok! i mean if your best frineds boyfriend is very sweet and knows how to treat a girl then of course it's alright!
-.christina*
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theres a whole long backround story im not getting into details with but basicly...
me and this kid, lets call him Chris, had a HUGE history and we went out and a lot of stuff. Well this other girl, lets call her Kim (shes a grade older), and him had a tiny history but she really liked him. Ok so me and Chris were finally doing good as friends but we were flirting all day and texting eachother and everything. So then that night we were on a boat and he was allllll over me. I figured he was using me because he did this before but hes a sweet talker and im a sucker so i went with the flow.
Then we started really getting like into eachother. But then he was standing next to me outside of the boat and just started making out with me but i thought it was just a kiss on the lips but it wasnt. I pulled away because 1. teachers were around and 2. i didnt want to do this right now.
So then Kim starts freaking out and gets all of her friends, who used to be my friends to hate me. They all started IMing me saying OMG YOUR A B*TCH HOW COULD YOU GET IN THE MIDDLE OF CHRIS AND KIM YOU SL*T I CANT BELIEVE YOU DID THAT!
and now basicly i have no friends. so i dont know what to do everyone hates me and i didnt do anything.
me and chris were talking and i said sorry kim is mad at him and then i was like..wait no im not i didnt do anything im not sorry. he was like yeah i know. and then i told one of the girls who hates me the true story of what i just wrote here and she asked chris and chris said no it was my fualt and i was all over him!!
its all messed up i need some advice. i dont know what im going to do. now i have like literally 5 friends!!
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it's not your fault. just dont' worry about it. let people think what they want to think. and that kim girl don't pay any attention to her. she's just jealous of you. if people are calling you names because of something someone tells them which isn't true you don't have to explain it to them. just remember let people think what they wanna think. all that matters is that you know what really happened. good luck and have an awesome summer! bye
-.christina*
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me and my boyfriend broke up today because another boy blew a kiss at me and i laughed -- which he considered flirting i didnt do it on purpose so we broke up and today after school he told one of my friends he was just made and he wants to get back with me as all day at school he screamed and yelled at me and told me he didnt want to go on our class trip with me any more and we always fight and argue is it worth the troubles? should i get back with him or not? i love him but i dont think i can handle this anymore. Should i move on to see if theres better things or stay with the person i love that always hurts me? some one please help me! (link)
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well i would advice you to just go wherever the wind takes you. or what i'm trying to say is follow your heart. if you really love him then go out with him. good luck and have a great summer! bye!
-.christina*
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Ok, So I am 13 years old and since May 2005, I have found myself madly in love with no other than a 20 year old McDonalds worker. He has started to open up a little more in the past couple of months, and he gives me lots of hugs, flirts, and shows all the "signs" of love back. Yet he has never told me. This week we are supposed to go to the movies. My question is, Should I open up and tell him I love him or should I just wait until he does? (link)
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um..it's kinda illegal for you guys to be dating. so if you don't want him to go to jail i suggest you dont' say anything.
-.christina*
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this kid that i've been hanging out with went out with one of my so called friends. and like she's been supposvedly calling me a slut and stuff. and like i don't know if he asks me out if i should date him or not ..we kissed last night ..and he's always like flirting with me and kissing my cheek and telling me to kiss his ..but idk if i should do that to her or not. they've also been apart for more than 5 months. help?! :( (link)
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well if you really like him then i'd say go for it! and if she's calling you a slut then she's not really your friend since she's supposedly jealous. so don't worry about it. because if she calls you a slut again just ignore her. well good luck.bye
-.christina*
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Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=( (link)
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well..if he didn't respect your wishes about not wanting to have sex and wait for marriage then he's not a good boyfriend. and if he said he hated you and wanted you to wait for him during the summer then that doesn't make him a good boyfriend either. if i were you then i wouldn't date him anymore. i mean if he treats you this badly then he's not a good boyfriend.hope you have a great summer. and good luck! bye
-.christina*
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ok
so i talked to this guy on myspace
and he seems really nice
well he is
and hes really beutiful
and he goes to my school
but hes downstairs
and im upstairs
or whatever
but i like never see him
and i dont know what to do
i have seen him once because he has my lunch
and we like eachother
but im to afraid to talk to him because hes so gorgeous and popular
but hangs out with the preps
and im scared of preps
PLEASE HELP
i rate 5 for trying (link)
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well. if you really like this guy and he's popular and he hangs out with people you're afraid of..like you said preps..then i'd advice you to face your fears of preps and talk to him. or just ask him whenever you talk to him to meet you at a spot where you two can be alone. and then you won't have to worry about the people he hangs around with..goodl uck..hope my advice helps you in some way..bye
-.christina*
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