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Well, I used to go out with a boy, and he was like my first kiss and everything. And I still love him and its been 8 months. But, he has a girlfriend right now. I know he would go out with me if I asked him, but I dont want to break them up. But, I think I really do love him and he means the world to me. We broke up because my friends were being really arrogant and kept telling me lies and false stories about him so I broke up with him. Do I brake them up? How do I get him back? Please help me you have no idea how much I miss him and would literally fo anything to be with him.
--me

If he likes you then it's not fair he's going out with this other girl. Talk to him about it. Tell him you still really love him, point out it's not fiar to the other girl if he still loves you, and I hope things work out! Hope I helped!

With love,
Amanda

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ok well im 13 almost 14 and ive only had 2 boyfriends my whole life guys tell me i look hot although im 5'8" and all the guys at my school are shorter if they like me why wont they ask me out....?

They probably feel weird about the height. Don't worry about it too much though, because you will be in highschool soon and more guys will catch up to your height or be taller than you. =] Enjoy your beauty and height.. you won't be so tall soon! I swear! I have girls at my school who used to be that tall and we got to highschool and they don't look so tall anymore. You'll grow out of being taller than everyone! Hope I helped!

Much love,
Amanda

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hey guys well imma a well spoken person and well i hav a huge crush on this one guy ~n~ like well when i am around him i get really shy and i have butterflys in my stomache and when i am about to say something i have nothin to say....how do i stop bein shy around him?? and how can i make those butterflys stop holdin me back??
-penguin

Take a deep breathe dear. Even though he seems so great and perfect remember: he still has flaws just like you! Enjoy the butterflies! They're fun while they last and shows that you like him! =] About having nothing to say ask him how his day was, share a funny story, talk about where you are or what you're doing! =] Don't worry he doesn't think you're dumb! He probably feels shy. Whenever you feel shy remember the other persons human too and has just as many flaws and awkward moments as you! No ones perfect and everyo one always feels weird so don't sweat it! =] Hope I helped!

Much love,
Amanda

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14/f. sorry if this is realllyy long lol, ill try to keep it short.

ok so first off. i'm REALLY shy. like in school, everyone [well not everyone but some people who are really immature] tease me about "never talking" and this really pisses me off because just because i'm shy, quiet and well-behaved in school doesn't mean i never talk. infact at home and with my friends i'm so loud and talkative that they can't shut me up. =D but being shy is a huge problem for me that i can't overcome. anyone that i'm not really close to, i can hardly speak to. yeah if they say something to me i'll answer, but it's not like i'll go out of my way to ask them a question. and in school its the same way. so i'm gonna be a freshman. and like high school=new people. how can i overcome my shyness and open up to them so i can get more friends? because as of right now i have 2 best friends who i've know forever and i can totally be my true self around them, love em to death and can tell them anything. i also have a few other friends, not as close but i can still talk/hang out with them. i dont consider myself popular, even tho i think the cliques and everything are really stupid. this leads me into the second part of my question lol...

there's this boy i like. it'll be 2 years that i like him in july. he, unlike myself, is pretty popular. always flirting with other girls, hanging out with the guys, etc. now, this isnt one of those cases where the unpopular girl just like the popular guy because he's hot and everything and never talked to him before. i used to talk to him. he actually considered me his friend. he actually LIKED me. it all started in the summer before 7th grade.. when he actually wasnt as popular [this year he kinda changed and has been hanging out with a different group of people] anyway, he told me he liked me online and we talked. i started to like him, told him i did. in november of 7th grade, he asked me out [online and through my friend however]. and here's the turning point. i said NO. why ? well, he would've been my first real boyfriend, i'm really shy [as i said before].. you see, it was easy talking to him online, because it wasn't face to face. in school though, it was a whole different story

i dont know what happened. after i turned him down, we still talked for a while [which had to be really awkward for him] after a while though..he just lost interest in me i guess..and our conversations slowly got boring. and we didn't know what to talk about. and he hardly said anything. and i did most of the talking. it was the same in the summer before 8th grade. i became almost obsessive in a way. i was IMing him like everyday. and he would hardly say anything. then 8th grade started and i just said to myself "this isn't going anywhere" and i gave up. i seriously haven't talked to him online since like september or october.

but now, i'm going into highschool. and i really want to start talking to him again. do you think i have a chance left? i mean.. september was a long time ago. it would be really awkward iming him and i'd have no clue what to say. it would probably be like those days where he hardly say anything. "hey..hi..whats up..nm u..nothing..cool" and so on. that's what our convos were like. i dunno. would iming him again be a good idea? ughh there's like so much more to the story but it would prob. go on forever..what should i do? so sorry it was so longg!

I'm just going to say one thing dear... you are SO going to get over your shyness in Highschool! =] Believe me! I used to be as shy as they come and you will grow out of it so soon darling. =] Don't sweat it!

And about the boy... IM him again! But change your routine.. he probably felt dumb because he thought you liked him and he liked you a lot and then you turned him down! Explain to him that you liked him but you were sooo shy that you didn't want to feel wierd. He'll appreciate it hon! I swear! So just talk to him about that whole situation, and maybe mentin you like him again. I hope things work out! I hope I helped!

With love,
Amanda

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Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out??

I was 11 when I went on my first date, and I was 13-14 when I first made out.

With love,
Amanda

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Ugh I feel like a retard... i met this guy and we started talking on the phone and he was just so sweet so i started liking him... and it seemed that he liked me too... and today i was like im really starting to like u and guess what he didnt say anything, he doesnt like me i feel so stupid and i just want to cry... like i really like him and i feel like i was lead on. What did i do wrong?

Hon,

You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes things like this just don't work out, and that's not your fault. One of two things could've happened.

1. He likes you but didn't know how to tell you.

2. He didn't feel the same way, but appreciates your friendship too much to hurt your feelings.

Either way he still cares about you. For right now enjoy the friendship you have with him, and who knows. Maybe one day in the future everything will work out like your fairy tale. As for right now, relax.. don't worry. If he means that much to you, thenit's just great having him in your life. =]

Hope I helped.

With love,
Amanda

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Okay, I went out with this guy in November, we didn't know eachother all too well, rushed into a physical relationship, and ended up breaking up in 2 weeks. We've both seen other people since then. Recently, we've hooked up and been talking more, now that we're both single. We've hooked up a few times recently and Im afraid that if i become emotionally attached to him again, he may not want to get back together. Question is, should I get back together with him if the subject comes up? Should I let him know that I may becoming emotionally attached to him again? Im 14/f he's 15/m

Well is it going to be another fling, or are you willing for a serious relationship? Think about it hun, your 14 right? So am I. Your only 14 once and at this age we're both so young. Are you ready for heartache at this age, or do you want to be happy and blissful? I honestly think that right now at this moment you should stay friends. Let your relationship wait awhile, and if a couple months, or maybe even a year, you feel the same way. Maybe you should try it. Good Luck! ~*AmAnda*~

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Hi, I'm in 8th grade and about to graduate, I really like this boy and I wanted him to ask me to our last dance. Every time I'm around him I can never get the nerve to talk to him. What should I do?

Well think to yourself. Whats the worst that can happen? He'll say no right? Well won't you regret it if you don't at least try asking him? What if he does say yes? That would be totally exciting huh? I think you should take a few easy breaths walk up to him and ask him. You might regret it later if you dont. Good luck! ~*AmAnDa*~

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Should You give Up on something if it makes u smile but... your friends dont like him very much...??

I don't think you should give up on him if he makes you smile. You know yourself better than anyone else so if it makes you happy stay with him, unless of course he is hurting you emotionally, your friends are probably concerned, but I think you should stick with him. Hope I helped! ~*AmAnDa*~

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14/f Hey well there is this one guy who i serioulsy really really really like...everyone knows I like him... even his friends most likely...well the problem is I have liked him for a really long time...and alot of ppl want me to get over him... but I dont know how... i tried looking at other guys but for some reason when i start to like another guy I suddenly stop and go back to likeing him...i have never gone out with him which really sucks cause i really want too... ok well we dont talk that much at school but we talk on the phone...ok usaully when i talk to him we talk for at least a half hour at least unless he has to go... well the other day i called him and i think he was being kinda rude...(i havent told anyone especially my best friends cause they dont really like him and if isay something that will just make me sad cause they will say good get over him and i dont wanna cry...cause that will make me cry...)ok back to where i was he said something that hecka made me sad...so i like hung up the phone and like started crying.... i wanna talk to him again but i cant tell him that he made me cry... cause i dont think he has realized how much i do really like him... also i know he doesnt like me cause i know who he does like and know that he wants to go out with her..(she has everything i want)ok so heres another thing i havent called him since then and yea its just been like 5 days and i dont know if i should even talk to him anymore on the phone cause he makes me hecka sad what should i do???

Well your situation sounds unbelievably familiar to me. :-/ It sounds like you like him very much, but it also sounds like he's a little bit of a jerk. If he matters this much to you pray, either that or talk to one of your best friends and tell them that right then is not the moment to be critical of him. Tell them you just need someone to listen and to console you, not beat up your crush. I also think that you should call him back. Just don't get your hopes up and don't give him the oppurtunity to hurt you again. It sometimes takes a little while (or sometimes forever) for some people to see the good things they have right in front of them. I hope I helped a little and good luck. Remember: Don't keep your feelings inside. They well up inside, and make your heart feel like a heavy weight instead of the cloud that it is. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

Well sometimes it takes a few times to get something to work. I have to admit that it is really hard to believe someone after they hurt you so much. If it seems things are going back down the drain just stay friends. Sometimes thats best even though you feel you need them for something more. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me

Leave the broken relationship with your ex alone. You shouldn't have gone to the movies w/ her in the first place. If oyu love your other girlfriend think of how much that would hurt her to find that out. No offense, but that was really inconsiderate of you. You say you love her and then you go and start making out w/ nother girl? think out ur actions next time before you do them. :/ ~*AmAnDa*~

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i feel really caught up inside myself. like i like this guy jake and he likes me but i haven't told anyone b/c my friend alexia just came out of a sort of relationship with him (basically he was off limits to people INCLUDING NOW!) i know that might sound selfish but that's just how alexia is. anyways i just want to go out with him but he won't ask me out b/c of alexia. i dont know what i should do as far as asking him out or just talking to him.

Definately talk to him. Don't ask him out just try talking that out w/ him. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I dont want to make out with my boyfriend but everytime i want to kiss him he trys to stick his tounge in my mouth. it kinda grosses me out. but lately ive been wanting to kiss him. how can i tell him i just want to kiss him but not make out?
CiArA

Just tell him. Be like can we just do a regular kiss? Tell him you don't want to be making out, and just a simple kiss should be ok everyonce in awhile. ~*AmAnDa*~

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My ex recently came back into my life and I admit that I do have strong feelings for him. He also said that he wants to be in a long-term relationship with me. He said that I was on his mind alot and thats why he felt he had to find me. Things keep happening like fate wants us to be. If I do decide to talk to him again, it will be a risk because he do have a past behind him because he's a bad boy. I still want to be with him in a way. We both said we will take it slow to see what will happend. So do you think that I should give it a try because I think fate is bringing us together for a reason, I just need to hear it from someone else.

Just make sure you DO take it slow and make sure he's out of his bad-boy life. That could ruin your life if thats still what he's into. Other than those two-precautions you should try it. If you feel like your going in way over your head you can leave. Remember it's your life with your choices, take care of it. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I used to like this guy since kindergaten and he's been in my class ever since(except fourth). Now that I'm in Jr. High, I'm not interested in him or any other guy anymore. everyhting has changed since I started. Is this normal?

Yeah, in a couple years you probably will be interested again though, but while you're taking a break from guys enjoy it! They get pretty confusing! ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok well see the thing is i dont have a boyfriend and all of my friends do and all of my guy friends have girlfriends so i feel so extremely left out its like this ok so they have their couples nights and everything so they go out to the movies or hang out at someones house and everything and they always neglect to invite me because yeah im the only person that is single. what should i do?

Keep looking for a guy. Designate a night for just you and your girls too to help make you feel a little less neglected. In the meantime keep searching. He's out there. ~*AmAnDa*~

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Alright, this might take a minute, I have this really good friend Jake. He tells me he's "in love with me", and is planning on asking me out this friday. We have went out once before for a short time, and broke up because I had alot going on and didnt really want to deal with a boyfriend. He got really upset and hurt himself. He knows that I'm not so sure if i want to go out with him or not, but still, his hopes are high. I do like him sometimes, but it's weird and when i'm in certain moods i just dont like him like that at all.
Then, I really really like this other friend (Nick) of mine. He is alot older than me, and at our age difference right now nothing would happen. But I still do like him and he's one of my good friends. I have no idea if he likes me like that, but sometimes he does give me weird signals.
Anyway, I am not sure if I want to go out with Jake or not. I am in a few classes where there is Nick and Jake and (they are friends, but nobody knows I like Nick except my best friend.) I know that it would be weird, Nick wouldnt say anything but I know he would be kind of disappointed in me. Either way, if i say yes or no, i know that I am going to be unhappy with my answer. if i say yes i'll wish i said no and if i say no i'll wish i said yes. I don't really know what Im getting at, but this is my problem and i need to know soon.
Thanks for the help.

I don't think you should. Tell him you really don't need a boyfriend at this part of your life. Bring up the fact that last time you guys went out things were just a little too crazy for you, and that it might not be that much of a great idea. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok.. i dunno what to do. me and my bf well he used to live here, and he moved to florida. and we talk all the time, every free minute he has, we are talking. and, he has been talkin to me bout movin to florida when i graduate this summer. and i dunno what to do. i keep thinkin bout it. but all that comes out of it is negative things. like.. what if he dont wanna b with me no more. b/c i dont have a car or anything and he said he would put me on his insurance, and help me find a job and stuff.. but then it just worries me that he will like a girl that looks better than me. i dunno what to do.. there is alot more but i dont feel like sayin it all

It sounds like your really insecure about the whole thing. Try telling him about your insecurities. Or better yet, talk to a family member about it. It might make this decision a little bit easier for you. ~*AmAnDa*~

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My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years. We've had our problems and worked through them - we started dating when we were still in high school. (I'm about to turn 18, he's about to turn twenty.) We've always been friends and supported each other, knowing that high school relationships don't tend to last very long. Things have been good lately in the sense that we get along, we spend time with one another and care about eachother very much - but lately I've been bothered about where our relationship is going.

We do not and never have said the words "I Love You", and we both used to agree that too many people misuse those words, causing more problems. He has a bad past when it comes to "love" and relationships, but we've been together for two years. I don't expect him to love me necessarily, or to tell me he does when he isn't ready - but I sometimes doubt his feelings for me relationship -wise. We haven't been talking the same way we had been lately, and I tried talking to him about this and he just stayed silent, (his way of blocking out my questions.) The silence is getting to me. I've even tried asking him flat-out, "how do you feel about me?". He seems to think I shouldn't ask him, and won't tell me why he feels like he shouldn't answer. It's starting to make me feel like we've just hit the end, but we're so connected when it comes to being around eachother, we've been friends and more than friends for so long. In short, his actions are there most of the time, but the words are not. I sometimes feel as if after all this time, I've been with a stranger. We don't have 'fun' as much anymore, and he often seems completely enthralled with his thoughts and less enthusiastic about life in general when around me.
I really would like to be in a relationship where we can say "I love you" after being together for so long - or at least be able to be verbally affectionate. - But I don't want to force him or make him feel like he's being forced. I want him to be happy, too, but I sometimes feel I'm not getting the attention I deserve. Am I being over-insecure? Thanks for anyone willing to read this long thing, and help.

Well. You can pray...a lot about this, but maybe you guys need to let go of eachother. It may be hard, but it might be what you need to do. If that doesn't seem right to you then try livening up your relationship a little bit by taking some fun outings such as going ice skating or taking a walk through the park. The simple things in life, such as spending times with the people who mean most to you in life, are what makes life so enjoyable. ~*AmAnDa*~

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