My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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A couple of weeks ago I noticed a change in my bf's behavior... he started acting like my affection was bothering him, and it felt like he was avoiding me. When we were together he was silent or he would talk about stupid unimportant things, as if we couldn't have a meaningful conversation anymore. He was so distant, but every time I asked him what was wrong and why he was acting differently, he would go mad and say that I was creating problems when there were none. So I broke up with him, and it was a hard decision. I thought he lost interest in me and I didn't want to be a burden. But ever since he's been telling me that his feelings for me haven't changed. Actually that's what he says, but he's still acting weird. And when I told him that my decision was final, he didn't even seem to be mad or desperate or anything like that, he just said he didn't understand why and that he hoped I change my mind.
I don't know what happened between us... it was so sudden! I'm afraid that I pushed him away, because I wanted to be with him all the time, and that maybe he wanted a time out... but if he loved me as much as I loved him, wouldn't he want to be with me just as much as I wanted to be with him?! (link)
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First of all, how long were you dating before he started acting differently? Relationships don't stay the way they were in the beginning. I mean, are your parents still together? Well, my parents definitely aren't as affectionate as my boyfriend and I are. I know that it's just what happens in the beginning when everything is new and exciting. Eventually, that calms down and it becomes more mellow. It doesn't mean he cares any less for you. I really don't think you should have broke up with him as quickly as you made it seem. Now, if you genuinely told him it was bothering you and made you feel like you were in his way all the time and he still didn't seem to care, that's another story.
The fact that he's saying that his feelings haven't changed for you says it all. He still likes you and wants to be with you. If you want a guy to be depressed and desperate to be with you when you break up with him, you've got a big reality check coming. He did the mature thing in saying he understood and hoped you change your mind. It doesn't mean he's not hurt, either. You can't expect guys to cry over not being with you anymore. That's just a self centered and selfish way to act.
Like I said, couples don't stay lovey dovey forever. Sometimes you need time away from that person. I know how you feel. If it were up to me, I'd be with my boyfriend 24/7, but I also know that being apart just makes it so much better when we see each other after a day or two of not being with each other. When you're with him all the time, there's no missing you, there's no anticipation of seeing you again.
I'd give him another chance, but it's up to you. If you still love him and think he's worth it, go for it. Just try to understand where he's coming from before snapping again.
Oh, and just a side note: guys generally don't like when girls ask "what's wrong?" a lot. It annoys them and gives off the impression that you're insecure in yourself and your relationship with him.
Good luck! :)
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How do you know if you love someone? I think I love my bgf, but how can I be sure? We both like each other, but can't have a relationship now (complicated). I think I may love him tho actually I think I do because I mean I'm a very emotional person and I love all my friends and stuff and loving people isn't very hard for me (like friend wise) but I think I love him. I love him as a very good friend at least. Also if you have been best friends with a boy for a while and then you date is it kind of weird to start hugging and stuff. When you haven't for so long? And we've watched and supported each other in other relationships with each others best friends. So if/when we date is it weird to start hugging and stuff? Thanks so much! And i rate. (link)
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If you were in love with this guy, you wouldn't be questioning it. Just the fact that you're asking people on a website how you can know if you love someone tells me that you don't REALLY love him. People say they love their friends all the time, but loving someone and being IN love with someone are two very different things. And if you ask me, people use the word love way too much and way too easily. I don't know your situation at all just by your question, and neither does anyone here, so we can't exactly TELL you how you feel, but perhaps it's just a crush.
As for hugging, dating isn't just hugging. Hugging your friends shouldn't be awkward or weird, but dating your friends can screw things up. Even if you both like each other and start dating, chances are once you break up your friendship will either end or be weird/awkward. Very few friends that date end up continuing the same friendship after you break up. And it would be pretty naive to think that at our age we're going to meet the person we'll be with forever...or even for a long time.
We can't tell you what to do, but those are just things to think about before you tell him how you feel.
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I went out with a lad who treated me horrbile and now he is say he still loves me and he going out with my firend and i don't know what 2 do should i get back with him or not..??
stuck.. (link)
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Uh, if he treated you badly, then why would you WANT to be with him? If you have to ask, then you obviously don't think it's that great of an idea. Leave it be.
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ok so im 16 going on 17 in almost 2moths and althow this might be hard to belive i've never really had a boyfriend and i mean i wouldnt say its cause im really icolated cause i mean i basicly hang out with alot of dudes and they usaly try to get far i mean too far with me but yeah on saterday i went on my very frist date and it was cool i mean we werent really alone it was more of me being the only girl with a bunchof guys going everywhere acrost town well yeah i mean we did kinda get time alone like when we would drive up to places so yeah every time we would go in some where we would kinda hold has to you know show we are on a date or whatever but yeah i mean long story short when he drives me home we get off and he walks me to the door i was not thinking at all cause thats the part when we hug good bye and say well i'll call you later or whatever but i mean i just walked to the door and opend it w/ like my parints and grandparints right in the living room with him just standing there and yelled good bye i didnt reolize i did that till i was in bed!!!but yeah so dont know what to do i mean im really confuesd about that cause to top it all off i dont really like him i mean i do like him and i know he likes me too and all and i know that if we go out again which we are on friday that things might get close and well i havent even had my frist kiss this sounds soo lame or whatever but yeah it gets even worse the worst part is i think i have feelings for my best friend who is a GIRL!!! i mean everything is worse what do i do how do i know if what i feel for her is just some fase cause when i thing about haveing sex with a boy their "thing" kinda discusts me is that normal??? sorry its long but im really confuesd (link)
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First off, this question was really hard to read. Using some grammar rules would be really helpful to people trying to read this.
One concern of mine is that you're a little immature for your age. I don't know you, but that's just what it sounds like. Being disgusted by a boy's "thing"...yeah, you're almost 17, that's not exactly normal.
There's nothing wrong with having feelings for another girl. Sometimes straight girls get little crushes on their friends, but they never act on it. It's just a little innocent crush. But there is a possibility that you're a lesbian. And there's nothing wrong with that either.
Don't jump to conclusions. I would give myself a little more time to figure myself out if I were you. It's not weird to be 17 and not have your first kiss yet. I had my first kiss, boyfriend, AND date after I'd been 17 for a while. And I don't think there's anything wrong with me. I just wasn't on the hunt for a guy at the time.
It doesn't sound like you're READY for your first boyfriend or your first kiss. If you don't like this guy, don't lead him on. That's not fair to him if he likes you. Just tell him you don't want to date him and that you just want to hang out as friends. As for your girl friend, don't tell her you have feelings for her just yet. If the feelings are serious, you can explore that later, but from what I'm hearing it's just an issue of you growing up.
Good luck.
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hey 13/f
all my fiends that i hang out with have all kissed a guy at some stage i feel really left out and stuff sometimes and they treat me like a baby..i just want to get it over and done with but want to like the guy as well
Please help me!!!
thanx mwa (link)
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Relax, don't worry about it. You're only 13 years old. You're not even in high school yet. These things take time, and sometimes the longer you wait the better it'll be once it happens.
I'm 17 years old and I had my first kiss two months ago! I was definitely a late bloomer. It took me that long to have my first legitimate boyfriend. Sure, I felt like there was something wrong with me and that guys didn't like me and that I wasn't pretty/skinny/fun enough. I've been through it all.
But once I got my first boyfriend, I realized what I'd been missing all those years. The reason no guys became interested in me is because I had no confidence. CONFIDENCE makes all the difference. I heard this all the time, but I never believed it until now. My first boyfriend gave me confidence that a guy really could like me.
After I broke up with that guy for cheating on me, I at one point had NINE guys trying to talk to me. It was crazy, I'd never experienced anything like that before. And I know it's because of the newfound confidence. That confidence made me able to go out and meet new people and it gave me the courage to be outgoing, even with guys.
The only thing I ask is that you don't settle just so you can have your first kiss. Don't have your first kiss with a guy you don't like just because he's willing to kiss you. That's just ASKING for the kiss to suck. And this applies to everyone looking to have a boyfriend. Out of those 9 guys that were into me, I'm interested in exactly ONE of them. And he just got out of a long relationship that ended with the girl cheating on him, so he's scared to get into a relationship. I've known him for about three weeks and even though we both obviously like each other, all we've done is flirt and hug. He's not an easy guy to get, and some of the others would have been. You have to wait for the one you really like to make it count, even if you have to fight for him. Not everything in life is easy.
Good luck! :]
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How can you tell if a guy is after sex or love? I feel like I can't be objective so I'm just gonna tell you some stuff and you'll tell me what you think.. what is he after? He seems to be very interested in me even though we've NEVER kissed or held hands or had any physical contact (so that speaks for LOVE right?) ALTHOUGH I have given him strong signs that if he were to become mine, we'd do A LOT of physical stuff.. so I have planted expectations in his head. When he flirts it's usually like "i can't wait to be alone with you" "i cant wait to see you..theres all these things i want to say to you..and do to you" or "make sure you wear tasty lipgloss the next time you come over" but sometimes he also says "i miss you so much" or "Love you like a fat kids love cake" His friends all lie to him and tell him I'm a slut.. so he probably thinks I'm easy (even though I've only had one kiss and nothing else my whole life!) but he's always treated me with respect. When he wants to give me a compliment it has never been about anything physical, it's always like "you're so sweet" or "you have this quality i've never seen in any other chick" or sometimes compliments my eyes, so i dont know, i get mixed signals, and I would really want to know what he's after, cause I don't put out..
oh and one more question! lets say I'm at his house..and we're making out (which im cool with) but then he starts undressing me.. is there any way to pause the physical without saying "lets take it slow" or "I dont want to".. like is there a way to not go further withotu ruining the mood or making it awkward?! (link)
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Well there's really no way for me to TELL you if he's after love or sex. No one on this site knows him and we can't really make an accurate idea of what this guy is all about.
From your question, it sounds like you guys aren't even dating yet. Are you? If you aren't, him saying he wants to "do things to you" isn't exactly respect. If you're not dating someone but you are talking about it, and he says he can't wait to be alone with you and do things to you...it might make you feel good about yourself and it's not even a bad thing, but it's definitely not a non-sexual respect.
He seems sexually attracted to you, yes. But that does not mean that he's ONLY after sex. He is saying sweet things to you. He could be 1) trying to get into your pants by feeding your ego or 2)just being genuinely interested in you. Again, there's no way we can tell you that.
This is a difficult situation and my best advice would be to just go with the flow, try to be as objective as possible, ask your friends what they think, and use good judgment.
As for your last question, I can relate. With my last boyfriend, we did a lot of sexual things together (making out, feeling up, grinding, handjob, blowjob), but I never let him give me oral, finger me, etc. And we never had sex. Closer to the beginning, I had already "touched" him, if you know what I mean, but he hadn't even touched ME on top of my pants. One time he let his hand glide across that area and he pulled at the string on my pants. We were making out at the time and I didn't stop and say anything, I just took his hand and guided it away from my crotch onto my hip. All he did was sort of laugh into my mouth as if he was saying "hey, I had to at least try" and we went on like nothing happened. Just guide his hand away from the area that it shouldn't be and it won't be awkward. He just needs to know his boundaries. :) If he pushes it, though, you're going to have to say something to him.
Good luck!
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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...
is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..
I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff. (link)
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No, you're definitely not weird. Not all guys are looking for sex. If a guy really likes you, he'll wait for you to be ready. It's totally fine not to feel comfortable with things like that at such a young age and you should NEVER do ANYTHING you're not 100% comfortable with.
From someone that used to be in a similar situation, though, this can change when you get a boyfriend. I didn't get my first boyfriend until this end of this school year (I'm 17) and before that I always told myself I'd never do all of that so soon. Well, we dated for three weeks before things went bad, but in that time I gave him a hand job and a blow job and we grinded and made out and felt each other up and all that. If someone were to tell me this story from their point of view, I know I'd sound like a whore, but I know that I didn't do anything I didn't WANT to do. I didn't let him give me oral sex or finger me (my pants stayed ON and BUTTONED the entire time) and I didn't have sex with him because I wasn't comfortable or ready to do that. And now, I'm glad I didn't do those things, but that doesn't mean I wish I hadn't done the rest. I chalk it all up to experience now.
It's really good to have strong opinions, but if you do get a boyfriend and do those things, never regret something that you did that you wanted to do at the time. Just go with the flow and things will happen when they're supposed to happen. Don't let any guy pressure you into doing something you aren't comfortable with.
Good luck!
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okay so i don't know what to do. i've been going out with this girl for over a year now and i'm starting to get board. we have sex, that's great, but i'm not used to being with people, i can't break up with her, she'd be devstated. i don't know how to tell her that i'm just so board, but i don't know how to make things interesting again... can anyone help? please! (link)
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Well the first thing you have to decide is if you still want to be with her or not. If you no longer are in love with her and would rather be alone, yes she'll be hurt, but staying with her wouldn't be fair to her either.
In a relationship that's been going on as long as yours has, things are bound to get a little boring because it's the same person that you're around all the time. Things don't stay new and exciting for very long. That's why long-term relationships take time and effort. You can't leave at the first sign of trouble.
I understand that you're not used to being with someone like that, especially for so long, but if you're still in love with her, you should work on it. Talk to her about it and be honest with her, because she deserves your honesty. You should never hide what you're feeling from the person you're with. It's not fair to you OR them.
Maybe you can think of some ways that you can un-bore the relationship and talk to her about "spicing things up". Sometimes all you need is a couple new ingredients to spice up an old, familiar dish. Ya know?
Communication is key. Maybe you'll start talking to her about it and she'll feel the same way. Another thing to remember is that some relationships aren't meant to work out. If you don't want to be with her anymore, don't stay with her out of pity. Because then you'll end up getting so bored and aggravated that you could find your fun with other women, and that is NOT cool.
So, basically, my advice is to ask yourself if you still want to be with her. If you do, talk to her about how you feel and try to fix it. If you don't, you have to break it off with her in the best way you can so you both can move on quicker. Either way, don't be mean about it and don't make her feel like any of this is HER fault. Don't let her think that the whole relationship was just a waste of both of your time. Let her know that you do still care about her and love her, but you just think it would be best if you saw other people, took a break, and see how you both do on your own. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll find your way back to each other. If it's meant the be, it'll happen.
Good luck!
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im going into eighth grade. and i want to know some flirting techniques that middleschoolers could use. please and thankyou :] (link)
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Ok, here are a few subtle flirting techniques:
-Reaching out to touch his arm when you talk to him
-Eye contact while you're talking
-If he's across the room you can catch his eye, give him a little smile, and then look away
-Smile/laugh with him
-Brush against him as you walk by and then look back at him. If he looks back at you, smile.
Another thing is to ask guys about themselves. Guys love talking about themselves. Ask about his family or friends. "What's your favorite thing to do on the weekend?" "What did you do over the summer?" "Do you have any brothers or sisters?" etc.
Find something you know he's interested in, such as football for example. Watch the next game that airs, and then bring it up. "So the Patriots kicked ass last night, huh?" If you make an effort to like what he likes, he'll LOVE it. Or if he's into cars, do some research so you know a little about it and you can ask him stuff like "What kind of car do you drive?" "What's your dream car?" If he's a car guy, he can talk about it for hours.
Just take an interest in him. Guys love to know that a girl actually wants to hear about his love of sports or cars or...whatever.
Good luck!
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So I have an ex that's in Cali. for training to be in the army.I talked to him for the first time today since months ago.We broke up end of October.After dumping me for his ex.. that lasted less than a month then he tried to get back with me and I denied his offer.He tried for a long time and then he finially gave up, and I was talking to a guy.I ended up with him and he is currently with his girlfriend who he dumped me for.Supposively she's pregnant and their getting married in July.Which is ridiculous because she might not be pregnant.I mean, he has his doubts and today I told him to do whatever will make him happy.He understands , but then again, he's a coward.For one, he hit her.Which is wayy off the line.Which was a while back when he went to his ex after me.Anyways, he told me he called me because they drowned him and they told them to call whomever they think changed their life in some way and had feelings for.And he thought of me.And he told me a flash memory of us when he asked me out.By then, I was like... oh god.. and he stopped telling me details of what he could remember.He also told me that he admitted to his current that he still loved me and that kills her to hear that.And he gets angry when she's talks her stuff about me, which then he sticks up for me when he doesn't even talk to me or have any communication with me.I couldn't admit to him that I miss him or love him.That would be wrong of me to do when I have a boyfriend.And tried to ask me If I missed him and I said I wasn't going to answer that.And he also asked if I ever thought about him and he added that I came to mind every once in awhile to see what I was doing, if I was drinking , am I happy.So I told him obviously because I called him.( I called him a few days ago not knowing he was in Cali for the army., but he didn't answer) And I hate admitting at all that I even had thought about him.I really don't know what to do in the situation though.It's really hard.So I went to the movies with my boyfriend tonight and I called my ex back later on when I got back..I'm not sure why.He told me to call when I wanted or whatever.And he answered shocked and he couldn't understand why I called back, which he thought I wouldn't talk to him again.But yeahh.. I just don't know what to do.I don't want to do anything to hurt my boyfriend and our relationship.I've been with him for almost 3 months.I don't even know what I'm asking.Sorry for being so long.So I guess I'm asking what do I do in this situation.I wouldn't ever go back to my ex.He did me wrong and he knows it and he even told me what he did wrong.Soo.... yeah.I'm just trying to move on.. (link)
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Wow, this is a complicated situation you've gotten yourself into.
My advice would be to stick with your current boyfriend. I'm not going to list my reasons because you know what your ex did was horrible and what he's doing to his current girlfriend is horrible as well. You don't want to get involved with a guy like that.
What I would do is not call him. It just seems to cause drama. However, if he calls you, talk to him. But do like you're doing and don't ever let him think you still have feelings for him. Tell him you just want to be friends. Don't lead him on.
I don't know if your boyfriend knows about all this, but if he doesn't I think it would be best to tell him. It's not good hiding things from the person you're with. Even if it doesn't seem like a big deal and you aren't doing anything wrong, let your guy know what's been happening and how you feel about it so he understands and isn't threatened by your ex.
Eventually you'll move on completely and so will your ex. These things take time. But never trust him as much as you used to, even if you're just friends. Don't let your guard down around him because if he hit his current girlfriend, you don't know what he will do to someone who refuses to go out with him again when he says he loves them that much.
I just think you should pretty much keep doing exactly what you're doing.
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Do long distance relationships work?
Or what are your views on them?
I'm not thinking of starting one, but a friend is and I was just wondering what others thought about them. (link)
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I estimate that 90% of long distance relationships don't work. Both people have to be SO dedicated to the other. If you start off long distance, I think the chances of it lasting is very slim. And if you date for a while and then one moves away, I think it can last a little longer just because a personal connection had time to form.
I don't have a bunch of experience in this department, but I dated my last boyfriend for 2 weeks and then he left for California for a 2 month work vacation. A week went by and we barely talked...then I found out he was dating another girl. So that's my one bad experience.
I can't really compare all long distance relationships to that, but I felt this way before I even went through that.
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15/f. i've read over a lot of your answers and i like how you are honest, so i decided to ask you about my little problem. i like this guy named mike, and we are good friends. we hang out a lot & talk on aim and everything. now i'm not a clingy person and i'm not obvious about who i like, so as far as i know, he has no idea. the only problem is that he has a gf who goes to a different school and she hates me! i've never even met her and she already hates me!
it all started when this girl in my school told mike's gf that i was "all over him" at a field trip at school. which i wasn't and mike even told his gf that i wasn't.
now the other day one of mike's gf's friends IMed me about mike! she was asking me like if we hang out a lot, if i liked him, and why he lies to his gf and stuff.
i just don't know what to do! i really like mike, but i don't want to get in the way of him & his gf since we are friends and i want him to be happy. (link)
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Well if it were me, I wouldn't even respond to this girl's friends. She's just pure jealous that her boyfriend has a close female friend. Maybe the reason Mike lies to her is because SHE'S the one who's the clingly control freak. Maybe this girl should hear that. She's getting all worked up like the guy is cheating on her when he really isn't. She needs to become a little less desperate and obsessive and start to trust the guy she's dating.
As for you, it's really good that all you want is for him to be happy. I think the best thing to do would be to not interfere in his relationship. Breaking them up won't bring you two closer together. Just let it run it's course and maybe after they break up he'll start to like you as more than a friend.
I know it's hard to like someone that you can't have, but it's part of life. You're just going to have to decide on if you can be just friends with someone you have these feelings for. You need to ask yourself if his friendship is worth putting yourself through this. Judging by your question, I'd say it is.
Good luck! :]
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is it bad to think about someone all the time that you cant have and you know that. (link)
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No, it's natural. You can't help it. But if you know you can't have the person, then you'll eventually have to get over them. It takes time though, so don't worry too much about it.
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i have a boyfriend. so if some guy asks me out or says he likes me, i can just say, "sorry, i have a boyfriend." but sometimes they ask me, "would you go out with me if you & your boyfriend break up?" and i never know what to say! if i say yes or maybe, my boyfriend might hear about it and get upset. but if i say no, that just seems kind of mean. and usually the guys who ask me this, i just like as friends. but i dont want to hurt their feelings. what should i say? (link)
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Here's a couple of things you can say that won't be mean and won't make your boyfriend mad:
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: [laugh] Well, I DO have a boyfriend, so why should it matter?
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: I think we make better friends than anything else, don't you?
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: Come onnnn, we're buddies. I'd never put that in jeopardy.
You can be 1) playful or 2) honest...and if you're lucky, you can be both at the same time. No one's will feel hurt or rejected.
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How can i get my boyfriend to kiss me? (link)
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I read the other answers and I know it can be really embarrassing for someone to ASK for a kiss, so here's a few things that come to mind:
-If he's dating you, he WANTS to kiss you. He won't reject you if he likes you.
-Try to do it when you're alone. It can be awkward around a bunch of people.
-Face him and look into his eyes a lot. A lot of signals can be communicated through eye contact.
-Don't turn away from him. If you keep your face turned toward him, he's more likely to go in for the kiss.
-Get close to him. You don't have to make the first move and go into a kiss, but you can press your body against his.
-Pretty much all he wants to know is that you WANT to kiss him. He's probably just as nervous as you are. If you in some way let him know you want him to kiss you, he'll do it.
I hope this helps a bit. Good luck on the kissing. :]
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sorry if this is really long! ok so im 14 and going to be a freshman in high school. i've liked this one kid for a while, and the past week i thought i finally had a chance. we were at a party and hung out and danced together the entire night. when i had to leave he got said and told me he didnt want me to leave and hugged me. but theres this other girl that he likes, and she likes him too. they were at a different party, and hooked up. but this girl is going to sleep away camp for 6 weeks tomorrow. all my friends are saying he will get over her and start to like me, but i cant bring myself to believe them. he even sends me text messages that talk about how much fun he had at the party with me and how mad he was when i had to leave. all the signs are there, but he likes another girl. i need advice from someone that isn't my friend because sometimes they can say things to just be nice. so like- what do i do!? wait and see what happens this summer, or just get over him!? (link)
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Wow, this is quite the predicament. Well, it IS possible to like two people at the same time. Definitely. And it does sound like he's into you. One question you have to ask is this: is he a player? If he were to start to date you, do you think he'd pursue her again when she gets back from camp? That's a big question, and it's very important. If you don't know him very well, it's kind of an impossible question to ask. Do you know why he broke up with his past girlfriends?
As for your question, if you really like him, I'd say you should pursue him. What can it hurt? Just play it cool and hang out with him some more to feel him out. Flirt with him, let him know you're interested. If he becomes MORE interested in you than this other girl, her absence could definitely make the thought of her disappear and all of his attention will be on you.
You're only 14, so just have fun with it. Don't get too involved too quickly, because that's how people get hurt. Just don't make it out to be more than what it is.
I hope this helped you out some!
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do you like it when girls have their hair a mess and are just wearing sweatpants instead of jeans?
and if a girls pretty, but doesnt talk much in the beginning is that a turn off or do u want to know more about her?
what would classify someone as a good kisseri n ur mind (link)
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I'm not a guy, but none of them seem to be answering this question, so I'll tell you this:
A lot of guys think that girls look their best with their hair up all messy lounging in their PJs or sweats. Guys say all the time that you don't have to dress up for them in caked up make-up and short skirts to impress them. They'll like you the way you are.
And girls who don't talk a lot can be seen as 1) shy, 2) stuck up, or 3) intriguing/mysterious. You want #3 if anything, but #1 isn't bad either for most guys. All you want is to not come off as stuck up or conceited. Try being a little more outgoing, or smile even if you are quiet. Just try to give a good first impression.
As for kissing, as long as you guys like each other and YOU'RE enjoying it, he'll enjoy it. Just don't get too messy, be enthusiastic, and just go with the flow.
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well me and muh boiifrined jusr broke up and i rally liked him. lets just say i was really hooked. and i think he left me for another gurl but i aint sure. and this is like the third time i get muh heartbroken this bad. and im so thinkin bout becomin a lesbian. wut should i do?? (link)
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Ok, wow, well first of all, you can't "become" a lesbian. You're either a lesbian or you're not. You can't just choose one day that you're going to be with girls. It doesn't work that way unless you are indeed ATTRACTED, physically/emotionally/sexually to girls. And that's something you can't just change.
And another thing. I'm guessing you're quite young. You can't give up on guys because you've had some break-ups. You're going to go through A LOT of break ups, even if you could indeed "turn" lesbian. Girls are just as much trouble, trust me, they just have different equipment.
You just have to date, have fun, and try not to get involved in too much drama or fall for someone too fast. Keep your head up and eventually you'll find the right person.
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does anyone know any songs similar to big girls dont cry. as in the lyrics. about having to move on with life and still loving someone. thanx. i need a new myspace song ;p
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Exactly TWO of the songs given to you are actually available on MySpace and neither of them are similar to Big Girls Don't Cry. I'll give it a shot and we'll see how it works out:
Katherine McPhee- Over It
JoJo- Too Little Too Late
Mariah Carey- Don't Forget About Us
Avril Lavigne- When You're Gone
Aaliyah- Miss You
Pink- Who Knew
Jessica Simpson- I Belong to Me
I know some country ones too and probably some alternative/rock, but I wasn't sure if you'd be into that. Not sure if any of these will float your boat, but I hope that helps.
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ok. so theres this boy.. i somewhat like him and im pretty sure he used to like me.. but now he barley talks to me.. how do i get him to "chase me".. like get him interested and show him that he's the one who wants me..
hopefully that makes sense (link)
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NOTE: First of all, I DID answer your question, so a 2 probably isn't the most accurate rating. But the reason I didn't get a fair rating was because I made a comment that you did not like. When you ask a question on advice website, you have to expect OPINIONS. Also, if you want people to give you an accurate analysis of your situation, you need to give more details. If you want people to understand the dilemma, you can't just expect them to know. And yes, I read the question, you still sound starved for attention.
Um, well you can't MAKE someone like you. If he does, he does. If he doesn't, there's nothing you can do to change that.
If you're interested in him, FLIRT with him. If he likes you and knows you're interested, he may pursue you.
However, you said you "somewhat" like him. If you don't like him enough to seriously date him, it wouldn't be a good thing to do to lead him on just because you're starved for attention.
Sorry if I was blunt or rude, but your question sent a lot of negative vibes about your personality.
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