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long distance.
Do long distance relationships work?
Or what are your views on them?
I'm not thinking of starting one, but a friend is and I was just wondering what others thought about them.
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stay away from long distance relationships. they'll never work because one never knows what the other is really up to. even if it's a truely honest relationship, it will in reality never work and could block up any potential local relationships that are much much probable for success.
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From my point of view, they don't work out too well. There is to much of an issue with trust for most younger people to handle. Now, if you were in love with someone then they moved away I could understand the situation easier.
Also, I believe the hugging, kissing, and little things couples do together strengthen the relationship. So being away just wouldn't add up to being a strong relationship. For some people they work. But for me, lets just say its not my slice of cake.
Good Luck<3
-Kymmy
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Long distance relationships are most likely doomed to fail. I don't understand how people try to even make it work. It's pointless since you honestly have no clue what the other person is doing where ever he or she is. And I'm not trying to be mean but eventually the whole relationship fire burns out. It's different if you spend time with the person face to face, than over the phone. I know some do work for awhile but like I said they just burn out. You eventually lose interest even if you say you wouldn't/won't.
Tell your friend not worth the trouble, patience and time. Hope this helps her. :)
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I think they are pointless and stupid. Two of my friends have had them and one lasted less than a month the other not much longer. they dont usually work out. i think the only time its exceptional is it the people have been dating and one had to move, then maybe make an exception. But otherwise i think they are dumb.
Jess
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Long distance relationships can be quite hard to deal with.Considering you can't always keep in touch.Some people can handle it, some don't.To actually succeed in a long distance relationship there has to be trust and dedication.If you don't have that, then there's not point.Alot of relationships don't work.Usually young loves don't.I don't really go for it, But the stronger ones can.This is only my opinion though.It all depends on the couple and how much they put in into their relationship.
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The truth is, some work some don't. In order for one to work there needs to be a lot of trust. Many people aren't able to trust easily, so it doesn't work. Furthermore, there are some people who really don't deserve to be trusted. And then the other person finds out and all hell breaks loose...
Anyway, I think two people need to be together in the same area for a while before a long distance relationship can work. Their love for each other needs to grow beforehand.
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i HAD A LONGDiSTANCE REALASHiONSHiP ONCE iT WAS OKay THEY WORK AT SUM POiNT BUT YOU HAVE TO TRUST THE PERSON<3
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well it depends on your age.
like i had a long distance relationship with this guy when i was 14 and it was kinda pointless because the only way i could talk to him was phone or internet, but if you can drive then its a little different because you can see them.
personally i think there pointless and a lot of trouble considering your partner could be cheating on you and you wouldnt even know it.
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I estimate that 90% of long distance relationships don't work. Both people have to be SO dedicated to the other. If you start off long distance, I think the chances of it lasting is very slim. And if you date for a while and then one moves away, I think it can last a little longer just because a personal connection had time to form.
I don't have a bunch of experience in this department, but I dated my last boyfriend for 2 weeks and then he left for California for a 2 month work vacation. A week went by and we barely talked...then I found out he was dating another girl. So that's my one bad experience.
I can't really compare all long distance relationships to that, but I felt this way before I even went through that.
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I think it would be hard to keep going, and i have a friend who is in a different state and im having a really hard time staying in touch, but if your friend is prepared to work hard then i think she definitely should.
Hope this helps
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Long distance relationships work better when you are older and more mature, and willing to delay self gratification. Think of all the wives and girlfriends whose husbands and/or boyfriends are soldiers in IRAQ. These women are committed to waiting for their loved ones to come home. They are aleady in a committed relationship with that person. When you are young, like your age, and perhaps the age of your friend, so much of your relationship is getting to know each other, you get feedback from each other, by being with each other. Once you have spend a coupld of years with a person, and have fallen in love, from a young age, when something happens that separates you, you both have more patience for waiting it out. Because you have a history together. It is hard to do when you are so young. I wouldn't discourage it though, anything could happen.
100 years ago, all realtions ships started out as long distance. WE didn't live so close to each other as we do now. Towns were small, and you just might meet the person that interests you, who is passing through your town. Then only by writting letters to each other, would you get to know each other. Kind of like IM, I guess. And in time, they did get to spend time together.
I hope this helps.
Michele
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