Hi I'm Laura. I'm a Christian and I am still at school. I joined the site to help people out. Quite a few of my friends come to me for help about various things and I've had quite a few problems in my life which I've sorted my own way. So I joined because if I can help my friends I can help others and I love helping people out.
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How do you kiss a guy on the neck? Whenever i'm making out with this guy...i dont really know how to kiss his neck. (link)
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also, just do small little kisses rather than as though you're properly making out with him, you could also very lightly rub your lips against his neck which will drive him crazy for you, and try gently rubbing the tip of your nose on his neck too.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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Hey. Ok so I've been dating this guy for over a year and I'm crazy about him. The only problem is that he is very sheltered. I'm his first girlfriend, he won't kiss me, and we're freshmen! It's because his family is extremly religious and his mom doesn't like us dating (she basically hates me). Idk what to do. My friends say make the first move or dump him but I can't cuz I like him too much. What should I do?
Signed~ Clueless (link)
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you need to make him feel safe and secure, but at the same time make him WANT to kiss you.
spend time alone together just talking and cuddling, and do you hold hands in public? if not, grab his hand either around friends, or around strangers, whichever you think he'll be most comfortable with.
make your lips look gorgeous, i'm not talking lashings of colour, a subtle pink/coral/brown, and subtle gloss, nothing too scary. also, stare at his lips when you want to kiss him. not for too long, just long enough for him to notice and register what you're doing.
finally, talk to him, let him know how much you want to kiss him. he won't think any the less of you for it, he must really like you to be with you a year despite his mum. ask him why he won't because you're worried he thinks there's something wrong with you. just a tiny bit of a guilt trip.
if there is anything there that you know he will be really uncomfortable with, don't do it!! you know him best and only you can judge what will work best. and as far as hating his religion goes - if he hated it that much he would have completely rebelled. i am a christian, and i believe in no sex before marriage, but i still kiss guys, just gently bring him round to the idea, then go for it.
hope there's something that helps, good luck
laura xxx
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there's this guy i really like... i'm not sure if it's lust or if i really care for him... but anyways he's been going "steady" on and off with this one girl for about 2 years... he says that he really loves her... but he's constantly cheating on her... and he's lied to me before about not going out with her when they were so we could hook up... now he says that they're back to being just friends and they've been broken up for about 2 weeks... he only told me this after i told him i didn't wanna hook up if they were going out... so what should i do? should i give him the benifit of the doubt even though he's already let me down, or should i tell him that i just can't trust him or what? i'm so confused... (link)
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should you trust him? the short answer is no. he says he loves her but clearly he doesn't respect or love either of you. love is amazing. i am a christian and in the bible it describes love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self‑seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
this is love but
what you have described is not love, but lust. if this guy has cheated on his girlfriend so many times what makes you think he will treat you any better if you eventually made a go of it?
you deserve better. i know this probably isn't what you want to hear but you know deep inside you that its wrong and that this guy doesn't deserve you. you know that the way he has treated the other girl is wrong or you wouldn't have asked him what you did. if you trusted him you wouldn't have asked this question. yes, if you love him you will be able to forgive him, but i don't think you will find it easy to trust him.
i cannot tell you what to do, you need to assess how you feel. trust and respect are both necessary for a relationship and i don't think you two have either but if you want to go for it then do!
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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theres this girl that i reeeaally like a hell of a load. she recently broke up with her bf who i am ferinds with they both know that i love her and i kept thinkin i was part of the reason that they broke up although they said it wasnt me, anyways she loves me ...she thinks... but she also still loves her ex bf who will take her back and shes going back to him althoguh it hurts its still her choice so i am okish with it lol and she thinks that she souldnt get back with him because of all the arguments so i asked her this simple question "what do you wan from me a best freind or a new hope of love?" and she said both... so i was a little pissed seeing as i would be jelous as hell about them both getting back and once again...leaveing me with nothing i love her to shit so much but as my question stand do i try? or say goodbye as in do i try to make her mine or do i try to just get over her even tho she was hurt when i sed i might as well stuff this then if your gonna keep going back to "mr argument machine" (ex bf lol) so please help i could do with it (link)
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ok, i am not going to answer your question as this is a major decision so needs to be your own. i am just going to tell you my story, which may help you to understand all your feelings better and so lead you to the right decision.
i am a christian, and i believe the bible is the word of God. in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, it says:
'Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence. Love keeps no record of wrongs; does not gloat over other men's sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.'
I believe in that with all my soul and I have applied it to my situation.
4 weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me. i thought i loved him and at first i was numb, then sad, then really angry for the first time in my life. then we talked and i forgave him. now i have fallen for him again as we are friends again.
i know that i love him because of what that passage says. i will always put him first and i am content how i am for now, i will wait for him and in the end, if he wants to get back together i will be happy. but if he doesn't i will be content because i will know i have been selfless and true to both of us, i will be a little unhappy but if he is happy then i am glad. there will be someone else for me.
i know that if he got another girlfriend now i would be quite unhappy but i would soon recover. i don't know how he feels about me but i know that he will not lie about it, and he will never intentionally hurt me.
love is selfless, patient, and envies no one. yet you say you will be jealous. are you sure this is love? or is it passion and lust, which soon fade? you need to be sure how you feel, but try leaving the decision to the girl, she is the one with the choice to make and only she knows who she will be happiest with.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have known eachother for a year now and weve liked eachother a whole year and so now weve been dating bout 8 months now and we kissed after 8 months of our relationship because im prety respectable and he understood and never tried to go over any line and waited..so afetr 8 months weve kissed and i feel so SLUTY and i feel so bad i think im such a whore and i dont know why..i just never liked being touched and now weve made out and i feel so bad..can i know why ..am i slut? hhes the only guy i ever kised and the last one..i wana be with him forever (link)
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oh honey, you are NOT a slut! that you think you are puzzles me because if you think of a slut, it means someone who goes with loads of guys after knowing them for very little time, often with several guys at once. in a relationship you can kiss whenever you want and you're not a slut. many of my friends began kissing their boyfriends in the first few weeks and no one thinks they are sluts. believe me, no way will anyone think you are.
hope this helps to reassure you,
laura xxx
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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.
i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.
i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/
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how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend? (link)
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just tell him honestly why you need to break up with him. yes he will be upset but in the end he will thank you for it. it will free you both from what is currently a lie, and you can move on. it would cause him more pain if in the end he found out you had led him on.
when my last boyfriend broke up with me he wasn't straight with me. i knew there was something wrong, you can sense it, but he never told me. in the end i asked him, and it hurt so much (and still does) that he didn't care enough to tell me.
the truth may hurt, but to save the most grief to both of you, end it as soon as possible, face to face. but remember, be kind, this will be one of the memories of you that remain with him, don't say anything that will keep hurting him.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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alrite so i like this boy name jeremy and we was sitting on the bus and the bus driver told him 2 sit two seats up from me and i was like jerem come sit back here and when he was about 2 get up brooklyn sat next 2 him so he quit trying 2 leave so the boy next to me wanted his phone number so he told me 2 give jeremy my phone so he could put his number in so i gave it 2 him i was like timothy wants your nmber and he was like this is your phone i then my friend charisse was like no ravin wants your phone number and i was like timothy does 2 so she said stop lying so jeremy put his phone numberin there so i took it.
i called jeremy at 8:20 and i was going through a huge anxiety attack he answered the phone he was like hello who is this i said ravin then he said ooh was up then i was like noyhing what are you doing then he said im by my auntie im doing somthing call me back in 10 minutes so i called him back in an hour and he didnt answer the phone so i called my friend ferrin and told her to call and see if he answers from her number so she called and he answered and she was like sorry i got the wrong numer so then i waited 10 minutes and i called him back he did not answer the phone!
he told my friend charisse the only reason why he doesnt like me because i tell people i dont like him (link)
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hey, i think this guy is probably confused because you're giving out mixed signals to him. you should just be honest with him. get him alone sometime and tell him straight exactly how you feel about him. if he likes you then you're sorted, and if he doesn't you can move on and you'll soon like someone who likes you back. be straight with him and he'll respect you.
good luck
laura xxxx
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Ok well this kind of goes under friendship and love. My bestfriend met my boyfriend today but just over msn. i was scared to tell her about him because he lives in america and i live in australia. i love him alot more than anything and he loves me the same. its indescribable how much we love each other. You dont know what i would give just to hug him. Anyways i finally told her about him and i let her meet him. She told me after they finished talking that she doesnt trust long distance relationships. She said she doesnt trust him at all and that she doesnt want to talk to him again and shes just going to pretend like shes never met him.. it really upset me because me and my boyfriend are always talking about the future like how we want to spend our lives together, even kids names and she thinks that he doesnt love me. its hard for someone to understand that we love each other this much to wait for ages to see eachother..it upset him as well because he wanted to be friends with her hes waited for ages to talk to her and he doesnt want to ruin mine and her friendship. i wouldnt ruin our friendship but it took so much just to tell her and i thought she would understand.. Shes made it clear she doesnt want to no about him and shes never acted like this before.. No way i would give up my boyfriend or her but im so hurt that she doesnt like him.. ive been dating him for almost 2 months and its painful enough that i cant see him or hug him or kiss him and now my bestfriend hates him. WAT SHOULD I DO?? >.< im so upset at the moment i just need some help with wat i should do about my boyfriend and my bestfriend.. (link)
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hey!
your best friend is simply concerned for you and she is worried you'll be hurt badly by this guy if it doesn't work out.
i know how you feel, i haven't been going out with my boyfriend for long but i miss him every day even though he is at my school (he's a year older than me so i don't see him often), but when i told my best friend i fancied him she told me he was a minger and i shouldn't go out with him. i only wanted her to respect my decision.
remember that it is difficult to get to know a person through a single msn conversation and your friend probably can't understand why you're so happy about this guy when you can't see him, hug him or kiss him, even hear his voice. but you really love him and that is clear. also, your friend merely said long-distance relationships rarely work and that she doesn't trust him. you have got yourself worried and put it into your head that she hates him.
just understand her concern, and if you tell her you still love him but you understand why she is a bit wary. don't worry so much.be glad she cares for you this much.
hope this helps put things into perspective a little better,
laura xxx
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alright so there is this boy in my life who i am maddly in love with and ive been dating him for a month on todays date. Well the other day i met this other guy who kept layin on the pick up lines realy strong corney i know. But he told me i had real pretty eyes which i guess flattered me because i started getting all excited when i found out he was talkin to all his friends about how hot i am. Well me and my friend are going to hang out with this guy i met at the mall this weekend. Do you think this is the best idea? (link)
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hey!
i don't think this is a good idea no. there are several reasons for me thinking this.
firstly, how would you feel if your boyfriend who you love was hanging out with a girl who liked him? i don't think you'd be very happy and neither will he be.
secondly, you are in love with your boyfriend who you know well and who knows you. this other guy fancies you yes, but this is lust rather than love as he barely knows you. this dies quickly and can be dangerous. meeting up with him will only make other people gossip (which may reach your boyfriend's ears) and make him believe you want something to happen between you two, when you are already in a relationship. you need to stab this in the bud before anything furthers happens, ie don't meet up with him or see him except in a large group and don't flirt at all.
finally, it is natural to feel flattered when someone pays you a compliment especially a guy, as you feel wanted. this is just a natural feeling and means nothing.
hope this is helpful
laura xxx
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