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do i try? or say goodbye...
theres this girl that i reeeaally like a hell of a load. she recently broke up with her bf who i am ferinds with they both know that i love her and i kept thinkin i was part of the reason that they broke up although they said it wasnt me, anyways she loves me ...she thinks... but she also still loves her ex bf who will take her back and shes going back to him althoguh it hurts its still her choice so i am okish with it lol and she thinks that she souldnt get back with him because of all the arguments so i asked her this simple question "what do you wan from me a best freind or a new hope of love?" and she said both... so i was a little pissed seeing as i would be jelous as hell about them both getting back and once again...leaveing me with nothing i love her to shit so much but as my question stand do i try? or say goodbye as in do i try to make her mine or do i try to just get over her even tho she was hurt when i sed i might as well stuff this then if your gonna keep going back to "mr argument machine" (ex bf lol) so please help i could do with it
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ok, i am not going to answer your question as this is a major decision so needs to be your own. i am just going to tell you my story, which may help you to understand all your feelings better and so lead you to the right decision.
i am a christian, and i believe the bible is the word of God. in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, it says:
'Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence. Love keeps no record of wrongs; does not gloat over other men's sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.'
I believe in that with all my soul and I have applied it to my situation.
4 weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me. i thought i loved him and at first i was numb, then sad, then really angry for the first time in my life. then we talked and i forgave him. now i have fallen for him again as we are friends again.
i know that i love him because of what that passage says. i will always put him first and i am content how i am for now, i will wait for him and in the end, if he wants to get back together i will be happy. but if he doesn't i will be content because i will know i have been selfless and true to both of us, i will be a little unhappy but if he is happy then i am glad. there will be someone else for me.
i know that if he got another girlfriend now i would be quite unhappy but i would soon recover. i don't know how he feels about me but i know that he will not lie about it, and he will never intentionally hurt me.
love is selfless, patient, and envies no one. yet you say you will be jealous. are you sure this is love? or is it passion and lust, which soon fade? you need to be sure how you feel, but try leaving the decision to the girl, she is the one with the choice to make and only she knows who she will be happiest with.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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You definately need to try it. Cuz if you really love her then you would take advantage of the moment and tell her everything. This might be the only chance you have. If she doesn't feel the same way back then you need to forget her once and for all and try to find another. For all you know you might find a girl you like better. It's not the end if she says no. Dont worry because you can get thru it.
Good luck
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i think u should go for it and tell her your feelings and tell her that she won't find abetter guy than you and tell how much you love her and if she still says no then you should walk away but let her know if she ever changes her mind your arms all aways open ;)
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i think you should wait.
if shes going back to her ex and its as bad as you say it is, then she'll end up seeing that sooner or later. just be her friend for now until she realizes how much you care about her. dont intentionally break them up because then they might get mad at you. just be there for her and she'll eventually come around.
its happened to me. and i finally realized after 3 1/2 months that my best friend is the one that i wanted to be with.
best of luck.
p.s. love is overrated
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