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Should I stay with my boyfriend? I'm 13 and he's 16 but he lives all the way in London. I know some of his friends and that's how I met him. We started back talking a few days ago. I found out that he signed up for the army and he has three years of training. He did it so he wouldn't have to be with me anymore but he wont break up with me and he says that he wants to be with me.
I'm so confused and I need to know if I should break up with him. (link)
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he can't have both ways, join the army so he isn't with you and not break up and say he wants to be with you. its a paradox within itself. I would recommend giving him an ultimatum: either he breaks up with you or he finds a way to stay with you. you have to consider this before you do though, its a strained relationship as it is if it is a long distance between you two and now he is getting ready for a military life, taking away from time he can spend talking to you as well as limits any chances you will have of seeing him. hopefully, you two will remain friends, but it may not be healthy for you to stay together. Your 13 you have your entire life ahead of you his choice is to be in the army and you will make choices in your lifetime as well I suggest break up with him in ten years if you are meant to be together he will come back to you if not then it wasn't meant to be. The pain over a break up will fade over time but the regret that you sprang your life clinging to him when he doesn't want to be with you at the moment will not fade it will ruin your chances of a normal happy teenage experiance. Good luck hope you take this advice.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Your young and I know what it's like to want sex young I suggest to find a different guy if your not happy without the sex. Good luck.
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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Your husbands military right so the fact it's your one year anniversary would mean a lot to him and I suggest you reason with your friend, she should be understanding ask her what she would do in your position and then say to your husband the same thing if both come up with their answers you will have yours.
Good Luck and all the best xx
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What does it mean when someone says ''rather risk it all than play it safe' ? Please super curious my ex wrote this and I wanna know what it could mean, but in a relationship context like what can this mean in a love life sort of term .. (link)
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Basically it means do you wanna risk everything for one thing rather than play it safe and keep what you already have.
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Yesterday I was at my cousins' dads' house. I am 14 years old and she just turned 13 a week ago. She has a boyfriend in the 11th grade about to turn 16. When she told me about him in the car, I thought he was a bit of a creep for being with a girl about to go to eighth grade, but I hate it when people are biased, and I didn't want to offend my cousin so I decided to shut my mouth. When I walked in her boyfriend was there and he seemed like a decent guy. For the rest of the day I got settled and took a shower. I thought her boyfriend had left a while ago. I was wearing a towel because i had left my clothes in her room. I heard screaming so I opened her door and said what's wrong? I saw them having sex and it was gross. He said "oh I didn't know your cousin wanted a threesome." I screamed at him and called him a pervert and grabbed him by the arm as he got dressed. He ran out of the house and I went back to my cousins room and she was crying screaming at me saying that she hates me. I grabbed my clothes and got dressed in the bathroom. I was mad and sad because I knew that my cousin wasn't this type of person. She kicked me out of her room and made me sleep in the couch. I wanted to ask her if he was using a condom but she has been silent and hasn't talked to until she said, "I am not breaking up with him and you should feel like crap for walking in on us." And then she slammed the door. What should I do to get her to talk to me. I don't want to tell my uncle about it because she would hate me even more. I love her we are best friends but now she won't talk to me. I have apologized even though I honestly don't believe that what happened was my fault, I mean how else was I supposed to react? So what should I do, I want to talk to her please help. (link)
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Try and reach an understanding with her tell her the truth that it is illegal and you only want what's right for her. Your cousin could do a mass amount of damage to her body by having sex at a young age tell her that she can still see him but no more sex.
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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My mum said that I had too concentrate on my modelling career so I had to give up all distractions such as my friends my boyfriend and my babysitting job and this advice column but I said it would make me depressed if I gave everything up and she said I could keep my friends and this column but I had to give up my boyfriend. I was heartbroken and I called it off and I felt bad so I went and slept with a bunch of guys this ended up badly and I told my mum listen you made me give up on the one guy I love and im not taking it by the time I asked him back out it was too late he had a new girlfriend but I know he loves me and that's enough I suggest you talk to his mum about this and say you won't distract him and you can help him with his career
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I'm with this guy names Allah and we haven't been together that long . He recently just graduated and is now going into the military . I'm a senior I'm high school. I've always been against having a partner that's in the military because I know I'm not strong enough to handle that type of relationship. He's made it clear that he wants me to stay with him while he's there and I stayed in the reality of it and said it would be hard and things change and people and feelings change especially because I'm still gonna be in high school and the reality of it was that we wouldn't work and he's the one with the hope of it and he wants me to just try and see what happens and I'm not totally against it because I wanna be with him enough to not lose him but it won't feel like a real relationship to me because he won't be around and he's gonna miss everything that happens with me and I'm not emotionally prepared for losing him and not being around him. I really wanna be with him but I just don't want it to be a waste of my time waiting for him while he's in the military or having a relationship . I'm scared of what's gonna happen and I don't know how I'm supposed to deal with it . In a way I feel like he would be holding me back by asking me to stay with him but it's hard to just give up a relationship you built with that person and I'm not ready to let it go. I didn't plan any of this for myself and it hurts that I have the right guy and I'm just gonna lose him basically with whatever decision I choose (link)
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In my opinion he is being selfish because he is backing you into a corner if you don't feel emotionally ready to be involved with someone in the military then you should tell him maybe later in life because if you decide to leave you may discover love elsewhere and if you stay with him you may or may not regret it I cannot give you the answer but I suggest you look into you and your feelings and emotions.
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I'm 23 he's 22. We got into a fight because he sent me a text that obviously wasn't for me. When I said something he told me I was stupider than shit and always acting like a bitch. He doesn't respect me so I just blocked him and said bye. Well he tried calling about 50 times afterwards but I ignored it because I refused to be disrespected. Well I didn't talk to him for 4 days and then when I was calm I unblocked him and decided to try to talk about things. Well in these 4 days he moved on apparently and wouldn't have anything to do with me. He blamed me for everything and kept saying it was my fault for acting that way and it's my fault that he is talking to someone else. Really? It took him 4 days to move on from our 2 year relationship? I begged him to stay but he didn't care. I'm so depressed he's done this before I just never thought he would do it again. Do I move on? Or just wait for him to realize that were suppose to be together? Or does that make me pathetic? (link)
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You ain\'t pathetic your lovestruck as I was and honestly I was in a predicament similar to your and I found I would wait until he noticed that I was his forever and he apologised after a couple of weeks and asked me for a last chance and I gave him it and he was amazing now I am expecting his baby and everything is perfect he works two jobs to keep us afloat while I am at college so it could be the same for you just wait and keep talking to him xxx good luck
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So me and and my boyfriend haven't been dating for too long but he always makes me feel so special. Almost all the dates we've been on he makes me flowers with yarn (he crouché's) and the other night he planned a whole night about me to make me feel special. I want to do something to show him how much I like him and make him feel special as he does have some confidence issues. We are going on a date in a few days where we are going to do a picnic in the country but during a thunderstorm since we both like watching the stars when it's raining. I plan on writing him little love notes that I'm going to hide in his car and places so he can find them. But I wanted to either make or bring him something to surprise him and I need some suggestions? Any have any ideas of what I can do, even if they are actions I can do to make him feel special? Preferably not something sexual as I want it to be more of a romantic thing but if it's a good sexual idea I'll take it :) thanks in advance lovelies (link)
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Brilliant question I was stuck for the exact same thing then I realised if I made him a special box of chocolates then it means my love would be inside him forever try making something that he can eat or drink like chocolates or a box of biscuits or write him a song saying how special he is xxx
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I am a 17 year old female and my cousin who is 42 years old says she noticed that I have been acting differently and wanted to know if I had sex with my boyfriend and I lied and told told her no but wh en in reality I did should I have toold her the truth (link)
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You are the legal age to have sex so it would be better if you sit down and talk about it with her she nay be surprised at first but she should eventually come around xxx
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i asked a question about, 2 days ago about weather i should be sexually active...i have to come to realize that i shouldn't, but theirs one thing. we have been together for 5 months as of Thursday. But, I'm only 13 and hes only 14, and wants to have sex. I've told him multiple times that i don't want to but he continuously talks about it. And he seems to get irritated when i say no. i don't want to break up with him, nor do i want him to break up with me...how do i tell him no so that he finally stops talking about it, without getting irritated? HELP! (link)
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sex is something to be enjoyed and i am so not judging here it is an amazing experiance for most people but for some they are just not ready some may never be ready tell your boyfriend that he should try masturbation to satisfy himse;lf but when you are not around so you don't feel insecure just tell if when your ready and ask him to wait for a while.
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I'm a 20 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago. He cheated on me and tried to date my friend. But when i was in a relationship with him, i think i did love him, and expressed my emotions, cried aand poured my heart out. But he cheated on me, its been two years and at some point i remember him, and i think i miss him. And i knw its wrong, coz my bestfriend reminds me of what he did. And this thought of missing him hurts me, i get lost and at times need the feel of being isolated, and currently when ppl care, i just can't trust them. Its like i'm stuck in between. And i know for a fact that he's never returning back, its like i'm still waiting. I don't want to wait, i wish i can move on. Is there anything i can do? (link)
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well I can honestly say i only have two methods for you.
1.try the earth technique it is where you sit on a chair with your back straight and think about what is holding you back and try and think of it as glue you need to try and pull yourself out of a situation.
2. you may just be feeling lonely because you were used to having a boyfriend around you for a long while then uddenly he cheats and leaves that could be the problem if so try and get a new boyfriend just make sure he is kind and caring.
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I am a seventeen year old female and I a 25 year old boyfriend. When we first started dating he didnt ask me my age nor did i ask his. We feel deeply in love and then the age came into play. We've had sex alot and He haseven proposed to me a couple of times. I really really love him. Both our birthdays are in july so i'll be eighteen and he'll be 26. Please tell me what I should do. I don't want anything bad to happen to him because of me. Thanks... (link)
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i am in ur situation im 12 and i am secretly going out with a boy at the ge of 16 he is 4 years older than me and i love him but i decided to0 keep it a secret until i am happy to tell my family about him i reckon you should do the same.
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what should i do if my boyfriend is meannt to be having a child with another girl i know? but this girl tells lies alot and has pretended to be pregnant before with him but she says this time it is true? would you believe her? im confused and dont know what to do? advice please? (link)
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Buy a pregnancy test to prove to other people that she is actually pregnant and not lieing
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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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see your gp and if u dont want to have the baby then get an abortion but also make sure u take a pregnancy test first so you know that you're definitely pregnant dont tell your family though they may dislike the fact that you had sex at the age of 12 and also tell your boyfriend but no one else.
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I went on one date with a guy (a friend of a friend) over a year ago. I thought the date went really well, but I never heard from him. My friend says he wants to go out with me again. Should I go on a second date with him or has he lost his chance? (link)
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go for it girl you never know how well things could go you could end up being soul mates he probably didn't speak to you cause he thought you didn't like the date.
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so im female and 16, not that it matters. There are these three guys and i dont know who i like. i feel like im horrrible person to be crushing on all of them at the same time. The first one is really sweet and shy and in a few of my classes. we dont talk much cuz we are both shy. He seems sweet and i had fun when we talked in class. But whenever i see him in the hall he'll wave and say hi, my face goes beat red. the second guy is really funny and makes me laugh a lot. i have fun talking to him and he seems cool. the third is really smart and we have lots of things in common...and we talk a lot lately. i dont know how to decided. i cant really ask you to choose but would any of you give me advice on how to figure it out. I dont even know if they are interested...thanks (link)
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ok try going on a date with each guy an se which one you like best if one of them has alot in common with you and is kind go with him
ps.dont give up if you cant choose.
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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks (link)
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hey go for it you never know be good at sex and he may promote you or have sex with him if you feel good having sex
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im 14
well, ive been dating my boyfriend Jonny for about 3 weeks now. & im not 'in love' with him. hes a sweet guy and everything, but im not in love with him like i thought i would have been. me and him went through so much to be togher :/ befor we dated he was my bestfriend. and i always went to him for all my guy problems, and like i cant help but think of other guys sometimes.
i really dont wanna lose him bc i really like him. like, is it a good thing that im not in love so early in the relationship? or should i end it befor it gets seriouse? :/ (link)
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you should probably end the relationship before it gets to serious because if he isn't the one then your gonna end up unhappy then after you break up just try to be friends and move on.
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what should i do if my mum calls me stupid should i run away from home? (link)
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running away is never the answer just confront her and if that does not work phone a family counselor
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