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He has a new gf, am I that pathetic?
I'm 23 he's 22. We got into a fight because he sent me a text that obviously wasn't for me. When I said something he told me I was stupider than shit and always acting like a bitch. He doesn't respect me so I just blocked him and said bye. Well he tried calling about 50 times afterwards but I ignored it because I refused to be disrespected. Well I didn't talk to him for 4 days and then when I was calm I unblocked him and decided to try to talk about things. Well in these 4 days he moved on apparently and wouldn't have anything to do with me. He blamed me for everything and kept saying it was my fault for acting that way and it's my fault that he is talking to someone else. Really? It took him 4 days to move on from our 2 year relationship? I begged him to stay but he didn't care. I'm so depressed he's done this before I just never thought he would do it again. Do I move on? Or just wait for him to realize that were suppose to be together? Or does that make me pathetic?
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You ain't pathetic your lovestruck as I was and honestly I was in a predicament similar to your and I found I would wait until he noticed that I was his forever and he apologised after a couple of weeks and asked me for a last chance and I gave him it and he was amazing now I am expecting his baby and everything is perfect he works two jobs to keep us afloat while I am at college so it could be the same for you just wait and keep talking to him xxx good luck
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Doesn't sound at all like a healthy relationship, or one that will make you or him happy. I say you take it as a learning experience like you should all failed relationships and move on. In the next one you won't make the same mistakes and in the mean time you need to think about what you need your next boyfriend to have to make you happy. Some people will call it being picky but at your age you don't have anything to worry about. For example: my girl has to be smart because I don't want to be annoyed by my own girlfriend ( stupid people annoy me), has to be fit and go to the gym consistently; I don't want someone that's going to get less and less attractive, make sense? The list goes on and thankfully I've met someone who I've been with for 2 years and will be purposing to.
My point is don't set yourself up for failure and date someone that doesn't have the qualities you need; make a reasonable list (not someone that is better than you yourself are) and stick too it, you won't regret it
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He probably isnt REALLY in a new REAL relationship, he was probably just saying it to piss you off, but whatever the case, your man should never EVER rule your life or be calling you names like that. youll learn when your older that REAL MEN dont need to name call in order to get you to understand their feelings.
You should not have begged him to stay, it just shows that you played right into his BS trap to upset you more because he had no more cards to play and it worked. its ok though youll know better for next time. leave him ASAP and find a good man that will treat you right.
good luck sweetie. ; )
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For the love of God, yes it makes you look pathetic! It made me physically ill when you said you begged him to stay! Pahleeze! He called you stupid, he called you a bitch, he has a new girl already and you BEGGED him to stay! I am not saying these things to be mean I am saying them in the hope that reading it in print will hit you like ice water in the face and wake you up!Do you really want a future with a jerk like this? Please get some counseling for your self esteem issues. Your letter is well written and thoughtful so I know you are not stupid and I'm betting you are a very nice person as well. You deserve better than this but YOU have to believe it. Please walk away and don't ever look back on this idiot! The absolute most important thing though is to not go straight back out there and find another one just like him and that is exactly what most girls do if they don't go for counseling and learn how to build their self esteem. This is the best thing you could ever do for yourself, it will mean the difference between a wonderful future with a man who loves and respects you or a life of being disrespected and called a stupid bitch every time things don't go his way. The choice is yours please make the right one! Good luck!
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Pathetic? He's Pathetic but why look for a man who disrespects you move on beautiful independent women. You are much more than a man that doesn't respect you first sign he sent a text that wasn't for you and you should of long gone stepped out of his life secondly if he blames all on you that demonstrates much more of that hes turned into everything you don't deserve and lastly he moved on in 4 days. He surely isn't worth a women that seems to care to much. Why beg if you can have many more at your feet in 2 months you'll see him crawling back for a women that surly loved him more than any-other. My true advice get a haircut, find new foods, new taste, visit new places and in no time you'll see you really didn't need him.
Find the inner independent woman you are
-yours truly 2020
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