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stepdad always telling me to lower my voice
my step dad is always telling me to lower my voice and I do not even talk loud I think he going deaf and he needs to shut up I can not stand people telling me to lower my voice my mother never says that to me
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maybe talk to him and explain that you don't like him saying that, yes you have to respect him but he has to respect you too. Ask friends and others if that they think you shout all the time and if so then maybe something should be done, if they don't then explain to your step-dad that no one else has a problem with your voice. At the end of the day it's your voice and if your comfortable with your tone then others should be!!! Not sure how old you are but teens tend to shout a lot as part of growing up. Good luck
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I don't think this issue is about the level of your voice at all. I think you resent your step-dad telling you what to do. I also think you have no respect for him. I am not saying that as a put down, I am just making an observation from the tone of your letter. You may have reasons not to respect him or it could simply be because he isn't your father, at any rate these issues need to be resolved so that your family can interact with each other in a respectful manner and be happy together. You need to discuss these issues with your mom as soon as possible. I am guessing your mom doesn't tell you to lower your voice because she doesn't want to make you angry with her for siding with him! You are putting your mom in an awful position, but I think you realize that. I believe you have a lot of anger inside of you and a lot of hurt. I am guessing you didn't want mom to remarry and you had no control over it. Do you think maybe I am right just a little bit? I am sure you love your mom and want her to be happy so please don't try to make them fight over petty issues like the tone of your voice. You should also try to talk to your step dad in a respectful manner and tell him you are sorry and you didn't realize you were speaking so loudly(even if you weren't). If you can gather up all the maturity you have inside you and bring yourself to do that I am guessing it will be the last time he mentions it. I'll bet if you suddenly start acting mature and treating him nicely you will be pleasantly surprised by what you get in return! The best way to get respect is to give it. If you really feel like you hate your step dad you should try talking to your school counselor. Maybe she can convince your mom to get you some you counseling sessions to help you deal with your new family situation. Good luck!
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