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I am seventeen, but do not let the age fool you. I feel I am more experienced than the average seventeen year old. If you want the honest truth for your questions, ask me. I will definitely not hold back.
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hi i wrote here about 3 months ago and i havent written since.
basically the backgroudn info was i wanted to see if i should break up with my boyfiend because he lied to me and hung out with his ex behind my back. Well now 3 months later. we are broken up and he is going out with her. Ive never hated anyone soo much. we were together for 10 months and we broke up right before school started. When school started we still hada thing and hooked up and were on the line of getting back. but it wasn't good timing for both of us and now he is with her. He disgusts me now but i still have those little feelings for him. i started giving him the cold shoulder because i just hated hims o much so he started talking shit about me n telling my best friends that i thot i was way to cool for everyone. wich honestly is the total opposite of me. and everyone knows that so no one listened but whywould he do that to me. and on friday we got intoa huge fight and started yellign at eachother and he goes and tells poeple to tell me he hates me. HE IS SOOO IMMATURE! anyways today he came up to me and was like it seems i haven't seem u in forver and acts as though nothing happened. How should i act towards him and why is he doing this. How can i make myself forget about him,?
You should act civil and mature towards him. By no means go out of your way to be nice, or go out of your way to speak with him. If the opportunity arises for you two to be in the same social circles, don't be rude. My advice would be to stay away from him, and absolutely do not talk about him behind his back to anyone. It will only cause trouble. As for getting over him, you just have to realize that he is obviously not making you happy, and you do not ultimately want to be in an unhappy relationship. It will get easier with time, and with not being around him so much.
me-- kota--14 almost 15
boy-- Mark--17
K so the day before mine and marks 1 month aniversary he told me he thought we should take a break becuase we moved to fast and he needs to catch up on things. I cried. A lot. more than i should have. He tells me he still likes me and he is going to come back to me. But in his other life, he calls all these other girls baby and stuff. We still ahng out at school he still walks me to my classes and we talk ocasionaly but not as much as we used to. he tells me one thing then goes and tells people another.. Until he broke up with me i trusted him completely but now.. its like i dont even know who the real him is.... i really dont have a reason to not trust him, but for some reason i dont. We are stillg oing to snoball together and i already got my dress and he is getting his tux pretty soon. When we are together it is just like it was when we were going out, he still holds my hand, kisses me, calls me beautifull, and says all the comments like "we can do it in the janoters closset" we can skip class and go to my house. and all that stuff... I am just confused if he really wants me? or if hes using me? i just keep telling myself to not push it and just see what happens becuae honestly i love this guy and i could see myself marrying him.. and he also still talks about our future and stuff.
from what i told you... any advise?
Actually, you do have a reason to not trust this guy. If he is telling other people stuff, and telling you something different, that is deception, which does not deserve your trust. I honestly do think this guy is using you; I know that is not what you wanted to hear, but when you get older you will be able to see the true intent of people, and I don't think he has your feelings in mind. Find someone that will think of your feelings and well-being, or be independent and make yourself happy by surrounding yourself with the people and things you love. And for the marriage thing, one month cannot even acquaint you with a person enough to even consider marrying them. You are still in the "lovey-dovey" stage at this time, and you really do not know enough about the person to know if you would be compatible enough with them to spend the rest of your life with this person. So many opportunities are out there;you should be thinking of your future and what will ultimately make you happy. Someone that hurts you and lies will ultimately not make you happy. Once you get past your butterflies and physical lust, you will be left with someone who is untrustworthy. There is no way that you could be happy spending the rest of your life with a person who lies to you. Don't just settle for any guy, find one that really deserves your time and attention.
Hello, I dated someone for 6 years of my life... little did I know it would be the best 6 years of my life. We broke up for a variety of reasons but mostly because neither of us was in the right place for the type of relationship that was required. About 6 months later, perhaps less, my partner decided she was ready to move on, and started dated someone else. I was completely crushed but still wasn't ready to date her again. So I sat back while she dated this girl whom I knew was totally wrong for her and I kept trying to improve on myself. In the meantime they were up and down and finally I decided to disclose how I felt. That seemed like a great idea at first because she was receptive to the idea so I thought and said she'd give us a chance only for me to come to find her not really giving any of her heart to me. She put in what was necessary to appease me but no emotional feedback. Sex was inadequate at best, and it felt more like having a relationship with your worst enemy then it did the person you've loved with all your heart for years. I was hurt but tried to move on and have been dating an incredible woman. Only this woman lacks one things, she's not my love. Now, my ex is newly single and I can't help but feel everything for her still. She says she was still hurt by our break up when we tried again and hadn't yet got passed that. She says she has forgiven me now and loves me but doesn't know if she'll ever feel the same for me. It's painful yet I don't run away, I stay and endure. So what do I do? She's the love of my life, do I walk away and just hope and pray there is more for me? Or keep trying because if she is the love of my life how could you just give up on that?
It's okay...Your ex could have moved on after about a week like I did after a three year relationship..Ouch, I know..but..just remember that there are other people out there that can make you feel good as well..
This one guy I know from work, walked past me the other day & rubbed my arm? Does this mean he likes me?
No, it doesn't. But it also doesn't mean that he doesn't like you.
There are these girls from another school, that I used to go to up until First grade. We all got together in middle school. They are my friends, but they get ALL the guys. This one boy, Austin, who was my friend last year, always talks to one of the girls, Sam, during gym. I heard he likes her. Sam is always around the guys, flirting, but claiming she doesnt like them. She is a really good friend but i cant stand the girls from CP when it comes to boys. Austin is my friend but he never pays attention to me. I really want him to notice me again, and advice about those flirty girls. No boys like me, and are all over the CP girls. I want to be noticed!
Maybe guys dont notice me because they dont like a little heavier girls. I'm not that fat. PLEASE HELP ME!! FAST!!
You don't need a guy to make you complete. Why do you need these little jerk guys' approval? The answer is..You don't! which is good news...stand on your own two feet and you will be much happier..Believe me, guys will notice you when it is the right time.
I asked this friend of mine to the girl's choice dance. I asked him if he was going, and he said he didn't know, so I said "you don't have a date then?" and he said no, so I said "do you want to go with me?" and he said "I'll see." what does that mean? I could understand if he said "I have to think about it" but what does "I'll see" mean? do you think he's just keeping his options open?
I think he is an ass. Just ask someone else to go.
(14, Female)
I've been going out with Michael for almost three months. Its crazy, we spend hours talking about absolutley nothing, just laughing at the stupid jokes we can make up. Just seeing him makes my heart pound. During class, I can't stop thinking about until the next time I'll get to see him, which affects my grades unforunatley. When I hug him goodbye, I already miss him. If we just hung up on the phone, I get sad like I haven't seen him in months. Sometimes, my mind just races about thoughts of him, and I absolutley dread the weekends when I can't see him.
Why is this? How can I get my life somewhat back to normal?
Try to remember who you were before you met this "wonderful" boy. also remember how young you are, how many guys are in the world, and how much you have going for you...without the boy attached. Do not let a guy determine who you are, and what you do!
14/f
I go to school with this boy that i like. he told my best friend he liked me too and that he was going to ask me out... now today he told her he liked someone more, and he didnt know if he was going to ask me out... what is he thinking. do i wait around for him or try with someone else?????
please help me!!!!!!!
Please take this advice with you throughout your life...NEVER wait on anyone. You're better than that. Be independent, you do not need a boy to make you complete anyways.
Help!!.
What are some great boy toys i can get my 16 year old boyfriend for Christmas?
any ideas..
guys..
just list stuff you have..or want.. or would love your gf to get you.. detail please!! i don't have a very open mind when it comes to boy stuff haha
thanks so much~
I think like a guy so..
maybe like a really nice football? like a nike or something? i would love that.
or...
cologne? fierce from abercrombie smells great.
or...
dvd's of his fave show?
or...
a video game?
any of these are great..he'll like whatever you get...well, he'll pretend to anyways.
OK this is the hardest thing i have ever been through.. :( and i have never felt this way about someone before..we have been through so much and shared so many good memories..well the story goes like this...
A girl comes out of nowhere and starts flirting with my bf of 9 months on myspace. They wind up hanging out at a football game with friends and he tells me he has some feelings for her. This was heartbreaking. However..i wanted to work it out with him so when he suggested 'open relationship' as in he dates her(not go out) and maybe kisses/hugs her and i agreed to this and to still be with him. I decided it wasnt fair to me..because we had 9 months..i dont desserve this and it hurts..so i break up with him..He says he loves me and sees a future with me as in marriage..that it wont get serious with the new girl but how am i supposed to know? (i mean he might go out with her he says..what do i do then?)They are hanging out more..they call each other..shes driving me nuts with her shoutouts to him and comments..and hes putting her shoutout in his info..its just too much and it breaks my heart. I dont know what to do..isolate myself from him..like not talk to him or hang out or anything so he makes a choice? (like if hes away from me maybe he will miss me..or maybe he will decide he wants her) Or do i be his friend? do i kiss him still and cuddle? i really want to..but this is very hard for me. Hes a sweetheart though. he told me everything..he was honest about her..and we made an agreement that he tells me everything and he has. they were talking together by the lake..they might go to the movies tomorro..i flip flop back and forth though..be his friend and hang out/talk/cuddle/kiss him...but sometimes i feel so sad and hurt i feel like i should back away completely. what do i do? is this worth the wait?
Do NOT, i repeat DO NOT give him the satisfaction of you being there no matter what. He is blatantly disrespecting you, and you are allowing it. What you need to do is get over this jerk, and move on. You are worth more than that. would you let someone spit in your face, and continue to do so? NO! don't let this guy do this to you...
My friend lou's haloween party was a blast and i made out with this boy i never though i would get the chance to talk to and that i thought was cute during spin the bottle. everyone of course at school found out and for the past 2 days my friend jasmina and mensur make fun of me about it in art where him and his other friend are! its REALLY funny but embarassing. they asked him questions like did you like it? was she good? would you go out with her? do you like her! and he answeres yes/yeah!/mhhmm to all of them! we even exchanged Numbers and he has my s/n (i THINK)but i barely talk to him and i dont really kno him but hes SOO cute but he doesn't do ANYTHING about it. WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM why doesnt he put in the effort to talk to me some more! should i talk to him on AIM? HELP should i go for it myself and if so waht do i do? or ditch this kid who won't make a move?
thanks majorly!
Ha, he isn't making a move because he is a scared, immature young boy. It will take a while for the mankind around your age to get over their stupidity..then you won't be able to stop them from "making moves." Enjoy the awkwardness while it lasts, because soon they will be pulling all kinds of moves on you.
So I've been going out with this guy for a little over than a month. We're almost sixteen, and i really like him. To give you some background info about him, hes so shy, it took a month for him to just hold my hand or give me a hug. (ya i know. and no, hes not gay haha) Anyway, Im having this birthday party in a couple of weeks, and when i asked him if he was busy on a certain date, he was like "ya, im going to my grandmothers" so then i was like alright, ill just change it around, to friday. then he was like "well its ok, its not that important if i dont go" and altho im not sure how to interpret that, it hurt my feelings. i assume he meant that he didnt want me to change the whole party just for him, but i dont know. i mean i really want him to be there, doesnt he feel the same? also, he doesnt really call me, but we do hang out sometimes. And one other thing, he has never dumped a girl. He once stayed with a girl for like 6 months, but didnt like her the last 3 months, because he didnt kno how to dump her/is scared of "a girl starting to cry". whatever that is.
So basically, do u think he still likes me? And what should i do? Im really worried he wouldnt dump me if he stopped liking me. And I dont want to dump him, cause I still like him. Ugh, tell me what this silly boy is thinking!
No, I don't think he still likes you. It is easier for someone on the outside to see that. Dump him because obviously he is doing things that are making you unhappy. Don't put up with that stupid shit.
13/f
okay none of the guys at my school have touched my boobs or anythign like that
..they are like cool and stuff but they are hung up on this girl i mean she doesn't even have bug boobs i mean i have D's and i really want that attention. i mean like my two best friends ((girls)) have seen both grabbes my boobs but i want guys to
what could i do for them to touch my boobs?
Wow, you should slow down and listen to how slutty that sounds...You want a guy to grab your boobs? Please...
omg my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me 3 days ago and i cant eat and i cant freakin sleep!! and everytime I think of him I get nautious(sp) Im home sick today so I dont see him and I cant cry infront of him but I was about to yesterday!! so I have two questions!!
1) HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM!?
2) HOW CAN I MAKE HIM WANT ME BACK?! (without going out with another guy!)
PLEASE HELP ME!
You get over him by growing up and realizing that life does not always go the way you want it to. Please understand that he is only one guy..not everything. Also, don't worry about getting him back.. it makes you look desperate. Move on and find somebody that wants to be with you just as much as you want them...or you will never be happy..Honestly girls are so naive..just get over it...breakups will happen and you're going to have to deal with that. As soon as you start living in reality, you can begin to be a stronger person and know that this one guy is not going to ruin your life. That is not his right, You have ONE life...don't waste it worrying about a guy that doesn't want you.
I have clever ideas for kissing me boyfriend, cuddling with him, or just clever, cute things to say to him. I have them in my head, however, when I go to say them I can't get the words out of my mouth! I seem to freeze up, I'm usually not nervous at all around him. How can I get over this?
You wanna know how to get over this? You shouldn't have to have a script with your boyfriend! Do not plan what you're goin to say, because it will be completely obvious that you did plan it. Believe me, the cutest times come when they are a surprise. Be yourself, stop editing your words and actions, and you will be way happier.
My first serious boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. It was a blow to my heart and the big problem is, I can't move on. I still think about him everyday & get the urge to pour my heart out to him. I'm very involved in school, I have a job and many supportive friends, but nothing is helping. We're actually on good terms but he seems to be happier than ever. How do I let him go & finally be happy? I've never had to go through this. (18/F)
I know this is easier said than done..but you have to look at the BIG picture. What is this guy compared with all of the other men in the world? It's almost ridiculous how insignificant. It's also about maturing. You have to realize that you have other things to live for, responsibilities, and people that count on you. You can't let something as trivial as a breakup disrupt the flow of your life. After all, you do only get ONE life. No do overs. do you want to spend your one chance mourning one person, when obviously he is not mourning you? Are you that desperate for love, or really are you just a little hurt.. Ask yourself those questions and wake up!
I am 21 and a bit of a "nerd." I love to be around girls, but I have always been shy, and I have not had many dates. The dates I've had were just dinner and a movie and then take the girl back to her home, and I'd go back to mine, and maybe we'd talk by phone later, and go out again sometime, but nothing more. All pretty innocent stuff; rarely even a kiss.
But recently I met an attractive girl in one of my glasses and things are different this time. She was hard not to notice because she often wears short skirts or shorts (when the weather permits), and she has really nice long legs and a great body to match. We have gone out several times. After the first three dates where we did nothing but kiss, we began getting a little more intimate. Since our fifth date, she has given me a handjob on every date. Of course I enjoy it and would do practically anything to have her do it to me. But here is my concern: She seems like a nice person, and even has certain Christian values, goes to church regularly, and other stuff. Yet, she tells me that she has given most of her other guy friends handjobs. When she told me that, I felt a whole lot less special, and so I asked her why she did it. She told me simply that she thought "guys like it", and she saw nothing wrong with doing for them what they do for themselves all of the time. She says she's a virgin and will not have intercourse until marriage. Now, everything else about the relationship seems to be going well except for my knowing that she gives guys what they want (within limits). I am not very experienced with dating and with girls. Is this normal behavior in dating? Did I grow up in such a conservative environment that I never learned about these things? Or, is she not the "nice" girl that I thought she is? If this is the case, I want to get out of this relationship as soon as I can find the courage. I just don't know what is "normal" dating behavior, and what to expect. Is this what people do on dates? Do girls and guys our age (were both 21 now, and we were 20 when we met) do these things (i.e., have manual sex) fairly casually? Or, is my "nice" girlfriend really promiscuous?"
Oh, sweetie..i'm seventeen and feel that i've seen more of the world than you..obviously you were rather sheltered..if you like it, don't complain..who says you have to be a pristine, nice young gentleman...and every girl has a wild side..and also, what is wrong with a girl that may be a little promiscuous? even though giving a handjob is not really promiscuous...sex is usually a part of a normal relationship..it's okay..what you're doing is not wrong..don't stress
16/f
so my friend asked this kid if he liked me and he said why do you care? and then she was like i just wanna know. and then he didnt say anything. and then she asked him again and he said SERIOUSLY why do you care? and she was like i just wanna know. and then she said im not gunna stop bothering you until you answer me so do you? and he said maybe maybe not.
do you think that means he does or he doesnt? even if he didnt say it but most likely.
thanks in advance =)
oh jesus christ, grow up and ask him if he likes you.. what? are you in junior high? seriously though, just ask ...or did you even like this guy before all this game of telephone went on? i swear, girls are so silly..some guy says nothing about you, but you're already planning your wedding..please don't act so desperate for attention..stand on your own two feet.
I'm not sure that advice is EXACTLY what I'm looking for, but I'd like to understand something. Love seems to have a different impact on everyone who feels it. (This is about romantic love.) Why do you think love is important? What does it do for people? What is the point? Fulfillment? I have heard that no two people can ever fully understand each other, but we all spend years trying to find that one person who can understand us. Why ?
To me, love is something we tell ourselves we are in to make ourselves feel worth something and to give our lives purpose. It's totally intangible and false. jaded? maybe...
Advicenators, help me, I think I might be heartbroken. For three years now, I've been stepping over bodies for this one guy to notice me, I've really done everything. I live for him. There's nothing I do - if it doesn'thave to do with him. And I can't remember the last time an hour went (just an hour!) without me thinking about him.. so im obsessed. but that's not the problem, the problem is... everytime i get close to him, or confess my feelings for him, he does the same to another girl. i dont udnerstand! he doesnt seem to be rejecting me, he's always saying "i miss you! i cant wait until i see you and get to SHOW YOU exactly how much ive missed you!..i wish we could be together!" and so on, so i donot think its a way of rejection..but still, its weird.. here's an example, we were IMing and i was like "i miss you!" and he was like "i miss you too - you and your beautiful eyes! and then the next day his away message is about a firned of his (who i know) and it says "i love loretta and her beautiful eyes!" and like if i would tell him "i was watching the simpsons and it made me think of you.." the next day he'll tell this girl loretta " i was watching our show, one tree hill, and it made me think of you"
you know what im saying?? like i dont know what to do! its so weird! and i cant stop crying just because his name was about HER beautiful eyes when thats what he always compliments ME on!
Wow, this guy is a big jerk and you're letting him string you along just like a little puppy. Put a stop to it and don't be so dependent on a guy to make you happy, or you will end up in life with a husband who takes advantage of you. I wish you could understand how many guys are out there that could treat you right and make you happy. You wouldn't even give this guy the time of day.