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HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM!!
omg my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me 3 days ago and i cant eat and i cant freakin sleep!! and everytime I think of him I get nautious(sp) Im home sick today so I dont see him and I cant cry infront of him but I was about to yesterday!! so I have two questions!!
1) HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM!?
2) HOW CAN I MAKE HIM WANT ME BACK?! (without going out with another guy!)
PLEASE HELP ME!
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You get over him by growing up and realizing that life does not always go the way you want it to. Please understand that he is only one guy..not everything. Also, don't worry about getting him back.. it makes you look desperate. Move on and find somebody that wants to be with you just as much as you want them...or you will never be happy..Honestly girls are so naive..just get over it...breakups will happen and you're going to have to deal with that. As soon as you start living in reality, you can begin to be a stronger person and know that this one guy is not going to ruin your life. That is not his right, You have ONE life...don't waste it worrying about a guy that doesn't want you.
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You want the truth? Or, you want some lame "oh, just make him jealous and he'll want you back" type of answer.
'Cause here's the truth.
1.) You can't get over him. Not yet. Heartache/break is terrible and there is absolutely nothing you can do to fix it. Just keep living your life and try to stay busy. That's absolutely all you can do.
2.) You can't make anyone do anything. Ever. He ended it. He probably won't want you back. But let's say he did. Let's say for some reason or another he decided to get back together with you. Would it be worth it? This is the guy that already broke your heart once. If someone is going to do something that horrible to you, they are never worth getting back.
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You have a better chance of getting him back if you get over him, but getting over him, will make it pointless to get him back. The questions you ask are in opposition and unlikely for both to occur, so focus on one. Loss and rejection will feel horrible and what you are experiencing is normal and no matter how you feel now, I promise and I guarantee that it will pass. After you have grieved him and get past the hurt feelings, you will find yourself a bit annoyed with him and mad, and then be glad to be rid of him. Then, you will not care at all, and realize it has been a whole day, a week and then a month, before you thought of him again. If a new guy attracts you, this process may go quickly, but it is important that you do go through all stages. This is not about getting him back, but getting through it and becoming better for it. Anyone who does not want to be with you, is really not someone you want. What you want is for them to change their mind, but we cannot change anyone. If you can remember yourself before him and picture yourself as a happy single who is desirable and fun, then you are on your way. He may or may not miss you enough to get back together, but either way, you are better off not focusing on him, but on you and your own journey.
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well you could just try to look for another guy without trying to make him jelous and want you back. if you think he wants you back and you dont want any other guy then DONT.i dont want to be mean but if he would say yes to wanting you back then hes syco for breaking up with you in the first place.
just think of it this way...it will sink in within a month or a month and a half and you'll be over him and probably even have a new bf
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Well first you need to decide what exactly you want to do. If you want to get over him or if you want him back.
There is no way to "make him want you back" If he wants to be back with you, he will do so. Dont try to become something that you're not so that he will want to be with you, no guy is worth changing yourself over.
As for getting over him, take up new hobbies, join a sports team. Do something to occupy your mind and try and stay as busy as possible. A free moment leaves room to think about what you dont want to think about. Spend more time with your girlfriends and try to avoid situations where you would remember him by. Once you have down the idea of not remembering him, then confront some situations that would remind you of him, and accept the fact that you guys are over & that'll test whether or not you are really over him.
It's hard to deal with the first couple days, I understand, but give it a try.
You also cant do it if youre not willing. So if you're ready to get over him and accept the fact that its done, then try what I said up there. But if you're not ready to let go, then dont just yet. Do it when you're good and ready.
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