I only joined this because I realized that all of my friends come to me for advice. I have two gifts: the gift of gab, and the gift of brutal honesty. I am trying to remember that there is a difference between brutal honesty and bitchiness. I am really cute, relatively intelligent, and sort of funny, so I think I am in at least the top 25 percent of the general population of humans. My advice might be the stuff you don't want to hear, but it is probably the stuff that you need to know.
Gender: Female
Location: St. Louis
Occupation: Student/Help Desk
Age: 23
Member Since: October 29, 2006
Answers: 21
Last Update: November 2, 2006
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are you single? you're very attractive. will you please move to ohio? thanks. (link)
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I'm completely single! Thanks for the compliment! My aunt lives in Ohio..uh...but that would be creepy if I moved there for you. So I won't.
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Hey I was thinking of getting a helix or wat people will call, cartilage(upper ear) piercing.
1)Will it hurt badly and is the level of pain equal to piercing your ear lobe?
I've heard bout a story where someone who pierced his helix went blind. After he had he's cartilage pierced he saw something white protruding out and he pulled it out and he unknowingly pulled out his nerve.
2)Is this possible or is it pure bullshit?
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The main reason I'm answering this question is because of the nerve thing. That is pure, unfiltered bullshit.
Yes, a piercing can get infected.
Yes, there have been horror stories about piercings turning into awful situations.
But there are also stories about people bleaching their hair and winding up completely bald.
Sure, these stories may have a flicker of truth in very RARE cases, but that's just like the stories about "that kid who went in for a routine appendectomy and now will never walk again." The chances of that happening? Slim to nothing.
If you go to an experienced, qualified, licensed piercer at a reputable shop, the chances of you having any issues are incredibly, incredibly small.
Now in many cartilage situations, the skin gets infected and the piercings have to be taken out, but a lot of that arises from lack of care.
Get your helix (it will look AWESOME) and just make sure to follow the care instructions exactly as they are listed.
You'll be fine and look phenomenal!
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My friend was dianosed with mono last week, i didnt know this and i drank out of her water bottle, is it possilbe that she is still contagious? (link)
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Mono is awful because it can sit in your system for weeks, even months before symptoms start to show.
If all you did was drink out of her water bottle, you SHOULD be okay. Mono is called the kissing disease because it is typically contracted by situations that involve more than a water bottle. The only way a doctor can diagnose it is if you get a blood test. It is a virus, just like the flu, so the only way to prove that you have it is by the blood test. Personally, I wouldn't waste the time on all that. If you start to feel gross, and I don't mean a tiny cough, I mean HORRIBLE, head straight to the doc. Otherwise, chill.
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If that's you in your picture,
You kinda look like a man & that's gross.
Haha. [:
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I actually am a man. My penis is 12 inches, can you believe it? I know you want some, doncha little girl.
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my brest are" saggy" if I sleep with a certain bra would it help me any? (link)
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Um..are you 80?
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Hey,
Right, so I had been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months and recently I told her that I needed some space and I was'nt sure if I loved her any more. She still really loves me and wants to get back together but I don't know what to do. If we do get back together and it doesn't work out she will just keep getting hurt which is not something I want.
I really like her as a friend but honestly don't know if I feel anuthing more than than for her any more.
Any advice is more than welcome,
Thanks in advance. (link)
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The worst thing you can ever do to someone who loves you is lead them on. I know you don't want to hurt her, but if you lead her to believe there might be a chance of things working out in the future, she will just hope and pray and pine away for you. Cut the cord so she can get on with her life.
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AWESOME GRADES FROM SO-SO SCHOOL OR SO-SO GRADES FROM AWESOME SCHOOL?
what's the best? see i was thinking if i choose a school like UCLA (good repuation right?) but since everyone's so smart there i'd get so-so grades, or is it better to choose a so-so school where i'd get the best grades?? like lets say i want to becom a doctor, what would be best? do they look at your grades, or where you got your degree, or both? does anyone know?? (link)
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Oh, from my and all of my friends' experience, if there's one thing I've learned from college, it's this: your grades do not matter. For the most part, companies do not care about your G.P.A., but they thoroughly care about which school you graduated from.
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I am female, 23 years old and my boyfriend 22. After almost 2 years of relationship, my boyfriend called me ugly. What can I do or what can I say? (link)
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Well, before you destroy his heart (which you should at least consider), ask him why he thinks that. Ask him what has changed in the past two years to cause him to think something so negatively about you?
Clearly this is a problem, and it's probably bigger than you want it to be. It sounds like the beginning of the end. You had better get to the root of the problem before your relationship goes spiraling into the toilet.
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We'll i have been going out with this girl britney for about four months, but we have been talking for a little over three years. We'll me and her dad ahve become great friends and talk, and sometimes we even hang out with out britney there. Just chill like some sweet ass dude's. lol, we are cool. We'll i have only seen her mom a few times because she is a nurse and is barely ever home. she seems kind of ignorant, but yeah. and we'll personally i think she hates my guts!! when i'm there and she comes home she never says hi or anything to me she just ignores me. sometimes i try to make conversation and stuff,but i just keep thinking she hates me!! what do i do? (link)
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Keep, keep, keep, keep talking to her mother. Seriously. The more she gets to know you, the more she will open up. Remember, parents can be a little protective of their children, ESPECIALLY their daughters. The key is be genuinely interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about her job. Ask her if she has favorite patients. Ask what made her want to be a nurse. Ask her anything you can, and look and act interested in what she has to say. Chances are, she only knows you as some kid who could potentially be destroying her daughter. So just talk to her.
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Isn't annoying when people type in run-on sentences and don't punctuate? It makes the question/statement difficult to understand and read. I can understand when people sometimes misspell words; but I hate when people don't even attempt at making themselves seem somewhat intelligent. It is bothersome when people type a response or question like its a text message. No, I'm not an English teacher if you're wondering. I am a sixteen year old female that is in high school. (link)
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When people use "u" instead of "you," I get the overwhelming urge to punch them in the face. I'm no grammar genius and not the greatest of spellers, but good god, HOW MUCH TIME IS ANYONE SAVING BY TYPING TWO FEWER LETTERS? I feel your pain.
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Hi,
For a long time in my life I've felt like people just can't tell me the truth about things. Whether it's my family, friends, people at businesses, or just some random person I meet on the street. I feel like everyone is afraid to tell me the truth because they either think I can't handle it or I'll get angry and upset. Do they feel ashamed to admit something to me? I can handle it when I'm told the raw truth about something, even if it's something that could potentially hurt me. But perhaps I'm not showing people that I want to hear the truth. Is there a way I can let people know that they can be honest with me and I'm not going to be angry with them if they are? Also how do I let them know without saying "I think you are lying. Go on, tell me the truth".
Any kind of remotely helpful advice would be apreaciated. Thanks! (link)
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Have you noticed that the few people who are blatantly honest are always deemed "bitches" and "asshats"? Honesty is something that is difficult for a lot of people to deal with. Generally speaking, people are frightened of the truth. I'm sure it's not you. I'm sure it's the general public. With that being said, all you can do is be honest, which would result in you telling all of the dishonests that they need to be truthful. Start treating people the way you want to be treated (whoa. that was a little too cliche, wasn't it?), and hopefully some of your honesty will rub off on them. I do apologize for the vague answer but it's hard to be specific with a topic that is as broad as general honesty.
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i've had the same group of best friends for five years & i've recently lost them all because i tried to do the right thing. anyway, i decided that i don't need negative people in my life. sooo...i'm going to try & make new friends & i was wondering: what are some good conversation starters? [: (link)
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Aww, there are a million books that have been written about your very predicament.
It's hard, and I mean HARD to make new friends sometimes. The key? Listening. You don't have to have a zillion questions memorized or a speech prepared when making new friends, the key is listening.
Let me explain.
Say you and I are talking for the first time, and we know nothing about each other. We start with the boring questions, you know, where do you live, how old are you, where do you go to school, blah blah blah blah blah.
Now say you ask me what seems like a normal, boring, regular old question, like this.
"So, do you like living in St. Louis?"
and I say
"Oh, I love St. Louis, especially now that everyone has baseball fever."
If you listened to what I said, your next question should be about baseball. I left the door open for you to ask a question about baseball such as
"Did you go to any of the World Series games?"
"Are you a big Cardinals fan?"
or blah blah blah
Example 2
You say
"What did you do this weekend?"
I say
"Oh, I got super duper drunk and ate an entire carton of fried rice"
and then this would open you up to ask questions like
"So is fried rice your favorite food to eat after a night of drinking?"
or
"Do you prefer beer or liquor? What's your most favorite drink?"
The key to getting people to like you
is paying attention to what they say,
and it's super duper easy to do. Just listen. It's the little things in what people say that gives away information about themselves.
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i have hair on my arms. about a year ago i started to shave them, but i only did about twice cause my friend told me that it makes the hair darker and stronger.
i haven't shaved them since.
but i have noticed that they are black now, and i don't want to shave them cause of what my friend said.
what else could i do? wax? or something else?
thanks =D (link)
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Oh wow, I can't believe no one told you to bleach the hair. I'm going to assume that the hair is not super thick, it's probably just super dark. Bleaching is totally the answer. Arm hair is totally normal and fine looking. In fact, people without arm hair look kind of creepy and weird. Just go to the drug store and pick up some Sally Hansen bleach (it will probably be in the face goo aisle of the store). It's less than ten bucks, it doesn't hurt, and it will totally solve the problem. The best thing is that it will basically last forever.
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I'm a 15 year old girl who has a little problem with acne and oil. I wear foundation but it doesn't seem to help too much. I don't want something that looks cakey, but something that will cover the redness and acne and still look natural.
Can someone help me in any way? (whether it's a good face cleanser/toner, a good foundation, or tips on makeup... anything will help.) (link)
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I was a 15 year old girl once who had a little problem with acne and oil. I wore foundation and it didn't seem to help too much.
**CORRECTION**
I was a 15 year girl once whose acne was so frequent, you could play connect the dots for HOURS on my forehead. There was more crap on my forehead than stars in the sky. It was. Disgusting. Gross. Awful.
....and then...
I found Tea Tree Oil.
The Body Shop. (order it online if there are no Body Shops by you, but they seem to have a store in every mall in America)
It was the greatest thing I had ever found. I would still use it now except that I don't have acne problems anymore because I FINALLY grew up. I think you can get a bottle of cleanser for 10-15 bucks. It's amazing. And believe me, I tried everything from those stupid Oxy Pads at the drug store to the Clinique 3 Step System (huge rip off), to prescription meds that my doc gave me. Tea Tree Oil was the *only* thing that worked for me.
Try it.
You'll be sending me a thank you card with a pic of your totally awesome face, I'm sure.
oh oh oh, I almost forgot!
There are a zillion types of foundation out there.
Oil based, water based, thick, thin, etc.
Go to a MAKEUP COUNTER in a mall, and have someone show you the differences. They can tell you which ones look best. If you have acne, you CAN wear foundation, but you need a foundation that isn't going to look cakey or make you break out even more. Almost every makeup counter in every mall will give you a FREE consultation, just look up their phone numbers and call first.
Definitely consider Clinique and Origins, two brands that are very good for the skin.
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I have a hard time talking to my parents about anything. Whenever I'm around them alone it's an akward silence. I feel bad about asking them to do anything for me (when I rarely ask). Every day after school, I just go up to my room and get on the computer and sleep. I self-relient. I cook, clean, and shop for myself; I also drive myself to anywhere I may need to go. I asked my mom to go to the mall with me a few weeks ago and it was almost like pulling teeth to get her to agree (I had just started driving and I was nervous driving around the mall area since it's so congested. I wanted her to drive ONLY around that area). My mom can't really use the "I'm too busy to [insert activity here]" excuse since she doesn't work and I'm the only child that lives in the house. I almost feel like my parents don't care about what's going on in my life since they never ask. They rarely even ask about report cards, grades, or school in general. How can I open up to them more?
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First of all, in an effort to ease your mind, you must be aware that MANY, MANY people have communication issues with their parents. More often than not, it stems from issues in childhood/adolescence.
Many people also have great relationships with their parents as children, but when the teenage years hit, it all plummets. Teenagers are generally uncomfortable with themselves, therefore uncomfortable with everyone around them, especially the 'rents.
Whatever the case, this can be mended.
But you have to make the effort.
Don't look at is as "my parents don't care about what's going on," look at it is "perhaps my parents think I want privacy, so that's what they're trying to give them."
So here is what you do.
Think of things that your parents enjoy. Everyone loves talking about certain things. Whether it's a hobby, or a musician they are passionate about, or their job, whatever. Find the topics that your parents genuinely enjoy discussing and ask them questions about the topics. This will get the ball rolling. Don't start off by talking about yourself, because you know you are capable of talking. Put the ball in their court. Then, after awhile of this, hopefully you have at least opened the doors to communications and can speak more freely and comfortably about what's going on in their lives. Being someone's daughter/son is really really hard, but being someone's parent is really difficult as well.
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This might be long, but please read and help. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. He was my first real boyfriend and we learned so much from eachother. I lost my virginity to him, and we had more great times than bad. He said the relationship wasn't the same and needed to start focusing on himself. It was a complete shock to my heart. We hadn't talked for weeks, but finally I made the first move and called him. I wanted to just catch up and see if maybe we could be friends. He seemed up for it and we hung out together. The only thing he seemed to want was sex and he was just being mean to me. He was never like that before. I held my own, but I'm even more hurt. I just can't seem to let him go no matter what. I wake up depressed and go to bed depressed. I can't believe that this boy has control over my happiness. Is there anyway you can be friends with someone you had a really intense relationship with? How do I even go about moving on? Nothing is working. (link)
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Le sigh. The first boyfrend. The first sexual partner. I am sorry to tell you this because I know your pain, EXACTLY, but alas, it's the truth. Chances are that you will never be friends, especially since this breakup is so incredibly painful. The worse the breakup, the less likely the chance that you will ever be friends.
There are no simple answers for moving on, either. In fact, you're essentially screwed until your brain SLOWLY begins to realize that you can function without him. Some people get over it in a day, others a week, others take years, and some people live with broken hearts for their entire lives. Just do the things that have always made you happy (hanging out with buddies, singing, painting, whatever it is that your passion was prior to him).
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My bf is the owner and chef of a small cafe in town. I've been hearing stories from two of the waitresses that work for him that he is a complete jerk to work for. One of them told me that once he threw something and yelled "how many times do I have to show you"! He will scream and holler at them in front of all the customers if they screw up an order when it's busy. One time I went in to talk to one of the waitresses and he yelled "no talking while your working"! I was so embarrassed for her that I left. I heard he also said once "I would fire you if I wasnt' friends with you" to another worker. My concern is if he has this much anger at his work that he could turn it on me. Should I get out? (link)
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Don't get out. At least, not over that.
Why?
Well, Rule Number One, of course!!
Rule Number One states that if someone has a high-stress (or just plain bad) job, it is extremely possible, in fact, highly likely, that they have two personalities.
Work personality.
Home personality.
These personalities may be drastically different, and they are in no way related.
Don't worry about it.
If you are embarassed about the way he treats his employees, don't go into his cafe. If you feel bad about it, or he asks why you aren't going, just tell him that you aren't comfortable mixing personal and work life.
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omg my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me 3 days ago and i cant eat and i cant freakin sleep!! and everytime I think of him I get nautious(sp) Im home sick today so I dont see him and I cant cry infront of him but I was about to yesterday!! so I have two questions!!
1) HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM!?
2) HOW CAN I MAKE HIM WANT ME BACK?! (without going out with another guy!)
PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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You want the truth? Or, you want some lame "oh, just make him jealous and he'll want you back" type of answer.
'Cause here's the truth.
1.) You can't get over him. Not yet. Heartache/break is terrible and there is absolutely nothing you can do to fix it. Just keep living your life and try to stay busy. That's absolutely all you can do.
2.) You can't make anyone do anything. Ever. He ended it. He probably won't want you back. But let's say he did. Let's say for some reason or another he decided to get back together with you. Would it be worth it? This is the guy that already broke your heart once. If someone is going to do something that horrible to you, they are never worth getting back.
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is it normal when you shave your pubic hair for it to itch alot after ?.. thanks in advanced (link)
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This is completely normal. The skin in the vaginal area is much more sensitive and the hair is much more coarse. It is only natural for you to itch after shaving. Suggestions: aloe vera (I also believe drug stores carry a line of lotions/gels specifically for that)
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Does anyone know where to get cute purses from? I'm looking in the $30-$60 range, preferably; but I'm open to suggestions.
Thanks=) (link)
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Target. Marshall's. TJ Max. Gordman's. Burlington Coat Factory. H & M. You will find phenomenal purses at all of these places within your price range.
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