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Love is an interesting concept.
I'm not sure that advice is EXACTLY what I'm looking for, but I'd like to understand something. Love seems to have a different impact on everyone who feels it. (This is about romantic love.) Why do you think love is important? What does it do for people? What is the point? Fulfillment? I have heard that no two people can ever fully understand each other, but we all spend years trying to find that one person who can understand us. Why ?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Romantic love begins with attraction, and mutual attraction will validate those feelings. Two people find they cannot get enough of each other, until they do. Then, the fantasy fades away and the reality that this person they held in awe is just a flawed human after all. It is then that true love has an opportunity to develop or we choose to walk away. This phenomenon has more to do with who we are then who the other person is. Most people walk around waiting to fall into love or try to avoid getting caught in a love trap. Both are notions that love is something that exists and acts upon us. Both notions are false. These are attractions that come and go and change over time. Basically there are two choices in life. You can look for love all your life and hope someone will come along who wants to love you completely with no or little work on your part...good luck! Or, you can look for someone who you will deeply respect and can be friends with as well as be attracted to, and choose, yes, choose to love and accept love from that person. This is work, but all real, true, and good things, are the result of your free will in action! You know that you really love someone, when you see them at their worst, and still want the best for them, looking past the fact that at this moment they are not giving in the relationship but need to take. Of course a constant state of this unconditional love is not a healthy equal relationship and not to be strived for or settled for. At times however, we must be prepared to be on both ends of the give and take spectrum and the love we have will not change.
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To me, love is something we tell ourselves we are in to make ourselves feel worth something and to give our lives purpose. It's totally intangible and false. jaded? maybe...
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Wow you're like a mind reader! Me and my boyfriend were discussing this the other day... What is the point in love?
The whole 'I would do anything for you' surely goes against all survival instincts, so love can't be here to keep up alive. The only scientific reason I can think of is to make children and further the human race, using fewer combinations of DNA... :S
But whatever love is here for, its great! It makes people happy, it makes life worth living, and whatever happens you know that theres one person who will always love and respect you. It keeps me going anyway!
And I don't agree that no two people can ever fully understand each other, if you stick together for years and years you must know the other person inside out or there's always going to be some mistrust there.
So yeah, love rocks! (apart from when you get your heart broken :( )
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Love is important - it makes you happy and others happy and makes us all feel cared for.What it does for us it gives us corage and beleif and though we may never understand someone fully we spend all those years with that 1 person because they make us feel special and things noone you've ever met has made you feel.We may spend years trying to find "the one" because they sre the ones that are gonna make us most happy and enjoy life!
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We're just "wired" that way, to want love. Yeah, and I am sure "love" is different for many people, but some people agree on what it means. I remember one time when a school counselor asked me to define love, because I really felt "in love" with this girl in high school, and I was miserable because she wouldn't date me, and I wanted to talk to a counselor about it. I remember taking a long time to answer the counselor's question because I hadn't really thought about trying to define love; I just felt it and experienced the emotion or the sensation without trying to find words to describe it. But anyway, I finally told the counselor that love is a feeling of companionship, of wanting to do something for the other person, of wanting to give the other person more than you have yourself, of wanting to be with the other person more than anything else you can think of, of just enjoying talking with the other person. The counselor said, "Yes, you know what love is and you have experienced it."
Love is like a switch that gets turned on within us and it motivates us to be with another person and to put the other person's needs and well-being far above our own. Yes, love may be illogical at times; I know my own behavior is sometimes illogical when I am experiencing being "in love." But it can be a heck of a lot of fun for two people. I don't think a couple has to "fully understand" each to be in love. Sometimes not fully knowing each other keeps the relationship interesting. But you need to know enough about each other to have unconditional trust, to know that the other person is always your ally, your friend, your partner. Different people have different ways of understanding each other. Understanding is something that happens as a relationship grows, and it can mean a lot of different things, depending on how the relationship develops over time.
Also, I don't think you have to spend years trying to find the "right" person. I used to think this, but now I think you can find love practically anywhere you go, if there are a lot of different kinds of people present. I am not sure that I have ever found anyone without some flaws, but I have been "in love" at least five times. Make it your #1 goal to get out of the house or out of the office and meet people. Take classes, join volunteer organizations, go shopping when other people are shopping, let your friends know that you really want to meet people, join a church and get involved in church activities, take up one or more hobbies that require interacting with people, get a dog and walk it through the neighborhood, try to be friendly and look friendly, listen to what other people talk about and see if you can contribute to their conversations, get in shape through exercise and dieting, buy some stylish clothes--you probably already know this stuff--but just in case.
Your questions are very difficult to answer because they seem to require concrete answers, and love isn't like that. But, knowing that doesn't help you at all. Hopefully, something here helps a little.
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Well, for most people it's the feeling of belonging to people. They need that feeling.
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Very interesting question. To be honest, I doubt theres a right reason.
People want to find love because its nothing like you've ever experienced before. It makes you happy, it makes you feel good about yourself and when we feel good about ourselves it just makes everything easier. Of course, you should never try to look for love to higher your self-esteem. You should be able to make yourself happy first.
It's as if you have your family and your friends and they may be close to you, but it isn't nearly as close as coming home at night to the person who understands you and loves you.
There is no clear explaination as to why we feel the need to always want love, but we want it because its wonderful. It brings two people very close and it's only those two people. It's not like having a best friend, you know where friends always have other friends? Well it's not that way for having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. It's two people only being close to each other. Theres no third party or other people. It's like a big secret that two people keep together.
I think what you heard is right. No two people can fully understand each other. There will always be times when you don't understand and disagree. People don't exactly set out to find someone who fully understands us, we look for people who will treat us right and make us feel wanted.
I'll admit that this was really hard to explain, but let's face it, we really don't have a clue as to why we look so hard for love.
-TheTeenGirl
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