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Jealous
Every night I cry so hard because I get so hurt from having my boyfriend talk to other girls. Yes, I've talked to him about it, and he says they're all friends. I believe him, I just don't know how to stop being jealous. I get so stressed, and I'm just tired of crying and being hurt all the time. Please help me.
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Girls seem to have a sence for when things just aren't right. Are you 100% sure that these "friends" are just friends? I'm not telling you to spy, but do some digging and see if your boyfriend is telling you the truth. But if you boyfriend truly liked you, he wouldn't want you crying over things like this and he would stop if he knew it upset you that much. Let him know how much it hurts you, and how you just want to know that your the only girl in his life. Boys aren't worth your tears hun so dont let him make you feel this way. Talk to him
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well there must be something that makes you not trust him or make you doubt the girls he talks to. its not fair that you cry yourself to sleep but maybe its not fair to him that you dont trust him. sit him down and talk .. make sure that you are alone and he is listening no distractions
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A vital thing to every relationship is trust. You need that to survive in a relationship, because if you don't trust them, then the relationship is sure to be doomed.
Maybe try getting to know his girl friends, and hanging out with them sometime soon and talking to them. If you actually befriend them and know who they are now, you won't feel as worried whenever he talks to them and as jealous because you know you're friends with them, and you know they wouldn't flirt with him and everything.
Sometimes whenever people feel jealous of someone else, it's usually because they feel that that other person has something they might not have, or they're more pretty, more popular, etc. Have you ever thought you might think you might not be good enough for your boyfriend? ( I'm not saying you aren't, but it's common for girls to think their boyfriends too good for them ). Or have you ever b een afraid that your boyfriend's going to leave you for someone else? That just may be the reason why you're so jealous, is because you think one of these things, and you need to realize ; he's dating YOU, he likes YOU, he likes everything about YOU and not any other girl. Yes, he talks to these girls, but you're the one he calls at night and you're the one he says "I love you" too and everything.
Whenever you feel yourself just starting to get upset and jealous, take deep breaths and tell yourself,"They're just friends, I know, they're just friends, I know," and keep telling yourself that in your head and just calm yourself down. Also think of the same situation, but you and your boyfriend with switched roles. Realize that he understands your guy friends and just friends and that he's not jealous whenever you talk to yours, so you shouldn't be jealous whenever he talks to his girl friends.
I hope I helped.
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Jelousy is normal and I'm sure every girl feels like this once in a while, but if you don't have trust in your boyfriend, you can't have a good realationship. Now you know that those girls are just his friends. If he wanted them, he wouldn't be with you. He obviously cares about you a lot so you need to chill out. Crying about this isn't worth it. I know you can't just stop being jelous, but think about it. He isn't trying to hurt you at all and he won't just stop being friends with them for no reason. You need to trust him more.
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The key to a relationship is -- trust. If you don't have trust, you have nothing. I think you have to learn to trust your boyfriend, until you are really proven otherwise.
Like, us girls or at least a lot of us have guy friends, that are strictly friends, and then our boyfriends get jealous, right? It's really the same thing, at least pretty much.
So just try trusting him more, and not letting it bother you when he talks to other girls. Or get to know the girls that he's talking to, let them become friends. Then, you might see that they really are just friends, and are nice girls.
I kind of felt this way once, but I didn't really get upset about it. But now all of those girls are like my best friends, and I know there's nothing going on between them.
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You are probably feeling a little insecure at the moment, but you don't need to be, think about it, your boyfriend is going out with YOU, not those other girls, and why? Because he LIKES you, he cares about you and can probably think of many reasons why you're great.
The reason you're jealous is most likely because at the moment you're feeling insecure and may have low self-esteem.
Ask your friends and family what they like about you - from your behaviour, to your looks, to your personality - and see what they say. They're bound to come up with lots of things, write down the things they say, and read them aloud to yourself every morning before you get up, and every evening before you go to bed.
Soon you will wonder why you are jealous of him talking to those girls when you're so great.
You may think that my advice has nothing to do with jealousy, but trust me, it does, just try what I've said and I'm sure it will make a difference.
Hope I helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+*
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This isn't a nice position to be in and I'm going to be honest with you here... Your feelings about this will NOT change. If you are a jelous person then this will always be a problem to you.
If you look a bit deeper into this problem then you might see that its not because he is talking to other girls but maybe its because you dont find that he gives you the love and attention you want. What I mean is that you are maybe feeling that you are not in a stable relationship so you are wondering if he will leave you for another girl. What you could use at the moment is for him to reasure you that your the only girl for him and if you knew that then him talking to other girls wouldnt bother you as much.
I think you should talk to him again and tell him exactly how you feel about it and tell him how much he is hurting you... if he really cares about you then he will either reasure you that he loves you and you only or he will carry on hurting you. If he carries on doing this then he's not the right person for you and you need to end this relationship and find someone who will respect your feelings and not abuse the love that you are giving him.
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I know your feelings. Being jealous is just about the worst feeling and it takes some time to make it go away.
The only reasons you should feel jealous about your boyfriend interacting with girls is if:
-He's cheated on you before
-One of those girls is an Ex-girlfriend
-You possibly have trust issues with your boyfriend
If you have no reasons at all to feel jealous, then it's pretty unfair to your boyfriend. It's basically saying that you don't trust him before he even gets a chance to show you that you can trust him. You have to be fair and give your boyfriend a chance.
When you go to bed and start feeling depressed, think about these reasons I've listed and tell yourself that you have to be fair. By all means, you can cry it out, but you have to begin understanding that you have no reason not to trust him. When you see him talking to other girls, don't be afraid to but in and say hi. Who knows, you might even become friends with these girls or at least people who are ok with each other. I know it might seem crazy, but don't you think it's better than not knowing who these girls are?
-TheTeenGirl
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