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Okay here's the deal. I've been good friends with someone for a long while. Let's call this friend "Mr Red". We're fairly close and have been through quite a bit together. our friendship is still strong and tight, and we've got a lot in common, and many mutual friends.
A few months ago, I met someone, let's call her "Miss Blue", whom I am not involved with in a serious relationship. The circumstances of meeting her will be a little odd, so bear with me.
I first heard of her when Red was ranting about something she did. Apparently, Mr Red seriously dislikes her and wants nothing to do with Miss Blue. This is not new, and in fact.. the rest of the clique dislikes her as well. I've always been the person who really doesn't like to follow along with crowd decisions of that type.. since I used to be ostracized in grade school often. I remember what it feels like, so I try to give everyone a chance
When I actually met Miss Blue, it developed into an attraction, and now we're involved. Obviously, this has caused some rifts
To be clear, Miss Blue has never asked me to choose between her or them. None of the group including Mr Red has ever pressured me about my relationship with her. They accept it, and respect it, but most do not approve of it.
The biggest problem is that I am unable to include my significant other in my activities with them in most cases, since Mr Red is often around. Mr Red usually just refuses to hang out with me if she's already there, and leaves quickly if she shows up later.
Miss Blue is both hurt and upset by this behavior, and rightfully feels ostracized and left out. She feels very guilty that I need to take time out for her and away from Mr Red and the group. If I'm not caught up in something important, like just hanging out with the group, I often go see her.. which she feels guilty about me having to do.
She wants to be included, but also feels bad that I have to separate my time with her and them.
As for her and Red... she has tried multiple times to work things out with him, but he is simply stone faced about it. He's said in response every time that he doesn't believe her apologies and doesn't want to hear it. He wants her to leave him alone.
They have never been romantically involved.
My question is about how best to handle my place in this. Even with careful separation of my time between the two, she still feels terrible, and I feel like maybe I should be doing something more. (link)
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ok, Mr.Red is not being a very good friend right know he shoul be supportive of you and love you no matter who you date that he doesn'y like, any way it's not his choice, so if miss red apologized then that is all that she can do because Mr.red is an A word that i refuse to use drop him, .... no dont' do that but just like make them work mr.red amd ms.blue work out their problems because it might end up either tearing you and her apart or you and him it all depends on who you love the most:0
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Soo I was in gym one day. We were doing our dancing unit, and we were line dancing. There was this guy that was always in the front row that always looked back at me. And yes, I know it was me, because he did it in the hallway too. But I had no idea who it was. Then, I found out.. I knew the name right away. He's a junior, (I'm a freshman, by the way) one of the best athletes around.. you know.. one of them jocks. I immediately thought I had no chance with him. So I added him on facebook and talked to him one night. I was surprised.. he was soo nice!! haha and when I asked him if he even knew who I was he said "not really I think you're in my gym class though." I thought that was good.. wouldn't you? I mean he knew who I was.. that was a start. So we've been talking for the past couple of months since then. He's also been staring at me like crazy in school, which has been weird, but hey, I don't hate it. One time when we were talking I told him that I was good at soccer, and he said "I bet I'd beat you" and all of my friends completely freaked when I told them about it, 'cause they thought it was a good thing. I did too, until a few days ago. My friend was talking to him and she told him that one of her friends likes him. He kept begging for hints and stuff.. but she didn't wanna give it away just yet. So she told him that I really liked him and thought he was perfect. But she also told him that he probably wouldn't like me.. we're complete opposites. He still wanted to know. Then she told him that I wasn't in his grade and he replied, "oh so freshman" and he said he knew who it was. This is the rest of the conversation: her: so should I tell her about this or are you going to talk to her about it? him: probably not just don't say anything. her: that bad.. huh? him: no im just not looking for anyone. Then at the end of the conversation he said that he didn't even know who it was. The last thing he said was "dont want to know". So that made me upset. Obviously he knew exactly who it was and didn't want anything to do with me.. right? After all of that happened, I sent him a message that said "sorry.. thats all I can say." and he claimed he didn't know what I was talking about. So obviously he doesnt wanna talk about it, or talk to me. But he still looks at me in school. A while back, like a month ago, everytime I'd try talking to him on chat and he wouldn't say anything, he'd say that he was on his phone and he didn't get the message. I believed him, but it got old. Today I tried talking to him and he didn't say anything. Is he "on his phone"? Or is he just ignoring me like I always thought he would? (link)
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tell your friend to stay out of your business, because naybe she scared him off, some boys dont like it when other girls talk to them for you make him talk to you in person
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Im 17/male
I've been seeing this girl for the past few months
and all of a sudden, overnight, she transformed.
Why is this? HELP (link)
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TRANSFORMED???
How what happened but if you don't like this transfromation talk to her ask her why is she acting different maybe it's something she is going thorugh at home of emotional problems, or maybe this is her way of telling you that she want's some change or diversity. Basically talk to her. if she really loves and trust you she'll tell you. (Have you been saying anything that would make her transform, like telling her that she needs bigger this and beter that???)
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im a guy in high- school. And before you read this, im letting you know that this is a serious question.
I know you might think im weird, but me and my friends made a bet on the last NBA playoffs game. And i lost, and i bet against 3 of my guy friends. So i lost.
Now, they are making me do something....
Theres like this really hot girl in my class, shes a rich girl, spoiled, cheerleader, hot, big tits and ass, fake tan, you know how it is. Anyways, i dont even know her at all. Ive never even spoken to her, but i stare at her ass all the time.
Anyways, my friend that i lost the bet to is making me slap her in the face randomly in class when nobody is looking. Im being serious. My friend doesnt like her , from some other reason, and he wants me to slap her. Not punch her in the face or kick her or anything, but just smack her like upside the head. Or he offered for me to grab her ass when nobody is looking. Hes making me do either one since i lost the best.
The thing is, even though it sounds messed up for a friend to make me do that, i kinda WANT to do it haha.
What should i do? (link)
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Well that is wrong of anyone to do, and you can always say no,"I don't care what bet I lost I'm not doing it" or make them change the bet.
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I'm a 14 year old girl. I've liked this guy for over a year. Last year my friend told me that he said that he might go out with me and he blushed and turned away. I've asked him out and he turned me down. He is always staring at me and sitting close to me when he can. I'm really confused and don't know what to think. If he doesn't like me, then why is he staring?
thanks(: (link)
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Oh, he likes you he just does not now how to tell to exspress it, any way boys are weird and always will be but ask kim these questions and see what he says, maybe he just wants to play with your emotions or maybe he is going through something at home and doesn't wnat to be involved right now.Because that is what my boy friend what do as stupid as it is:)
(justagirl15)
perplexed
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Im a teenage boy, and i always wanted to know why girls dont seem as horny as we do. Maybe it is just me, but i go to highschool filled with hot girls everywhere and it drives me nuts. But the girls dont seem that way towards guys. They seem like they dont even think about boys or sex at all, but why is it that us guys always are more horny? (link)
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Okay, girls don really show you how they feel because you know we are a little smarter, and guys you know you guys dont really have a choice as to show how you feel, but any way if you like a girl just ask her on a date, try it out.
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Hi.
Okay my amazing boyfriend has been away on a hockey tournament that is down the other end of the country. (Oh I live in New Zealand. He is down in Dunedin in the South Island and i'm in the Waikato area in the North Island).Anyways he has been away for 7 day and is coming home in 2 days. I want to do something to show him how much I missed him and really love him. He means everything yo me =).
Sorry it's kinda long.
Please help!
thanks =) (link)
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Well it depends on what you two like to do together, you could go on a special date like on the beach or something if it's not too cold, or maybe just chill and spend some time eiht each other, I am sure that just being with you will make him happy:)(justagirl15)
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Sooo, I met this guy a few months ago, my guy best friend's best friend. He and I weren't the best of friends, but I recently started to like him. my friend tried hooking us up, yesterday we watched a movie and my friend and his girlfriend took the couch so I was stuck with this guy on his water bed. Well we laid kinda far apart but by the end of the movie we were cuddling. We were play fighting and he was tickling me and it was just very butterfly filled. haha, but he took me home and I opened the car door and said goodnight then I just turned around and kissed him out of the blue. I did a rotten thing today and read my other friend's texts. And in them the boy was talking about how much I made him smile and he was the only girl he wanted (he is/was kind of a whore) and he was talking about how last night he hadn't been happy in so long and he still has the flutters. We've been flirting around and such for about a week now, and I have this superstition, every guy has asked me out on a happy holiday and has ended up screwing me over. So I kind of want us to get together on Friday. (I know it is stupid....Don't tease me haha) But how do I ask him out or get him to ask me out. We both agreed that we were going to take things slow, but you can still do that as an official couple right? (link)
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I think that you two should make your status know because well if your not his girlfriend and he's now your boyfriend then you might as well just be friends and friends can do what ever they want to do including dating other people.so I would say that you need to do what you said you were going to do:)(justagirl15)
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okay so I am in a stong long distance relationship and have been for avlbout a year now. I love him and I would like to say that I trust him. But yesterday at one AM of all times a girl from his past texted him " cashually " asking what he was doing so he answered saying the usual nm how r u. Now she has responded.... I am ... Annoyed aggravated.... Angry. I mean its not like I can exactly tell him who he can and can't talk to. Help!!! (link)
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You have every right to be upset, he is not making this situation easy for you and he should not be CASUALLY talking to another girl and the fact that he said the usual means that they have already been talking for a while.
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I am 18 and about to graduate high school and I want to go camping with my boyfriend, but my mom don't want me to. So is it a bad thing to go camping with my boyfriend? (link)
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Well, I know what she is worried about but she needs to stop worrying because one ay you will not have to have her permission, oh you already dont need it, but make sure if you plan on having sex have protection your old enough to get it, and make sure your bf knows what he is doing.
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Okay, so I'm 16, and I'm female, my boyfriend is also 16, we have been together since we were 13, and we love each other, my dad died last year and my boyfriend was there an he was my dads bestfriend, I'm worried what my dad would say if we had sex for the first time... Should we? Lame question but I need advice:( (link)
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Well if you love him and he loves you then I dont think that your dad would say anything critisizing about it, go ahead, have sex, but have protection too,im sure your dad would love you all the same.Because your still his daughterand you are going to have sex one day so why not now?I am sorry if you got a desease but I dont really think that it was my responsibility to make you ask him did he have a desease you seemed to know him well enough why didn't you do that:( (justagirl15) I am so sorry:(((!!
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They say all good things come to those who wait.
And I am in such a situation. Although it has only been three days broken up from my boyfriend, it's very hard. He says to wait for him until Friday, and he'll tell me whether he wants to get back together or not.
But really, is waiting worth it?
I've waited for someone before and it ended terribly. I'm aware because my boyfriend treats me so respectfully even if we broke up, I shouldn't treat him as a past boyfriend. I know if he makes me happy then waiting IS worth it.
But I don't know. I'm afraid I will put all my hopes in the scenario he will say yes, and then be let down. So stumped. (link)
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If yall broke up the 1st time then what will bw different the next time? So, no I dont think that it is worth waiting.
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So if you haven't read my last post, I am dating a really nice guy. We've spoken on Facebook and we have mutual friends, but we barely knew each other until Saturday. I spent the whole day with him. I really am beginning to like him. He's very smart, funny, and quirky. I feel really happy around him. He told me he's liked me ever since he texted me from my friend's phone in December...and he said he likes me even more now since we spent the day together.
However, I sometimes feel like he doesn't like me as much as I like him. Like, I know it's early in our relationship, but I can't help but doubt. For instance, he and I barely talked yesterday. He was sweet in person, but through the computer he's rather quiet. He doesn't have a cell so it's difficult to talk unless we speak over yahoo messenger and Facebook. He goes to a different school, too.
I was supposed to meet him at the park an hour ago. I reminded him this morning and last night. He never replied. I think he's shady. He accepted my yahoo request this morning but didn't reply to any of my messages. This is bringing me down.
Help! (link)
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Its pretty early in the relationship, you said he was smart, and usually smart guy are shy on the inside I think hes nervous because he feels strongly for you, go to his house talk to him reach out tell him how you feel and if he doesnt feels the same way then bump him he is not as smart as you think he is.
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Hey guys, Im a 20 year old chic. There's this guy i find myself falling for more everyday, and he says he likes me and can't stay away from me. He told me a FEW MONTHS ago that he doesn't want to be just "friends" cause he doesn't want to lose his chance with me (he's leaving for basics in 2 months btw).
we're together as much as possible, and love it. But the boy STILL hasn't asked me out. What can I do to get him to commit?? I don't want to be pushy, but this is getting a bit rediculous. We've known each other for 4 years - so what's holding him back? (link)
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Talk to him, ask him these questions, and if you have known him for that long maybe he is waiting until the right time for the M words:)
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I am a man and for the last 3 or 4 months when i get ready to cum i get a pain on my side and it hurts so bad i can;t finish cumming. Can you help me? (link)
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Go see a doctor, sorry I cant give more info but im a gurl dont know how to help there:) sorry:(
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female/ 16 okay so recently me and my ex boyfriend we'll call him "trey" (not really his name)have been arguing a lot he lied to me about having a girlfriend and we did a couple of things (sexual) and i guess he told a bunch of people what we did.. so i got mad and stopped talking to him.. i ignore him and act like he's not there i know i'm doing the right thing but i feel so bad about the whole situation, i dont want to be his friend because i know that if i become his friend then we're going to be friend with benfits and i dnt want that. It's just hard for me to ignore him like that just because i still love him (link)
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Give your mind time to break this situation down and realize that you dont need him and you can find someone else to love because he definately doesnt
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When i was in middle school i was molested by my friends dad, and ever since then i have never looked at an older guy in a physical way. I'm 21 now and i work with a 40 year old who is insanley good looking for his age. He showed intrest in me and we've hung out a few times. The first time he tried to kiss me i felt VERY uncomfortable and said now, but each time we hung out i started to like him that much more, so we ended up making out. One night after drinking, we went back to his place and he tried kissing me more but i was tired so i started to pass out. I felt him taking my pants off, and then my underwear and he started to go down on me and then he had sex with me. I was pretending to be "passed out" the whole time, but he didn't know. So what's wrong with me? I think i didn't want him to know i was awake because i didn't want things to be awkward at work from then on, and i may have secretely wanted to have sex with him but didn't know what to do. What do you guys think my problem is? Because i still can't get him out of my mind. I just can't believe i could ever like someone 19 years older than me who technically raped me. (link)
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First off I am so sorry that yoor friends dad molested you, andI hope that you told someone and that all of this got straightened out.The guy should not have had sex with while you were sleep and I dont think that he would be a very good choice ina man for you considering the emotional toll and all. And who knows how many other girls that he has done this to.Keep your relationship business like and dont let him knkow that you were awake when he had sex with you, but refuse to go out with him again.
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how could i get my boyfriend to get hard and then start to make out ith me? (link)
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I am not a professional at this in fact I am still a virgin but seduce him, do what you have to do suck it kiss him anything.
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Long story short, I asked a friend to prom who wasn't my boyfriend. The Thing is, I knew my boyfriend didn't really want to go, although he offered to take me. He hates dances and wouldn't enjoy himself, I didn't wan't to force him into a situation that makes him unhappy. We also have a long distance relationship, so I would have to pay a lot more money to take him when he wouldn't really want to be there in the first place. I genuinely thought that he would be relieved not to go, but I made the mistake of assuming he would be okay with it. However, when I told him he was really upset. We have been going out for almost a year and never fought until now. I feel terrible and want to make it up to him more than anything. Please, I need some advice on how to fix this ad apologize. (link)
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Just apologize and make a romantic gesture with a neck message or kisses and extra hugs.
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