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Female. 13.

Well, I like two guys. Both of them like me back. I like one [andy] more than the other [sid]. Well, Andy is 17 [yeah yeah i know] and Sid is in my grade. So, Sid asks me out today, and I say no because I like Andy more. But after I thought about it I really do like Sid a lot. Now, I feel like a complete idiot. I gave Sid a hug, and he said it's okay and stuff like that but i just feel like a witch! :[ At the same time though I h don't wanna go out with him. It's superrr weird. I really don't know what I want.
[more about andy]
He's really nice and likes me a lot. He even spraypainted my name on his board. But, we aren't like going out or anything. I know he seems too old for me and all but I really like him.

I'm so confused.
Seriously, what the heck should I do?

if i were you go out with sid, give him a chance. andy is way too old for you, but maybe its just me i've only dated someone one year older than me but maybe its cool with you. to me four years older spells out trouble. so just try things with sid. tell him something like hey sid, wanna go out with me? i bet his jaw will fall down and he'll be speechless, and then say i got to thinking about going out with you and if you still want to would you want to go out with me?

thats what i would do. good luck with sid and andy. :P

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How do I know if I am in love? I'm really confused and I want to know so badly... please help.

Puppy love: when you think you are in love but its just a crush

crush: like as more than just a friend

like like: same as crush

love: you get a different feeling, you know what its like to have a crush but you get a better feeling. maybe you just know. or you love everything about the person. or you would do anything for them. you think.... there perfect.

did i help?

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Is it wrong to go for my ex-boyfriends cousin? They're actually step cousins but also very close. My boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago (it was a serious relationship) and he always thought I liked his cousin. I admit I had an innocent crush but now, I've started to have major feelings. What should I do, because I don't want my ex to think I'm easy or I lied to him about it. (18/f)

If you broke up with your ex then your free to go out with whoever you want but it sounds like you still like your ex. You could just be on rebound but it seems like you are sure you like him so, I think you should ask him out.

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I don't know if i'm depressed or not. When I'm at school with friends and stuff, I'm fine, but when i'm by myself, the only thing I want to do is cry. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me, led me on, and left me again, and I think that's the core reason why I'm like this. What can I do to be happier? My friends never call me, and when I call them, they either are busy or something comes up. Someone help me please.

I went through a break up that I am still getting over... after 2 years. Sometimes when I see his picture in like the back of an old scrap book i'll cry. So I try not to be alone. I'll go on the computer and get my mind off of things, problem with that is i'll find the smallest word that will remind me. For a while I thought I was depressed to. When your depressed though your always sad, even when your around friends. I think that you're not depressed it's your break up. So if you feel like you want to cry, do. It makes you feel so much better to let things out than to keep them inside. Hope I help.

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okay well this guy that i like and i know he likes me is all of a sudden hugging a bunch of girls in front of me and does he not like me anymore or what. i dont know whats going on

somtimes guys if they know that a girl knows they like them will try to cover it up because they don't want them to know they like them. sorry its kinda confussing. if he knows you like him then maybe he wants to keep his options open to other girls because he thinks your realtionship is going no where. There are a lot of different reason, good luck.

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I'm sorry this is so long, but it's a pretty complicated situation.

Okay, so when my boyfriend and I first starting dating...there was this girl that really liked him and wanted to be with him. My boyfriend told her that he wasn't interested because he was with me and that they just needed to be friends. Well I called him one night and he was somewhere with her 'talking about it in person.' I didn't really think anything of it, and I just forgot about it. Well then he said that they didn't really talk anymore, but she was still texting him and stuff. Well one night my boyfriend and I were together and she kept calling him...still. So I started worrying about it again and I checked his text messages and apparently they had been hanging out still. He had texts from her saying 'Will you drive tonight?' blah blah. I didn't say anything about it because I was ashamed that I had looked through his text messages. Well last night I called him and she was at his house at 11 PM. I didn't overreact at first until I found out that they were in his room. I was mad because he knew I wouldn't be comfortable with that and he still let her come over.

He said that she came over at 11 PM to wish him a happy late birthday and that they were in his room because she was checking her myspace, but it turns out she doesn't even have one.

I'm especially upset because his story doesn't make sense and I know if the tables were turned, he'd be pissed off at me. I don't know what to do. I know we need to talk about it, but I need to know a calm way to do it because I'm very tempermental. What do I say?

18/f. We've only been together for 4 months.

Talk camlmy to him. Ex.

you: i'm not real comfortable about you hanging out with her at such alate time at night... in her room.

him: we were just hanging out.

you: i know and i'm okay with that but maybe we could all hang out together.

him: okay with me.

I'm not sure if thats exactly how the convo is gonna go but... if you do hang out all together than you know that he's not up to anything, and neither is she.

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my boyfriend who is a year older than me used to walk wih me evry morning in school, and like giv me hugs, but now all of sudden he wont walk with me or even like talk to me, he just pretend she doesnt see me, and if i talk to him he'll listen but he wont look me, he just looks right past me. I thought he was going to dump me but then he wanted to hangout after school. is he like embarrased of me, or do u think he is gonna dump me?

I think he is going to dump you because all the signs are there, but it sounds like your to good for him.

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14/f


RAWR. my brother was on the phone with the kid i like.. & my brother goes "My sister likes you!"

I was like mortified..

I see him friday...& hes comin to my party..
What do i do!? Do I say something to him?

act casual like you have no clue what your brother is talking about. if the guy you like brings it up tell him something like "last time he was talking to my grandpa and said the same thing... don't belive a word he says" something like that. either he'll start laughing or look at you weird. maybe this isn't such good advice... good luck anyways! LOL

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yes i still like him. no i am not asking him out.
if i don`t want to ask him out what should i do?
please help
!!ashlei!!

tell him you like him or get your friend to tell him for you cuz even if he doesnt like you back then he'll still know the truth, and thats really important

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1. he`s tall. i`m short .
2. I never see him in the halls.
3.he has blonde hair. i have brown hair.

should i ask him out or not?

ashlei

Who cares if you don't match. If you like him ask him out!

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17 female
ive know my best friend for about three years now, he's amazing. he's jut so funny and smart and caring. i realised about three months ago that i'd fallen in love with him but i haven't told him because i don't want to spoil our friendship. he's jsut the most amazing person ive every met and i want to tell him how i feel because its eating me up inside. so how do i tell him?

Write it in a letter if you are to scared to say it out loud. Or make him promise not to freak out if you tell him something. It works for me.

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when a guy says that he thinks im cute but doesnt really think he could see us as boyfriend and girlfriend mean i have no chance with him? or should i become better friends with him, hoping that we could have a chance.. or does it seem he wants nothing to do with me?

When I say just friends I mean just friends and thats it. If you like them ask them out. My friend that liked me last year never told me that they liked me and they just went on with their life and now they wish they said something because now they will never have a chance.

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I would like your advice on this situation. About 3 months ago i was shopping and i saw this guy that works in one of the shops staring at me(in a nice way) but it was a really intense stare. Anyhow after going back numerous times i went up to him and gave him my email adress and phone number.We spoke a few times on email but it was always me that sent them..So i stopped and we havent spoken in ages, but still everytime i see him he still stares at me, and smiles, and his friends do the same, as if he has told them about me. I really dont know what to think anymore, mabye he is shy, but why doesnt he speak to me.

Go up to him and ask him what the deal is.

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there is this guy at my cousins school that is very very attractive :) ..my cousin doesnt really talk to him though! it sucks..and like he is one of the really popular kids and i guess alot of girls like him. i just wish he would notice me one time! like i went to their schools football game and it was really really cold and my hair was all messed up and came unstraight and it was a mess! it seems like everytime i look alright then i never see him and when i look like crap i always see him! i dont want to like go up to him and have him be like ohhh kay i dont know you? and go back and tell people wow this weird girl came up to me and was trying to talk to me. all of my cousins friends think im soo gorgeous but i dont see it..and we always have our talks and my cousin always asks who i would look good with and all her friends say i would look really cute with this kid. these days ..over here people dont introduce really. they just all hangout and kinda have to talk themselves. but i dont know what should i do!? im very very shy though which doesnt help. its hard because i see him only at like their school functions where EVERYONE is. im really bad with like..going up to someone i dont know and usually i wont do it!!

16, female!

I know your shy but maybe if your cusins are around you won't be so shy around him. Look your best when you talk to him and don't be afraid to look like an idiot. Belive me when you think you are gonna look stupid everything goes flawless and when you least expect it the embaressment comes. That's from my experience. I don't know if it is the same for everyone, but mostly everyone I talk to that happens to them.

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ok im 16 and in gr. 12, tha last few relationships ive bin in have bin disastrous, some of them wanted ta be dominated and a little controlled, some thot i was being a dick when i was like that, some thot i was too nice sumtimes, and i pretty much just wanna know wat girls really want, i know it cant be generalized like that , but do you want a guy that makes decisions for you, gets jealous and protective, and is dominative, or do you want someone who romances you , visits you at work on your worst days just to make you smile, and kisses you randomly, , i really hope i dont get 50000 different answers but ya thx

Every girl is different. I am definatly NOT like the girls at my school. So There is no answer to what girls want. Personaly, I would like hugs and kisses like tic-tac-toe but I hate a whole lotta romance. So the best thing I can tell ya is get to know them and you'll find out what they like.

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i have liked this guy for awhile and people have been telling me were probably going to end up dating.. today my friend asked him about me and he said he thought i was cute and everything but couldnt really see us going out, he asked why and he said i dont know, but then said he would think about.. from a guys point of view or girl whatever, do you think this is an automatic no, in just a nice way or do you think he is really thinking about it and would actually consider going out with me?

From a girl's point of view cuz I am a girl, I think he is considering it. I was in the exact same position as you. And look where I am now. I have a b/f who loves me to death. Give him a chance and hope for the best.
juicyfruitluvr4ever

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13/f/Tx
My boyfriend asked me if I was ready for him to kiss me. I've truthfully never kissed anyone before. He's taking me to the movies this weekend. He said if I was ready he wanted to kiss him there. I told him to talk to my cousin because she always knows everything, but he wants an answer from me. What do I do?

OMG! I have the same thing!!! I am meeting my b/f this weekend and we might kiss, but I don't know so my answers to my question might help you. This is a driect link to my question.

http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=449729

Good luck with your b/f and good luck with mine.

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o.k so here's the deal my dream is to be and advice columnist for a newspaper or magazine i'm really good at giving people advice.. but i never take my own.. i need... help i have a great boyfriend... he's nice, funny and he makes me feel good he once just came over my house just to give me flowers......but he has one flaw... HE SMOKES WEED! and weve been dating for about 3 months now and he says he's gonna stop but he doesn't... please i need help should i break up with him or give him another chance... please tell me what you think

Tell him that your over unless he stops if he really likes you than he'll stop.

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15/f

I know I am attractive, smart, funny, outgoing and kind but I do not feel like a guy could be attracted to me. I know there are guys, who I am not interested in, who have a crush on me.. but I don't feel like that is even possible. I haven't dated a guy steadily for more than two years now. Why might I feel this way? How do I overcome it? Do I even need to overcome it?

Thank you :)

I feel the same way but yes it is possible. The first time anyone ever liked me I said "What's wrong with them?" I thought I was the ugliest person in the world. It turns out that they actually did like me, nothing was wrong with them, and they liked being around me. You might feel like this because your doing what I did your bringing yourself down. To overcome it just give them a chance and see where it goes for you. I don't think you need to seriously overcome it just try to stop thinking it's impossible for someone to like you.

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my boyfriend dumped me after a year of seein eachother Every single day and i spend all my time with him he was there for me wen no1 else was wen i lost all my friends and because wen we fight i take it too far he just had to dump me i begged for another chance but he said no i feel so sick im achining i miss him so much i see him everyday so its soo hard not to see him from now on i dont want to see him with another girl to thats going to make things harder please help because no1 is giving me good advice to stop the pain i love this boy i told him EVERYTHING and now its all over he dont want anything to do with me help!

Try forgeting about him. I know that will be so hard because you spent so much time with him, but try. If you can't then ask him if you can at least just be friends. Even though he might not love you back, you can still at least be friends.

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