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o.k so here's the deal my dream is to be and advice columnist for a newspaper or magazine i'm really good at giving people advice.. but i never take my own.. i need... help i have a great boyfriend... he's nice, funny and he makes me feel good he once just came over my house just to give me flowers......but he has one flaw... HE SMOKES WEED! and weve been dating for about 3 months now and he says he's gonna stop but he doesn't... please i need help should i break up with him or give him another chance... please tell me what you think
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hey this is not going to be your average advice. Okay?
I know that your gut is telling you that something isnt right and the drugs are making you uncomfortable. Which is okay. There are millions of great guys out there who will treat you great so you have to listen to your heart.
its okay to ask for advice once in a while, but no one can make the dicission for you, and sometimes the advice you get wont be exactly what you want to hear. in the end its your decision, and nothing that anyone on this website can say will change what you do.
I think that you should read that question of yours as if it was someone totally different asking and see what you would say to them. then do that. And folow through with it. Like you said, "i never take my own(advice)". Well you should start. Because no one can tell you how to live your life but you!! :D good luck. hope that you figure out what advice you are going to give yourself. and choose what to do with that bf of yours. I know you can do it. and I cant wait to read your future advice column!
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Tell him that your over unless he stops if he really likes you than he'll stop.
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Other than him smoking dope, he is the biggest sweetheart to you, correct? Why give that away for a guy that may treat you like shit? I mean obviously he cares about you tons if he is doing all these cute and sweet things for you. Why throw that all away just because of his one flaw? Everyone has flaws. Some are worse than others are, but there is always someone out there who loves them no matter what kind of flaw(s) they have. You might end up dumping him, than finding a new guy with no flaws but he doesn't compare to your current boyfriend one bit. You see, just because he smokes dope, it doesn't mean that he isn't a good or kindhearted person. It doesn't mean that he's any worse than the rest. It just means he smokes dope but that doesn't make him a bad person. If he really loves you and cares about you, he'll respect your thoughts on how you want him to quit. He'll take what you say to heart and will try. Not saying he will quit, but he may try. Obviously it's going to be hard to do, depending on how many years he has been smoking for. But, if you really love him and you truly think he is the one for you, you'll look past that and will stick by his side. ♥
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Okay I am going to tell you this striaght up. He most likely will not stop, not anytime soon anyways. Most people who smoke weed will always want it to some extent, it takes a very strong person to stop smoking and make it a once in awhile thing (couple times a year) and to stop all together is even harder especially when the only reason for them to stop is someone else wanting them to do it. They see nothing wrong with it and therefore don't see why people keep telling them to stop. Then the more you tell him to quit the more likly he is to just resent you for trying to control what he does. So here's the deal you have already asked him to stop and he agrees and then just goes and smokes again. He is lying to you about stopping maybe not on purpose because he may actually try to stop but like I said that won't work, he will always go back to it because he didn't want to stop in the first place he was only doing it for you, so there was not a stong enough motivation to stop. So if this is something that is going to be a problem for you then I would leave him, trust me I had a relationship for 7 years and he constantly promised me things and never came through, they honestly mean to but they just can't so the best thing to do for yourself is to leave unless it is something you think you can live with. Talk about it with him once more and really tell him how important he is to you and how you hate seeing him doing that to himself. Plead your case once more and see how it goes. This may not be happy advice but its honest and real and I really hope it helps you out good luck!
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