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ex-boyfriends cousin a no-go?
Is it wrong to go for my ex-boyfriends cousin? They're actually step cousins but also very close. My boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago (it was a serious relationship) and he always thought I liked his cousin. I admit I had an innocent crush but now, I've started to have major feelings. What should I do, because I don't want my ex to think I'm easy or I lied to him about it. (18/f)
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Maybe it was self-denial more than lying. Is there a chance the cousin returns your affections? Even if he thinks you are cute, he may not want to put his friendship in jeopardy to go for it. Your ex will think whatever he wants to, so don't worry over that. I would talk to the guy you like in private and tell him that you DID have a crush on him, but did not want to hurt your ex. Just see what happens. If you get rejected, you still can walk away with dignity.
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Well the point of breaking up is for two people to move on, meet other people, and see what's other there, and that's exactly what you're doing. There's nothing you're doing that's making you seem "easy" you're just going after a guy you're interested in, that's all.
I would just talk to your ex-boyfriend about it just to make sure he's fully okay with it and see his feelings on it ( even though he really has no say in the matter ). Just explain to him,"Remember how I admitted to you I had slight feelings for your cousin? Well, lately, they've seem to develop into stronger feelings, and I was just wondering if it you're alright with me asking him out on a date."
Or even just let him know of your feelings for his cousin and let him know you're going to ask him out. Like I said, he can't really stop you or anything and you're not lying to him ( you're telling the truth ) and, you're not being easy, so nothing's wrong with it. But it's just best to be nice and polite about it and talk to your ex-boyfriend about it first.
I hope I helped.
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If you broke up with your ex then your free to go out with whoever you want but it sounds like you still like your ex. You could just be on rebound but it seems like you are sure you like him so, I think you should ask him out.
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