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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18.
i was 15 when i had my first serious boyfriend and he was 17 at the beginning of the relationship but shortly after turned 18 while i remained 15 for 7 months.. i have absolutely no regrets and as long as you both are close or equally mature i don't see anything wrong with it.
do all girls masturbate and some just dont admit it? or do many really not do it?
most girls masterbate and don't admit it but there's always exceptions.
Why did you part ways from your first love? Your personal stories will help with my issue. Thank you. Please feel free to go into as many details as you want or leave it as vague as you choose.
He fell out of love with me i guess. we dated for about a year and when we had been dating for about 6 months we started argueing frequently. so we took a break(his idea) and he came rushing back into my life about 24 hours later, and like a fool i took him back. then he met another girl, and after liking her for 2 weeks while we dated he left me for her. we had a nasty breakup since we were both in highschool, we said things we didnt mean and he hates me now. hes dating that other girl and has been for a month now. i recently asked him if he was ever in love with me and he claims that he was. i lost my virginity to him, and i don't regret it. good luck with whatever your going through.
why is is so hard to get over your first love and why is that even after they hurt you so much its still harder? what have you (guys and girls) done to get over them and can you ever even get over them completely?
my boyfriend who i had dated for just under a year broke up with me about two months ago. he wasn't the first boy i loved but he was the first boy i was in love with, if that makes any sense. basically, you have to get rid of everything that reminds you of them, and just shut them out of your life for awhile. trust me i KNOW it can be really hard but you don't really have any other option. hangout with your friends alot too because they're going to help you out the most. ALSO i've found that a nice rebound works out nicely ;]
this isn't really and advice question. well it kind of is...
basically if you've ever been in love, id like to hear about how you met the right person, y you fell in love, and basically a quick summary of what happened and how/if it ended...i need a few stories, and please they have to be true! if you leave your story it'll be worth your time =) thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
i fell in love when i was fifteen, and he was eighteen. i met him over myspace? haha but he went to my school so it wasn't creepy or anything. we hungout on december 22, 2007 for the first time and we hungout every weekend after that. at first i was really drawn to him and things were great. he truly was my bestfriend and he knows everything about me, just as i know everything about him. we really were in love, and we even said that we wanted to be together forever which i fully meant. he took my virginity on april 6th.. we had been dating for about 3 and a half months, but i was the 3rd person he'd had sex with. we did EVERYTHING sexual together, even grosser things like anal and 69 and all that. we were just really comfortable around each other i guess. things started getting bad over the summer and we started argueing more and more over stupid things that don't matter. so in the beginning of august we decided to take a break. it didn't last one day and he came running back to me claiming that he'd made a mistake- the only mistake made though was me taking him back. so things got significantly better in out relationship, he even got me a promise ring on september 15th for my birthday. it's funny how things happen though and how your plans change. he broke up with me exactly a month later on october 15th. then went out with another girl who i had suspected he liked while we were dating about 2 weeks later. me and him dated for 10 months. he and his new girlfriend are still dating but it's only been about a month.
i can't go 10 minutes without thinking of him. i'm only 16 but i mean he really did break my heart as cliche as that sounds. i don't regret it and i wouldn't do anything differently. i've realize that when you love someone sometimes you have to sacrifice your own happiness for theirs. so everyday i wake up and he's not there but then i think of everything and i know he's ohk and i know i'll be ohk and that makes it alittle better i guess. we talk occassionally but we're not friends. when we see each other we don't make eye contact, we don't say hi.. it's like we never loved at all.
Hey haapybabe2
i like this guy that i know. we don't go to the same school or anything but i met him last week and we ended up kissing the second time we met. he asked me to hang out yesterday but we were with a group of people so i didn't get to spend as much time with him as i would have liked. my question is do i bring up the kiss? because i would like for it to happen again. =] haha but yea my dad gave him a ride home and we got to talk in the car and i realized how much i enjoy talking to him. he just makes me feel very comfortable. well thanx =]
well it deffinately seems like he likes you if he kissed you and said that he wanted to hangout and everything. so yeah i would bring up the kiss i'm not sure if he's already told you that he likes you yet or not but if he hasn't just be like well since you kissed me does this mean you like me or that you just felt like kissing me.. it seems to me like this could go somewhere but since you said you feel comfortable with him then yes i would deffinately talk to him about it and see what his feelings are on the whole situation : )
i hope i answered your question, if not feel free to write me again :)
would you rather love a loser or lose a lover and why?
love a loser, who's to judge that your boyfriend is a loser? if you love him then that's all the matters, other peoples opinions shouldn't matter.
hope i helped :)
katie.
ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.
my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.
he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.
i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]
my personal opinion is that you'll know when you're in love, you get a feeling and no matter how well you know him or how long you've known each other... bottom line is that if you're unsure if you're in love or not then most likely you're not in love, but hey every person's different. but i don't think if you're in love that you would have to ask or think about it... you'll just know. sorry if you're not satisfied with my answer, hope i helped.
-katie.
17/f so i has this boyfriend and we broke up but io am still in love with him. but he is the "wrong" guy.....he cheated on me cause he kissed another girl so we broke up. i swore to myself we would never talk again but it just happened that we did and he apoligized and said he regrets it so much and it hurts when he sees me aorund school. and its like he still looks at me the way he used to and idk....what do i do???? i dont wnat to want him but i cant help it......thanks in advance
well it all depends on how sincere you think he's being. could you ever see him cheating on you again if you accepted his apology and decided to take him back? i would hate to see him hurt you even more in the future and if you don't accept his apology now then maybe you will find a nicer better guy who is the "right guy" for you. hope i helped somewhat.
-katie
Okay, so i am in a bit of a situation. There is a guy that i am dating and its been like a month and a half and he is so prude. He hugged me like 5 times and held my hand twice. And i like never make the first move...i dont know why i just dont. And i am torn do i break up with him or do i just keep the relationship going? But he is like a really nice guy and everything, its just i dont know. Help me?!?!?
if i were you i would first talk to him about it, maybe he's like unsure if you want it to go farther or not. if after you have the talk and he still doesn't want to take it farther then maybe break up with him since apparetly you want a relationship that goes farther then hugging 5 times and holding hands 2 times. And i mean you don't want to pressure the guy so yeah i would just talk to him and figure out his opinions on the situation.
hope i helped; katie.
okay. so im a freshman and theres this guy ive known my whole life. i know him but were not really that close. you know how when youre younger you always have crushes?? well i always had one on him. might not forever but for a while, then ill forget about him, then again. hes really good at sports and thats pretty much all he does. when he started school his parents held him back so he would be bigger and older than the other kids. well in the past couple of years i found out someone i go to school with knew him too. im a cheerleader so i saw him. and the girl who also knew him and i kindof had a competition over him i guess n he couldnt stand her but would talk to me all the time. well his parents and g-parents ask about me all of the time and my mom said that everytime he sees me he always stares at me and smiles. well i cant forget about him! everything reminds me of him, i dream of him, hes always there! well he has a g/f but its one of those things where its just middle school and the relationships arent that serious. heres the weird part- hell txt me and ill text him back and stuff. i dont like to hide my feelings or be untrue to myself so i just tell him how i feel but he doesnt stop talking to me. then ill text him, wondering how he is and he wont text back!! later on (few days, weeks, months) hell txt me n well start talking again! idk whats going on! his g/fs not that great (he deserves way better!). i think about him all the time. he always stares at me and smiles. and lately, ive questioned myself "do i love him?". even my mom said that i did but i acted like she didnt know what she was talking about. does he love me back? please help by telling me whats going on.. thanks you so much!
well, i mean it seems like you obviously really like him and i mean i can't tell you if you love him but personally, i'm sure you love him as a friend since apparently you've known him forever and you two talk. if your asking if your in love with him though then i would have to say that in my opinion if your in love with someone then one day you'll just know so if your even considering the possibility of you loving him then i think your in the stages of figuring out if you love him or not, if that makes sense. i mean thats just my opinion of how to know when your in love, im sure everyone has a different opinion and i'm not trying to tell you that no your not in love with him, just trying to give you an idea of how i can tell.
hope this helps
katie.
Me and this guy went out for a month last year, but have been unofficially on and off for a year (last January till now). There is something about him, that I can not get over. And he likes me now. But for the past few months, he either rejected me and told he just wanted to be friends when i told him I liked him. Or he would be wishy washy (I like her, but i dont want to go down the same path since we went out b4). This weekend we were doing the usual flirting thing, but it was different. And when my guy best friend asked him if he liked me, he said yes he does. But he also said that he said no so many times before, for him to say yes now would have the other no's mean nothing. He also made the statement that he is not sure his pride will let him tell me now that he likes me. I think its stupid...but I dont want to let this go now that he actually likes me. I feel like if I get him to admit his feelings to me then the rest of his insecurites would be easier to tackle. I need lots of suggestions to start a conversation to get to this point (having us admit our feelings for each other). How to tell him that its going to be ok (technically I am not even supposed to kno he likes me, he told my best friend in confidence). I really want this to work!
thanks in advance
i completely understand why you would want it to work with this guy i mean ive been in a really similar position where i dated someone on and off for two years.. we finally ended up going out for 5 months straight when we both admitted that we liked each other, so if you want this to work with him then i would just flat out ask him and if he says that he doesnt like you then try to move on from him... and looking back on my old on and off relationship i cant help but think that if it didnt work out the first time you guys tried to go out then it probably wont work the second time, i mean me and my ex boyfriend went out four times before we realized that we just werent suppose to be together and that we were better off as friends. I really do get that you dont want to be with anyone else though, i used to feel that same way but at the same time if this guy doesnt do anything about liking you then the best advice that i can give you is to just take a break and see other people, if later on he decides that he really likes you and you like him then yeah go for it but more then likely it wont last long either. im not trying to be mean or to tell you how your relationship is going to fail like mine, but dont be too upset if it doesnt work out, i mean now i have a new boyfriend and i couldnt be happier, i hope it all works out for you if you have any other questions or if theres something i didnt answer feel free to ask
-katie
in addition to your last resonse;
yeah it could be different but at the same far love can only go so far, i love my old boyfriend too and some things just arent meant to be, i hope it works out for you though but at the same time were both still young and there are going to be planty of other guys most likely.
two years of drama but i'm going to try to make it short.
16/f
two years ago i liked my best friend. i liked him so bad and the butterflies were so strong i felt like i was going to throw up if i thought about him too much. the day i decided to tell him litterally 20minutes earlier one of my friends told him that she liked him. they were going out for about two months before he started flirting with me. he told me that he didnt get much action with his girlfriend. our flirting turned into a cyber friends with benefits relationship but he would sometimes smack my butt while he had a girlfriend. they went out for 8months and a week after they broke up we hooked up. we didn't kiss but we basically just felt each other up. i went on vacation, came back and he had a new girlfriend. again i was crushed but he only went out with her for about 2weeks. so they broke up and again a week later he's back in my life and i ended up giving him a hand job. his first ex-girlfriend found out and everyone got mad because apparently the guy and this first girl were planning to get back together but i swear i had no idea otherwise i wouldn't have done it! me and the guy lost touch and weren't really friends anymore. so at the end of the summer(2007) they got back together. school started and the guy apologized to me for all the crap that happened and now we're in a cyber friends with benefits relationship....AGAIN. i feel bad about it because now me and his girlfriend are friends again but its so hard to stop. i've tried three times to stop this but i can't. he's only slapped my ass once and i smacked him for it and told him not to touch me. now i like him again but i would never go out with him because he cheats, i know he does. and besides having the cyber thing with me i always see him flirting with girls. i have to end the cycle but the physical attraction always brings us back together. what do i do about this?
well, honestly i think that you should really forget about this guy. From what youve said this guy is obviously not a good boyfriend and he would cheat on you too if you ended up going out. Also your friends with his girlfriend so if you break them up or go out with him after her then that relationship with her will probably be ruined. I can understand that you like him alot but really theres so many other guys out there who im sure are just as hot and who dont cheat on their girlfriends, i personally think that cheating on someone is the lowest thing you can do. so i think that the best choice for you is to stop talkign to him all together, hes not worth your time and you dont need a guy like that to make you happy...
good luck,
-katie.
So i like this guy and hes really experienced and i have never kissed a guy and he likes me but thinks im experienced. I never lied and told people i did stuff, but everyone just assumed...what do i do? He asked me on a date, but were not together. AHH
14/f
well i mean since you have never told anyone that you had done stuff, and that they just assumed that you had, then you really have nothing to worry about. and if this guy is just going out with you because he thinks youll hookup with him then thats just lame, personally i would never go out with someone who just wants to get some. if i were you i would somehow start a conversation about what you both have done with the opposite sex and if he asks what youve done be completely honest. if he still likes you after youve set him straight then go on the date with him, but if hes suddenly not interested in you after youve told him the truth then hes a loser and your so much better then him.
hope i helped
-katie
I'm in the 7th grade there this 8th grader i really like and he alway talk to me so i wanted too know should i tell him i like him or wait please and thanks
well i dont think that you liking an older guy is a problem first of all i mean my boyfriend is three years older then me and we like each other so i think first of all you shouldnt be intimidated because he is an 8th grader. and i think that if he talks to you then obviously he is curious about you. i would just i-m him or something and see what he thinks about it.
good luck-katie.
there's this guy, K, who goes to my school. he's a junior and i'm a freshman.. he's in band with my best guy friend B, they're both on the drumline, so they're friends too. he's quite possibly the hottest person i've ever seen. and he's super smart, and a damn good drummer [ pardon my language d: ]
i tried to get B to hook K and i up, but i found out he had a girlfriend. however, last saturday, they broke up, after going out for about 4 months. i really really like him, but i don't want it to seem like i'm pouncing on him
i got a new myspace monday, and he added me, so i messaged him and said; hey do i know you?
[ i really do know him but i've never really talked to him. ]
he read it but didn't say anything back. yet today in the hallway i was walking, and K was walking the other way, and he smiled at me. i know it was me, because it was during class, so i was the only one in the hall.
how do i get the courage to talk to him, or get him to notice me? i'm a cheerleader for my school, and he's in the pep band, so i see him every friday/saturday night.. and this saturday we're doing an interview of all the freshman cheerleaders [ me ] during halftime.
what do i do hereee?
well, if i were you i would just comment or message him on myspace or something.
I mean yeah he didnt respond to your last message but maybe if you were like hey your friends with my friend B right? that might start a conversation. He probably didnt write you back on myspace because he didnt want to look stupid for adding a girl who doesnt claim to know him...so yeah i would just start talking to him over myspace, then get his screen name or something.. he obviously knows who you are since he smiled at you in the hallway.
good luck.
-katie.
well, There is this boy i like him quite alot and i have since i met him. On that very night we both wanted to like pull each other but both thought the other wouldn't want to.
he has a girlfriend who hes trying to dump without hurting her, and its like "omg i'm trying to like leave my girlfreind"
he said he wanted to like get with me and like get to know me really well
and i was like hugging him for ages
and the thing is i think cheaters are the lowest of the low
and also i think laura likes him and come on its laura against me
i liek him alot
but now he says he likes my best friend
so, umm help..:(
ok well this might not be easy to hear since you say that you like him alot but, i don't think he;s really interested in settling down with one girl right now, and honestly i don't see what's so great about him from your description... he has a girlfriend but he flirts with alot of girls and even says that he likes some of them, he doesn;t know what he wants and he shouldn't be stringing his girlfriend along while he figures it out, if i were you i would get over him and then after some time passes and if he and his girlfriend break-up give it another try but if they don't then back off... would you want your boyfriend flirting with other girls and stuff?? so seriously back-off cause hes obviously not a good guy
The last day of school is on Tuesday, and the boy I like is moving away during the summer a few states away. It's not very far, but it still means that he won't be at my school next year.
I know that this boy likes me because he's sincerely told me he has, but I don't know how to tell him that I like him, too. And I think it's kind of weird to just say, "Hey, I like you!"
So how can I tell him? I really want him to know that I like him. Thanks
i think it would be really cute if maybe you like hinted to him that you like him for like a day so that maybe he will get excited ya know and then just like i-m him online? or just like whisper it oneday or even just tell him to his face that you like him i think it would be beyond cute hope i helped
-katie
*first of all i wanna say thanks for viewing my question. it is kind of long but thats because i am being completely honest.*
before i ask it kinda necessary to give you some history. My ex and i went out for a year and a 3 months almost.t. We started going out back in 2004 and broke up in the middle of 2005 like at the end of April. when we were together we were crazy about each other we were each others first love. but eventually..i guess my ex realized he wasn't ready to settle down and be with one person for the rest of his life (well guess i should of know we were 15,16 at the most) but hey. i was really in love. the break up was really hard for me i fell into a deep depression. For 3 weeks i couldn't eat or sleep and i started having panic attacks. surprising this didn't happen until about 2 months after the break up...it just hit me suddenly like finally sunk in. In the time before that i tried desperately to hold on to him. I would call him but of course he never wanted to talk. we also had a really bad argument one night. it just didn't seem fair for him to do this after he mad me so many promises. obviously we stopped talking all together.it stayed like that for a year. because we were together for so long i was(and still am) really close to his brother and his mom so i still talked to them. then like two months before last summer i made a myspace account.when i added my ex boyfriend i didn't really expect anything but when i sent him a message he actually wrote back. it was only like one or two word answers so i got the clue and didn't plan on messaging him anymore. but when i went to his page he had put me in his #1 spot on his friends list. i didn't really know what to think about this so i just ignored it. but a few days later he sent me a message that said i should put him on mines since i was on his. so i did and we messaged each other everyone in a while. then in July like 10 days after his bday his bro invited me to go to the movies with him and his mom. i hadn't seen them in a long time so i said yes. i didn't know my ex was going to come but when i got there he was there. i just played it cool and said hi,gave him a hug but i didn't really know how to act. When we got in the movies i ended up sitting between my ex and his mom. he started playing around like hitting my leg and stuff. i just played along. eventually we were fighting over the arm rest and he grabbed my hand and held it. a rush of emotion ran through me. i don't really know what emotion it was but i had to fight back my tears. after we got out the movie he was all in my face being all nice putting his arm around me. i have to say i was happy. after they dropped me off he texted me. then called me. we hadn't talked on the phone in a whole year. but we stayed on the phone for like 8 hours. i stayed like this for the next three weeks. he told me he was starting to like me again and then told me he loved me. i guess deep down i knew it wasn't true but i went along. over the next few months we went to the movies and i went over his house for the first time since the night we broke up. in the movies we kissed...and at his house we made out. then in October he got a job and started calling me less and less... i guess i knew what was happening because it has always been this cycle with him. he starts talking to me and is all pressed over me then he gets tired of talking to me. one night i went to his house and he completely ignored me because his friends were. here. i called him and told him i didn't like how he acted and i could tell he couldn't he cared less. a few days later i sent him a message on the computer and just said everything. i told him i was tired of him playin with my emotions. i said i jst wanted to know if he wanted to stop talking again and why. all he replied was idk i just don't feel like talking anymore.(i don't know are his favorite words.)i cried but i refused to do the same thing i did after we broke up so i just stopped calling. i only went over his house to see his brother and mom when he was at work. this laster for like 3 months. then one day i came over his house to hang out with his bro and we just completely ignored each other at first. but by the time i left we were playing around play fighting and stuff. he even felt me up a couple times and stupid me i let him. When i left he asked me for a hug goodbye. so we were cool again but we still don't talk on the phone anymore. then a few moths after i was over there he texted me and asked me whens the next time i am coming over i came over like to weeks later and we made out while i was there.then a few weeks ago he sent me a message on the computer asking the same thing so i went over there that weekend. while i was there we laid down and watched tv and he had his arm around me. then eventually we made out but we went a little further than the previous times. so yea. he is the most confusing person i have ever known he is always sending mixed messages. i don't even try to figure him out anymore because he is so wishy washy. i am in the mindset that of we are gonna be cool then we are and if we arn't we arn't. of course is still have feelings for him. i don't have a physical relationship with anyone else I'm not like that. i know that he doesn't want a long relationship because are mutual friend told me that when they had a conversation he said that the longest relationship he had as with me and he didn't know if he could do that again. he hasn't really had any serious girlfriends since me. i know he likes this one girl but he isn't really that worried about according to our friend. i just wanna know if i should come out and just ask him what we are. i don't even know anymore. or if i should just wait and see what happens. or am i just kidding myself completely and is it obvious he has no feelings for me. sorry it was so long and thanks.
hey well i think that he is just taking advantage of you i mean you two arent dating and it seems like hes just using you so that he has a makeout partner i mean its the perfect arrangement he gets to makeout with someone that he probably likes and doesnt have to worry about a commitment. it isnt fair to you you should find someone who is commited to you all the tiem-not just when he feels like it. i think your best bet is to confront him about it and be very up front dont play anymore games with him. if he says that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now then just stop being a makeout buddy. if he does want a gf then see how it goes if it doesnt work out then just drop it. if he says no though then just be friends with the guy he is using you and you dont deserve it.
-katie
omg, so last night was the 8th grade dance, and this not really RANDOM but like, he's friends with one of my guyfriends, he started like grindinggg me and my hand accidentally brushed up on his pants and omg he was so hard... and like last night i couldn't stop thinking about him and i was wondering... should i continue like talking to him? he is in none of my classes & never was, so he was pretty random. like i knew who he was though, always... so, should i smile at him on monday? cause the last day for school for us is wednesday. should i just ignore him? i don't think i have a full-blown crush on him.
well if i were you if the guy doesnt even make eye contact with you when you see him then just i wouldnt really like try to be friends with him. i mean it was a dance its not like you two are now a couple or anything if you like him though maybe you could i-m him online? or just say hi next time you see him if he acknowledges you. dont be too forward cause then guys just think that you took their intentions way overboard, but yea maybe become friends with him for now and see where it goes from there- if you want anything to go from there. but if he approaches you then yea i wouldnt ignore him but really it depends on what he does ya know?
-katie