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Me and this guy went out for a month last year, but have been unofficially on and off for a year (last January till now). There is something about him, that I can not get over. And he likes me now. But for the past few months, he either rejected me and told he just wanted to be friends when i told him I liked him. Or he would be wishy washy (I like her, but i dont want to go down the same path since we went out b4). This weekend we were doing the usual flirting thing, but it was different. And when my guy best friend asked him if he liked me, he said yes he does. But he also said that he said no so many times before, for him to say yes now would have the other no's mean nothing. He also made the statement that he is not sure his pride will let him tell me now that he likes me. I think its stupid...but I dont want to let this go now that he actually likes me. I feel like if I get him to admit his feelings to me then the rest of his insecurites would be easier to tackle. I need lots of suggestions to start a conversation to get to this point (having us admit our feelings for each other). How to tell him that its going to be ok (technically I am not even supposed to kno he likes me, he told my best friend in confidence). I really want this to work!
thanks in advance
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i completely understand why you would want it to work with this guy i mean ive been in a really similar position where i dated someone on and off for two years.. we finally ended up going out for 5 months straight when we both admitted that we liked each other, so if you want this to work with him then i would just flat out ask him and if he says that he doesnt like you then try to move on from him... and looking back on my old on and off relationship i cant help but think that if it didnt work out the first time you guys tried to go out then it probably wont work the second time, i mean me and my ex boyfriend went out four times before we realized that we just werent suppose to be together and that we were better off as friends. I really do get that you dont want to be with anyone else though, i used to feel that same way but at the same time if this guy doesnt do anything about liking you then the best advice that i can give you is to just take a break and see other people, if later on he decides that he really likes you and you like him then yeah go for it but more then likely it wont last long either. im not trying to be mean or to tell you how your relationship is going to fail like mine, but dont be too upset if it doesnt work out, i mean now i have a new boyfriend and i couldnt be happier, i hope it all works out for you if you have any other questions or if theres something i didnt answer feel free to ask
-katie
in addition to your last resonse;
yeah it could be different but at the same far love can only go so far, i love my old boyfriend too and some things just arent meant to be, i hope it works out for you though but at the same time were both still young and there are going to be planty of other guys most likely.
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Just because he likes you does not mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you. That's probably why he won't admit to liking you, even though part of him probably did even while he was rejecting you in the past. A year is a pretty long time to have an on and off again relationship, chances are, he likes you but wants to get over you, and you're not letting him.
Think of how this will work: you trying to "tackle his insecurities" and drag him into a relationship that he's not so sure he'll want. Both of you won't be happy if he's not fully committed and you'll be constantly trying to get something more out of him. You'll break up. Again.
I'd recommend you move on. That would be the smart thing to do - find a guy who's committed to you, who's insecurities you won't have to tackle to be with. Keeping your distance would help both of you move on.
Since you did ask, though, the best way to get back together with him would be similar to option A. Back off a little. Don't try to drag confessions out of him but lay low and act friendly until he trusts you again. If he feels ready to be in a relationship with, he'll confess on his own. Keep it neutral until then.
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why don't you just tell him you like him....or was that already done? and you can't make someone admitt that they like you. it's there choice. you just have to spend time w/him. and pretend like you guys are meeting for the first time and just getting to know each other better. if you force your relationship to grow or have him admit that he likes you then ur ganan be in a mess.
and also if he doens't want to amdit to you that he likes you.
A: he really likes you and doens't know how to tell you
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B: he's messsing with you. like playing a game....
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