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its an ongoing cycle
two years of drama but i'm going to try to make it short.
16/f
two years ago i liked my best friend. i liked him so bad and the butterflies were so strong i felt like i was going to throw up if i thought about him too much. the day i decided to tell him litterally 20minutes earlier one of my friends told him that she liked him. they were going out for about two months before he started flirting with me. he told me that he didnt get much action with his girlfriend. our flirting turned into a cyber friends with benefits relationship but he would sometimes smack my butt while he had a girlfriend. they went out for 8months and a week after they broke up we hooked up. we didn't kiss but we basically just felt each other up. i went on vacation, came back and he had a new girlfriend. again i was crushed but he only went out with her for about 2weeks. so they broke up and again a week later he's back in my life and i ended up giving him a hand job. his first ex-girlfriend found out and everyone got mad because apparently the guy and this first girl were planning to get back together but i swear i had no idea otherwise i wouldn't have done it! me and the guy lost touch and weren't really friends anymore. so at the end of the summer(2007) they got back together. school started and the guy apologized to me for all the crap that happened and now we're in a cyber friends with benefits relationship....AGAIN. i feel bad about it because now me and his girlfriend are friends again but its so hard to stop. i've tried three times to stop this but i can't. he's only slapped my ass once and i smacked him for it and told him not to touch me. now i like him again but i would never go out with him because he cheats, i know he does. and besides having the cyber thing with me i always see him flirting with girls. i have to end the cycle but the physical attraction always brings us back together. what do i do about this?
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He really doesn't seem worth all the trouble. You know that he cheats and its obvious he goes threw girls like crazy! If you ever were to have something with him it doesn't seem like it would be to serious or long lasting. There plenty of other better guys out there, they might jus be hard to find. Its obviously hard to get over someone just like that so it will take time, just try to be less flirty with him and maybe he wont be flirty back. Dont lead him on like you like him if you want to get over him.
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well, honestly i think that you should really forget about this guy. From what youve said this guy is obviously not a good boyfriend and he would cheat on you too if you ended up going out. Also your friends with his girlfriend so if you break them up or go out with him after her then that relationship with her will probably be ruined. I can understand that you like him alot but really theres so many other guys out there who im sure are just as hot and who dont cheat on their girlfriends, i personally think that cheating on someone is the lowest thing you can do. so i think that the best choice for you is to stop talkign to him all together, hes not worth your time and you dont need a guy like that to make you happy...
good luck,
-katie.
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Hey!
I think that you have a bit of an addiction type thing to this guy. Your mind is telling you to get out of it, because you know you'll just get hurt and that you're hurting other people by doing it, but you cant stop.
I know it is hard, but I would quit cold turkey. Block him (or w.e.) dont answer emails, calls or anything. Ignore him if he talks to you off line and focus on a guy who doesnt cheat (etc).
I know that its hard to break the cycle, and thats mostly because you probably feel good about yourself when you're with him, but you just have to tell yourself that hes lying to you and there is someone out there who will actually care about you enough to stay loyal to you, and you will find him, but you cant find him with out giving up on this guy.
Its gonna be tough, but every time you want to sign on and talk to him find something else thats better to do (ie talk to one of your friends or watch a movie). You can kick this, you just need some support, and if you need someone to talk to you can always ask me.
I really wish you good luck, and I hope I helped. I know you're strong enough to make this guys stop running your life. You're a girl, we're tough! Love ya!!
Angie91
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